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PRINCIPALS

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News from Friends is published by the Development Office at Friends Seminary two times each year (spring and fall) for alumni, parents, grandparents, and friends of the School. The fall issue will include the annual report. The mission of News From Friends is to feature the accomplishments of alumni, while capturing the School’s remarkable history, values, and culture. Each issue will have an underlying theme, such as (but not limited to) the sciences, the arts, athletics, history and literature, and service. Additionally, the magazine will give insight into recent events at Friends Seminary.

About the Artist: Harry Bogosian ’05 graduated

from Pratt Institute with a BFA in Communications

Design and Illustration. Harry writes, “Although

Pratt had a huge impact on me, I still believe that

the majority of my ideas and way of working come

from the years of margin doodling while at Friends

Seminary.” Harry currently lives in Brooklyn and

tutors in both Photoshop as well as general drawing,

and freelances for small video game companies

and illustration work.

Tarot by Harry Bogosian ‘05

Spotlight on Alumni Art

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Robert “Bo” Lauder Principal

D e v e l o P m e n t o f f i c e

Selena Shadle Director of Development

Valerie Delaine Database manager

Amanda EisnerDevelopment and Special events manager

Katherine Farrell Director of Alumni Relations

John Galayda Director of communications

Jennifer Nichols Director of Annual Giving

Patty Ziplow major Gifts officer

on the cover: (From top left to right)

Edward A.H. Allen, Edward B. Rawson,

John L. Carver, Henry L. Messner,

S. Archibald Smith, Alexander Prinz,

Earle L. Hunter (acting), Ernest Seegers,

Harold Jernigan, Joyce G. McCray,

Richard Eldridge, Robert N. Lauder

Please forward address changes to:

friends Seminary

Development office

222 east 16th Street

new York, nY 10003-3703

John Galayda editor

Red Herring Design Designers

Photographs by John Galayda unless otherwise noted.

Features

20 Lift Every Voice The Campaign for Friends raises over $20 million.

24 The Principals A look at Friends Seminary’s 35 principals over the past 225 years.

The Principals IssueN E WS F R o M F R i EN D S

Departments 5 Message from the Principal Robert “Bo” Lauder

6 Buzz on 16th Street Alumni Visits, Featured Speakers, Friends in

the News, and a 225th Anniversary Celebration

8 Notes on Silence by Benjamin Frisch

10 Graduation Day Friends Seminary graduates 59 in 2010

14 Spoken Word “The Gift of Hope and Jambalaya,” an excerpt

from the 2010 Graduation Address by

William R. King II, Mathematics Teacher

16 Reunion 2010 A record number of alumni retured

for Reunion 2010

28 Class Notes News from alumni and tributes to recently

deceased alumni

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Spoken Word

COMMUNITY SERVICE MISSION

Service is integral to Friends Seminary’s educational mission, along with the disciplines of study

and silence. Our Community Service Program strives to instill a sense of stewardship of the school community and respect for and responsibility to our urban neighborhood and beyond. By providing opportunities within the cur-riculum and in other relevant activities for students to witness and understand the needs of others, we hope to prepare them for a life that includes service. Our goal is to integrate knowledge and understanding with compassion and social responsibility. Only through reflection and understanding the need to put our values into practice will students be able to grasp the importance to ourselves of the gift of caring for each other, for all humanity, and for the natural world.

DIVERSITY MISSION

The Society of Friends is founded in the belief that there is that of God in every person and that truth emerges as new voices are heard and incorporated in our understanding. We believe that the quality of the

truths we know is enriched and deepened by welcoming people with diverse experiences of the world into our community.

We want to foster a community that addresses the challenge of valuing difference and making every individual feel welcome, supported, and safe: a community in which each person is asked to make the rigorous commitment to recognize the Light within every other, to hear that piece of truth each person brings to the continuing dialogue which is the foundation of our community. We want our daily interactions to demonstrate that maintaining respect and pursuing the hard work of understanding difference creates strength as we work to define and move toward common goals.

Our mission as an educational institution is to prepare our students to participate in an increasingly interdependent world and, by graduating an increasingly diverse group of students, to help build a more effective citizenry and representative leadership for the future. We seek to develop the skills and discipline necessary to communicate effectively and to learn from a rich variety of experiences and points of view. This work is central to valuing diversity, to the purpose of education and to the Quaker ideals of integrity, peace, equality and simplicity.

In a world in which people continue to suffer profound inequalities of opportunity, we dedicate ourselves to stretching what we have and are capable of: to working to become a community more representative of the city in which we live and to improving our ability to support a diverse student body. The gap between our ideals and the possible creates struggle to which we commit ourselves with energy and joy.

SCHOOL MISSION

Friends Seminary educates students from kindergarten through twelfth grade, under the care of the New York Quarterly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends. Through instruction and example, students follow their curiosity

and exercise their imaginations as they develop as scholars, artists and athletes. In a community that cultivates the intellect through keen observation, critical thinking and coherent expression, we strive to respond to one another, valuing the single voice as well as the effort to reach consensus. The disciplines of silence, study and service provide the matrix for growth: silence opens us to change; study helps us to know the world; service challenges us to put our values into practice. At Friends Seminary, education occurs within the context of the Quaker belief in the Inner Light – that of God in every person. “Guided by the ideals of integrity, peace, equality and simplicity, and by our commitment to diversity, we do more than prepare students for the world that is: we help them bring about the world that ought to be.”*

*This last sentence is adapted from Faith and Practice: The Book of Discipline of the New York Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends (1974).

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Mission

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Message from the Principal

Dear Friends,

When students entered Hunter Hall on September 10, Friends Seminary’s 225th academic session commenced—a truly exciting moment in the School’s history. We are celebrating this milestone in countless ways throughout the year. We’ve unveiled a new logo, worked with the city in the installation of vibrant street banners along 16th Street and planned a birthday bash for students on 2/25.

Exciting things are going on in our classrooms as well. Astrophysicist Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson, Director of the Hayden Planetarium at the American Museum of Natural History in New York and host of the PBS television show NOVA scienceNOW, is this year’s Visiting Scholar at Friends Seminary.

This fall, Dr. Tyson will work with Middle and Upper School students through a series of chemistry, biology, physics, and general science lectures, including a special session with seniors on the college process and careers in science. In a year in which we focus on our math and science programs, including the launch of our very first online course (Science and the Origin of Knowledge), it is of significance that Dr. Tyson has accepted this appointment at Friends. We look forward to welcoming him.

Additionally, our Arabic language program enters its third year, and includes four sections of levels I-III. The Experiential Education program, known mostly for its outdoor education program in the Upper School, expands into the lower and middle grades.

The start of a new year brings optimism and excitement. Now is a moment of great possibility. Celebrating the School’s anniversary is also humbling. As I enter my 25th year in the world of independent school education, I feel gratitude that I am at Friends Seminary. The world, and not just our students, needs more places like Friends.

Sincerely,

Robert “Bo” LauderPrincipal

Message from the

Principal

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[Visited]APRil

20 Author Zack Hample ’95 visited Friends and spoke with students

in the Meetinghouse about his unique baseball collection. He also discussed his new book and read excerpts.

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19 Journalist and former political advisor George Stephanopoulos

spoke to students in the Meetinghouse.

25 Joined by several well-established architects, charles Renfro, Friends’

2010 Visting Scholar, conducted a final critique of student work in the school library.

june

2 Renowned interior decorator nate Berkus, a regular guest on The

Oprah Winfrey Show, visited a Friends kindergarten class. During his visit, a film crew taped a segment for Nate’s new show, The Nate Berkus Show, which premiered September 13, 2010 on NBC. | f

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On 16th Street

Zack Hample ’95

George Stephanopoulos Charles Renfro (pictured far right)

Buzz

Nate Berkus

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[Featured]

New York Post | may 30, 2010Teacher Ben Horner’s Fourth Grade Oyster Farming Project was featured in the New York Post in an article entitled “Oysters are a shore thing in New York,” by Barry Paddock. To read the story, visit www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2010/05/30/2010 -05-30_pollution_shell_games_clean_water_group_sends_army_of_oysters_into_battle.html.

The New York Times | june 11, 2010Teacher Anna Swank’s Arabic II Class was featured once again in The New York Times in an article entitled “Arabic Becomes a Popular Choice” by Susan Dominus. To read the story, visit www.nytimes.com/2010/06/12/nyregion/12bigcity.html. The Arabic Program at Friends was first featured in The Times on June 20, 2008. To read that article, visit www.nytimes.com/2008/06/20/nyregion/20bigcity.html | f

[Celebrating] 225TH ANNIVERSARY

Friends Seminary is celebrating its 225th year during the 2010-2011 school year. The School’s history

extends back through three centuries to the year 1786, when a small school was opened for the purpose of educating the few Quaker children then in the city of New York.

“Little was thought at that time of the influence that this school would come to have upon the lives of many children of all faiths and upon the entire edu cational system of New York,” Principal Robert Lauder said. “Today, we continue to pride ourselves in the School’s continuous innovation over the past 225 years.”

On February 25, 2011 (2.25), the School will host a birthday party.

For the 225th school year, a commem-orative logo has been designed. The logo utilizes elements of the school’s most recent logo designed in 1978 by Jean Marcellino (mother of Nico ’90 and grandmother of Isabella ’21). The tree and color scheme have stayed the same,

while the old school house has been replaced with a graphic representation of the 15th Street Meetinghouse—which is celebrating 150 years this year. The new logo can be found on the school flags outside the School on 16th Street and outside the annex on 15th Street.

The logo—along with the words Peace, Study, Service, Diversity, Equality and Integrity—are also displayed on banners affixed to light poles along 16th Street from Union Square to Stuyvesant Square, and along 15th Street between Second and Third Avenues. | f

Buzz On 16th Street

On 16th Street

Charles Renfro (pictured far right)

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Listen! What do we hear emerging through the stillness of Meeting? A hush has started in the Senior facing benches. It is sweeping across the room as we settle in silence for Upper School Meeting for Worship on a Friday morning. The

last standing teacher takes her seat and the room is quiet. Almost immediately, the “monkey-mind” begins his non-stop

internal chattering. He repeats a conversation that I had with a student that didn’t go according to plan. He looks around

the room at students and other teachers. I close my eyes to settle inwardly. The “monkey-mind” reviews my to-do lists. What papers need grading? How am I going to pay my bills this month? When was the last time I saw my old friend? I breathe in and slowly exhale and with that breath, I feel my shoulders relax. Another deep breath and I can feel the muscles of my eyes and mouth settle. The “monkey-mind” is taking a break, and in my mind’s eye, I see a stream by the woods.

If the mind needs to dwell on a thought, I let the thought

Notes On Silenceb y Benjamin Frisch, Mathematics Teacher

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draw my focus. After a moment, I imagine that thought is floating down the stream like a small stick. In a few more moments, even the conscious thoughts cease. If I am too tired, I will sometimes fall asleep at this point. Usually, something emerges from the silence.

It can be a word, a phrase or a memory. Sometimes, this inspiration becomes a message. If I feel excited and if my heart quickens, I wonder if I have to share my message with the Meeting.

At this point, I ask myself the following questions: “Is this message from my ego or from beyond my own self?” “Does this message actually mean anything to someone else or is it only for myself?” “Will this message add to our community?” “Have I already spoken too often in Meeting?” “Has it been at least several minutes since the last spoken message?” If the answers to the questions are favorable, I rise and give my message. If not, I take a deep breath and feel released from a sense of burden. Occasionally, I will hear someone else rise and give a message later in Meeting that incorporates the gist the message that I let pass unsaid.

In the stillness of Meeting, there arise many voices. Students speak of sights they have seen on the way to school that lead to new insights about how they want to live their lives. It can take great courage to rise before the entire student body and faculty to speak. You really never know what to expect. A girl rises and tells about her anger and frustration surrounding the death of a friend. A boy rises and with joy and faltering words tells us that last night he had his first kiss with his girlfriend. Probably the most memorable message that I can remember came from an history teacher Raoul Meyer. I had risen to give a brief message which I have long since forgotten. A few moments later, Raoul rose and in a brief statement, he proposed marriage to another teacher, Dorothy Sandler, who was sitting next to him. Both had earlier been students at Friends Seminary and both loved Meeting. After she quietly agreed, a cheer broke out with much applause. The Lower School classes could hear the noise coming from the Meetinghouse that morning. The room finally settled again to a very nervous silence.

