Self esteemHarminder Singh

Self EsteemSelf Esteem is how we feel about ourselves. It is a feeling which comes from awareness of what is good and having done it

Builds strong conviction

Creates willingness to accept responsibility

Builds optimistic attitudes

Leads to better relationships

Makes a person self motivated and ambitious

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CHARACTERISTICS OF SELF ESTEEM

How do we recognise poor self esteem?

People with poor Self Esteem

People with Poor Self Esteem

Gossip mongers

Critical Nature

Closed Minded

Never Accept Responsibility

Jealous by nature

Bored and uncomfortable

Don’t have genuine friends

Tend to be lonely

Some Characteristics of people withHigh Self Esteem Low Self Esteem

Talk about ideas Caring attitude Humility Respects authority Confidence Concerned about

character Willing to learn Believes in self worth Guided

Talk about people Critical attitude Arrogance Rebels against authority Confusion Concerned about

reputation Know it all Believes in net worth

only Misguided

A young executive with poor self esteem was promoted but he couldn’t reconcile himself to his new office and position. There was a knock at a door. To show how important and busy he was, he picked up a phone and then asked the visitor to come in. As the man waited for the executive, the executive kept on talking on the phone, nodding and saying, “No problem, I can handle that.”

After a few minutes he hung up and asked the visitor what he could do for him. The man replied, “Sir, I’m here to connect your phone.”

THEY PUT ON A MASK

Movies

Music

Company

Jokes

Books

Judgment of Person’s Character

Every action of ours give us away anyway, so why pretend?

CAUSES OF LOW SELF ESTEEM

Negative self Talk

This is when we say to ourselves, consciously or unconsciously any statements

Environment

The greatest thing a parent can give to his children are roots.

Upbringing

Parents with low self esteem breed confusion and low self esteem in their children.

Poor role models

Being ignorant is not shameful, but being unwilling to learn is.

Making unfair comparison

Unfair comparisons make a person feel inferior.

Confusing Failing with Failure

People start looking at themselves as failures, not realizing that failing does not equal failure.

Unrealistic Expectations by Parents, Teachers and Supervisors

If we lower our standards, the chances are pretty good, that the performance next time would drop to those expectations

Lack of Discipline

Discipline does not mean that a person takes a belt and beats up kids. That is madness.

Labeling and Put-Downs by Parents, Teachers and supervisors

Labels do not only stick for life but for generations. The caste system like Upper Caste or Lower Caste.

Teaching the Right values

Many times, innocently we end up teaching and learning wrong values within our families

STEPS TO BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF ESTEEM

Turn Scars into Stars

Read the life histories of people who have turned a negative into a positive.

Learn Intelligent Ignorance

When you don’t know your limitations, you go out and surprise yourself. The only limitations that a person has are those that are self imposed.

Do something for others who Cannot Repay You in Cash or Kind

The process of giving without having expectations or getting anything in return raises one’s self esteem.

Learn to Give and Receive Compliments

When others give you a compliment, accept it graciously and gracefully with two words, “Thank You”

Accept Responsibilty

We have to accept responsibility and stop blaming others.

Set GoalsWell-defined goals give a person a sense of direction, a feeling of accomplishment when he reaches his goals.

Associate with people of High Moral Character

Associate yourself with people of good quality if you esteem your reputation.

Become Internally Driven, Not Externally Driven

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

- Eleanor Roosevelt

Give Yourself Positive Auto-Suggestions

Develop the habit of giving yourself positive self-talk. Auto-suggestions alter our belief system by influencing the subconscious mind.

Have PatienceHave patience and keep doing the right thing. Even though the results may not be visible, something is happening.

Take inventory: Make a list of All Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Successful people realize their limitations but build on their strengths. Unless, we know these things, how can we build on them?

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HARMINDER SINGH