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THE BOOK OFFRIENDSHIP

THE BOOK OF

FRIENDSHIP

WHEN I have attempt-

ed to join myself to

others by services, it

proved an intellec-

tual trick,—no more. They eat

your service like apples, and leave

you out. But love them, and they

feel you, and delight in you all the

time. —Emcrion.

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SO,if I live or die to serve

my friend,

Tis for my love,—

'tis for

my friend alone.

And not for any rate that friend-

ship bears

In heaven or on earth. —George Eiiot

Old friends are the only ones

whose hold is upon our inmost be-

ing; others but half replace them.

—Voltaire

True friends appear less mov'd

than counterfeit. —Horace

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ITIS sublime to feel and say

of another, I need never

meet, or speak, or write to

him; we need not reenforce

ourselves, or send tokens of re-

membrance; I rely on him as on

myself; if he did thus and thus, I

know it was right. —EmeMon

A true Friendship is as wise as

it is tender. The parties to it

yield implicitly to the guidance of

their love, and know no other law

but kindness. —Hcnrj D. Xhoreau

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FRIENDSHIP is a vase,

which, when it is flawed

by heat or violence or ac-

cident, may as well be

broken at once; it can never be

trusted after. The more graceful

and ornamental it was, the more

clearly do we discern the hopeless-

ness of restoring it to its former

state. Coarse stones, if they are

fractured, may be cemented again;

precious stones never. — Landor

Friendship's the wine of life.—Young

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GIVE me the avow'd, the

erect, the manly foe ;

Bold I can meet

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perhaps may turn

his blow ;

But of all plagues, good Heaven,

thy wrath can send,

Save, save, oh! save me from the

candid friend. -_George Canning

How often we find ourselves

turning our backs on our actual

Friends, that we may go and meet

their ideal cousins. —Henry D. Thoreau

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COMMON friendships will

admit of division; one

may love the beauty of

this, the good humor of

that person, the Hberahty of a

third, the paternal affection of a

fourth, the fraternal love of a fifth,

and so on. But this friendship

that possesses the w^hole soul, and

there rules and sways v^îth an

absolute sovereignty, can :,dmit of

no rival. —Montaigne

Friendship is a sheltering tree.

—Coleridge

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WE love everything on

our own account;

we even follow our

own taste and in-

cl in at ion when we prefer our

friends to ourselves; and yet it is

this preference that alone consti-

tutes true and perfect friendship.

—La Rochefoucauld

Friendships begin with liking or

gratitude. —George Eliot

In friendship I early was taught

to believe. —Byron

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INall thy humors, whether

grave or mellow

Thou'rt such a touchy,

testy, pleasant fellow,

Hast so much wit and mirth and

spleen about thee.

That there's no living with thee, or

without thee. —Additon

Friendship of itself a holy tie.

Is made more sacred by adversity.

—Drydea

Love and friendship exclude one

another. —La Btujhe

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FRIENDSHIP is a severe

sentiment, solidly seated,

since it rests upon all

that is highest in us,

the purely intellectual part of us.

What happiness to be able to say

all that one feels to someone who

comprehends one to the very end

and not only up to a certain point,

to someone who completes one's

thought with the same word that

was on one*s lips, someone the

reply of whom starts from one a

torrent of conceptions, a flood of

ideas! —Pierre Loti

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THE man that hails you

Tom or Jack,

And proves by thumps

upon your back

How he esteems your merit,

Is such a friend that one had need

Be very much his friend indeed

To pardon or to bear it.

—Cowper

Judge before friendship, then

confide till death. —Young

Have no friend not equal to

yourself. —Confudut

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SEP A R AT E thyself from

thine enemies, and take

heed of thy friends. Afaithful friend is a strong

defence ; and he that hath found

such an one hath found a treasure.

Nothing doth countervail a faithful

friend, and his excellency is invalu-

able. A faithful friend is the

medicine of life; and they that

fear the Lord shall find him.