Since 9/11, we have held the Senior Class Trip to Powell House at the end of the year before graduation. Going to Powell House with the seniors is one of my favorite activities as a teacher. Each year, we ask the students to reflect on their time at the Seminary and I hear from students that they have

learned to appreciate Meeting for the silence and for the inspiration. It is not so much the messages that they have heard that is remembered, but it is the opportunity and freedom that is granted to each of them to speak. Perhaps this “freedom to speak” helps to nurture a sense of trust for our inner voice or conscience that is the highlight of a Friends education.

Bo Lauder, our Principal, has several times shared one of my favorite Emily Dickinson poems with our community, “I dwell in Possibility.” The poem speaks to me about what I often experience in Meeting for Worship.

I dwell in Possibility— A fairer House than Prose— More numerous of Windows— Superior—for Doors—Of Chambers as the Cedars— Impregnable of Eye— And for an Everlasting Roof The Gambrels of the Sky— Of Visitors—the fairest— For Occupation—This— The spreading wide my narrow Hands To gather Paradise—

In the Fifteenth Street Meetinghouse, where we hold our Meetings for Worship, we have lovely windows that reveal the light of the changing seasons. As a faculty advisor, I sit with my students, and, every four years, I do a slow orbit about the Meetinghouse. In ninth grade, they sit facing west. In tenth grade, they face south and look out towards the 15th Street traffic. In eleventh grade, they look north and see the main building, Hunter Hall and the gallery, and in twelfth grade, they sit in facing benches looking east. With a new batch of advisees, I start my orbit again.

In the Meetinghouse, there is a feeling that time passes more slowly, with a quiet dignity that gives us strength. Whenever I see my former colleague, Arthur Moore, who was a well-loved chemistry teacher in the 80s, the first question he always asks me is, “how is the Meeting for Worship going? Is it real and vital for the community?” I have always been able to say to him, “Yes, the Meeting for Worship is still at the heart of our community. It is always different, it is always fragile and it is always alive with possibility.” | f

Benjamin frisch is in his 26th year as a teacher at Friends Seminary. He currently teaches math, and has taught science and Quaker Studies. He is also a Quaker and a member of the Brooklyn Meeting.

Notes On Silence

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Graduation 2010

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Graduation DayOn June 14, 2010, Friends Seminary graduated 59 seniors during a ceremony

in the Meetinghouse. The Class of 2010 was comprised of 21 graduates who

attended Friends since kindergarten.

The 21 "lifers" of Friends Seminary's Class of 2010.

Graduation 2010

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College Acceptance ListClass of 2010

Graduation 2010

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From Left to Right:

Claire Abrahamson University of St. Andrews

Konstantine Adamopoulos New York University

Leah Allen Howard University

Lindsay Amer Northwestern University

Alexander Anapol Lehigh University

Timothy Antrim-Cashin Bucknell University

Ross Berger Wesleyan University

Katherine Boyle Boston College

Harry Cammer Tulane University

Sarah Chalfie Bowdoin College

Nathaniel Chumley Northeastern University

Kim Clancy University of Puget Sound

Dean Cooney University of Chicago

Charlotte Eisenberg Colgate University

Nicholas Evert Williams College

Kate Fisch Carnegie Mellon University

Rebecca Frisch Kenyon College

Jack Gaffney Middlebury College

Emma Gillam Muhlenberg College

Cassandra Goodman Pratt Institute

Grace Haser Brown University

olivia Hauser Wesleyan University

Adam Horowitz Pomona College

Robi Jaffrey Bates College

Henry Jessup Indiana University

Dylan Karle Grinnell College

Steven Kessler University of Virginia

Brian Koenigsberg Boston University

Cyrus Kuschner Muhlenberg College

Daniel Levenson Johns Hopkins University

Hadley Maya Dickinson College

Ellen Mayer Tufts University

Graham Nolen University of Miami

Angelique ogilvie University of Miami

Hayes Peebles Tufts University

Spencer Petterson Middlebury College

Madeline Porsella Bard College

Ethan Putnam University at Buffalo/ SUNY

Molly Ratner Brown University

Nicholas Rouner George Washington University

Zoe Ruffner Wesleyan University

Alessandro Santoro American University

Hillary Saunders University of Colorado at Boulder

Nina Sawyer University of Michigan

Philip Schmiege Boston University

Xander Shepherd Northwestern University

Leo Singer Yale University

Emma Smith Oberlin College

Luke Smith-Stevens Middlebury College

Annelise Stabenau Pitzer College

Daniel Tay Yale University

Ryan Tongue Hartwick College

Jukie Tsai Carleton College

Angelica Tsakas Skidmore College

Emma Vasta-Kuby Wesleyan University

Damian Walker Brown University

Emily Wexler Vassar College

Graduation 2010

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The Gift of Hope and Jambalaya

An Excerpt from the 2010 Graduation Address

by William R. King ii, Mathematics Teacher

Spoken Word

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I consider myself fortunate to have taught almost all of you, and one of the most important “teachable moments” came after Hurricane Katrina hit my hometown of New Orleans. It had been four years since I left New Orleans and moved here to New York

City. Actually, my wife dragged me here kicking and screaming, and I was screaming loudly. But as all in the audience know, when your better half gets a promotion in a new city, all the complaining and pleading in the world will get you nothing but moving boxes and “honey-do lists.” I was not sure about living in New York City, but I had faith. However, after spending three years searching for my place in this city, I almost quit teaching. But then, I was given the opportunity to teach here—and luckily Friends decided to relax their standards for me—and I’m thankful that I’m part of the Friends family.

New York City was not a path I would have chosen for myself, but it was path that lead me to great happiness. As the months and years went by, I found myself more distanced from my past life in New Orleans. After the disaster of Katrina struck, it never crossed my mind to help my city rebuild. My response was more jaded—“typical” is what I thought—but a group of students took it upon themselves to motivate me to get involved, with two service trips to the Gulf Coast. You prodded and cajoled and got me to undertake something I

had no desire to do. Once I was home and saw the destruction and loss, I realized how lucky I had it. I also realized how fortunate I was to work with students like you. You gave of yourselves to give a little hope to those who needed it. You gave up a part of your summer vacation, many precious days of freedom for a city that meant nothing to you and everything to me. Now I know most of you thought you were going to be enjoying jambalaya and jazz and 24-hour parties in the Big Easy, and though you did get that jambalaya, it was not until after you had sweated enough for a lifetime. You helped make a difference in some people’s lives, and for that, I applaud you.

In turn, you taught a lesson to your teacher, a lesson about goodness and caring and about how life can be about someone other than yourself. I was the person most reluctant to go on these trips, yet I was the one that got the most from them. I realized that no matter how far or how long you are gone, home will always be a part of you. New Orleans helped form who I am today, and as you move on with your lives you will all understand that Friends is a part of you; it is forever your home, and while life might take you far away and your friendships and memories might start to fade, there will always be a part of you that is connected to this school. It is a home that you will always have, and I hope you frequently return. | f

Student Commencement

Speakers2010 Commencement exercises also featured a number of student

speakers. From left to right: Julius Tsai, Hayes Peebles, Jack Gaffney, Emma Smith, Adam Horowitz, Luke Smith-Stevens.

“Friends is a part of you; it is forever your home, and while life might take you far away and your friendships and memories might start to fade, there will always be a part of you that is connected to this school.”

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Reunion 2010Class of 1960 Returns to Celebrate and Meet with Students

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The Class of 1960 during the Pen Pal Tea in the Friends Seminary Alumni Room on May 14, 2010. Back row (left to right): Littleton Gunn, Neil Mitchell, Larry Pratt, Andy Harris, Alex Hehmeyer, Jonathan Small, Peter Linden, Ed Seldin. Middle row (left to right): Jenny Roper, Liz Lyons Stone, Jaffray Cuyler, Jane Edelstein Rosenbloom, Mackey Arnstein, Liz Peale Allen. Front row (left to right): Barney Hodes, Susan Kintner, Cathie Munnell-Smith, Sabrina (nee Andrea) Loomis, John Avlon.

Reunion

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R eunion 2010 had a record number of alumni returning to Friends, catching up with classmates and faculty members

throughout the weekend. The class of 1960 kicked off the festivites on Friday, May 14, with a luncheon in the Alumni Room followed by dessert with their 4th grade pen pals in their classroom. Later in the evening the 50th reu nion alumni and their spouses convened at il Cortile in Little italy for their class dinner, generously sponsored by an anonymous donor.

Activities continued on Saturday morning when alumni and their families took to the classrooms at Friends for faculty seminars led by Christina Moustakis (Faculty Emerita), Bob Rosen, Bram Hubbell, Anna Swank and judy Adams Ander son ’66. Diverse gener-ations of alumni sat alongside each other for discussions around Huck Finn, Jazz and the teaching of Arabic.

Following a barbeque luncheon in the outer Couryard, alumni moved into the Meeting house for the Faculty/Staff Emeritus Ceremony and Meeting for Worship. History teacher Charlie Blank paid tribute to Emerita Jean Johnson and lower school teacher John Behling read remarks prepared by Emerita Helen Trapasso honoring Emerita Mary Lou Sunderwirth. Throughout the day current stu-dents led tours of the School including a visit to the Rosenquist Gallery, where the talents of alumni visual artists—ivan chermayeff ’50, Barnett Hodes ’60, eric lee ’75, Brian Delacey ’80, leo Sorel ’80, cassie taggart ’85, lizabeth Arum ’85, Derek wiesehahn ’85, David Gilbert ’00, Harry Bogosian ’05, Remi Gendron ’05, and matthew weiss ’05—were showcased. The curatorial prow-ess of Sabrina Blaichman ’05, caroline copley ’05, Andrea crane ’86, Genevieve Hudson-Price ’05 and Martina Yamin, parent of alumni from ’83 and ’85, brought this unique show together. Reunion festivities concluded with cocktails at Angelo & Maxie’s Steak-house on Park Avenue and individual reunion class gatherings throughout the weekend. | f

Special Thanks to the 2010 Reunion Chairs

Class of 1945Marion Hausner Pauck

Class of 1950Henri Caldwell

Ann Katzenberg HurwitzClass of 1955 Jackson Bryer

Gail Richards TiranaClass of 1960

Elizabeth Peale Allen Sally Taylor Brewster

Peter LindenCatherine Munnell-Smith

Jane Edelstein Rosenbloom Jonathan SmallClass of 1965Harlan HurwitzClass of 1970

Belinda Broido • Clifford FineClass of 1975

Francesca BrunoJeanne McAlister Griffiths David Hirst • Cella Irvine

Class of 1980 Karen Gross Fittinghoff

Michael GoldenSarah Edmunds Goodwin

Class of 1985Linda Baer • Rendall Howell

Anne Kner • Julie RaggioClass of 1990

Lateef Bost • Nicole DavisNicolo Marcellino

Belkis Rodriguez TalaricoClass of 1995Elizabeth GraceMelissa Miles

Class of 2000Jennifer Rothchild

Rebecca Sadek-BlumenfeldCourtney VargasClass of 2005

Leslie ChinNusrat Chowdhury

Sarah Derbew Sam Rabinowitz

1. Music teacher Bob Rosen leads a seminar in the Loft during Reunion. 2. Classmates from the Class of 1970, Barbara Cohlan Perlmutter, left, Jane Nemhauser, center, and Nancy Alisberg, right, pose for a photo in the Meetinghouse courtyard during reunion. 3. Former faculty member Paul Sumter talks with past students in the Meetinghouse courtyard during reunion. 4. Lela Patrik Price ’00, left, is suprised by Richard Dryden ’00, right, at reunion. 5. During Friday’s 50th reunion activities, Mackey Arnstein ’60, left, shows C.C. Hubbard-Salk ’18, right, photos of herself in the 1960 yearbook.

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2010 Emeritus InducteesDuring the 2010 Reunion program, two past Friends Seminary faculty

members were inducted into the School’s Emeritus Program.

The 2010 Emeritus Class include Jean Elliott Johnson and Mary Lou Sunderwirth.

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jean elliott johnsonFaculty Emeritus

The pioneering spirit exemplified in so many history books must have been an inspiration to Jean Elliott Johnson, for she blazed her own trail while teaching at Friends Seminary from 1974 to 1994.

Jean began her career at Friends as a Middle School Social Studies teacher. Later, she came to teach History in the Upper School, introducing a two-year world history course in place of Western Civilization. The administration was trusting enough to let her use material she had written for this experimental course. Then, with the support of Charlie Blank, the Chair of the History Department at the time, she alternated between using a published textbook and her Xeroxed manuscript. This Xeroxed text eventually became part of the published textbook series, The Human Drama, which she and her husband, Don, co-authored. Today, the book and other co-authored titles—Gods and God in Hinduism, Through Indian Eyes, and Universal Religions in World History—are used at prestigious high schools and colleges throughout the country.

mary lou SunderwirthFaculty Emeritus

Friends Seminary is deeply appreciative of the many contributions Mary Lou Sunderwirth made over her 16 years as Head of the Lower School. Her tireless leadership, indomitable initiative, and absorbing interest in the good of the student have been a gift of incalculable value.

