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“This eBook is dedicated to the men who want to date the women of their dreams.”

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Take this book for what it is…simply it is Knowledge and Nothing more.

Knowledge is power, BUT it is not skill. It brings you power to act, but it will not bring youwisdom.

To get true wisdom you must experience the journey for yourself. Experience the journey

through good times and the bad times. You will live through the experience and become better

for it.

To succeed you must ACT.

Act repeatedly even when it seems like you are getting no result on the outside. You arecultivating your inner world every time you step up and take action. Don’t chase the end result.

Life is not a destination, it is a journey.

Take action.

Take it now and don’t wait for another day to pass you by. Take action even when you think it

seems like it is not working. Take it especially when you think it is not working and before you

know it…

YOU will accomplish your goals.

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Eric Edgemont

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"You've really got your stuff together." - Mystery of VH1's The Pickup Artist

“This kid always has girls with him” - Pat (Hartford, CT)

“Simply Amazing” – CJ (Boston MA)

"They showed me that girls are like locks proving himself to be a true locksmith. Whether you

are looking for a girlfriend or a one night stand he'll show you how to hook them and always get

your way." - Brandon (Hartford, CT)

“You can talk your way into anywhere, you act like a prince.” - Jason (Boston, MA)

“You guys have the best parties, how do you get so many girls to come over?”

– Greg (Boston, MA)

“I thought you knew those girls already.. like old friends” – Eugene (Boston, MA)

“I have never seen so many girls in one place” – Andrew (Boston, MA)

“You have a way of always getting what you want, amazing.” – Jason (Miami, FL)

“Again!!!! You have a different girl every night” – CP (Boston, MA)



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About the Authors

Edge - Has spent the last 9 years of his life wrapped in the seduction community. He devotes hislife to self-improvement and helping those around him. He practices Yoga and meditation.

Legend – Has spent the last 3 years of his life falling down the rabbit hole. He is known for his

fury, fire, and un-surmountable ego. He spends his time improving his life and living his dream.

This book is the culmination of our experiences through 2008. It is written in the form of a

guide, but the information within every chapter was gleaned using the tools in the real world and

then writing down how we would have wanted someone to explain them to us.

This guide strives to put pick-up and seduction into a simpler light. I have found that the simpler

things usually work better. There is no reason to over complicate things. This guide is written in

short chapters. Practice and internalize them one at a time and you will achieve the results you

are looking for.

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IndexSection 1: .................................................................................................................15

The Basics ............................................................................................................................. 16

Chapter 1:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 17

Taking Action........................................................................................................................ 17

Why You need to take Action............................. ....................................................... ....... 18

Levels of Understanding ....................................................... ............................................ 20How to Practice............................................................ ..................................................... 22

Chapter 2:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 24

Setting Goals and Expectations ............................................................................................ 24

Introduction........................................................................................................................... 25

What do you want to get from the dating world? ...................................................... ....... 25

Setting Goals....................................................... ....................................................... ....... 27

Chapter 3:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 29

Beliefs, Female Psychology, Confidence ........................................................ ......................... 29Foundational Beliefs .................................................... ..................................................... 30

Myths..................................................................................................................................... 30

What Women Want and How They Work.............................................................................. 31

Chapter 4:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 35

Body Language and Eye Contact .......................................................................................... 35

Chapter 5:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 40

Learning to Start Conversations........................................................................................... 40

The Goal: Opening........................... ........................................................ ......................... 41Types of Conversation starters and Openers .................................................... ................ 43

Chapter 6:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 47

Fear of Approaching Women................................................................................................ 47

Approach Anxiety ........................................................ ..................................................... 48

Chapter 7:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 53



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Dealing with Groups and Group Dynamics ......................................................................... 53

Group Theory and Set Logistics .................................................... ................................... 54

Chapter 8:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 56

Staying in Conversation........................................................................................................ 56

Transitioning ....................................................... ....................................................... ....... 57Stacking........................................... ........................................................ .......................... 58

Multiple Threading ...................................................... ..................................................... 59

Plowing ..................................................... ........................................................ ................ 59

Chapter 9:............ ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 62

Getting the Number............................................................................................................... 62

Chapter 10:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 66

Creating A Connection ......................................................................................................... 66

Wide rapport ....................................................... ....................................................... ....... 68Deep rapport........................................................ ........................................................ ...... 68

Creating a connection .................................................. ..................................................... 69

Chapter 11:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 71

Bringing it all together.......................................................................................................... 71

Where you are now ...................................................... ..................................................... 72

Section 2: .................................................................................................................74Taking it to the Next Step...................................................................................................... 74

Chapter 12:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 75Talking on the Phone ............................................................................................................ 75

Phone game and TXT message Game .................................................... .......................... 76

Chapter 13:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 81

Dates and Day 2’s................................................................................................................. 81

Chapter 14:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 86

Getting Physical.................................................................................................................... 86

When to touch ..................................................... ....................................................... ....... 87

Kino Escalation and Sexual Escalation..................................................... ........................ 88Kino Escalation Ladder................................................. .................................................... 89

Sexual Escalation Ladder.......................... ........................................................ ................ 90

Chapter 15:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ....... 91

Does She Like Me?................................................................................................................ 91

Indicators of Interest and Indicators of Disinterest............... ............................................ 92



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Plowing an Advanced Look ................................................................................................ 144

Chapter 28:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ..... 147

Pulling Girls from the Club ................................................................................................ 147

Chapter 29:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ..... 149

Last minute resistance (LMR)............................................................................................. 149How to deal with LMR ................................................ ................................................... 152

Chapter 30:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ..... 154

Inner Game and Solidifying Confidence............................................................................. 154

Chapter 31:.......... ........................................................ ....................................................... ..... 156

Getting Good....................................................................................................................... 156



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Section 1:



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The BasicsThere are many guides available, but in my experience they are sorely

lacking in that most of them were published years ago, when pick-up was treated

more like a script-dispensing exercise. This is a guide on everything you need to

know to have an understanding of the core elements of pick-up.