—The Book of Ecclcsiasticut

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THOU may'st be sure that

he that will, in private,

tell thee of thy faults, is

thy friend, for he

adventures thy dislike, and doth

hazard thy hatred; there are few

men that can endure it, every man

for the most part delighting in

self-praise, which is one of the

most universal follies that

bewitcheth mankind.

—Sir Walter Raleigh

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ONCE let friendship be

given that is born of

God, nor time nor cir-

cumstance can change it

to a lessening; it must be mutual

growth, increasing trust, widening

faith, enduring patience, forgiving

love, unselfish ambition, and an

affection built before the Throne,

which will bear the test of time

and trial. —Allan Throckmorton

Friendship is a field which one

sows. —Rettif de la Br^tonne

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AMAN that is fit to make

a friend of must have

conduct to manage the

engagement, and resolu-

tion to maintain it. He must use

freedom without roughness, and

oblige without design. Cowardice

will betray friendship, and covet-

ousness will starve it. Folly will

be nauseous, passion is apt to ruffle,

and pride will fly out into con-

tumely and neglect. —Jercmy Collier

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SOME look to friendship

for absolute exemption

from criticism, and for a

mutual admiration with-

out limit or conditions. Others

mistake it for the right of exces-

sive criticism, in season and out of

season. —John Morle/

Of what use is the friendliest

disposition even, if there are no

hours given to Friendship, if it is

forever postponed to unimportant

duties and relations .?

•—Henry D. Thoreau

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WHAT is loving—that

verb (amare) where-

from the very name

of friendship (ami^

citia) is derived—but wishing one

to enjoy the best possible good

fortune, even if none of it accrues

to one's self? —ciccro

Even the utmost good-will and

harmony and practical kindness

are not sufficient for Friendship,

for Friends do not live in harmony

merely, as some say, but in melody.

—Henry D. Thoreau

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THINK of the importance

of Friendship in the

education of men. It

will make a man honest;

It will make him a hero; it will

make him a saint. It is the state

of the just dealing with the just,

the magnanimous with the mag-

nanimous, the sincere with the

sincere, man with man.

—Henry D. Thoreau

The admirer is never stupid in

the eyes of the admired. —Hcivctiu«

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ONE of the surest evidences

of friendship that one in-

dividual can display to

another is telling him

gently of a fault. If any other can

excel it, it is listening to such a dis-

closure with gratitude, and amend-

ing the error. —Bulwer-Lytton

We never exchange more than

three words with a Friend in our

lives on that level to which our

thoughts and feelings almost

habitually rise. —Henry D. Xhorcau

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IFthou wouldst get a friend,

prove him first, and be not

hasty to credit him; for some

man is a friend for his own

occasion, and will not abide in the

day of thy trouble. And there is

a friend who, being turned to enmity

and strife, will discover thy reproach

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Again, some friend is a companion

at the table, and will not continue

in the day of thine affliction.

—The Book of Ecclcsiasticus

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FRIENDSHIP is a pact

where one balances

faults and qualities.

One can judge a friend,

take account of what is good,

neglect what is evil, and appre-

ciate exactly his value, in aban-

doning one's self to an intimate,

profound and charming sympathy.

—Guy de Maupassant

Everyone can have a friend

Who himself knows how to be a

friend. Ôld Saying

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SON,if the lintels of thy

house are lofty, and thy

friend be sick, say not:

What shall I send to him ?

Go thou rather on foot, and see

him with thy eyes; for that is bet-

ter for him than a thousand talents

of gold or silver. -Arabian Legend

We must love our friends as true

amateurs love paintings: they have

their eyes perpetually fixed upon

the fine qualities, and see no

others. ~Mmc. d'Epinay

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NOTHING is SO difficult

as to help a Friend in

matters which do not

require the aid of

Friendship, but only a cheap and

trivial service, if your Friendship

wants the basis of a thorough

practical acquaintance.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Great souls by instinct to each

other turn,

Demand alliance, and in friendship

burn. —Addisoa

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FAST as the rolling seasons

bring

The hour of fate to those

we love,

Each pearl that leaves the broken

string

Is set in Friendship's crown

above.

