RELATIONSHIP TALK: POSITIONING

YOURSELF FOR EXCELLENCE IN MARRIAGE

PRESENTED

BY

SCOTT ODIGIE

TO

NCCF, OWO ZONE

ON

22ND MAY,2012

OUTLINE

1. Seminar declaration

2. Reference

3. Objective

4. Introduction

5. Principles

6. Interactive session

7. Conclusion

SEMINAR DECLARATION

Marital fulfillment is my

heritage and destiny in Christ.

Therefore, I am not permitted

to be a failure, but to be a

wonder to my generation.

REFERENCE: GEN 2:21-25 (KJV)

21 And the LORD God caused a deep

sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and

he took one of his ribs, and closed up the

flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib,

which the LORD God had taken from

man, made he a woman, and brought her

unto the man.

23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

OBJECTIVE

To empower you and I to

become references in

marriage to our individual

world.

INTRODUCTION

Marriage is as easy as anything we

choose to be a success in.

Until man understands God‟s

ideology/system about marriage, it

will forever become a burden.

INTRODUCTION

Nothing material, economical,

political that has the capacity to

brings marital fulfillment.

Success in marriage essentially

dependent on the personalities

(God, man, and woman) involved.

PRINCIPLES

1. Prioritize your „relationship with

God‟ than marriage, money,

beauty. This could also be termed

your love of God. Pro. 19:14.

(Abraham & Lot, Peter &

fishing).

PRINCIPLES

2. Discover your uniqueness;

purpose, passion, potential,

principles and personality-type, it

solidifies marriage. Gen.2:15. He

that can‟t find fulfillment,

appreciate and willing to build on

it, is not fit for you.

PRINCIPLES

Who is willing to pay the price for your value,

because you are expensive. Not everyone has the

capacity to pay the price for your value.

Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life”. John

the Baptist said, “I am the voice …”

PRINCIPLES

3. Understand your own „personal

style‟ of communication with

God. This answers the question of

assurance and conviction in

knowing HIS „will‟. Exo.6:3,

John 10:3-5.

PRINCIPLE

4. Understand your sexuality differences

Male and female are different in the

following:

Emotional difference (menstrual cycle every

month)

Physical difference (muscles, breast, )

Hormonal difference (testosterone &

estrogen)

PRINCIPLES

4. Understand your season‟s. Don‟t

allow your choice to be influenced by

popular opinion, economics and

parental pressure. If God is still

working on your „will‟, „emotions‟

and management capacity, give Him

the chance. Phil.2:13.

PRINCIPLES

5. Understand what love is not. 1Cor.13:1-

8.

Sexual feelings do not equate love.

Love affairs in romance books,

magazines, and movies are not genuine

love.

Love is not blind.

PRINCIPLES

Real love is not infatuation.

Love is not having sex before marriage.

Courting an unbeliever is not genuine

love.

PRINCIPLES

6. Learn to define your relationship

with the opposite sex. Not anyone

you meet can be your spouse.

Gen.2:23.

PRINCIPLES

7. In your choice-making, let God‟s

„will‟ be your most priority rather

than materialism, tribalism,

intellectualism. 1 peter 3:2-4.

PRINCIPLES

8. Choose your

friends/associates/partners. It is

your choice and by compulsion.

Acts 4:13, Pro.13:20, Pro.12:26.

PRINCIPLES

9. Learn to make and develop

friendship with the opposite sex.

Avoid being suspicious and

defensive. Pro.14:7.

PRINCIPLES

10.Build your belief systems on God‟

word. Focus on God‟s principles

and promises and not your failure

experiences or other peoples

experiences to form your belief

system about marriage.

PRINCIPLES

11.Go for knowledge through

literatures, seminars, conferences,

and audio-visual materials. John

5:39, Pro.11:14.

PRINCIPLES

12.Look for a mentor, a spiritual

father or mother that you can

confide in. example is the

relationship between Naomi &

Ruth, Mordecai & Esther.

INTERACTIVE SESSION

CONCLUSION

Trust in God and take

responsibility. Thank you for

listening.