During her time at Friends, Mary Lou committed herself to carefully studying and revising the Lower School curriculum. She favored a more “hands-on” approach to educating students and invited outside speakers and consultants to Friends to keep our faculty, and herself, informed of the latest teaching methods. Mary Lou is proud to say that she helped write a Lower School curriculum revolving around the vital philosophies of a Friends Seminary education. She also established the traditions of Grandparent’s Day and the Pen Pal Project, a correspondence between the 50th Reunion Class and fourth graders at Friends. Both of these activities still occur today.

One of Mary Lou’s traits most appreciat-ed by her colleagues is her overwhelming energy, indisputably contagious to those around her. Mary Lou never walked down the halls of Friends. She bounced.

She hummed. She laughed; and when she laughed, if you were within earshot, you were laughing too. Mary Lou’s spark transferred to those she worked alongside. Her bright energy made tough situations tolerable. With a confident smile, she convinced her faculty that problems would find solutions. Her joyful demeanor uplifted the spirits and expectations of those around her.

An irreverent leader and incredible team player, Mary Lou said it was a joy working with a gifted and dedicated faculty and administration; such people included Joyce McCray, Ted Rockwell, Pam Wood, Helen Trapasso, and Viola Canovas. Her generosity of time, attention, encouragement, and spirit has been invaluable to the Lower School and the Friends community at-large.

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About the Friends Emeritus ProgramThe faculty and staff of Friends Seminary are the School’s single most valuable resource. The School has long been blessed by teachers (and in this context we include staff members as well) whose influence and presence still reverberate through our classrooms long after their departure. Further, the number of educators who choose to spend the bulk of their careers at Friends is extraordinary. The depth and breadth of this service is recognized through the Emeritus Program.

Reunion

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Lift Every Voice Campaign Raises over $20 Million

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Lift Every Voice: The Campaign for Friends was a call to action to “strengthen the School’s ability to carry out its unique mission and

to build upon its Quaker traditions” for the Friends Seminary students of today, as well as tomorrow. The Campaign raised much needed funds for two primary areas: endowment and facilities.

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A strong endowment prepares Friends Seminary for the future. A strong endow-ment will help Friends succeed in fulfilling its mission and meeting its goals. It will enable the school to compensate its teachers, attract a diverse student body, and maintain its excellence into the future.

Over the course of the Campaign our endowment increased from $5 million to $10 million with an additional $5 million dollars in pledges to be added over the next five years.

Thanks to all of you, it is my privilege to report the successful completion of

Lift Every Voice: The Campaign for Friends having achieved our stated objectives in raising over $20 million for Friends Seminary!

This Campaign was a total community effort that involved the support of alumni, parents, parents of alumni, grandparents, faculty, staff, “friends” of Friends Seminary and many others.

We received more than 1,300 gifts ranging from $5 to over $1,000,000 (the first in Friends Seminary’s history!!) and more than 45 volunteers gave their time and talent to help achieve our goal!

Clearly, your volunteerism, advice and counsel, unwavering support and, of course, your financial gifts were the reasons for our success.

On behalf of the Co-Chairs of the Campaign I would like to express our deep appreciation for your generosity . Thank you, Steve Paluszek, Clerk

Thank You$1,576,265 was raised for endowment for faculty Support

Allows the School to offer competitive salaries

Funds professional development opportunities

Funds teaching and learning resources

$4,270,292 was raised for endowment for financial Aid

Ensures a diverse student body

Supports the 26% of Friends students who receive financial aid

$3,272,334 was raised for unrestricted endowment

Provides flexibility in allocating additional resources where they are needed most

Enables the school to enhance existing academic, athletic and extracurricular programs

Helps support new programs such as the Arabic Language Program and Visiting Scholars Program

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$7,899,712 for facilities and General Support

Lift Every Voice: The Campaign for Friends provided funds for construction projects and key renovations throughout campus which significantly improved our facilities and have enhanced the educational experience for our current students as well as those of future generations.

$3,827,415 for new and existing programmatic support and restricted endowment, and from undesignated bequests

cAmPAiGn AccomPliSHmentS The new all-school LibraryThe Elizabeth Claster Lower School LibrarySeven new classrooms The Mariana Wright Chapman Academic CenterA wide central staircaseNew restroom facilitiesThe James and Mimi Thompson Rosenquist GalleryThe addition of an accessible elevatorThe renovation of two townhouses for classrooms and office spaceArabic Language ProgramVisiting Scholar ProgramFaculty Lecture Series

To our fine and dedicated Campaign leadership, we express our profound gratitude and deep appreciation for the accomplishments of Lift Every Voice: The Campaign for Friends. Take joy in knowing that your work and generosity have had a lasting impact on Friends Seminary. | f

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Steering committee co-chairs

Julia Bates ’83 Public Phase ChairEdes Powell Gilbert ’49Wendy LevineMichael McCarthyStephen Paluszek, ClerkSteven Tuttleman

Robert N. Lauder, PrincipalSelena Shadle Director of DevelopmentPatty Ziplow, Major Gifts OfficerLyn Traverse Former Campaign DirectorDonna Rothchild Former Director of Development

committee

Dean BackerEdward C. Brittenham ’79Michele A. Browne ’85 Michael CohenBart Freundlich ’88 Frederick FruitmanJoseph HealeyWilliam A. KoenigsbergDerek McLaneRodrigo NiñoMarc J. Rachman ’82Helen D. Reavis ’77 Everett Ware ’86

council

Mary AlexanderJerome AnselWalter BrewsterJonathan L. CohenElaine Wingate Conway ’52 Richard EldridgeElizabeth EnloeDavid J. FishelsonMichael J. FoxDeborah FreundlichAnne GrayRobert HartmanHelene L. Kaplan

Joyce G. McCrayG.G. MichelsonKenneth PrestonKaren Lee SpauldingEllen C. SteinAnn Sullivan

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“friends remains very close to my heart primarily because my education there included so much more than curriculum. friends taught me the power of silence, the importance of tolerance, and how to be a thoughtful, involved citizen. i have enjoyed staying involved as an alumna by participating in the Alumni-Student networking Day, mentoring students and offering internships to young alumni and current students. these activities have kept me connected to friends and allowed me to give back to the place that gave me so much.” jessica Rovello ’92 is co-founder of Arkadium, an online games company, which she started with with her husband Kenny Rosenblatt in 2001. Arkadium has developed over 300 online games that reach millions of players per month worldwide. She recently shared her professional expertise with Friends, building interactive games that celebrate the School’s 225th anniversary. To play those games, visit www.friends225.com.

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The “help wanted ad,” sent by the Trustees of the nascent Friends Seminary in 1781 to the Two Weeks Meeting in London, called for “a sober, discreet Friend…a young man, unmarried, of an exemplary life and conversation…a very good writer (this referring to his penmanship), well vers’d in arithmetic and with a competent knowledge of English grammar.” Two years later, Thomas Steel stepped forward, “willing and disposed to undertake the care of said school for a salary of £160 per annum.”* Thus marks the first in the line of Friends Seminary’s principals.

“Said school” was a refitted portion of the Queen Street Meeting House, with attendance—ebbing and waning according to weather, epidemic, or precedence of household chores—often dipping to under 10. In its 225 years, the School has relocated (thrice), renovated, and regularly reassessed and redefined; Friends has had 35 principals, each of whom has shaped the School.

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In 1828, after a half century of growth, Edward Walters took over a school reduced to 33 students as a result of the philosophical divide of the Hicksite Quakers

and the Orthodox. Samuel Brown, in 1832, saw the admittance of the first non-Quaker students. In 1846, David

Driscom became the first principal of the newly-named and refurbished Friends Institute, and brought French, Greek, Latin, painting and drawing to the School—for an added fee. Thomas Foulke was the first principal, in 1861, of the renamed Friends Seminary, located, at long last, on Rutherford Place.

From 1876 to 1885, Benjamin Smith, an innovator, expanded the School’s

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educational thrust outward by adding college preparatory classes, and incorporating the first kindergarten in New York City. Edward A.H. Allen, the first non-Quaker principal, introduced manual training to the curriculum, and saw the admittance of the first black student, Clara Lawson, in 1892.

At the turn of the century, Edward “Pop” Rawson inspired his students with the adage, “Get your pleasure out of your work or you will never know what pleasure is.” Henry Messner established a psychology department in the 1920’s, the first of its kind in private schools. Dr. Earle Hunter, though principal for only one year, “touched more lives, changed more minds, lifted more spirits, raised more hopes than any other” during his 50 years at Friends.*

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Note: At press time, the School community had just learned of Joyce McCray’s passing. The spring issue of News From Friends will feature an in-depth tribute to Joyce.

Led by the dynamic and ebullient Joyce McCray, the Friends community celebrated the School’s bicentennial on April 26, 1986. McCray arrived in 1977 and revitalized the School after the difficult two-year tenure of Principal Harold

Jernigan, during which a teacher’s union was formed for the first time in the School’s history.

“When she came to Friends from the Professional Children’s School, the task before her was so daunting that those who greeted her wondered whether she was brave, or just idealistically optimistic. It turned out that she was both,” wrote Nancy Gibbs ’77 in Children of Light, a history of Friends Seminary.

As her hopes for the school evolved, Friends grew more and more sturdy. Once enrollment was back up and the faculty first-rate, Joyce set to renovating buildings. Early in her tenure, the Department of Experiential Education was founded, as was the School’s commitment to expeditionary and experiential learning.

Fundraising efforts began in 1979, and in 1982, Kelley House, which was initially bought in 1973, was renovated and dedicated. The refurbished building included improved study areas, gym space, a computer room, offices for business and admissions, a Quiet Space, classrooms, a darkroom, and a 60-foot library annex. Joyce also raised scholarship funds and encouraged innovation, ultimately realizing a long desired, but always delayed dream: the establishment of an endowment for the School.

In 1989, Richard Eldridge entered a vibrant school and kept it moving upwards. Under his leadership, the 15th Street Annex and 214 Townhouse were dynamic additions to the

campus. The School’s academic reputation was strengthened and life at the School had been enriched through Rich’s fierce commitment to diversity. Rich said that he essentially continued with the reforms that Joyce initiated 25 years earlier, when she took on a placid school with diminishing enrollment and permissive attitudes and turned it around imbuing it with new vitality. If so, Rich took it to a new level; he instituted growth in programs and curriculum, with academic upgrades and improvement of quality and stability in both students and faculty.

“Diversity and social justice were my areas of fiercest commitment,” Rich said, and he cast a broad net to expand both. He fostered a movement of diversity at the School by hiring a full-time Director of Multicultural Affairs. Grounded in his own Quaker belief that all people are educable, Rich led the school closer and closer to understanding that a good education depends not upon the university one attends nor the degrees one earns, but upon being passionate about what one does.

Eldridge compares his 13 years of service as principal as part of a musical phrase—a melodic rhythm that started with his predecessor, Joyce McCray, and, without the miss of a beat, continues today with his successor, Robert “Bo” Lauder.

Bo began his tenure in July of 2002 after serving as Upper School Principal and Dean of Students at Sidwell Friends School in Washington, D.C. In announcing the appointment, JoAnne Dally, Clerk of the Friends Seminary Committee said, “We had hoped we could find someone who could understand the importance of the strong community that Rich Eldridge has built and who could guide our school into the future. We believe we have found that person in Robert Lauder.”

In his ninth year, Bo continues to support a beautifully diverse and compassionate community at Friends. He began by strengthening the School’s foundation in its literal sense by leading a construction and renovation initiative that has transformed approximately one-third of the School’s campus. He helped launched a Capital Campaign that ended this past June significantly over goal. Programmatically, he has overseen the creation of a comprehensive Arabic language program, a Visiting Scholars Program, and Peace Week, an annual celebration in which the entire community celebrates Peace together.