As narrower grows the earthly

chain,

The circle widens in the sky;

These are our treasures that re-

main,

But those are stars that beam

on high. —o. w. Hoimc«

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THERE is nothing more

becoming any wise man,

than to make choice of

friends, for by them thou

shalt be judged as thou art; let

them therefore be wise and vir-

tuous, and none of those that

follow thee for gain; but make

election rather of thy betters, than

thy inferiors. _Sir Waiter Raldgh

True friendship is like sound

health: the value of it is seldom

known until it be lost. _c. c. Coiton

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AWOMAN'S friendship

borders more closely

on love than man's.

Men affect each other

in the reflection of noble or friendly

acts ; whilst women ask fewer

proofs and more signs and expres-

sions of attachment. — Coieridge

Be slow in choosing a friend,

slower in changing. —Franklin

A true friend to a man is a

friend to all his friends. —wycheriey

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HALF a word from your

friend says more to you

than many phrases, for

you are accustomed to

think with him. You comprehend

all the sentiments which animate

him, and he knows it. You are

two intelligences which add to and

complement each other. — pierre Loti

Friendship ! mysterious cement of

the soul

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Sweet'ner of life ! and solder of

society ! -Robert Blair

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FRIENDSHIP is first,

Friendship last. But it

is equally impossible to

forget our Friends, and

to make them answer to our ideal.

When they say farewell, then

indeed we begin to keep them

company. —Henry D. Thoreau

In friendship we see the faults

which may be prejudicial to our

friends. In love we see no faults,

but those by which we ourselves

suffer. —La Bruyire

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COME back I ye friendships

long departed I

That like overflowing

streamlets started,

And now are dwindled one by

one.

To stony channels in the sun!

Come back, ye friends whose lives

are ended.

Come back, with all that light at-

tended,

Which seemed to darken and

decay

When ye arose and went away.

—Loa|fellow

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OUR friends are generally

ready to do everything

for us except the very

thing we wish them to

do. There is one thing in par-

ticular they are always disposed

to give us, and which we are as

unwilling to take, namely, advice.

—HazUtt

There is nothing that is meri-

torious but virtue and friendship,

and indeed friendship itself is only

a part of virtue. —Pope

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THERE are three friend-

ships which are advan-

tageous, and three which

are injurious. Friendship

with the upright; friendship with

the sincere, and friendship with the

man of observation: these are

advantageous. Friendship with

the man of specious airs; friendship

with the insinuatingly soft, and

friendship with the gHb of tongue:

these are injurious. —Confudus

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AGENEROUS friendship

no cold medium knows,

Burns with one love,with

one resentment glows

;

One should our interests and our

passions be,

My friend must hate the man that

injures me. —Homer (Pope's Tr.)

My friend is that one whom I

can associate with my choicest

thought. —Henry D. Thoreau

Go, humble thyself, and make

sure thy friend. —The Book of Prorerb.

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VERITABLE friends en-

joy, in moral order,

the perfection of scent

that dogs do ; they

thus divine the chagrins of their

comrades; they see the causes and

concern themselves with them.

—B*lx«c

I have loved my friends, as I do

virtue, my soul, my God.

—Sir Thomai Browne

The most certain fortress against

evil is that of friendship. —cicew

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CHARITY itself commands

us, where we know no

ill, to think well of all;

but friendship, that

always goes a pitch higher, gives a

man a peculiar right and claim to

the good opinion of his friend.

—Robert South

Therefore example take by me,

For friendship parts in poverty.

—English Ballad

A friend is worth all hazards we

can run. —Young

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BEWARE, lest thy Friend

learn at last to tolerate

one frailty of thine, and

so an obstacle be raised

to the progress of thy love.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Nothing is more dangerous than

an imprudent friend; better to have

to deal vîth a prudent enemy.•—La Fontains

I hate the prostitution of the name

of friendship to signify modish and

worldly alliances. —Emerson

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OLD friends are the great

blessings of one's latter

years. Half a word

conveys one's meaning.