With this knowledge and with practice, you’ll have enough skill to pull most

girls and get a girlfriend.

If you read through it and practice you should have no problem getting a level of

skill where you could have most girls in 3 months if you practice enough. Practice

in field is the key to success.

We pride ourselves on putting out next generation content and running the best blog in the community providing the most practical free advice. Our Blog has

grown to be one of the most popular Blogs in this area of self-improvement in only

six short months.

Keep reading, commenting on the Blog and checking back for new stuff we’ll be

putting out in 2010 and beyond.

Nikki Knight and Eric Edgemont

Legend and Edge



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Chapter 1:

Taking Action



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Why You need to take Action

Legend : If you’re here reading this, then you are taking the first step to improving

your dating life. We all want to change and get better results or you wouldn’t be

here.

To change you need to take action. It’s not going to come from reading or studying

material. Study a little bit and then learn in real life in the field. An hour in the

field is worth a 100 hours of reading and watching videos.

For many years, we have developed bad habits and society has conditioned us into

a walking daze where we don’t take action and go after what we want. Hollywood

has conditioned us to always look for happiness in the future. The truth of the

matter is if we don’t take action to change our conditions, they will never change.

If you follow the steps in this guide you will get your desired outcome. Some areas

you will need to work on. Some will come naturally to you.

The bottom line is you have to take action and try new things to get results.

Every segment will present a new concept for you to study and then go out

and practice.

If you want to learn, you need to practice this stuff. We’re going to give you the

tools that you will need for free. We’re not going to market this e-book into a $97

thing. We are all about sharing the basic information. These are the core conceptsof pick-up and seduction, which are hidden and spread around all the forums and

websites.



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Levels of Understanding

Edge : When it comes to learning a new skill set or area of study, I believe we have

some limiting beliefs in our culture that blocks our potential to really master

something. I think it’s easy to assume that if you’re able to respond to questions by

spouting back a little fact, you “know” it.

And why not? I mean, that’s what school taught us, right? You stay up all night,

study study study, then regurgitate the information onto an exam sheet. I can’t tell

you how many times I would pass a class only to have forgotten nearly all of the

course material the following semester.

I want to discuss a concept that revolutionized the way that I thought about

learning. I apply this to all areas of self-improvement, but it is especially true in the

area of dating, seduction, and pick-up.

The concept is depth of understanding . I think we’d all agree that there are some

subjects where we have a basic understanding of what’s going on (enough to get

by) whereas in other subjects we have a very deep understanding of what’s

happening. Our deep understanding in an area grants us the liberty to not just

understand or “get by”, but to innovate, to imagine, to strategize and to execute

with finesse.

And executing with finesse is what we should all be aiming for. I mean, I think all

of us know that we can get someone no matter where we are in the game. We’re init because we want to get the best we can get.

And since we’re in this to get better results than what we’d been getting, then we

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I can promise you that anything you feel you have a deep understanding of is

something that you have working with extensively over a period of time. You

didn’t just read books about it. You didn’t just ask questions on forums. No, you

performed within the area you’re studying. You made mistakes. You felt, saw,handled, moved, reacted, strategized, and gained a lot of “real word experience.”

Learning to improve with women is no different. You are not going to get a skill

from reading a book or watching a seminar. You may get enthusiasm. You may

get inspiration. But you won’t get skill , and that is what you want to get.

Where do you get skill? In the real world… out there.

That’s why Legend and I harp on it time and again. You need to be performing in

this area of study to make any kind of progress. It is required… take it from me - I

spent WAY too long studying and studying this stuff for years because I was too

afraid to actually try it on my own.

Embrace mistakes. Embrace confusion. Embrace discomfort, embarrassment,

anger, loneliness, sadness, frustration. Embrace all of it because by walking the

actual path and actually participating in real life, you will continually be imbued

with more and more skill. The more you can embrace taking on real life

experiences and handling them, the more that you will have skill.

As a closing note on this: Being able to do the right pick-up move at the right time

is only half of this game. The other half is resilience: Being able to handleeverything that comes up, good or bad, and continuing onward.

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How to Practice

Legend : You are going to need to create goals and follow them. If you want to get

good you’re going to have to continually go out and practice. It’s not rocket

science, but it will take time. The trick is that only you can hold yourself

accountable. I can show you the tools and you can even watch skilled people in the

field, but in the end no one else is going to open conversations for you and no one

else was going to kiss the girl for you and I certainly can’t have sex with the girl

for you.

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Chapter 2:

Setting Goals and Expectations



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Introduction

In this section we are going to talk about why it is important to manage your goals.

Also we are going to talk about why setting expectations before starting out can

help you greatly in your development.

Legend:

What do you want to get from the dating world?

If you want to change yourself you’re going to have to ask yourself what you want

to get from the game, then plan accordingly. Every person is going to have adifferent desired outcome and your tastes and desires most likely will change over

time. Different skills are going to be required to get different results. Before you

do anything, get clear on what you want.