“As we mark the School’s 225th Anniversary, I am keenly aware of how privileged I am to be the principal of Friends Seminary,” Bo said. “It is an opportunity that I treasure, a responsibility that I carry with me everywhere I go. I am always considering how I can be a better steward of the School’s legacy, while always pushing it forward.” | f

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Thomas Steel, 1784Aron Sharpless, 1793John Thomson, 1793Abraham Shoemaker, 1794(school suspended, 1798-1800, 1803-1804)James Scott, 1814Ben Sawyer, 1815Lindley Murray Moore, 1816

Daniel Underhill, 1822Solomon Jenner, 1824Abraham Underhill, 1827Elwood Walters, 1828Samuel Brown, 1831Josiah Underhill, 1834Jacob Berger, 1835Josiah Underhill, 1835David Driscom, 1846James Brown, 1849

Isaac Bond, 1849David Bull, 1849Thomas Foulke, 1861Hugh Foulke, 1865Benjamin Smith, 1876John M. Childs, 1885Edward A.H. Allen, 1889Edward B. Rawson, 1898John L. Carver, 1917Henry L. Messner, 1924

S. Archibald Smith, 1938Alexander Prinz, 1943Earle L. Hunter (acting), 1965Ernest Seegers, 1966Harold Jernigan, 1975Joyce G. McCray, 1977Richard Eldridge, 1989Robert N. Lauder, 2002

friends seminary principals throughout the ages

This issue of News From Friends is dedicated to the late Joyce G. McCray, beloved principal of Friends Seminary (1978-1989), who passed away on November 1, 2010. The Spring 2011 issue of News from Friends will feature an in-depth piece about Joyce and her immeasurable service to Friends.

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1934Joan Howson Clarke (CS)

With sadness, we report the death of Pamela Hooker Thomas. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1935Richard Hanau (CS, CA)

Richard Hanau reports that “Celeste Holm, member of our class, will be awarded the 2010 Lifetime Achievement Award by the Interfaith Committee of Remembrance on Oct. 16, 2010, at the Cathedral of St. John the Divine in NYC. The remaining class members are proud of Celeste’s

accomplishments and wish her well. I spoke with her a few months ago and she sounded good.”

With sadness, we report the deaths of Eleanor Cummins DePaolo and Henry Hopkins Livingston, Jr. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1936No Class Representative.Contact the Alumni Office.

1937No Class Representative.Contact the Alumni Office.

1938No Class Representative.Contact the Alumni Office.

Class NotesCS – Class Secretary

CA – Class Agent (* denotes Annual Fund Co-Chair)

RC – Reunion Chair

A Letter to the Editor News From Friends welcomes comments, criticism and ideas from our readers. This letters section provides a forum for these ideas.

Letters should be sent to [email protected].

T he article by Timothy Foote ’44, Back in the Day , concerning Walter Hinman, and the one concerning Paul Coleman, A Lifetime of Research, both printed in the Spring 2009 issue

of News From Friends, reminded me again of the great teachers I had during nine years at Friends. In addition to those mentioned in the two articles, namely Ms. Hermine Ehlers, Mr. Walter Hinman, and Ms. Jesse Winterbottom, I recall Ms. Ecks (art), Ms. Carpenter (4th grade), Ms. Mercer (5th grade), Ms. Lee, later Mrs. Nordstrom (junior high English), Mr. Tiny Nordstrom (athletics and gym), Mr. and Mrs. Carmen (father and daughter who taught French), Ms. Irene Wilson (senior high English), and Dr. Earle Hunter (mathematics).

Walter Hinman, Earle Hunter and Irene Wilson, formed a forceful triumvirate which was a major influence on my years at Friends, my subsequent education, and my professional life. Mr. Hinman taught me topics in the three sciences—biology, chemistry and physics—as well as some

items in calculus. Miss Wilson introduced me to the meanings of words, the fundamentals of writing, and how to read with increased understanding. Today, when I see a Shakespeare play, I am reminded that every year, for three years in senior high, we studied one Shakespeare play. We also produced each year, under Ms. Winterbottom’s direction, a Gilbert and Sullivan operetta. And Dr. Hunter introduced me to the wonders of mathematics and philosophy, showing us how to represent a four-dimensional object on the blackboard.

Ms. Wilson may have been the second example I was aware of concerning the struggle of women for equal rights. Before she came to Friends, she wrote western stories for the pulp magazines

under the pseudonym Wolf Wilson, fearing that a female author of such stories would not be viable, and that the article would not be accepted by the editor. (My first example was my mother, who marched and campaigned for women’s right to vote before 1920.)

When Dr. Hunter asked Mr. Hinman to teach an elementary calculus course for three of our class, it must have been one of the very first examples of a course designed for “early admission”, or “college credit”, now almost universally o�ered in high schools. It was fantastic to be able to PROVE, rather than merely make a very plausible argument, that the way for a farmer to enclose the largest area by a rectangular fence was to make a square. Our training in geometry allowed us to show that

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using the same amount of fencing, a circular fence would give a slightly larger area.

In 10th grade biology we dissected worms, frogs, rabbits and cats. I recall the warnings, when dissecting a rabbit, to be aware of the liver and the possibility that the animal might have had tularemia. I was impressed by the order of the periodic table of the elements, the few missing entries, now filled, and the di�erence between atomic weight and atomic number. Mr. Hinman taught us respect for the various chemicals, both in the cabinet, where he was the sole intruder, and the acids and bases at our individual desk stations. My first introduction to chemical analysis were the flame tests, using a platinum wire dipped into a salt solution and then placed in the bunsen burner flame to expose the color, perhaps red, for potassium, yellow for sodium, etc. I was later to extensively use spectrographic analysis in teaching and research.

I remember more experiments in physics than in the other sciences, perhaps an early indication of my future work. We measured the coefficient of friction, my earliest memory of an actual quantitative experiment. We studied the analytical balance, and the correct procedure to be used in weighing objects, a procedure I recall today, and use whenever I weigh objects. We copied drawings of atoms, depicting the nucleus and electrons, which Mr. Hinman put on the black board, his drawings being copied from his notebook. It would be four years later, when I took a course in atomic structure at college, using a text book by White, that I realized where those diagrams came from. Apparently, Mr. Hinman was taking such a course at New York University, perhaps using White’s text, published in 1932, where he was doing graduate work.

I do not recall the physics textbook we used. Timothy Foote’s article in the News From Friends indicates that he “used a college textbook in physics, Millikin & somebody, I think it was,...”. I believe Foote is referring to Millikan (sic) and Gale, a well-known text of that era.

As Foote mentions, Mr. Hinman fought in the First World War, and would tell us about episodes. One lingers in my mind, namely, the time he found himself in no man’s land as dawn was breaking. Realizing that he might be unable to return to his unit before daylight arrived, he disemboweled a dead horse, crept inside for the day, and returned to his unit the next night.

Then, as now, the teaching of evolution was a contentious subject. When this section of biology was discussed, one of the girls in our class was taken out of school for this period, or at least was not allowed to go to biology class. She was the product of a devout Catholic family.

Timothy Foote was in the class of 1944, but I do not know when he entered Friends. It is possible that our paths crossed, if he entered by or before 1934, as I left in 1935. As for Dr. Paul Coleman, our paths did cross, once at Friends, and possibly a second time in Rochester, N.Y. Dr. Coleman entered Friends in 1931, when I was in my last year of junior high. (Junior high was three years, seventh through ninth, and senior high was the next three years.) We must have passed each other in the halls many times in those years. I spent a sabbatical 1958, and several later summers, at The Institute of Optics, University of Rochester, and Dr. Coleman may have been there during this period.

—Richard Hanau ’35July 12, 2010

1939Barbara Valentine Hertz (CA)

Marie Borroff writes that the book, The Gawain-Poet: Complete Works , translated by Marie, is scheduled for publication by W.W. Norton in 2010.

1940No Class Representative.Contact the Alumni Office.

With sadness, we report the death of Maud Eckert Wilcox. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1941Barbara Kugel Herne (CS)

J. Richard Hunter (CS)

J. Richard Hunter did not race as township supervisor in 1985 and was promptly appointed to the planning commission that year and has served on it since. Margaret Meitz Hunter ’43 and J. Richard Hunter, both retired, confined with driving inability, therefore unable to participate in many activities.

1942Margaret Dorkey McCormick (CA)

1943Eugenie Grey Laidler (CS)

1944Hope Franz Ligori (CS, CA)

1945Marion Hausner Pauck (CS)

With sadness, we report the death of David Carter. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

Sylvia Colt de Almeida writes: “My friend, Shirley Miller ’44, was to join me on a trip in France but has had a return of breast cancer and is unable to. She lives in Jerusalem. I took a wonderful trip with two sisters to Thailand, Vietnam, Laos and Cambodia last Autumn. Marion Hausner Pauck writes: “I am very

active in the United Lutheran/Episcopal Church at Stanford, teaching and in social activism; I have also been asked again to teach a course on Twentieth Century Theologians/Philosophers by the Stanford University Continuing Education.

1946Stuart Robinson (CS, RC)

Stuart Robinson writes: “During a visit to New York in early June (prior to driving to Williamstown, Mass. for a 60th college reunion), I enjoyed a delightful lunch with Harvey Zimand. Despite constant testing, Harvey’s faculties appeared not a bit duller than they were during school years. We talked about mutual friends and Harvey said that he kept in touch with Barry Benepe ’45—whom

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some of you would remember from his years at F.S. A few days later, I spent some time with Barry—back, for the first time ever, to a Class of 1950 Williams reunion. By the way, I stick to my promise to host a dinner at a local restaurant for any of us who return next June for #65; one proviso: you have to check in with the Alumni Office (or with me) by mid May.”

With sadness, we report the death of Sylvia Farny Skewes-Cox. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1947Jean Taylor Kroeber (CS)

1948Anne Codding Tonachel (CS)

1949Jean Allen McCardell (CS)

1950Henri Caldwell (CS)

Patricia Masterson Drew writes: “We have joined our daughter’s family and now live with them. It was a great idea—caring and loving.”

1951Stephen Chinlund (CS, RC)

Richard Wedeen (RC)

Stephen Chinlund writes: “I have been invited to do a presentation of my book, Prison Transformations , at the International Conference of

Correction and Prisons in Ghent, Belgium in October. On the 16th of October, there will be a staged reading of my play, “Virginia’s New Love.” And I will have a show of my watercolors in November at the home of classmate Linda Cahill. I am leading a course on “Happy Surprises After 65” at the Open Center, 22 East 30th Street. Life is good.”

Sarah Lydgate writes: “After two knee surgeries in 2007 and 2008, my reward was a 12-day visit to France, specifically Aix-en-Provence, with side trips to Marseilles and Nice. La Belle France. Glorious as always.”

1952No Class Representative.Contact the Alumni Office.

Susan Hunter Griggs writes: “In my 15th year of happy retirement, I am volunteering, attending the University of the Third Age, and traveling.”

1953Nora Palen Roberts (CS)

Jeffrey Nugent writes: “I wish I had been able to keep up with the class (especially since I left after 8th grade).

For anyone who still might remember my name, I am happy to say that

I am in my 46th year teaching economics at the University of Southern California. Retire? Not when I enjoy it so much.”

1954Constance Black Engle (CS)

Judith Owen Bates Lopez (CS)

1955Jackson Bryer (CS)

Gail Richards Tirana (CS)

Jackson Bryer writes: “Members of the Class of 1955 gathered at Gail Richards Tirana’s New York apartment on the evening of Saturday, May 15th, to celebrate our 55th Reunion. In attendance were Julie Rona Baker, Jackson Bryer, Anne Carriere, George French (whom many of us had not seen since our graduation), Arthur Goldschmidt (with wife, Louise), Tony Manheim (with significant other, Elaine), Bruce Morrell (with wife, Helene), Ellen Friendly Simon, Elizabeth Stearns, Joe Sweeney (with wife, Monica), and Diana Crafts Turner. On Sunday morning, Tony and Elaine hosted a brunch at Elaine’s apartment.” Elizabeth Stearns writes: “Recently, I had my play, Fala La , read in the playwright directors unit at the Actors’ Studio in New York. I invited one of my classmates, Gail Richards Tirana, to the reading.”

1956Peter Filene (CS)

With sadness, we report the deaths of Michael Codel and

Class Notes

Earlier this year, Edes Powell Gilbert ’49 published a memoir, Alone Together. Readers are introduced to a lively girl living through the war years and a life of academia. In this legacy for her children, the author looks at the choices made, what informed those choices, and the people who influenced her decisions. This collection of intimate stories and a narrative on women’s rights illuminates an era when the country was changing and how one girl changed with it.

EXCERPT:

Becoming seventh graders at Friends Seminary on 15th Street and Stuyvesant Square meant that my friend Clare and I were liberated from the school bus and could walk to school, or take the 14th Street cross-town bus if we wanted to spend a dime of our allowance. With our book bags dangling from our shoulders and our saddle shoes (preferably gray with dirt), knee socks

complementing our sweaters (buttoned up the back), and pleated skirts, we were unremarkable members of the large number of children growing up in New York City in the forties.

Along Together (ISBN: 9781439265468) is available for purchase on amazon.com.