They have memory of the same

events, and have the same mode of

thinking. I have young relations

that grow upon me, for my nature

is affectionate, bu^- can they grow

old friends ^ My age forbids

that. Still less can they grow

companions. Is it friendship to

explain half one says ? One

must relate the history of one's

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memory and ideas ; and what

is that to the young but old

stories ? —Horace Walpole

What is commonly called

Friendship even is only a little

more honor among rogues.

—Henry D. Thoreau

The friendships of the world are oft

Confederacies in vice, or leagues of

pleasure;

Ours has severest virtue for its basis,

And such a friendship ends not but

with life. -AddiKJo

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THERE are jilts in friend-

ship as well as in love,

and by the behavior of

some men in both, one

would almost imagine that they

industriously sought to gain the

affections of others with a view only

of making the parties miserable.

—Henry Fielding

Friendship is evanescent in

every man's experience, and re-

membered like heat lightning in

past summers, —Henry D. Thoreau

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GIVE, and you may keep

your friend if you lose

your money ; lend, and

the chances are that

you lose your friend if ever you

get back your money.

—Bulwer-Lyttoq

I would that I were worthy to

be any man's Friend.

—Henry D. Thoreau

There is nothing sweeter than

a warm friendship, but continual

emotion embitters. —Joseph Reinach

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DEAR is my friend

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but

from my foe, as from

My friend, comes good;

the first what I can do

Shows, and the second what I

should. —SchiUcr

Every friend is to the other a

sun, and a sunflower also. He

attracts and follows.

—Jean Paul Richter

Kindred weaknesses induce

friendships as often as kindred vir-

tues. —C. N. Bovee

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ONE must shed his blood to

serve his friends and to

avenge himself upon his

enemies; otherwise he is

not worthy of the name of man.

—Voltaire

Friendship takes place between

those who have an affinity for one

another, and is a perfectly natural

and inevitable result.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Talking with a friend is nothing

else but thinking aloud. —Addiwn

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^^K TBÛTUAL comprehension

% / 1 makes for friendship,

X Y M ^^^ miHtates against

love ; for love — like

modern society papers—must have

a " puzzle column " for those that

take It m. —Ellen Thomeycroft Fowler

Whatever the number of a man's

friends, there will be times in his

life when he has one too few.

—Bulwer-Lytton

The friendship of a great man

is a gift of the gods. -Voltaire

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AH I were I sever'd from

thy side,

Where were thy friend,

and who my guide ?

Years have not seen, Time shall

not see

The hour that tears my soul from

thee. —Byron

False friends are like our

shadow, keeping close to us while

we walk in the sunshine, but leav-

ing us the instant we cross into

the shade. —c. n. Bovee

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IHAVE friends in Spirit

land,

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Not shadows in a shadowy

band,

Not others but themselves are

they;

And still I think of them the same

As when the Master's summons

came. —whittitr

Life is to be fortified by many

friendships. To love and to be

loved is the greatest happiness of

existence. —Sydney Smith

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SHOULD auld acquaintance

be forgot,

And never brought to

min* ?

Should auld acquaintance be forgot.

And days o* auld lang syne ?

—Bunu

No man has been able to discover

how to give a friendly counsel to

any woman, not even to his wife.

—Baliac

In friendships, some are worthy,

and some are necessary.