Do you want a girlfriend?

You might want to develop a plan of action where you are focused more on day

game. By day game I mean meeting women during the daytime in common places

and chatting with them. You’re going to need to get really good at creating a sense

of comfort and connection, and you’re going to have to go on lots of dates. (Day

twos / Day 2s)

Do you want your choice of women and to have multiple relationships?

If you want to date around, you are going to need a combination of night and day

game to give you as many new ways of meeting women as possible. You are going

to have to really round out all of your skills.



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Edge: I agree - have as many avenues as possible in your lifestyle to meet women.

Go out and meet women during the day: in coffee shops, in bookstores, on the

grocery store line, on the subway, on the street, etc. Attend events, groups, classes,

fairs, parties… anywhere where people are getting together where there is acommon interest (even if the common interest is to just have fun and meet people).

Going out to night clubs, bars, lounges, parties, raves, concerts… these are all great

things to do at night, though some people do not like the atmosphere. My approach

was to master these environments though I did not initially find them enjoyable at

all - I like them now that I’ve learned to cut loose and have fun.

Legend:

Do you want Same Night Lays (SNL) and Threesomes?

You are going to want to perfect your attraction game. You’ll be hitting the bars

and nightclubs where you’re going to want to perfect fast sexual escalation and be

extremely good at handling logistics.

Edge: I would also say get comfortable with having women around who are open-

minded and fun. Girls you can go out with who won’t mind you flirting with other

girls. Having women around you who genuinely enjoy your company and think

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Legend:

You have to create an action plan and train for what you want .

Decide what you want and then plan accordingly. Don’t try to become a guru at

pickup if you just want a girlfriend. You’re not going to need to go out five times a

week to become social. You only need a basic skill to get the girl. If you want to

start doing crazy stuff, then you have to practice more. Manage your expectations

and realize what you really want. You’re not going to need to study for years to get

a girlfriend, but if you want to have repeated same night lays or threesome with

two strippers it might take a lot more practice, skill, and some dumb luck.

Setting Goals

The most important thing about goals is that you write them out, so you can look at

them and consistently hold yourself accountable for the goals. If you write them

out, you are going to be much more likely to actually accomplish them. Settinggoals in a way that you can actually accomplish them is very important. This is

why I break goals into two sections.



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1. Over Arching Goals

The point of an overarching goal is to set an ultimate desired result for your efforts.

It is your main end goal, a goal that could take a month or a year or longer to

accomplish. Whatever your overarching goals may be, take time and write them

down.

2. Step by Step Goals

The purpose of having step-by-step goals is to break your learning into small,

attainable chunks and have small goals that you can reach daily or weekly. This

way you can consistently see progress toward your overarching goals and keep

your motivation to move forward. Write out your step-by-step goals that will allow

you to reach your overarching goal.

This is the beginning step - don’t forget foundational planning or you will run into

problems later.

Edge: I would add that it’s important to find as many ways as necessary to “trick

yourself” into taking action. Starting to do something is the hardest (and most

essential) part. Sometimes I really don’t feel like writing, but I’ll say to myself,

“OK, I’m going to sit down and write for 5 minutes and if it sucks I’ll just stop.”

Before you know it, I’ve spent two hours writing great stuff! So keep that in mind

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Chapter 3:

Beliefs, Female Psychology, Confidence



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Foundational Beliefs

Legend:

Myths

There are many myths in society and in the pickup community. One of the greatest

hurdles I have found is the idea that we can come up with perfect lines and avoid

rejection. If you got into the community through Mystery and the VH1 show

“The Pickup Artist”, whether it is season one or two or by reading “The

Game” by Neil Strauss, then you may have developed some bad habits

without realizing it.

The community thinking from a few years ago was that the pick-up artist (PUA)

can come up with this elaborate routine stack or through patterns that would

convey their personality in a way that they would never get rejected. Also that you

could have any woman you wanted. The more I study and the more I practice, themore I realize this is not true.

I’ve found that to really go out and get good at this, you must “become used to the

approach” and embrace rejection. If you can embrace rejection and continually

practice and push your comfort zone, you will learn this stuff very quickly.

There is no magic bullet, but there is a secret. The secret to getting good is to

become confident with women. Now don’t roll your eyes because you’ve heard

that before 100 times… I am going to actually explain what this means in a way

that you can understand concretely and apply in your life later in this article.



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We have a limited amount of time in our lives and we can use it to cultivate value

within ourselves. Society pitches that we need good looks and money to be

successful with women. This is not necessarily true. Women want emotional

stimulation, so I feel that instead of cultivating your wealth or trying to attain someridiculous standard of beauty, it is much easier and sensible to cultivate your

confidence and humor.

What Men Want

Let’s look at how men work. When deciding if we are attracted to a woman or not,

we look at visual cues. We think logically and step-by-step. To get good withwomen we need to realize how they work, how they think, and above all what they

are attracted to.

What Women Want and How They Work

I am going to state this very simply because there is no reason to make thiscomplicated. I would encourage you to read each sentence and contemplate it -

what it means, what it looks like, what are the implications. Really contemplate

each sentence of the next paragraph.

Women are attracted to behavioral cues. It takes them longer to select a mate andthey think emotionally. It doesn’t matter what you look like, if you can stimulate

them emotionally. They look for confidence and humor above all else.