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John Hanigsberg. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1957John Schwartz (CS)

David Wartels (CS)

Wendy Weil (CS)

1958Nicholas Etcheverry (CS)

Thomas Munnell (CS)

Roy Mottahedeh writes: “My greetings to the members of the Class of 1958, some of whom may be turning seventy this year as I am. I intend to go on teaching in the History Department at Harvard University for at least seven more years. This spring, I published a moderately readable article, “Faith and Practice: Muslims in Historic Cairo,” which stands in some contrast to my unreadable book on Islamic jurisprudence published in 2003.”

1959Helen Davis Chaitman (CS)

1960Elizabeth Lyons Stone (CS, CA)

Derek Van Hoorn (CS)

Catherine Munnell-Smith writes: “Our class reunion was, the School told us, the biggest turnout ever. Out of 38 located classmates, 24 came and 12 brought spouses. The reunion events began Friday noon at the school with a private lunch. As we walked toward the 16th Street entrance, we could recognize others arriving. We greeted each other with delight on the front steps and in the foyer, calling out amazed hellos as each of us came in the door. Some of us reminisced with each other so much we never got around to eating the excellent lunch we were served. Two hours later, we met our fourth grade pen pals in their homeroom. A bright, engaging group, they had been assigned to interview us as part of a history (yes, history) project. They had prepared research questions about what Friends Seminary was like when we were young, who were our most/least favorite teachers, etc. Their questions elicited emphatic responses, laughter and vivid memories of our class-mates, teachers and parents. The students seemed to enjoy it almost as much as we did. That evening we met again at a restaurant in Little Italy. Dinner was paid for anonymously by a very generous, much appreciated classmate. Wendy Weil ’57, sister of our deceased classmate, Roger, dropped by to see, as she put it, how we had all turned out. It was good to have her there. Our outstanding Director of Alumni Relations, Katherine Farrell and her staff had prepared paper copies of the 1960 yearbook (still great reading) for us, and had decorated the restaurant walls with old pictures of Mr. and Mrs. Nordstrom, Mrs. Terrell, Mr. Shank, Madame Carman and others. Our teachers’ faces gazed down at us as we milled about, sharing memories, catching up on each other’s lives, talking and talking some more. We stayed late. We had a wonderful time. Saturday, we returned to school, by now a somewhat smaller group. Most attended early morning lecture seminars. It was a curious pleasure to be sitting in classrooms with each other again. Some of us toured the old buildings. Not surprisingly, we found a greatly changed physical layout. Clearly thriving, the school is larger and situated mainly in a new, well-equipped building constructed on the site of the large playground

on 16th Street. Few classrooms exist now in the old buildings we knew. Our kindergarten room, Mr. Prinz’s office and our upper school classrooms on the second floor are occupied by the Friends Society, although there is still an office for the school psychologist in that small mezzanine where Mr. Tallman gave us IQ tests. The gymnasium, scene of dodgeball, school dances with Tiny at the piano, and heroic basketball games, looks somehow smaller. A corridor into the new building has replaced the tiny nurse’s office. Mr. Lonergan’s basement shop, where we made clay ashtrays and wooden boxes, has been joined with the girls’ locker room to house the second grade. Both old stair-wells with their metal steps and old hand railings are still painted light grey. The cafeteria room is completely the same. The painted brick walls, the arched entrance into the food service area, the metal racks over which we slid our trays, even the placement of the long lunch tables, everything seems untouched, as if in a time warp. Of course the stately, historic Meeting House remains unaltered, filled with memories of school assembly, Wednesday silent meetings, Mrs. Winterbottom at the piano, recorders, and senior girls wearing cardboard angel wings for the Christmas pageant. The semi-circle balcony above, where we had to take naps in second and third grade and where the seniors studied (and necked), seems unused. The musty library just adjacent to it has been moved into better, larger space in the new building. After the tours and lectures, we convened for lunch in the playground in front of the Meeting House steps, taking the opportunity to talk to more class-mates and the occasional person we recognized from other reunion classes. Finally, we moved in search of shade, sitting at a table that had been set up, somewhat incongruously, in the small playground area next to the Meeting House where the older boys used to have recess. At 2 p.m., a few of us still sat back there chatting, loathe to say goodbye. The entire reunion was beautifully organized. For that, we thank the School and most especially Katherine Farrell who worked so hard on our behalf. Seeing so many classmates over a period of two days was a wonderful experience. I expect many of us are still thinking about it. To those who couldn’t

come, we thought of you and missed you. To the entire class, it was wonderful to connect again. Stay in touch. Think about coming back in 2015.”

1961Barbara Hertz Burr (CS, RC)

1962Jean Seligmann (CS)

1963David Lowry (CS)

1964Barbara Carey (CS)

1965Scott Garren (CS)

1966Anne Shapero Adler (CS)

Judith Adams Anderson (RC)

Anne Shapero Adler writes: “I am leaving Brunswick School where I have been webmaster for the last seven years and returning to volunteer work. I continue on the Board of the Keewaydin Foundation which runs canoe tripping camps in Vermont and Canada, the Junior League of Greenwich, and a new college mentoring program for high school seniors from underprivileged families. Our six adult children are

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doing well in the work world, two in San Francisco involved with environmental education and climate change/carbon credits, two in web development in Burlington, VT and one owning several restaurants in northern Vermont, with one of the web developers as a silent partner. Our youngest is at Middlebury College. Rich still works a 12 hour day; retirement is not in our vocabulary!” Susie Wright Cogswell writes: “Just returned from California to be present at the birth of my second grand baby, a boy.” Geoffrey G. Scott writes: “My eldest daughter is getting married in September in Telluride, Colorado. First of three. The middle daughter may announce sometime soon, and the youngest daughter is a rising junior at Connecticut College so she’s still a tad young. Looking forward to getting them all off my payroll!!! Saw Susie Wright last September in Colorado, always fun to catch up.”

1967Pierre Lehu (CS)

1968Penny Craven (CS)

Barbara Kates-Garnick (CA)

1969Michael Beckerman (CS)

1970Belinda Broido (CS)

Nancy Alisberg writes: “I moved back to New York in 1990 and lived

in Brooklyn until 2000 when I left kicking and screaming back to Connecticut. In case you missed the New York Times on Sunday, December 14, 1997, here’s a link— http://www.nytimes.com/1997/12/14/us/for-the-infertile-a-high-tech-treadmill.html. Unfortunately, it doesn’t contain the adorable picture of our daughter, Sophie!” Anne Patterson Baier writes: “I’ve lived in NH for 23 years and have six children ranging in age from 17 to 31. I set up and ran a private medical laboratory in Virginia Beach. Then, I became a full-time mom after our third son was born. Our youngest three are triplets, so it’s been a wild, but rewarding ride. I am a member of my local school board. My husband and I enjoy renovating our 200-year-old farmhouse. We will likely always be “under construction” but it’s fun.”

1971Mindy Fischer (CS, CA, RC)

Laurence Seegers (CS)

Laura Ward (CS)

1972Jay Goldman (CA)

Emily Medine (CS)

Pamela Perkins (CS)

Pamela Perkins writes: “Our class is planning what we believe is a first-ever first grade reunion! Also, you might note that Mr. Supton caught Laura Levine and me sitting at the Class of 1992 table [at reunion]! Really, there were no seats...and I caught up with Corky Lupton’s wonderful sisters, Dawn and Misty.

1973Barbara Michelson (CS)

Lisa Ernest Mierop (CS)

1974Kenneth Grossman (CS)

Ivy Baer Sherman (CS)

1975Francesca Bruno (CS)

Cella Irvine (CS)

Class Notes

Ivy Baer Sherman ’74 released the second issue of her highly-acclaimed magazine, Vintage. The twice-yearly magazine was created in “l’esprit de Flair” the Fleur Cowles legendary magazine that was published from Feb. 1950 to Jan. 1951 and was considered by many to be the showcase of what print should and can do: innovate, engage and experience. Every page of Vintage magazine is an experience. The ink, the type, the pictures, the illustrations, the paper, the inserts and the binding all combine to take the reader through a breathless journey that cannot be any more captivating, intriguing and of course engaging. The magazine is listed as one of the top 21 launches of the year by Media Industry Newsletter and Library Journal . To learn more, visit www.vintagezine.com.

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Jennifer Wriggins writes: “I recently published a book, The Measure of Injury: Race, Gender, and Tort Law , co-authored with Martha Chamallas (NYU Press 2010). I am a professor at the University of Maine School of Law and live in Portland, Maine. When not teaching and writing, I enjoy hanging around with my eight-year-old twin daughters. I was very sorry to miss the recent reunion.”

1976Suzanne Telsey Bennett (CS, RC)

William Webb (CS, RC)

1977Suzanne Gluck (CS)

Ruth Pomerance (CS)

Ruth Pomerance writes: “After the news went out about Lissa’s untimely death, I received a lovely email from long, lost alum, Winslow McCagg. It has been at least 33 years since I saw Winslow, so it was a wonderful surprise to hear from him. His brother, Brin McCagg ’80, sends his daughter to Friends, so Winslow got back in the loop of communications from the School. Winslow wanted to share his sadness about Lissa and asked that I put him in touch with Julie Prem. Julie, I hope you got the message I left on your Facebook page! Winslow lives in Virginia and is an artist. Here’s hoping that we will be able to coax him back for one of our reunions or at least for informal get together when Winslow visits New York. To all Class of 1977 alumni, please send more updates for the Friends magazine so we can keep up with all your news.”

1978Antonia Torres-Ramos (CS)

Elizabeth Steckman Bartlett reports that she has been living in the San Francisco area since 1981. She is a real estate consultant and investor, and serves on several non-profit boards (including a nationally ranked charter high school and a large scale provider of affordable housing). She and her husband, Paul Bartlett, have three kids who keep them very busy and entertained. Dana Wheeler-Nicholson writes: “After working the last 27 years in film and television, I have been living for the past five years in Austin, Texas filming NBC’s Friday Night Lights . Also been co-teaching/mentoring actors at University of Texas at Austin’s Film Institute. Also sing regularly at the Continental Club which is an Austin institution.

1979Darcy Flanders (CS)

Victoria Wightman Pierce (CS)

Annette Ghee writes: “I am amazed that I have have been so very out of the loop. Perhaps I shouldn’t have been, but then again, no “pings” from you guys until Facebook changed everything... smile. I’ve been living in Seattle more-or-less since 1983 when I graduated from Harvard. I moved out here with my then-to-be-husband and now spouse of 25 years. After getting an MPH from UCLA and a PhD in epidemiology from the Univ. of WA (we say UW), and following a long series of experiences working in global health, I am now working for a large faith-based organization called World Vision and trying to answer the question whether their programs are having an impact on health. Not a question to answer in a definitive fashion...yet, I will tell you. I still attend meeting when I’m not traveling...University Friends in

Ije Ekweani ’75, her daughter, another relative, Adam Owett ’75 and Katie Weil ’75 pose for a photo at a reunion party held at Adam Owett’s Manhattan residence.

Sara Johns Griffen ’75 and Susan Kane ’75 at a reunion party held at classmate Adam Owett’s Manhattan residence.

Class Notes

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the shadow of the University of Washington. My husband, Burt, and I are three days away from participating in our only daughter’s graduation from Seattle Preparatory School (a Jesuit high school in Seattle). Lea will be attending Yale in the fall and, oddly enough, has already learned that at least one of her classmates is a Friends Seminary NYC graduate. I am totally open to being contacted by Quakers visiting from afar...please email me using [email protected].

With sadness, we report the death of Pamela Fox Dannenberg. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1980Karen Gross Fittinghoff (CS)

Michael Golden (CS)

Sarah Edmunds Goodwin (CS)

Jokingly, Kenneth Fagan wrote to Steven Lowen. Kenneth writes: “After graduating from Clark in one semester, I took a double Masters (six months) at Harvard, followed by a PhD (one year) at Oxford (as a triple Fulbright Scholar). Last year, I took my clean-tech company public and gave away 90% of the IPO’s proceeds to charities. I spend 90% of my time in Third World villages identified as needy by Nelson Mandela, bringing vaccines, drugs, food and water to the locals. Bono joins me on most trips.”

1981Vanessa Cox Nishikubo (CS)

Victoria Masi Pryor (RC)

Holly Sklar writes: “Dear Friends’ Friends: Find me on facebook, or

[email protected] and at www.latebloomingmom.com. This spring I took my five year-old twins, Jacob and Samantha, to visit the Alice in Wonderland Statues in Central Park. Most of the year we’re found in Los Angeles, where I continue to work as a story analyst at Warner Bros. Pictures, and husband Michael Berman produces and manages websites (www.theberminator.com).”