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YOU do not know how

great is the value of

friendship, if you do

not understand how

much you give to him to whom

you give a friend. —Seneca

Faint heart never won true

Friend. O my Friend, may it

come to pass, once, that when you

are my Friend I may be yours.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Rare as is true love, true friend-

ship IS rarer. —La Fontaine

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CEREMONY was but de-

vis'd at first

To set a gloss on

faint deeds, hollow

welcomes,

Recanting goodness, sorry ere 'tis

shown;

But where there is true friendship,

there needs none. —Shakespeare

Friends are companions on a

journey, who ought to aid each

other to persevere in the road to a

happier life. —Pythagoras

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HAVE friends : It is

the second existence-

Every friend is good

and wise for his friend,

and among them all gets well

managed. —BalthaBar Gridan

When our friends arc present,

we ought to treat them well; and

when they are absent, to speak of

them well. —Epictetut

To Friendship every burden's

light. —John Owy

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ALL are friends In heaven,

all faithful friends,

And many friendships

in the days of Time

Begun, are lasting here, and grow-

ing still. —Robert Pollok

A Friend is one who incessantly

pays us the compliment of expect-

ing from us all the virtues, and

who can appreciate them in us.

—Htarj D. Thorciu

Friendship is immeasurably

better than kindness.

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THE friendship that I have

conceived will not be

impaired by absence,

but it may be no un-

pleasing circumstance to brighten

the chain by a renewal of the

covenant. —George Washington

True friendship between man

and man is infinite and immortal.

—Plato

Purchase not friends with gifts;

when thou ceasest to give, such

will cease to love. —Thomas FuUcr

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EVERYTHING is well,

provided one reaches

the end of the day, that

one sups and that one

sleeps. The rest is " vanity of

vanities," as says " the other.'*

But friendship is a veritable thing.

—Voltaire

Ah, how good it feels;

The hand of an old friend

!

—Longfellow

No friend's a friend till he shall

prove a friend. —Beaumont and Fletcher

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WE hate some persons

because we do not

know them, and we

will not know them

because we hate them. The

friendships that succeed to such

aversions are usually firm, for

those qualities must be sterling

that could not only gain our

hearts, but conquer our prejudices.

—Colton

The amity that wisdom knits not,

folly may easily untie. —shakeipeare

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FRIENDSHIP, eaual-

poised control,

O heart with kindliest

motion warm,

O sacred essence, other form,

O solemn ghost, O crowned soul!

—Tennjton

Who friendship with a knave hath

made

Is judg'd a partner in the trade.

—John Gay

Let your friends be the friends

of your deliberate choice.

—BalthaMF Gradan

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DO not have evil-doers for

friends ; do not have

low people for friends;

have virtuous people for

thy friends ; have for thy friends

the best of men. —The Dhammapada

A friend loveth at all times, and

a brother is born for adversity.

—The Book of Proverbs

What room can there be for

friendship, or who can be a friend

to anyone whom he does not love

for that one's own sake ? —cicero

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M'AKE no friendship with

an angry man that is

given to anger, and

with a furious man

thou shalt not go. —The Book of Proverbs

What ill-starr'd rage

Divides a friendship long confirm'd

by age ? —Pope

Friends should be weighed, not

told; who boasts to have won a

multitude of friends has never had

one. —Coleridge

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FRIENDSHIP should be

surrounded with cere-

monies and respects,

and not crushed into

corners. Friendship requires more

time than poor busy men can

usually command. —Emerson

Friendship is like rivers, and the

strand of seas, and the air, common

to all the world; but tyrants, and

evil customs, wars, and want of

love, have made them proper and

peculiar. —Jeremy Taylor

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IHATE where I looked for a

manly furtherance, or at

least a manly resistance, to

find a mush of concession.

Better be a nettle in the side of

your friend than his echo. —Emerson

He who is a friend to every-

body is nobody's friend.

—Spaaith Prorerb

For tho' the faults were thick as

dust

Vacant chambers, I could trust

Your kindness. —Xenuywa

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AFRIEND is he who sets

his heart upon us, is

happy with us, and

deHghts in us, does for

us what we want, is wilHng and

fully engaged to do all he can for

us, on whom we can rely in all

cases. —Channing

Friendship is Love, without

either flowers or veil.

—J. C. and A. W. Hare

We call friendship the love of the

Dark Ages. —Mme. de Stael

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PURE friendship is what

none can attain to the

taste of save those who

are well-born.