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The number one thing that women want is a confident man. This leads us to the

question of how do we become confident with women. It is not rocket science, but

it will take time.

Being confident is all about being comfortable in any situation and knowing what

to do. This really comes down to practicing enough so that you’ve experienced

many things and you automatically do the right thing.

Edge: I think there are two elements to cultivate here.

One is worldliness – exposing yourself to as many different things, situations,

circumstances, places and types of people as you can. Open-mindedness is

definitely a plus here.

The other is your ability to handle different situations and circumstances . I have

found the best way to get good at this is to: 1) experience a lot of situations, even if

they may be uncomfortable, foreign or scary to you at first, 2) stay in the present

moment – don’t retreat into your mind, don’t judge things, don’t think about the

past, don’t think about the future and stop trying to analyze, strategize and

mentally pigeonhole everything. Let new experiences wash over you and

remember that every new experience is one step towards mastery.

There are unpleasant things that I can handle much better now since I’ve

experienced them a bunch of times and I’ve learned to deal with them with

composure and presence of mind. Being rejected is hard. Breaking up withsomeone you love is hard. Approaching women when you’re afraid to approach is

hard. But it all gets easier as you handle it, learn from it and then mentally

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Legend:

Let’s relate this to something that we can all understand: Driving a car.

Almost everyone can relate to driving a car. Think back to when you just started

learning to drive. It was extremely scary and you probably had trouble backing up

out of the driveway let alone even being able to look in your mirror while

signaling.

After practicing for days in the parking lot, you are then comfortable enough to

take it to the side streets. The highway still scared the crap you. Maybe after a year

of solid practice you didn’t have to think about doing everything anymore. Instead,

it became natural to merge onto the highway at high speeds or use your turn signals

without thinking about it.

This is how we have to be in order to be good with women. Slowly we have to

progressively desensitize ourselves to being around women and being in

different situations with them until we are comfortable and all the skills that

you’re going to learn come out naturally.

This is an experimental process. Don’t expect an overnight transformation, but if

you practice you will get good.

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difficult. I’ve been doing the “success with women” thing for a long time and I’ve

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Chapter 4:

Body Language and Eye Contact

Introduction:



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Edge: I think a lot of guides on eye contact focus on the mechanics of eye contact

itself or ways to use eye contact to be more appealing. I will touch on what I have

found to be most effective, but before I do I want to talk about what I have found

to be the most essential and most foundational element of eye contact.

Speaking from experience, I don’t believe that people worry about their ability to

have good, attractive eye contact because they don’t know the mechanics. My

belief is that the problem is that eye contact creates a feeling of anxiousness in the

aspiring pick-up artist (PUA) and as a result, they reflexively avert their eyes from

other people.

So what do I feel the key element is to good eye contact? I believe that element to

be: Thought.

What you think and how you think about it…

It’s been said countless times across all cultures throughout time that the eyes are

the window to the soul. I think a practical and effective way to interpret that is that

people can catch your “vibe” when they look into your eyes.

And I believe that your vibe is made from your thoughts and your beliefs. Not

what you do, not what you say, but what you “think” in the privacy of your own

mind.

If you are thinking fearful thoughts like the person looking at you is going to do

something bad, you’re going to feel anxious when they look at you because you’ll

feel like their seeing that. Like they are seeing your insecurity.

Or if you think critical, judgmental or mean thoughts of other people, you’ll feel

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them. Sure, your actions in the outer world may be very nice – you may be polite,

considerate and do good things for people. But if you’re judging people in your

head in a negative way as a default habit, eye contact will be tough.

Another common “thought crime” is being out only for yourself and looking at

someone in terms of how you can use them. Your eye contact may not necessarily

be bad (as in, you may not avert your eyes when someone looks at you), but you

will have the look of a “predator” or someone who is up to no good.

So I’ve talked about thought habits that make eye contact hard or unsuccessful. But

what do I think is the successful way to think in order to have good, warm, sexyeye contact?

Well, in terms of thinking, I make it a habit to think good thoughts of people

wherever I go and whomever they are. This takes discipline. It takes practice. I am

telling you this as a guy who’s reformed my own thought habits and found it to be

quite effective in attracting the women I want.

When I’m attracted to a woman, I “breathe in” her beauty through my eyes. When

I think about sex with her, I think about it as a giving act that is tremendously

pleasurable and liberating for her. Thinking of sex in that way (as if you are

dangling some delicious that she wants to take a bite of) will get you much further

than thinking of sex as a notch on your belt or as a masturbatory aid for you. Plus

your sex will most likely be better too.

Now that we’ve talked about eye contact and thought, now we can talk about some

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Generally speaking, I would say focus on your thoughts and eye contact will be

eye and natural for you. In fact, I would say focus exclusively on the thoughts you

have and avoid thinking about physical eye contact mechanics – it’s a weird thing

to distract yourself with during a conversation.

Legend’s method for eye contact is much simpler, “Just believe that you’re good at

it.”

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Chapter 5:

Learning to Start Conversations



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Introduction:

Starting a conversation can be as simple as walking up and saying Hi or we can get

really complicated talking about Pick-up Lines, many different types of Openers,

and Opening routines.

Then we have different classifications which are basically all about how much

interest your showing and what type of frame your coming from.

Legend:

The Goal: Opening

In this section, I am going to talk about openers and give you some examples. The

goal for this section is to get you familiar with openers and opening routines so that

you can go out and practice starting conversations with the sole goal of just starting

a conversation.