1982Elizabeth Baer (CS)

Sarah Halley Finn (CS)

Jin Lee (CA)

Marc Rachman (CA)

1983Martha Ehrenfeld (CS)

Keith Smith (CS)

Compiled by Martha Ehrenfeld: Jim Infantino writes: “I am heading off for a ten-day meditation retreat in August. Not sure it’ll keep me cool though. Wondering if all those silent meetings inspired any other classmates to start their own meditation practice in adulthood. If so, how does it relate/compare if at all to silent meeting?” Susan Bronzaft Santoro is almost too relaxed to write: “I took most of the summer off to just hang at the beach—my daughter is in sleep away and my son is in day camp, so I am able to fully relax. Just returned from Aruba, where I celebrated my 17-year-anniversary. Life is good!” Callum Benepe out on the ocean: “Caught this 40”+ striped bass on the ocean side of Cape Cod,

released back into the deep unharmed... Oh, and a baby named Grace...first birthday next month—her Mom and I decided she was a keeper :-)” Susan Carmody writes from the playground: “I spent the summer learning not to buy nice clothes when your primary job is to take a one-year-old to the playground twice a day and spoon feed him three times. So it’s back to our old Quaker values about not caring what you wear for me (at least until my son can go down a wet slide by himself).” Charles Bender is busy arranging his son’s Samuel fifth birthday party—paint your own pottery with classmates and friends just in case you were wondering. Chris Noble files this piece: “Um, let’s see. I got home Wednesday and the thermostat in the house said 62 degrees. So I turned on the heat for an hour or so. Then, yesterday, I had a call from my son Sam, who is 13 and at a soccer camp in the Sunset neighborhood of San Francisco this week. He told me that since Monday, he has had exactly 30 minutes of sun and is playing the whole day in warm-up pants and heavy sweatshirt. Once,

when I was about 15, I flew from Abidjan to Geneva in January. When I got on the plane in Ivory coast, I remember my shirt was soaked with sweat and the temperature was well into the 90s. When I got off in Geneva, it was in the teens or low 20s and my friends arrived to pick me up with a spare ski cap. On Saturday, I am heading to New York City and I am already anticipating a similar thermal disconnect.” More news of traveling from Toby Shaw: “I am in Thailand; it is not summer here but rather the rainy monsoon season, which is a bit cooler than average. Due to the troubled political climate here, it is relatively quiet, which is great for us expats, if not for business. Currently in Chiang Mai studying Thai, Mandarin and Middle Egyptian. Headed off for a visit to Laos soon for a new visa and a bit of tourism; I will return here, possibly visiting Ko Chang on the way back; then I will probably be in Siem Reap Cambodia for a couple of weeks in September.” Susan Lowen Maniatis is headed back home to Maryland from Greece where she spends part of the summer with her husband’s family. “We spent all but

Christina Moustakis, Faculty Emerita, writes: “Margaret ‘Marge’ Gonzalez, long-time language teacher at Friends who retired seven or so years ago, moved to Florida. She teaches French, piano, and Sunday School, cares for her adopted daughter (who was briefly at Friends) and her daughter’s son, and she runs an outreach program for her church. Well...lo and behold, Marge, who had never married, met a wonderful man in her community and they wed! She and her husband, Donald Routh, came to NYC this summer, and Annette Kahn, recently retired from FS and another long-time faculty mem-ber, hosted a party for her.

Class Notes

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two days on the island of Ithaka in the Ionian which is truly spectacular.” “As for me (Martha), I am off to Germany to play tennis in the Gay Games with my new wife. Hoping the Cologne weather will be cooler than Chicago four years ago at the last games. In June, we flew to Cambridge, MA to get hitched. We figured we might as well make it “to death do us part” since we have so many matching tennis outfits. Hoping you are all staying cool this summer. Hopefully, you had time to get to a beach or pond, watch a long film in a freezing movie theater or live in a spot in the world where AC is not needed!”

1984Suzanne Gottlieb Calleja (CS)

Alexandra Levinsohn (CS, CA)

Rebecca Moore (CS)

Rebecca Moore writes: “I have been keeping a blog about my London to Huntsville odyssey (http://wertis.wordpress.com).” Juliet Mallory Rosenbaum writes: “I am finishing up my second year as an elementary school Spanish teacher and loving every minute of it! North Carolina continues to treat me, my husband Per and our three daughters Ava (12), Maia (9) and Eden (7) very well. I promise not to miss the next reunion as I missed seeing all of you last time!” Philip Ross writes: “Currently I am in Mexico, doing a bit of research into traditional edible insect farming and cooking techniques. This is part of an ongoing salon I direct and produce in San Francisco called, aptly enough, CRITTER, which promotes education in biological and ecological sciences through hands-on cultural events (crittersalon.blogspot.com). While edible insects might sound disgusting, some of the varieties actually taste like crispy bacon! The next CRITTER event will be hosted at the Hammer Museum in L.A. this November, called Enormous Microscopic

Evening, which will bring together an amazing group of professionals, amateurs and others who will demonstrate and perform the craft of their instruments. Otherwise, I am continuing work on the development of a LEED transplutonic building material, lecture as a professor in the Department of Art and Architecture at the University of San Francisco, and find myself busy with various other creative ventures.”

1985Linda Baer (CS)

Anne Kner (CS)

1986Schuyler Allen-Kalb (CS, RC)

Rachel Shapiro Axinn (CA, RC)

Matthew Breitman (RC)

Nathaniel Caldwell (CS, RC)

Andrea Crane (RC)

Lida Moore Musso (CA, RC)

Nancy Burkhardt Pelton (RC)

Larissa Thomson (RC)

Everett Ware (RC)

Andrea Crane writes: “I am happy to report that I just gave birth to my second child, Juliet Valentina.”

1987Ellen Deutsch Diamond (CS)

Robin Weiswasser Markus (CS)

Leslie Werthamer Rottenberg (CS)

1988Cory Diamond (CA)

Alexander Kriney (CS)

Wyeth McAdam (CS)

Jennifer Padgett Orser (CA)

1989Bess Abrahams (CS)

Jordan Barowitz (CA)

Weston Konishi (CA)

Members of the Class of 1985 in Stuyvesant Square during Reunion 2010.

Class Notes

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Amy Leshanski (CA)

Joshua Wachs (CA)

Indira Wiegand (CS)

1990Lateef Bost (CA)

Nicole Davis (CS)

Daphne Dufresne (CA)

Jennifer Frangos (CS)

Todd Solomon (CA)

Nicole Davis writes: “Hello Class of 1990. Well, it seems that somehow we all survived our 20th high school reunion! Not quite sure how that

happened exactly, but I do know it was wonderful to see so many folks, especially those who made it to reunion for the first time. The Saturday afternoon school-based activities were a lot of fun. Many folks came, some with partners and children in tow. Those who were there included Justine Bellows Sears (first time reunion attendee!), Amie Steir, Elizabeth Wolff, Nico Marcellino, Meredith Evans Raiford, Todd Solomon, Susie Matthews, Belkis Talarico, Tico Taussig-Rubbo, Fabian Ruiz and (albeit REALLY late) Lateef Bost. Apologies to anyone I might have forgotten. Many of us stayed to attend silent meeting, likely for the first time in 20 years. It was quite moving to be in the Meeting House again and to hear so many other alums share what an amazing connection they still have to the space. And then we got a tour of the School! I won’t go so far as to say it’s totally unrecognizable, but let’s just say Friends has definitely come a looong way in 20 years. I felt bad for the poor student who had to listen to us walk down memory lane on each and every floor. Special congrats to Ariella Ben-Dov and her girlfriend Rebecca on the birth of their lovely daughter, Barzel Noa Fantini Ben-Dov. Barzel was born at their home on March 11 and made her Friends debut at the reunion! I see a member of the class of 2028 in our midst. And Elizabeth Wolff was kind enough to write in: “Nick, Hugo and I are enjoying our new place in Brooklyn and trying to stay cool in the hottest July on record! Hugo is growing up and seems to have a new trick every day. His latest is running around the house

yelling, “Fast! Fast!,” which makes us laugh heartily. We recently got back from a trip to LA where we had a chance to catch up with Amie, Matt, Oak and Zella. They hosted a great brunch in their lovely home in Venice Beach. I had a fabulous time at our reunion seeing everyone and look forward to the next!!!” And then it was off to the class party! Unfortunately we lost Meredith along the way. She had to go back to DC to attend the GW University graduation the next morning where Michelle Obama was the keynote speaker. None of us could blame her, but of course we were still disappointed. I managed to sneak in some quality time with her too-adorable baby boy, and her husband Matthew is a sweetheart. I was thrilled to have more first-time reunion attendees at the class party that night, including Adam Kreisel (up from DC), Edie Faggen and Amanda Peet. Edie lives quite the jet-setting life, traveling between NYC, New Orleans where she owns a house and a men’s clothing store, and Las Vegas where she also has a home and a new business. I don’t know how she keeps track of it all! Amanda gets special props for coming to reunion barely a month after the birth of baby girl #2, Molly. She was quite the trooper. I’ll try to remember everyone who came to the class party, but since we were super lame and didn’t actually take a class photo (woops!) it’s hard. But, in addition to everyone from the lunch, attendees included: Sarah Lippin, Karen Jordan, David Hunt, Maisha Yearwood, Irv Santana (whose wife gets kudos for listening to MANY stories which must have bored her near to tears), Steven Bass, Mike Rosaly (shout out to Lateef for getting Mike to come at the last minute!), and Sam Schonzeit who made in from Texas despite a crazy flight delay. Nina Pozzi unfortunately couldn’t make it to reunion since she lives in MEXICO (lucky girl) but is visiting NYC this summer and I hope to catch up with her in person. Nina writes, “I’m still living in Oaxaca, Mexico. My newest (pipe) dream is to open a new progressive elementary school there with an emphasis on the arts, environment and social justice. I love having visitors, so class of ’90 please come on down. My kids, Inoa and Caio, are 9 and 5 respectively. They are both bilingual and have adapted pretty well, but both say they’d rather live in New

York...because there’s so much to buy.” Jennie Mangin Vang will also be coming to NYC this summer from Sweden where she’s a doctor and mom to I don’t even know how many kids (and one more on the way!). Fabian and his wife are also getting ready to welcome another child, a girl who’s due in early September. Congrats to all. There it is for now. A special thanks to Nico and Belkis for all their help planning reunion, and a thanks to everyone who attended, especially those of you who came from so far. The 25th is coming up and I expect even better attendance, so get ready!

1991Joy Rivera (RC)

Nicholas Testa (CS)

Diana Sherman Whittles (CS, CA)

1992Alexandra Zissu (CS)

With sadness, we report the death of Brian Mullan. Please visit the Tribute section to read more.

1993Sandra Jelin Plouffe (CS)

Helen Rhim (CS)

1994Jodyann Blagrove (CS)

Class Notes

Meredith Evans Raiford ’90, Ann Sullivan, Nicole Davis ’90, Ed Randolph and Evan Raiford

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Stephanie Davis Hazelkorn (CS)

Quentin Rowan ‘co-owns a bookstore in Williamsburg, www.spoonbillbooks.com.

1995Benjamin Ensminger-Law (CS)

Sarah Greenbaum (CS)

Bonnie Bucknell Morris (CS)

1996Sarah Cox (CS)

Natalie Nymark (CS)

1997Brian Davis (CS)

Dana Hatfield and her daughter, Abigail, visited Friends last spring from their home in Pennsylvania where Dana is a veterinarian. (She just expanded her practice to include animal accupuncture.) Dana toured the school and introduced her daughter to her former teachers including Judy Anderson ’66, Sue Steckel

Beyersdorf, Larry Carter, Linda Chu, Chris Conta, Jack Phelan, Charlie Blank, Sarah Chinlund Spieldenner ’77, Daphne Taylor, Bob Rosen, Jennifer Hayes and Karen Jernigan.

1998Sam Hofstetter (CS)

Lee Rothchild (CS, CA)

Melanie Sackheim (CA)

1999Adam Honig (CS)

Andrew Laird (CS)

Adam Honig married Monika Halarewicz on May 23, 2010 at Battery Gardens Restaurant with the ceremony taking place in Battery Park alongside the Hudson River. A dream team of Friends

alums including Aaron Kramer, Andrew Laird, Jake Wolper-Gosler, Rebecca Sadek ’00 and Ariella Willoughby-Naiditch ’00 attended the festivities and danced the night away.”

