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““The Bully” The Bully” It’s Time to Say NO!It’s Time to Say NO!

Mrs. WalpMrs. Walp

October 2014October 2014

Harassment/ Bullying Defined:Harassment/ Bullying Defined:

Any action that causes the other Any action that causes the other person to feel threatened, person to feel threatened, ashamed, put down, afraid, hurt or ashamed, put down, afraid, hurt or in any way upset.in any way upset.

Must stop immediately. Must stop immediately. It may be necessary for you to have It may be necessary for you to have

no further contact with each other.no further contact with each other. You may even need to not look at You may even need to not look at

or talk to each other.or talk to each other.

Who is a bullyWho is a bully Someone that Someone that IntimidatesIntimidates Pushes, trips, Pushes, trips,

hitshits Teases, insults, Teases, insults,

mocksmocks Threatens, Threatens,

taunts, liestaunts, lies Spreads Spreads

rumors, rumors, gossips, liesgossips, lies

Anyone can be a targetAnyone can be a target

New kid in schoolNew kid in school Your grades are Your grades are

too hightoo high Your style too Your style too

differentdifferent Your accent too Your accent too

foreignforeign Your hair too long Your hair too long

or too shortor too short Your body too big Your body too big

or too smallor too small

Characteristics of a bully?Characteristics of a bully?1. Often lonely and insecure1. Often lonely and insecure

Characteristics of a bully Characteristics of a bully cont.cont.

2. When they pick on people, 2. When they pick on people, they stop others from picking on they stop others from picking on them.them.

Characteristics of a bully Characteristics of a bully cont.cont.

3. Feel safer, stronger, and 3. Feel safer, stronger, and in control. A feeling they in control. A feeling they most likely do not have in most likely do not have in other parts of their life.other parts of their life.

Characteristics of a bully Characteristics of a bully cont.cont.

4. Desperately want to be 4. Desperately want to be accepted by the crowd.accepted by the crowd.

Types of BulliesTypes of Bullies

There are five types of There are five types of bullies.bullies.

Lets identify all fiveLets identify all five

Hit, kick, push, poke, punch, slap, trip, pull Hit, kick, push, poke, punch, slap, trip, pull hair, step on heelshair, step on heels

Take, damage or hide victim’s propertyTake, damage or hide victim’s propertyKnown to entire schoolKnown to entire schoolBecome more aggressive as they become Become more aggressive as they become

olderolderContinue into adulthoodContinue into adulthoodused to be mostly boys, but now also used to be mostly boys, but now also

common among girls.common among girls.

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Use words to hurt, humiliate, threaten Use words to hurt, humiliate, threaten othersothers

Name calling, insults, nick namesName calling, insults, nick namesRacist commentsRacist commentsComments about weight, height, or other Comments about weight, height, or other

physical featuresphysical featuresEasiest to inflict on othersEasiest to inflict on othersQuick and to the pointQuick and to the pointNo visible scars but can be devastatingNo visible scars but can be devastating

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Convince their peers to exclude or Convince their peers to exclude or reject a certain person or peoplereject a certain person or people

Cut the victim off from social Cut the victim off from social connectionsconnections

Linked to verbal bullyingLinked to verbal bullyingMay act independently or in a groupMay act independently or in a groupMost common form is spreading nasty Most common form is spreading nasty

rumors/victim devastated by rejectionrumors/victim devastated by rejection

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Doesn’t start the bullying but joins Doesn’t start the bullying but joins right inright in

Intense loyalty to the bullyIntense loyalty to the bullyLegitimizes/enables the bullyLegitimizes/enables the bullyPeer “lieutenant”Peer “lieutenant”

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Elect to ignore the victim for fear of Elect to ignore the victim for fear of stigmastigma

Uses the victim as an example of Uses the victim as an example of what NOT to be likewhat NOT to be like

Fear of associating with victim and Fear of associating with victim and becoming bulliedbecoming bullied