The purpose of an opener is just to create situational comfort, unless you “go

direct” (that is, open the conversation with a statement that directly communicates

your interest in the woman). When you’re in a bar, you are just another random

person at the bar. You want to create a dialogue between you and a girl where she

is comfortable talking you. The point of openers is just to get a girl or the group

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Edge:

A note on pick-up lines

A lot of guys think that the power in meeting women in bars is in the pick-up line

they use. I know this because men are constantly e-mailing us about it!

Yes, Legend and I have some stock lines that we open conversations with, but we

don’t look at them like “pick-up lines”. We look at them as conversation starters…

something to move us from not talking to the women into talking with them. That’s

it – an opener should just be a quick 30-second pop just to get the ball rolling.

Pick-up lines are not my preference because I think they’re cheesy, they’re

contrived and worse, they are perceived to be the source of the man’s

conversational power instead of the man himself.

Now I want to talk briefly about the different styles of opening and about openingroutines. Everything can work whether it is an Indirect opener or Direct opener.

Many people prefer different things and different situations call for different

approaches. Also some integral elements to approaching such as False Time

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Types of Conversation starters and Openers

Situational

A situational opener can be used anywhere. This is where you comment on

something in the surrounding environment that you see. In that it is something

someone else is doing, something about the venue, or something that a girl was

wearing. These are extremely low risk and will almost never get bad reactions or

blowout.

Examples:

Talking about the weather

Talking about something you can see

Talking about something that’s happening

Talking about random comments that you don’t really pre-plan

Questions and Opinion Openers

Opinion openers are classic community openers such as “Who lies more”, “Jealous

girlfriend”, or “Spells.” The basis behind opinion openers is that you are just

asking a question. They’re great and work well in a social bar and nightclub

situations. They are very useful for people just starting to work on their social

skills. When you have a good question you can make the conversation about it for

20 minutes. This is not ideal for solid game, but a great way to get started being

social.



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Examples:

There are many classic community openers. I suggest making your own based on

something women talk about or something you like.

Direct

A direct opener is a type of opener where you express interest in talking to the girl

immediately. These can vary widely from expressing interest in her clothing to

telling her that she is sexy and you wanted to come over to meet her. The moreinterest you express, the more you instantly force her to make a decision whether

she wants to talk to you or not. This doesn’t give you time to win her over, but the

upside is that if she complies you are already setting the framework for the

interaction. It is usually a good idea to be qualifying her immediately after direct

opener. We’ll talk about qualifying and screening in a future section.

Examples:

Hey, I’m _______ I just had to come meet you.

You are adorable I just had to come meet you.

You sexy as fuck I just had to come meet you.

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A screening or qualification opener is where you are seeing if she will live up to

your standards right off the opener. These are more of a type of direct opener, but

from a screening perspective.

Examples:

Who are you?

Are you guy’s fun?

False Time Constraint

A False Time constraint is a technique that gives the impression that you are about

to leave, so whoever you are starting a conversation with doesn’t think that you

will hang around all night all night in the event that you are annoying or boring.

Verbal False Time Constraints

These can be used at any time during opener or whenever you need to convey the

fact that you were about to leave.

Example:

Real quick

I have to get back my friends

I only got a second

I have to go but

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Body Rocking is a technique where you move in and out giving the impression that

you were about to leave. This can be done by taking steps or by just shifting your

weight from 1 foot to the other.

Rooting in Your Opener

This is the technique where you give a reason why you’re asking the question. It

sometimes is necessary with opinion openers if your delivery is off or if they ever

ask you why you asking me this. It is a preemptive technique.

Example:

My buddies and I were having an argument and we need a female opinion to settle

it

My buddy had (some situation) happen to him; I want to get a woman’s

perspective

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Chapter 6:

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Legend:

Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety really encompasses any fear that you may experience aboutstarting conversations with strangers. I believe this comes about from being

socially conditioned not to talk to strangers our entire lives.

Edge:

We Created Approach Anxiety

Let’s look at some of the social conditioning that we’ve seen as men throughout

our lives. I live in America where media images of love, dating, sex and

relationships are abundant.

Think of how many commercials you see where the product makes the man sexy

whereas he was a dud before. Think of how many scenes you’ve witnessed in

movies where a guy approaches an attractive woman and she flips out and throws a

drink in his face like he’s a flaming piece of shit. Think of how many TV shows

glorify the act of some woman rejecting the guy.

These are just images. They’re not real. They were created by advertisers, screen

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Still, I can’t help but think that this has had a profound effect on guys in

mainstream America and the Western World at large. This is a cultural

phenomenon. There are other cultures and American subcultures where the idea of

a man having “approach anxiety” is just ludicrous.

What I’m driving at is that those of us who experience “approach anxiety” created

the experience ourselves. It may have been active (by interpreting our own failures

in life in an unuseful way) or it may have been passive (through witnessing

countless media images of approaching women being painful and something to

fear).

Regardless, we create approach anxiety and we can deconstruct it, desensitize

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Legend:

Overcoming Approach Anxiety

Permanently overcoming approach anxiety comes down to progressively

desensitizing ourselves to the approach. It will take a lot of work and many

approaches, but I believe we can get there just like we can conquer any fear.

Dealing with approach anxiety in the field is only accomplished by pushing

through the fear. Once we take action and start to approach it becomes mucheasier. Using tactics like immediately approaching the first group you see when

you enter a venue and utilizing Mystery’s 3 second rule (where you see the girl you

want and you immediately approach her, within 3 seconds) will help you

immensely with approach anxiety.