2000Lisa Hofstetter Frank (CS)

David Gilbert (CS)

Jenny Rothchild Rittberg ’00 was married to David Rittberg on June 27 in Brooklyn. From left: Josh Schnakenberg ’00, Lee Rothchild ’98, David Rittberg, Jenny Rothchild Rittberg ’00, Lea Giddins ’07, Katrina Paleski ’00, Donna Rothchild (former Director of Development at Friends), Lisa Hofstetter Frank ’00. Bottom row: Tom O’Connor (technology staff member at Friends).

Adam Honig ’00 and Monika Halarewicz on their wedding day.

Class Notes

This photo caption should read: Dana Hatfield, ’97 and her daughter, Abigail, visit with Judy Anderson ’66 during Reunion 2010.

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Fred Isquith (CS)

Russell Labiner (CS)

2001Ashley Herriman (CS)

Joanna Shapiro (CS, RC)

Tolliver Lindh Hart graduated from Brooklyn Law and passed the NY State Bar. He is now working in law enforcement.

2002Richard Barbieri (CS, CA)

Joanna Hunter (CS)

Nicolaas van der Meer (CS)

Compiled by Joanna Hunter: Adam Karger is staying very busy and writes that, “I just left an asset management firm/hedge fund consultant and will be attending Babson College in the fall for a two-year MBA program where I am receiving the Olin Scholarship. In the meantime I have started a dog treat company called Bagel Bones which is set to launch at the end of the summer and have partnered in a venture called Swagger New York, which is a fashion trend-following website.” Good luck with everything, Adam! Amy Beecher received her MFA in Painting from the Yale School of Art this past Spring. Congrats Amy! Ming Alterman has been living in China for the past three and half years. He is currently in the great city of Shanghai, working for the USA Pavilion at Expo 2010, running their digital marketing

campaign. He encourages all Friends alum to look him up if they are in China. Having graduated from the Oberlin Conservatory, Dave Burgreen is entering his fourth year teaching music at a charter school in the Bronx. He also gives private guitar lessons in his spare time. Dave has experience teaching all ages, styles and levels of ability and can be reached at [email protected] if you or anyone you know is interested in guitar lessons. As for me, I am entering my fifth season at the NFL in the communications department. I am excited to get back to football and will be heading to New Orleans for the Kickoff game when the Super Bowl champion Saints host the Minnesota Vikings. Everyone should tune in—Thursday, 9/9–8:30 pm ET on NBC. Richard Barbieri writes: “I’m working as a Cybercrime Analyst at the new Cybercrime and Identity Theft Bureau, still at the New York County District Attorney. Very much enjoying the work, it’s a lot different than what I was doing previously, but every bit as interesting, maybe more. And I’m the man to call if you discover those unexpected charges on your credit card!” Sydney Blumstein writes: “I have been working in Real Estate for about 2.5 years now. In 2009, I found a new niche in the rental market. Social networking sites allowed me access to people our age looking for great, affordable apartments in the neighborhoods they really wanted to live in. As a result, the rental arm of my parent’s well-established sales business was created! The Blumstein Team at Corcoran expanded from five agents to nine, and we welcomed two new Friends Seminary graduates. Adam Miller ’04 joined our rental squad in September 2009, and together we completely revamped and expanded our rental team. Earlier this year, my brother, Cole Blumstein ’05, also took the nepotism route and joined our sales squad. Our team of nine is now a full service business, able to service clients of every kind from rentals to sales in every price range and neighborhood. We welcome the opportunity to help other Friends Seminary grads find a home in NYC (or anywhere in the US with our large referral network) and are always happy to answer any questions regarding real estate or NYC in general. You can find us at www.corcoran.com or contact me at [email protected]

2003Hallie Davison (CS)

Eric Obenzinger (CA)

Daniel Willner (CS)

2004Jennifer Conrad (CS)

Jesse Mark (CA)

Legacy Russell (CS)

James Sumers (CS, CA)

2005Cole Blumstein (CS)

Phillip Brest (CS)

Nusrat Chowdhury (CS)

Sam Rabinowitz (CS)

2006Aaron Bloch (CS)

Zuzanna Drozdz (CS)

Cory López (CS, RC)

Class Notes

Jacob Segal ’04, David Tucker ’04, Rachel Hiles ’04, Jack Phelan and Deanna Yurchuk had a mini Ex-Ed reunion when they met up at the Annsville Creek Paddlesport Center by chance this summer.

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Cameron McCully (CS, RC)

Dylan Marron recently won the Director’s Award at the 2010 Capital Fringe Festival for his play, Ridgefield Middle School Talent Nite . He co-wrote the play (a two-person rendition of a seventeen-character middle school talent show) at Wesleyan University where he performed it with his writing partner Jo Firestone. Since first debuting the play at Wesleyan in the spring of 2009, Dylan & Jo have brought the production to theaters in New York City and St. Louis, along with the five colleges and universities that were part of their tour to benefit financial aid in the fall of 2009. In August, Talent Nite will close the Berkshire Fringe Festival in Great Barrington, MA and have two performances in New York City at the People’s Improv Theater. For more information, please visit talentnite.blogspot.com.

2007Rachel Colberg-Parseghian (CS, CA)

Taylor Owens (CS)

Jacqueline Seegers (CS)

2008Hayden Hatch (CA)

Jackson Sinder (CS)

Alexander Winter (CS)

Hayden Hatch writes: “This past summer, I worked with a class of alkyl-glycosides known as green surfactants. Green surfactants are ecologically friendly compounds that are biodegradable, non-toxic, and can be obtained from renewable resources. Surfactants are used in detergents and cosmetics and play important roles in drug delivery, biological modeling, and oil recovery. Surfactants are even used in chocolate to prevent fat and sugar from rising to the top, producing a grayish coating (blooming)! When combined with water, green surfactants can assume a variety of diverse lyotropic liquid crystal phases. Using polarized optical microscopy and fluorescence spectroscopy, phase diagrams for these green surfactants in water can be constructed, illustrating the phase or phases present at specific temperatures and compositions. Although other surfactants exist and are present in a wide range of consumer products, they may be harmful to the environment. By understanding how these bio-degradable and non-toxic green surfactants behave under different compositions and temperatures, it is then possible to incorporate them into similar consumer products, hopefully replacing their harmful counterparts.”

2009Claire Brennan (CS)

Lauren Chin (CS)

Allison Hartel (CS)

Joel Hochman (CA)

Cristian Lopez-Balboa (CA)

Compiled by Lauren Chin: Travis Bogosian’s film, Insourced , won Brown’s First Pick Housing Competition. He also worked on the New York City 48-Hour Competition which got the group Audience Choice, and is now interning for director Ira Sachs. Cristian Lopez-Balboa is in Sao Paulo, Brazil doing an internship in commodities trading. Miles Arntzen writes: “In July, I am touring with afrobeat dance group Antibalas (from the hit musical Fela! ) around the West Coast and New York. I am also working on my band EMEFE’s debut CD, due out by the end of summer. As for August, I’m spending all my time at the beach.” Emma Weinstein writes: “I’m horse showing in VT, interning at the Park Avenue Armory, went gorilla/chimp treking in Rwanda, visiting family in Memphis, and going to Las Vegas to watch the new NBA rookies.” Lauren Chin is interning at the Museum of American Finance, managing the Summer Friends Camp store, and then vacationing in Bermuda. Erica Silverstein is researching at Columbia University and taking Organic Chemistry classes at Brown. Uwinga Cunningham writes: “I did an internship at Essence magazine and now I’m a freelance producer, writer and editor for them. I’m also a host for a youth radio show that I created on 90.3fm which will be aired at the beginning of the month.” Henry Lachman was pushing paper for the census and is now attempting to write a screenplay. Dillon Torchia is interning with the external risk reporting team at J.P. Morgan Chase. Samantha

Tharler is interning at Globalwise Development, an independent design company, and working at Ann Taylor. Zach Sosa worked in Los Angeles for the American Idol finale and is interning in the International Legal Program at the Center for Reproductive Rights. D’Meca Homer writes: “I attended the Annual Summer National Championships for fencing in July and my team won gold in the senior event! I also have been interning all summer at a store on the Upper East Side called Edit New York. I do marketing in their office.” Nora Kostow is working at a genetics lab at NYU. Nicholas Kokkinis has been ardently working with Red Bucket Films, 50 Eggs Productions, John Currin, and Micah Belamarich. Sam Nebel is making big moves. Jordan Feinstein has been working at KPF, an architecture firm. Allison Hartel has been interning at White Collar , the USA Network TV series.

2010Nathaniel Chumley (CA)

Kate Fisch (CA)

Ellen Mayer (CS)

Alexander Shepherd (CS)

Compiled by Ellen Mayer and Xander Shepherd: Early in the summer, Kim Clancy took a trip with her family to Australia and New Zealand, where she especially enjoyed learning about the Maori culture. Ross Berger, Phillip Schmiege, Daniel Levinson, and Sam Kase traveled together to Barcelona where they took in the Gaudi architecture and the soccer stadium, Camp Nou. They also took a cooking class, during which they prepared a four-course-meal, and

Class Notes

D’Meca Homer ’09 fencing at Columbia

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later celebrated the festival of Saint Joan. nick evert has been working at Camp Yomi where he is the baseball counselor and works with a group of fourth graders. Katie fisch decided to try something new this summer and took an oil painting class at the Art Students League. luke Smith-Stevens has worked this summer at a restaurant at Chelsea Market called 202. Spencer Petterson has spent the summer working at Soul Cycle in Bridgehampton, NY. Harry cammer’s favorite part of his Euro-trip with Graham nolen, charlotte eisenberg, and claire Abrahamson was watching world cup matches at the Berlin fan mile, and then the finals in Museum Platz in Amsterdam. Hadley maya spent five weeks this summer in Japan touring with her chorus group, the young people’s chorus of NYC. nick Rouner spent two weeks with Brian Koenigsberg this summer in

London, Paris, Amsterdam, and Stockholm. Zoe Ruffner watched the World Cup finals in Amsterdam. leo Singer spent the summer hanging at the beach and keeping up with the cello. He also got his permit and hopes to get his driver’s license soon. molly Ratner was in israel-Palestine working for an alternative information organization where she interned and reported on many important issues for them. Xander Shepherd is working the front desk at a brand new five star hotel in NYC called The Chatwal this summer.

TributePamela Hooker Sands thomas ’34 died on Friday, Feb. 26, 2010, after a short and courageous battle with esophageal cancer. She was “younger than springtime.” Her bright eyes, sense of humor, generosity, and intellect were evident throughout her life. Pamela was the daughter of Brian and Doris Hooker with whom she enjoyed many adventures in old Lyme, Farmington and New York City. As a young child, she lived in Gramercy Park in New York City and attended the Friends Seminary. She graduated from Rosemary Hall at the age of 16 and went on to the University of Michigan and Columbia University. in the early 1930s, she lived in Hollywood with her father, a poet and playwright. She enjoyed spending time with him on the Paramount Studio lot and at the

Bel Air Country Club. She liked to tell the story of the day she watched Howard Hughes and Katherine Hepburn landing their plane on the golf course, to the horror of the Club members. She worked at Pratt Reed in ivoryton during World War ii. After raising her family, she went back to work at Norwich State Hospital. She retired as a Medical Records Librarian at the age of 76. She had many fond memories of her co-workers whom she considered her closest friends. After retiring, she volunteered at the Lyme Consolidated School Library where her expertise was greatly appreciated. She married Philip Sands in 1940, with whom she had two children. He predeceased her in 1954. Throughout their 25 years together, they enjoyed driving New England’s country roads, exploring antique stores and shopping. Paul would rant and rave while Pam quietly read a book, they were

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The Class of 2010 watch the sunset outside Powell House in old Chatham, NY on June 2, 2010. Photo by Deanna Yurchuk

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Class Notesquite compatible. She enjoyed the spontaneity of their life together. (Excerpt from obituary published in The Day on March 2, 2010)

Richard Hanau reports the death of classmate Henry Hopkins livingston, jr. ’35 who passed away on Nov. 25, 2008. “Henry leaves a wife, Maria, four children, and eleven grandchildren. on behalf of the remaining class members, i want to extend our sympathy and condolences to his family. Henry left the class in 1933, two years before our graduation. After some home tutoring, he attended Hotchkiss, a boarding school in Lakeville, CT, before going to Yale. He turned a lifetime hobby into a successful career. He was always fascinated by transportation, collecting time tables, schedules, and other memorabilia concerning trains and busses. He worked in the New York financial area as a banker and transportation analyst. He and Maria were married in early 1942, shortly after the Pearl Harbor attack. on retiring, they moved from New York City to Hudson, NY where Maria continues to reside.”