—La Bruyere

Friendship is a plant of slow

growth, and must undergo and with-

stand the shocks of adversity, before

it is entitled to the appellation.

—Washington

I love a friendship that flatters

itself in the sharpness and vigor of

its communications. —Montaigne

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NÔword is oftener on the

lips of man than Friend-

ship, and indeed no

thought is more famil-

iar to their aspirations.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Friendships are the purer and

the more ardent, the nearer they

come to the presence of God, the

Sun not only of righteousness but

of love. -Landor

A friend may well be reckoned

the masterpiece of nature, —Emereo*

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HE will find himself in

a great mistake who

either seeks a friend in

a palace, or tries him

at a feast. —Seneci

Friendship—<?«r friendship—is like

the beautiful shadows of evening,

Spreading and growing till life and

its light pass away

—Michael Vitkovici

That friendship will not continue

to the end that is begun for an

end, —Francis Quarlei

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EET friendship creep gently

to a height; if it rush to

it, it may soon run itself

out of breath.

—Thomas Fuller

Friendship must not surmise or

provide for infirmity. It treats its

object as a god, that it may deify

both. —Emerson

True friendship's laws are by this

rule expressed:

Welcome the coming, speed the

parting guest. —Homer (Pope's Tr.)

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REAL friendship is a

slow growtr and never

thrives unless en-

grafted upon a stock

of known and reciprocal merit.

—Lord Chesterfield

Friendship builds itself up: it is

a sentiment which walks circum-

spectly. —Henry Murger

The essence of friendship is en-

tireness, a total magnanimity and

trust. —Emerson

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YOU will forgive me, I

hope, for the sake of

the friendship between

us,

Which is too true and too sacred

to be so easily broken.

—Longfellow

Friendship, like love, is but a name,

Unless to one you stint the flame.

—John Gaj

I do not wish to see my friends

as I run; I want to enjoy them in

long draughts. —Comte de BU817 Rabutin

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FOR affection, or the

faintest imitation of it,

a man should be obliged

to his very dog. But for

the gross assistance of patronage

or purse, let him pause before

accepting them from anyone.

Thine own friend, and thy fath-

er's friend, forsake not.

—The Book of ProTcrb*

The only good friends are old

friends. —Voit»ir«

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WHOSOEVER formeth

an intimacy with

the enemies of his

friends, does so to

injure the latter. O wise man !

wash your hands of that friend who

associates with your enemies, —saadi

To thrust aside a virtuous friend,

I consider as bad as to thrust away

one's own Hfe, which one loves

best. —Sophocles

Friendship is one soul in two

bodies. —Pjthagorat

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HE removes the greatest

ornament of friendship

who takes away from

it respect. —cicero

Friendship is no respecter of

sex; and perhaps it is more rare

between the sexes, than between

two of the same sex.

—Henry D. Thoreau

The loss of a friend is Hke that

of a Hmb; time may heal the an-

guish of the wound, but the loss

cannot be repaired. —Southcy

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AS in the fire the yellow

gold is tried,

So friendship's faith

can but be proved

in time

Of dark adversity. —Orid

I always avoid contention, but if

it shall happen, I had rather lose

my money than my friend.

—Erasmus

There are three faithful friends

—an old wife, an old dog and

ready money. —Franklin

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N'Ôdiscovery of defect in

a character essentially

good can so dampen

friendship as the sus-

picion that something is kept back.

—Channing

Thou learnest no secret until

thou knowest friendship, since to

the unsound no heavenly knowledge

enters. —Hafir

The dearest thing in nature is

not comparable to the dearest thing

of friendship. —Jcrcmj Tajlor

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THERE can never be deep

peace between two

spirits, never mutual re-

spect, until, in their

dialogue, each stands for the

whole world. —Emerson

The Friend asks no return but

that his Friend will religiously

accept and wear and not disgrace

his apotheosis of him.—Henry D. Thoreau

Friendship new is neither strong

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or pure. —YoungI

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FRIENDSHIP is constant

in all other things

Save in the office and

affairs of love

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Therefore, all hearts in love use

their own tongues. —Shakespeare

A friendship that makes the

least noise is often the most useful;

for which reason I should prefer a

prudent friend to a zealous one.