If you follow the rule of always being in set (that is, always being in a conversation

with people), even if you’re only talking to guys, as long as you are talkative and

pushing forward you’ll avoid a lot of anxiety.

My simple advice: Act before you can think yourself out of taking action.

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Bottom line the more that you practice and gain reference experiences, the easier it

will become.

Edge:

Getting Over Approach Anxiety through Visualization

I heard about a scientific study that was done once regarding visualization and

success. In the study, they split a gym class into 3 groups. Each of the 3 groups

practiced free-throws in basketball and the amount of successful throws in each

group was recorded.

Then, over the course of the month, they gave each group a different task. The first

group did nothing. The second group practiced free throws everyday for 10

minutes. The third group visualized throwing successful free throws for 10 minutes

(they only visualized; they never actually touched a basketball.)

After a month, the practitioners tested each group’s ability to successfully shoot

free throws. The first group showed no improvement. The second group showed

significant improvement.

But the astounding finding of the study was that the third group improved just as

much as the second group at shooting successful free throws… and they never

touched a basketball once during their 10 minutes of “practice”.

I am a strong advocate of daily visualization. I practice this myself – I even chart

my daily practice of visualizations to record that I am indeed doing them every

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When it comes to women, I visualize that when I talk to women they have big

smiles on their faces. They’re excited to talk with me. They’re attracted to me –

hell; they’re even throwing themselves at me. And it works – my abilities with

women increased tenfold when I began visualizing success on a consistent, daily basis.

At the very least, I would encourage you to STOP practicing “missing your free

throws”. Speaking from experience, I can tell you that it is incredibly counter-

productive to imagine things going badly before you approach women. If you’re

not going to take on the practice of visualizing success, at least find a way to

interrupt and replace any habit you may having of anticipating failure.

I will add one final comment : This is NOT a replacement for taking action in the

real world. This is a supplement to help you improve your real world results. You

must be continuously and consistently talking to new women as often as possible

to make a marked improvement in your skills and abilities.

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Chapter 7:

Dealing with Groups and Group Dynamics



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Group Theory and Set Logistics

Legend:

Group theory

When we are out gaming, there are different kinds of groups (sets) and each one

requires slightly different tactics for the best results. Remember, everything is just

a guideline and sometimes rules are meant to be broken.

In all groups you are going to have a girl that you want (target) and her friends (the

obstacles). I find it best to befriend and be nice to everyone until they give you areason not to be. If you are trying to game a girl in a group, you’re going to have to

win over her friends.

Single girl (One Set or “Lone Wolf”)

The “lone wolf” is a single girl. This is very common during the day and rare at

night. From my experience, I suggest going direct because you do not have to

worry about disarming and befriending her friends. Her peer group is not standing

there and able to judge her, so she is free to act in any way she chooses. If you see

a single girl out at the bar, she is usually there for one thing, to get laid. Go

approach her now.

Two People (Two Set)

A group of two people is one of the more difficult sets because you will have to

keep them both occupied. If you leave one of them alone, they are likely to drag

the other one off. You can game them as a single set or enlist someone nearby to

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Chapter 8:

Staying in Conversation



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Legend:

Staying in conversation

One of the first sticking points you may encounter is staying in conversation. Once

you learn to open you need to learn how to transition into starting a conversation.

The first major pitfall that some people experience is ejecting for no reason. This

may come about because you feel that you don't know what to say next or there

was an awkward silence. The more you force yourself to stand there "in set", themore your brain will begin to come up with things to say. Even if they aren't so

good, the point is that you learn to deal with the social pressure.

Transitioning (Hooking the Conversation)

After opening, you want to get into a normal conversation and this is where you

reach the Hook point. For me hooking is all about that point where instead of

them wanting to leave, they want you to stay. This can be done in a number of

ways, but your goal is to make them want to talk to you.

You can set up a situation where they want to talk to you before you even open.

This is the most effective way to Hook the group or you can use one of the

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Stacking

Stacking is a technique where you stop talking about one thing and start talking

about a completely different thing. When you're talking in a bar there really is no

transition necessary. You can go from talking about the sky to talking about

apples; you don't need a reason to just talk. A technique known as stacking

forward is where you cut the thread (whenever you're talking about) and just start

talking about something else. This allows you to shift the conversation through

different topics rapidly till you hit something that the people you're talking to are

interested in and then they will hook.

Edge: Something to consider here is that this does not just apply to choice of

conversational topics. Sometimes what you choose as a topic doesn't really matter

as much as how you talk about it and what within that subject you choose to talk

about.

For example, once I was talking about something with a group of girls and the

conversation wasn't really going anywhere. At that time, the real problem was thatI was just moving my lips and there was no engagement or real interest behind

what I was saying. But then I just noticed something in the environment and

commented on it in a sarcastic way... it was at that moment that the girls busted up

laughing and the whole tone changed. Hooking the conversation didn't take place

in this instance because of a different topic, but because of a different energy .

Just something to keep in mind...

Legend:



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Multiple Threading

Multiple threading is a form of conversation that we use with people who we are

familiar with. Think of it as stacking different things and weaving one into

another. When you're in the middle of one conversation topic or story you can cut

and move to a different one and cut and move to a different one, then when one

runs out you can change back to whatever one you want. This is a great technique

for quickly getting into conversation with a stranger and then all of a sudden, they

don't think of you as a stranger anymore.