An obituary written for maud eckert wilcox ’40 by Bryan Marquard of the Boston Globe on September 6, 2009— Two copies of “Sor Juana,’’ octavio Paz’s meditation on the enigmatic Mexican nun who wrote poems and plays in the 17th century, arrived by mail at his Mexico City home one summer day in 1988. His thoughts immediately were of Maud Wilcox, his editor a continent away at Harvard University Press. “The volume is beautiful,’’ wrote Paz, who two years later became Mexico’s only Nobel Prize recipient for literature. “However, the best thing is the way in which the book has been ‘edited.’ This last i owe to you. in thanking you, i am sure that Sor Juana, there in her celestial convent, is smiling with a nod of approval. She too, if she could speak, would give you thanks.’’ With a presence that combined warmth and determination in a way that inspired emulation, Mrs. Wilcox spent 32 years at Harvard’s publishing house, more than 16 as editor in chief. Mrs. Wilcox, who along with Paz edited writers such as Nobel laureate Czeslaw Milosz, critic Lionel Trilling, and literary scholar Edward Said, died of pneumonia June 25 in the Cambridge house she and her

husband bought 61 years ago. She was 86. “She had an extraordinary attentiveness to words and language,’’ said Maria Ascher, a senior editor at the press who began working with Mrs. Wilcox in 1979 and learned much from the letters she sent to her authors. “in those days, we had a circulating file of everybody’s letters. Her letters were models of tact and diplomacy. in fact, i still have some of them in my files. i would copy them for my own use to imitate her tone and her recommendations.’’ With a deft touch, Mrs. Wilcox “had a gift for leading people, rather than pushing people,’’ Ascher said. “She was just very gentle in a compelling way.’’ The authors she edited agreed, as Ernest Samuels, a Pulitzer Prize winner for biography, noted in a letter when he heard Mrs. Wilcox was retiring. “She has been a wonderful guide, philosopher, and friend to me,’’ he wrote on July 7, 1989, “and i shall miss her wise and mild direction.’’ Announcing that year that Mrs. Wilcox was stepping down, Arthur J. Rosenthal, director of the publishing house, said “an era has passed at Harvard University Press. We will miss her guidance and wisdom.’’ “Maud Wilcox is a born editor,’’ Max Hall wrote in 1989 in a history of the publishing house, “and we like to imagine that she was born to work at Harvard University Press for 32 years, with her soft voice and diamond-brilliant mind, helping to make the institution useful to world scholarship.’’ Born in New York City on Valentine’s Day, Maud Eckert was the daughter of two Swedish immigrants and was 4 when her family moved to the Gramercy Park section of Manhattan. She went to Friends Seminary, a private school a few blocks away, where she met Edward T. Wilcox, a fellow student and the son of her English teacher. Just before graduating from Smith College in 1944, she traveled to California to marry Ted Wilcox as he prepared to go to Europe with the Army Air Corps. Shot down during a bombing raid, he was in an internment camp in Switzerland until World War ii ended. Mrs. Wilcox, meanwhile, graduated from Harvard in 1945 with a master’s in English and lived in Cambridge, where she met Justin Kaplan, who later would become a prize-winning biographer. “She was absolutely radiant and friendly and quite beautiful,’’ Kaplan said of his visits to her Cambridge

apartment, where a mural of “The Canterbury Tales’’ filled a living room wall. Her son, who is director of University of Massachusetts Press, said he “couldn’t have asked for a better role model both personally and professionally.’’ “She was always supportive of me and my siblings, always available with a kind word or some thoughtful advice at key moments in our life, but never intrusive or harsh,’’ he said. “She had a generosity of spirit. For some-one so accomplished, she was also exceptionally kind and gentle and had that combination of brilliance and humility.’’ Those traits did not go unnoticed at work, where Ascher recalled that Mrs. Wilcox “was just the most warm and welcoming person. Soft spoken, but you could tell she had steel underneath. She was genteel in an old Harvard kind of way.’’

David leland carter ’45 died peacefully, with his family in attendance, on April 30, 2010, after suffering a severe stroke. He was 82. David left Friends Seminary after sixth grade to attend Exeter, graduating in 1945. After Exeter, David served in the US Army as a medic, stationed in Germany. He was a member of the Class of ’49 at Princeton University. David came to the Hopewell, NJ area in 1959. He spent nearly his entire business career in municipal bonds, working for a variety of firms in New York City, and retiring as a Senior Vice-President for the Government Development Bank for Puerto Rico in its New York office. For ten years after retirement, he and his wife, Hope, ran a small company renovating old houses. Retiring from that career as an accomplished carpenter, he then went into local government, serving East Amwell Township in Hunterdon County for nine years, first on the Planning Board and then as an elected member of the Township Council. David was particularly supportive of the preservation of land in the Sourland Mountains, placing over sixty acres of his own land into preservation. He was an enthusiastic sportsman and enjoyed tennis, canoeing, and sailing. He and Hope also enjoyed traveling, and their love of walking and sailing took them to many exotic climes throughout the world. They had recently returned from a sailing charter in the Sea of Cortez. He recalled his years at Friends Seminary with great

fondness and affection. David is survived by his wife, Hope Hemphill, whom he married in 1955, two daughters, Ann Carter Lyons and Alantha C. Carter, his son, Stephen W. Carter, and two grandchildren, David and Lane Mehltretter.

Sylvia farny Skewes-cox ’46 of Sun City West, Arizona, passed away on July 24, 2010. She was 81. Contributions may be given to the Arizona Humane Society, 1521 W. Dobbins Road Phoenix, Arizona 85041.

michael R. codel ’56 died Jan. 13 at his home in Arlington. He had lung cancer and Alzheimer’s disease. Michael was born in Baltimore and raised in New York. He was a 1960 political science graduate of oberlin College in ohio. He served in the Peace Corps in Nigeria in the early 1960s and then was a reporter for the Associated Press in Africa and England. From 1969 to 1973, he worked as an editor in Geneva for the publishing and advisory firm Business international. He settled in the Washington area in the mid-1970s and was a volunteer with the Arlington County Democratic Committee. Michael did public relations work from 1975 to 1985 for the American Health Care Association, an organization that represents state health organizations. He left the health-care association after being diagnosed with a brain tumor and became a freelance writer. Survivors include his wife of 42 years, Birte Nielsen Codel of Arlington; two children, Edward Codel of San Francisco and Kirsten Trego of Wading River, N.Y.; and a granddaughter.

john R. Hanigsberg, m.D. ’56, passed away in Tempe, AZ on April 13, 2005. Beloved son of Murray and Phyllis Hanigsberg; husband of Barbara; father of Shari Bonin (Ralph), Michele Hanigsberg (Brad) Lindahl; grandfather of Emily and Ethan; brother of Sara Sachs; uncle and cousin. Skilled physician and loyal friend.

Lois Perelson-Gross ‘79 writes,” it is with a broken heart and a huge void that will never be filled, that i write to share the tragic news that Pamela (Pam) fox Dannenberg ‘79 lost her exceptionally brave and dignified battle with Leukemia in February 2010. Pam is best described as an angel on earth. She had a generosity

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of spirit and a loving, compassionate and wise nature that was entirely unique and a gift to all who were lucky enough to know her. Pam lived in New York City and was a working and deeply devoted Mother. She was a most treasured and admired professional as the Director of Human Relations for Rolling Stone Magazines for roughly two decades. Pam is survived by her son Marc, who is 16, her husband Neal, her extraordinary mother, Marilyn Steiner, who was her best friend, and who was with her at every step of the way throughout Pam’s brutal fifteen month battle, her father Ken Fox, her stepfather and stepbrother, Joe and Perry Steiner, her sister, Jeni Steiner ‘02 and her beloved brother Tom Fox ‘83, who donated his stem cells for her transplant and who, along with Marilyn, tirelessly researched and worked to find a miracle to save Pam, a miraculous human being. Pam is missed beyond words by her many bereaved friends and relatives.

Brian e. mullan ’92 passed away on February 18, 2010, in Great Falls, VA. Survived by his parents, Silvia and Michael Mullan, his sister, Ana Cecilia Mullan, his brother, Sean A. Mullan. A memorial service is planned later in the year. Those who wish may make a memorial donation to NAMi, www.nami.org.

Paul Quantinetz, father of Rebecca Quatinetz ’00, writes, “Approx-imately one year has transpired since [my daughter’s] tragic death on August 3, 2009 in her Manhattan apartment due to an arrhythmia triggered by a condition called Long QT2. At the time of her death, neither she nor anyone else in her family was aware of this condition, but genetic testing confirmed the diagnosis indicated on an ECG administered in May of 2009. Her mother and father, Stephanie and Paul Quatinetz, and her siblings, Lara Quatinetz, Hilary Quatinetz, and Mitchell Quatinetz survive her. Her doctors failed to inform either her or her parents about this genetic condition, which we now know her mother and brother also carry. in 1998, Rebecca trans-ferred from Scarsdale High School in order to attend Friends for her Junior and

Senior years. According to her parents, Rebecca credited Friends for having had a significant influence on her academic success in college and law school and on shaping her worldview. Her father, Paul Quatinetz, who is a Learning Specialist at Friends, stated: “The teachers at Friends really opened Rebecca’s eyes and encouraged a shy girl to take substantial risks. She participated in Charlie Blank’s mock trial class and had a supporting lead in Pirates of Penzance directed by Jennifer Hayes and Linda Monssen—to mention but two highlights. When i close my eyes in the Meeting House, i still hear her lovely voice and picture her in character—that of a devoted if somewhat daffy daughter. As she continued to blossom into a young woman, she made wonderful steadfast friends who have supported and inspired us with their devotion.” She graduated from Pitzer College where she played on the tennis team and earned high praise for her Senior thesis. After working in banking, she was accepted at New York Law School where she made Law Review and became vice-president of the student association. She was a recipient of the Frank Weg Excellence in Contracts Scholarship. While working as a research assistant for Professor Karen Gross, she helped update Chapter 111 of Collier on Bankruptcy. She co-authored an article for the 2009 Bankruptcy Conference entitled Single Asset Real Estate Bankruptcy and Recent Developments. She died a mere couple of weeks after being sworn in to the New York State Bar and

beginning her professional career. The weekend before she died she joined her family and several friends in Washington D.C. to attend Paul McCartney’s concert. Rebecca was very self-effacing; she had many talents—hidden and otherwise, so few people other than her guitar teacher knew that she had started composing music. The lyrics she wrote to one of her songs include the following lines:

I don’t want to analyzeI don’t want to theorizeI don’t even want to know.Shut the windows and close the doorLeave a message, there’s no one home.I don’t want to see your faceYou can’t see what you ain’t looking forYou don’t hear when it is knocking at your door.Don’t tell me that love’s never come your way!

Her funeral at Temple israel Center of White Plains was attended by friends and family from all over the country and by representatives of Friends Seminary including Principal Bo Lauder, Rebecca’s former teacher, Charlie Blank, and by other teachers and Friends’ friends, Linda Chu, Matt Cashin, Jessi Suzuki, Zenny Groce, and Sisi Kamal. The Quatinetz family is also immensely appreciative to all the people who came to visit with us at our home and to those who gave donations in Rebecca’s name.” | f

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Friends Annual FundSilence. Study. Service.

Jennifer Padgett Orser ’88, Alumni Annual Fund Co-Chair“I remain involved with Friends as a volunteer and donor because of the lessons I learned at Friends, which still impact my life and outlook today. Of all of my schooling, including college and graduate school, my experience at Friends prepared me the most for life. I give back to ensure that students today continue to benefit from a Friends Seminary education.

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Josh Wachs ’89, Alumni Annual Fund Co-Chair“Friends Seminary had a profound impact during some very formative years in my life. I learned that questioning the status quo is never a bad thing, and I gained the confidence to know that I could be a part of changing things. I also learned that I wouldn’t have to be alone in doing that as the very important friendships that were made at Friends have endured through the years.”

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we are excited to announce the launch of a school cookbook, Cooking for Friends: A Friends Seminary Potluck Cookbook. Potluck dinners have long been an annual tradition at friends and

now is the time to send in your most treasured recipes! as part of the 225th anniversary celebration, we are reaching out to parents, students, faculty, staff, alums, and grandparents for their recipe

contributions. the cookbook will be published in the spring. Please submit the recipes by email to:

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SAVE THE DATE 20I I friday, january 21Chinese New Year (off-campus)

february 7 - 11Peace Week

friday, february 25225th Anniversary Celebration

thursday, march 3Auction (off-campus)

saturday, may 7Spring Fair

friday, may 20Reunion (50th reunion activities only)

saturday, may 21Reunion (all-alumni activities)