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How would feel or react?(think, feel, say, or do)
• A man speeds past you and cuts you off as you are driving to school.
You then hear his very pregnant wife screaming for him to hurry- the baby is coming!!!
How would you feel or react?
• A student bumps you from behind and your books go flying across the hallway.
You turn around and notice the student is visually impaired.
How would you feel or react?
• You get “dumped” by your boy/girlfriend by by a text.
You haven’t been that into him/her anyway and have been eyeing someone else in English class.
In order to excel and perform to your maximum potential, you need to successfully manage your emotions so that when the time comes to act or perform, you are:
• Relaxed• Confident• and prepared for excellence
THE ABC’s of EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT
Dr. Albert Ellis is the creator of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
REBT uses a systematic scientific method for teaching people how to effectively manage their emotions in a healthy way.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Where do almost all emotions and anxiety come from?
• Do they come from the teachers or peers?
• Do parents’ expectations of their child make them nervous and anxious?
• Do emotions come from the media?
• Does the ACT test cause anxiety?
Nope!
Nope!Nope!
Nope!
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Things that happen in the world and people in the world contribute to our emotional responses;
They do not cause our emotional responses.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy*
Emotions are mainly caused by our thoughts about the things that happen to us in the world.
Dr. Albert Ellis* ABC Theory of Emotions A = Activating Event (Adversity)B = BeliefsC = Consequences (Feel, Do)
The “A” in REBT stands for the activating
event, sometimes called an adversity.
There are three types of adversities
people face in the world.
Three Questions
1. Have you ever failed at something you wanted to do well at?
2. Have you ever been rejected or treated unfairly by other people?
3. Have you ever faced a harsh condition?
The “B” in REBT stands for the beliefs and thoughts that people possess about the (A) Activating Events that have occurred.
BELIEFS*
rational- helpful to you over the long run, consistent with “facts”, self-preserving
irrational- hinders you over the long run, self-defeating
C= Consequences*
• The resulting emotional or behavioral reaction or response (think, feel, say or do)
What does it mean?
A + B = C
Activating events (A) + the (B) Beliefs you have about the events cause (C) emotional Consequence!
Why is this important?
You can change your beliefs, your thoughts, and if you do, you’ll change your emotional or behavioral consequences.
Which thoughts make you angrier?
• Are they based on your opinion of the event or facts of our experienced life?
Cognitive Choices• How we LOOK AT things• What MEANING we attach• What we REMEMBER about the past• What we IMAGINE will happen next• What we FOCUS on• What we COMPARE things to• What we EXPECT (self, others, life)• How much IMPORTANCE we attach• What we spend our time THINKING about
Put other people through exactly what you’ve
been through
And they’d probably end upthinking, feeling and doing
what you do
(And maybe even worse)
We all do the BEST we can at the time
Given what we’vebeen through
And the situations wefind ourselves in
Regardless of what youthink, feel, say or do
• You’ll never be the first • You’re never going to be the
last• You’ll always have a lot of
company• It’s part of being human
Anxiety
elevated heart rate
sweating
feeling clammy
queasy stomach
hard time catching your breath
Physiological Symptoms
How do you know if you’re generating anxiety or concern?
How do you know if your frustration is healthy frustration or LFT?
Answers(Thank you Dr. Albert Ellis)
If you change a thought from:
→Wish→Want→Preference→Desire→Aspiration→Goal
→Into a→Into a→Into a→Into a→Into a→Into a
→Must→Need To→Have To→Command→Demand→Dire Necessity
You will create unhealthy negative emotions.
RATIONAL IRRATIONAL
Here’s what it boils down to:
Six Needs/Musts exist in the world
Air
Water
Food
1)
2)
3)
4)
5)
6)
Sleep
Getting Older
Dying
Some additional points.(more variables)
If the consequence is unhealthy or self-defeating, you’ll move to (D) – disputing your crooked thoughts and developing an (E) – effective coping statement.
Dr. Ellis has identified 4 categories of irrational (B) thoughts
1. Demanding – This is making the shift from a want to a need (I MUST do well, I HAVE TO).
2. Awfulizing – It will be HORRIBLE or TERRIBLE or AWFUL if I don’t.
3. LFT – I wouldn’t be able to stand not doing well; it’d be UNBEARABLE. “I can’t-stand-it-itis”
4. Labeling/ Damning – I’d be a total failure if I didn’t do well.
100 Burning alive 90 ------------------------- 80 ------------------------- 70 ------------------------- 60 ------------------------- 50 ------------------------- 40 ------------------------- 30 ------------------------- 20 ------------------------- 10 ------------------------- 00 Mosquito bite
CROOKED/IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS
“My parents expect me to do well on the
ACT, so I have to. I must. Failure is
unacceptable.”
Demand Statement
CROOKED/IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS
“ I have to do well on the ACT because if I don’t I won’t live up to my parents’ expectations and that’d be horrible.”
Demand StatementAwfulizing Statement
or awfulor terrible
CROOKED/IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS
“I couldn‘t stand it. If I don’t do as well as they expect me to do and it’d prove what a total worthless, idiot I am if I don’t live up to their expectations so I have to do well.”
Low Frustration ToleranceLabeling/Damning StatementDemand Statement
CROOKED/IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS
“If I get a bad score on the ACT, it’ll prove that I’m stupid so I have to do well!”
Labeling/ Damning StatementDemand Statement
CROOKED/IRRATIONAL THOUGHTS
“ I have to do well on the ACT because if I don’t, that’d be horrible.”
Demand Statement
Awfulizing Statement
Some examples of (E) Effective Coping Statements
For Demand:
“Hold it, I want to perform well and have my parents be proud of what I accomplish but I don’t have to.”
For Awfulizing:
“My life will still be worth living even if I don’t do as well as I and my parents want.”
For LFT:
“Stop whining! Why make the situation worse by complaining about it?”
For Labeling/Damning:
“Not doing well (on the ACT) and not meeting expectations would prove I’m a FHB (fallible human being), not a worthless idiot.”