PlowingPlowing is a technique that is somewhat more aggressive. You will force your

conversation on people by cutting their conversational threads and talking over

them. I find it useful in loud fast-paced environments to quickly gain attention and

get people into your conversation. Some people prefer a more tactful way of

getting to the conversation. This is blunt, but it works very well if it fits your

personality.

Leading Back and Locking In

Being in a relaxed position; one where you are in the position of power is probably

the most important aspect of staying in conversation. If you can be leaning against

the bar or a wall and have the girls leaning into you, then it looks like they are

gaming you . As a result of this you will start to notice proximity (proximity is

other girls standing near/around you within a few feet.) Many times you will even

get approached by girls. This almost never happens when you are not locked in set

(again, that is having a girl or girls in a position where you are in a laid back

position and they are standing, talking to you as if they are gaming you). Basically



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you want to look like you are the most relaxed. You should be the one sitting or

leaning back, not them. Go into set, open, and then move the set around so you

have the position of power. If you are in an uncomfortable position in relation to

the group, then your value will drop (that is, other women in the bar will view youas some guy who's walking up to chicks and trying to talk to them like some

beggar). If you are in the position of power then your value will stay the same if

not rise. Probably rise.

Edge:

A couple thoughts on this. I have found my best conversations with strangers at

bars were when I was doing something in my life that I was passionate about.

Note: That doesn't necessarily even mean that I was talking about those things!! It

just means that what I was doing at that moment in my life was so captivating, so

compelling and so interesting to me that it really didn't matter whether or not I

talked to a woman nor had any success at all that night.

At the same time, it is tremendously helpful and important to have something (or

several things) in your life that you passionately enjoy and are excited about. For

some, that means working on a major work project. For some, that means just

loving life - REALLY loving it and enjoying it. Generally speaking, the guys that

do the best with women are the fun guys who really enjoy life. Movies and TV

might dictate that it's the "tough guy", the one who doesn't smile and is just an

asshole, but this isn't the case in real life. Have balls, but be happy.

Staying in conversation can be a huge challenge if you don’t know what to say.

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Chapter 9:

Getting the Number



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Getting the phone number

Legend:

The next step is getting the number. A lot of guys wonder how to get a girl's

number or how to ask a girl for her phone number. Really, this one is short and

sweet - a lot of people complicate the entire getting a girl's number situation. If

you can start the conversation and get them interested in talking to you, you can

get the number almost every time. All you have to do is just ask for it.

At this point, don't think about flakes or how to deal with them. Right now, if you

are at the point where you are learning to get into conversations, you should ask for

the girl's number before you part ways, just so you get in the habit of asking them.

For so many pickup artists, this is a huge sticking point where they remain for six

months. They can open and start conversations, but they don't get numbers

because they just don't ask for the number .

All the number is... is a number. It just means she's open to the idea of talking toyou more right now. The best tip for exchanging numbers I can think of is make

sure she saves it in her phone . You never know if they will pick up or not. I've

had girls that I've made out and talked for hours with not pick up the phone. On

the flip side I've had girls that I talked to for a minute pick up the phone. You will

never know unless you try calling. At this point, get into the habit of doing it

with everyone. Get their number, just ask for it. If they don't want to give it to

you for some reason then fluff talk some more or more make them laugh some

more or connect little more ask again and you'll get it without failure.



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Edge:

I completely agree with Legend: Getting numbers is easy and over-thinking about

it is a trap. Avoid that trap.

One thing to remember is that you NEVER know. Don't assume you do. Don't

assume you know whether or not she'll give you a number. Don't assume she will

or will not pick up. Don't assume anything.

Instead, just go for it. You always win: you'll either get a great experience or you

may end up getting laid or starting a great relationship. You never know.

During the initial phase of learning to meet women, I always asked for their

number just to get into the habit. This was a great and very useful practice for me.

However, these days I do things differently now that I am used to asking for

numbers and completely comfortable with it.

These days, I assume the follow-up . What does this mean? Well, once I've talked

to a woman for more than 5 minutes, I'm going to start tossing out imaginary

things that we're going to do when we hang out. If I happened to mention a

carnival and she said, "I love the carnival!" I might respond with something like,

"You know what? We totally should go to the carnival together," and then I'll

follow it up with some really silly playful push like, "oh wait, what am I talking

about? You're weird, I don't even like you." (I would say something like this with

a big, playful smile on my face.)

Over the next few minutes, I would just talk with her and imply that we have

plans... Or just explicitly make plans. Depending on the girl and situation,

sometimes I'll use direct game and sometimes I'll use indirect game (my criteria for



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what I'll use is a different discussion for a different time). All in all, the basic rule

is that I will set up the date and make her feel that feeling of "of course we'll hang

out!" before I ask for the number.

One great tip someone mentioned (I can't remember who or I would give credit)

- he said to give the girl some kind of playful nickname during your conversation.

That way, you can use it when you call her and re-establish the memories and

feelings she had with you during the first conversation. In NLP terms, one might

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Chapter 10 :

Creating A Connection



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Creating Rapport, Deep Comfort and Wide Rapport

Legend:

What to talk about once you hook

Once you're reaching a point where a girl wants you to stay and talk, I assume

attraction and begin to connect with her. The point of forming a connection is

really to figure out some commonalities and things that you can do together to set

up a future date. Some people argue that they want to talk about crazy deep

subjects but for now I would suggest that you just get used to talking about what

each of you do for work, what you guys do for fun, and if you want to get into it

really what you're passionate about.

