Module 3 Boundaries and Self Care...4. Professional Development and Mentoring: Human Connections conducts a range of professional development workshops, including “The Accidental

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Set Point Circumstances Intentional Activity

What Determines Happiness?

FROM: Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K.M. & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, 9.

Happiness Enhancing

InterventionsMeaning

Coping

Spirituality

Goals

PhysicalActivity

Engagement

Kindness

RelationshipsGratitude

Forgiveness

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CUE ROUTINE

It provides me with

REWARD

“What’s the ONE Thing you can do this week such that by doing it everything else

would be easier or unnecessary?”

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THE “THREE GOOD THINGS” Gratitude exercise will lift your mood in as little as two minutes per week.

At the end of the day – Write three good things that happened - things that went well, that

you enjoyed or were grateful for.

Why did they happen? Why did it feel good? For each thing that happened, note a reason.

Look back – After a week, have a look back on what you’ve written. How does it feel when

you look at all the good things? Are there any themes?

Keep it up - you may find that you don’t need to do it every day, but a few times a week.

Monday Three things Why did they happen / Why did it feel good?

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Helping others for no clear personal benefit may seem too much like self-‐sacrifice.There are instances when self-‐sacrifice can be unhealthy and dangerous, but the research suggests that there's a very good selfish reason to help others -‐ it really does make us happier In one study, students were asked to perform five acts of kindness each week for six weeks (Lyubomirsky, Sheldon & Schkade, 2005). These acts included writing a thank-‐you note, giving blood or helping a friend with their work. Students were told either to perform one act each day or all five acts on one day. Both experimental groups showed a better outcome than the control group, whose well-‐being declined over the six-‐week period -‐ perhaps exams were looming! Those who performed their acts of kindness each day showed a small increase in well-‐being. But the highest well-‐being was seen in those students who carried out all their acts of kindness on one single day during each of the six weeks of the study. Their well-‐being increased by an impressive 40%. Lyubomirsky, Sheldon and Schkade (2005) suggest the reason for the difference is that a single act of kindness each day doesn't make a significant difference, especially when the acts are only small. List 5 acts of kindness you could perform every day for 6 weeks.

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1. What boundaries does your role give you? (Time/tasks/etc.)

2. What are the areas of vulnerability for you personally in terms of boundaries? (Where might you find yourself stressed by setting or maintaining boundaries?)

3. What warning signs will you look for in these vulnerable areas? And what will you do to care for yourself and the relationship with the client?

What are ways of looking after and caring for yourself?

Physical Emotional Mental Spiritual Relational

One of the biggest challenges for those in the ‘helping role’ is facing their own limits in that role, or the limits put on them by the “contract” of the “patient/worker role”. Setting appropriate boundaries is the core of the work of helping others, in many ways. It is the emotional/spiritual/relational core of the caring role.

Common Factors in Successful Therapy Outcomes

30% Relationship

40% Client Factors

15% Expectation/Placebo

15% Model/Technique

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COPYRIGHT NOTICE

ABOUT HUMAN CONNECTIONS

Human Connections is an Australian business based in Sydney, committed to connecting people in schools, families and the workplace. With qualifications and university degrees in both education and counselling Rocky brings great experience both as a teacher, Year Coordinator, therapist and life coach.

Rocky has successfully conducted presentations to thousands of clients. In particular, he has focused on the transition into senior school. His focus on emotion and stress management, motivation and peak performance brings to clients the latest techniques used by successful corporate and sporting people around the world. Clients will participate and experience techniques in energy psychology, Neuro-Linguistic programming, self-hypnosis and meditation.

What we do: Go to www.humanconnections.com.au to find out more.

1. Peak Performance Student Sessions: These student sessions are mostly targeted to Year 7 (Big Fish into Little Fish Workshop) 10, 11 and 12 students. The focus is on motivation, goals and emotion management techniques. The information pack has further details. However, the sessions are between 90 minutes and a whole day workshop. In addition, we hold study skills days with Prue Salter from ELES where the group is split in half and each spends half a day with a presenter.

2. Parent Evenings: The parent evenings were born from the overwhelming feedback by

students that a major part of their pressure was from their parents. The session runs for 60 minutes and is titled, “Helping your child through senior school and the HSC.”

3. Counselling: Rocky Biasi from Human Connections is a clinical Member of the Counsellors

and Psychotherapists Association of NSW and runs a private practice. In addition, Rocky offers counselling to teachers and clients in a variety of schools.

4. Professional Development and Mentoring: Human Connections conducts a range of

professional development workshops, including “The Accidental Counsellor”, “Teaching Toward Success - Helping Clients Reach their Academic Potential” and “Conscious Classroom Management.

Please note: all materials in this handout are protected by copyright. If you wish to use any of this material with clients/parents you need to acknowledge the source as follows: Source: www.humanconnections.com.au

As director of Human Connections, Rocky Biasi is a classroom management and interpersonal skills specialist with a practical approach to behaviour management.

With over 15 years’ experience as a counselor, teacher and Year Coordinator to every year group from Yr 7 – 12, Rocky has a wealth of experience both practical and theoretical that can help teachers and schools work toward becoming more effective and efficient in their roles.

His extensive training and research from the field of Peak Performance Psychology equips him to consult with teachers and clients about how to move from where they are to where they want to be.

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