Steps to takeSteps to take Take your stand.Take your stand. Confront the bully and Confront the bully and

ask them to stop.ask them to stop. Look at the bully and Look at the bully and

speak up speak up Say Stop it, Don’t say Say Stop it, Don’t say

that about me.that about me. Don’t do that again. Don’t do that again. I already told you to I already told you to

stop yesterday.stop yesterday. Document the Document the

complaintscomplaints

When Saying stop is not When Saying stop is not enoughenough

First Step:First Step:Notify the teacher in charge of Notify the teacher in charge of

classroom and explain situationclassroom and explain situation

When Saying stop is not When Saying stop is not enoughenough

Teacher will speak to the Teacher will speak to the student and ask student to stop.student and ask student to stop.

Most of the time Most of the time

It stops when teacherIt stops when teacher

Talks to student.Talks to student.

When Saying stop is not When Saying stop is not enoughenough

Teacher will make referral to Teacher will make referral to counselor and document on counselor and document on eduphoria.eduphoria.

Counselor will provide student Counselor will provide student with “Stop Bullying form” and with “Stop Bullying form” and make parent contact.make parent contact.

Counselor will notify Counselor will notify administration if bullying administration if bullying continuescontinues..

VERY IMPORTANTVERY IMPORTANTBullying is not allowed at Guillen!Bullying is not allowed at Guillen!Guillen has a zero toleranceGuillen has a zero toleranceThere are consequences for bullyingThere are consequences for bullying

Consequences of BullyingConsequences of Bullying

DetentionDetentionSuspensionSuspensionAlternative PlacementAlternative PlacementExpulsion from schoolExpulsion from schoolArrest can result in serious incidents Arrest can result in serious incidents

of bullying.of bullying.

Do not want to end up there!Do not want to end up there!

DO NOTDO NOT

Call the bully namesCall the bully namesverbally argue with the bullyverbally argue with the bullyAccept challenges to fightAccept challenges to fightDo not physically fight with the bullyDo not physically fight with the bullyDo not feel intimidated and take your Do not feel intimidated and take your

standstand

2 Types of Victims

1. Passive Victims1. Passive Victims

Are easily bulliedAre easily bulliedHave poor social skillsHave poor social skillscry easilycry easilyFeel lonely or depressedFeel lonely or depressedAre anxious and insecureAre anxious and insecureHave poor self -esteemHave poor self -esteem

2. Reactive Victims2. Reactive Victims

Are easily provoked into conflict with Are easily provoked into conflict with othersothers

Are restlessAre restlessTense and irritate othersTense and irritate othersFight back in bullying situations, but Fight back in bullying situations, but

loselose

The Victim:The Victim:SymptomsSymptoms

More anxious and insecureMore anxious and insecureStressStressReduced ability to concentrateReduced ability to concentratePoor or deteriorating schoolworkPoor or deteriorating schoolworkAggressive behaviorAggressive behaviorSleeping problems, panic attacksSleeping problems, panic attacksAvoidance, social withdrawalAvoidance, social withdrawalDepression, may attempt suicideDepression, may attempt suicideFeel there is something wrong with themFeel there is something wrong with them

So what are we going So what are we going to do?to do?

Change the way we think..Change the way we think..

Make it cool to careMake it cool to carePut the power with the caring majorityPut the power with the caring majorityMake bullying unacceptableMake bullying unacceptableDo not support bullying in any formDo not support bullying in any formDo not be a bystander/contact a teacherDo not be a bystander/contact a teacherReport it!Report it!By reporting it, counselors can help both By reporting it, counselors can help both

the victim and the bully.the victim and the bully.

You can make a difference!Don’t participate in anyform of bullying.

End of PresentationEnd of PresentationGuillen does not tolerate any form of Bullying.

Bullying is serious and it will be addressed.

Grizzlies are Respectful, Responsible, Ready, and Proud

Grizzlies help each other!This is the Guillen Way!Let’s have a great year!