Edge:

I would say that conversations in clubs should really focus more on vibe than

subject matter. In other words, DEFINITELY don't try to be deep or profound -

keep it fun, light and engaging, but not deep.

I very much enjoy having deep, profound conversations about different subjects.

But I can guarantee that even if you manage to get a girl engaged into a deepconversation with you, she will run off the moment she sees something shiny-

looking and fun (metaphorically speaking). Women do not go to clubs to think .

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Legend:

Creating rapport and connection also known as building comfort

In the seduction community, there are two types of rapport:

Wide rapport

Getting wide rapport would consist of talking about any number of subjects andkeeping it light / surface-level as you talk about a ton of things. You talk about

your job, talk about her job, her about pets, talk about what you like to do for fun...

really anything. The principle behind wide rapport is that you both get to know a

little bit about everything in each other’s lives.

I suggest get to know a little bit about her then pick one topic and delve deeper into

it.

Deep rapport

Depending on the situation, I think deep rapport is a great way to feel a really

strong emotional connection. Think of deep rapport as deeply delving into one

specific topic that you're both interested in or that you yourself are interested in or

something that she is passionate about. If it's something that she is passionate

about and you can connect it to your life, great. I like to talk about what I do for

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talk about things that she is passionate about. The same way if you go into a set

nervous, then you will make everyone nervous and uncomfortable. Emotional

states are contagious. Use this to your advantage. Talk about things that you love

and really feel them inside. She will start to do the same and then you will create aconnection.



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Chapter 11:

Bringing it all together



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Legend:

Where you are now

A lot of the methods of vastly over complicate things. If you practice the first 10steps you will be at a point where you can start practicing your phone game and

going on day two's. If you can open and hook the conversation to the point where

the girl wants to talk to you then you can get her number almost all the time.

Then, if you work on connecting on topics then you have all you need to give you

a solid start in cold approaching. With just those skills and repeated

approaching you should have girls to go on a dates with if you practiceenough.

If you are hitting a sticking point and not getting the results you want yet then

sometimes you need a professionals touch. I know since I’ve been there before

learning “game” that I can quickly help you get to where you want to be.


Where are you Going

Over the next four articles, we are going to talk about what you'll need to really

progress from connecting with the girl to actually bedding the girl. Once we have

gone through these steps we will talk about more advanced aspects and techniques

that you can work into your cold approach game to drastically improve it. I think

it's great to keep things simple and small chunk your learning but once you have

the fundamentals down it's time to expand into the advanced section. Still there is

no point in worrying about building massive attraction or qualifying a girl if you

can't get her interested in having conversations with you. Stick to the basics until

you have them then expand.



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Section 2:

Taking it to the Next Step



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Phone game and TXT message Game

Legend:

How to use the phone number

My perspective on using the phone number is to text her that same night or

immediately the next day. I like to throw a few texts back and forth and then

transition to the phone as soon as possible. I can't tell you how many numbers have

stalled out on me just because of not transitioning to talking on the phone quickly.We all feel accomplished because we got the phone number, but it can come at a

price. Now that the feeling of accomplishment is there, it can actually prevent us

from calling to prevent us from possibly losing that feeling of validation by the fact

that now she might not pick up.

In reality a guy could've had a perfect cold approach and she just doesn't pick up

for some unknown reason. You have to get in the mindset that some things are justout of your control and just because it's not working on the phone doesn't mean

you didn't do a good job before. This is a very difficult barrier to push through, but

phone numbers just mean they want to talk to you - use them as quickly as possible

to get the two of you back meeting in real life.



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Edge:

I think a lot of guys get carried away in worrying about phone rules and whatnot. I

have had a lot of success calling the girl when I feel like it because I don't put a ton

of stock on it either way. It doesn't really matter to me all that much if I don't get

this particular girl, this particular time. So for anyone concerned about the 3 day

rule or how long to wait before you call a woman you met , I would just say put

your focus on lightening up and not caring so much about results. Caring too

much about how something might turn out is a sure-fire way to lose...

Legend:

TXT message Game

My text message game really consists of sending a simple text of "do you speaktext?" then I will usually say something funny connecting what we talked about the

night before and move on to the phone.



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Edge:

When it comes to texts, I keep it simple, light and funny. I'll usually call her some

nickname and be a little playful, referencing something I talked to her earlier. It's a

great way to build up a one-on-one bond with you... even if it is just by texting

over a phone, she's still focusing entirely on your banter and that further bonds her

to you.

Legend:

Phone game and talking on the phone

The phone is a great comfort building location. Really, I want to just get on there

and get comfortable talking to each other like you're just old friends. Once you've

established that it's okay to call each other then it's much easier to meet up and

continue to talk to each other.



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Edge:

When it comes to phone game, I usually do a few things. First, typically before I

call them I will have already talked to them for a while and had some kind of

banter. I will probably have gotten a sense of her sense of humor and maybe even

come up with a nickname for her. When I make the call, I touch on those themes

again to kind of re-enliven the feelings she had when she was talking to me

originally. Then, once the conversation is at a high note, I will quickly say, "Hey, I

gotta go . Any big plans tomorrow?" or whenever I want to

plan the date... Then I'll just say that we're going to go somewh

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Pick Up Evolution Getting Started in Game Guide