—Addison

A faithful friend is a true image

of the Deity. —Napoleon

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FRIEND! O best of

friends ! Thy absence

more

Than the Impending

night darkens the landscape

o'er ! —LongfeUow

The place where two friends first

met is sacred to them all through

their friendship, all the more sacred

as their friendship deepens and

grows old. —PhiUips Brooki

Stay is a charming word in a

friend's vocabulary, -a. Bronwn Aicott

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WE have a great deal

more kindness than

is ever spoken.

Maugre all the

selfishness that chills like east-

winds the world, the whole human

family is bathed with an element

of love like a fine ether. —Emerson

A man that hath friends must

shew himself friendly.

—The Book of Proverbi

Friendship is the marriage of the

soul. —Voltaire

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SOME friendships are made

by nature, some by con-

tract, some by interest

and some by souls.

—Jerem,y Taylor

Friendship consists properly in

mutual offices, and a generous

strife in alternate acts of kindness.

—Robert South

The friends thou hast, and their

adoption tried,

Grapple them to thy soul with hoops

of steel. —Shakespeare

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HEAVEN gives us friends

to bless the present

scene ;

Resumes them, to pre-

pare us for the next. —Young

Old friends are best. King

James used to call for his old

shoes ; they were easiest to his

feet. —John Seldea

True friends are the whole world

to one another; and he that is a

friend to himself is also a friend

to mankind. —Seneca

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THERE is no man so

friendless but what he

can find a friend sincere

enough to tell him dis-

agreeable truths. —Bulwer-Lytton

Friendship is too pure a pleasure

for a mind cankered with ambition,

or the lust of power and grandeur.

—Juniui

The firmest friendships have

been formed in mutual adversity

as iron is most strongly united by

the fiercest flame. —Coiton

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BETWEEN friends, fre-

quent reproofs make

the friendship distant.

— Confucius

We must accept or refuse one

another as we are. I could tame

a hyena more easily than my

Friend. He is a material which

no tool of mine will work.

—Henry D. Thoremu

A true and noble friendship

shrinks not at the greatest of

trials. —Jeremy Taylor

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FRIENDSHIP hath the

skill and observation of

the best physician, the

diligence and vigilance

of the best nurse, and the tender-

ness and patience of the best

mother. —The Earl of Clarendon

Friendship is the only thing in

the world concerning the usefulness

of v^hich all the vvôrld is agreed.

— Cicero

Friendship is a disinterested

commerce between equals Goldsmith

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FRIENDSHIP, flavor of

flowers! O lively sprite

of life!

O sacred bond of bliss-

ful peace, the stalworth staunch

of strife!

—Nicholas Grimald

The man who has no enemies

deserves to have no friends.

—R. C. MacDonald

He that will lose his friend for a

jest, deserves to die a beggar by

the bargain. —Thomas Fuller

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N'Ôfriendship is so cordial

or so delicious as that

of girl for girl ; no

hatred so intense and

immovable as that of woman for

woman. —Landor

Faith and friendship are seldom

truly tried, but in extremes.

—Owen Felltham

To hear complaints with

patience, even when complaints

are vain, is one of the duties of

friendship. —Dr. Johnson

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ICAN never think of promot-

ing my convenience at the

expense of a friend's inter-

est and inclination.

—George Washington

We lose some friends for whose

loss we regret more than we grieve;

and others whose departure causes

us grief, but not regret.

La Rochefoucauld

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Friendship is a word the very

sight of which in print makes the

heart warm. —Auguttine Birrd

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YOU, who forget your

own friends, meanly

to follow after those

of a higher degree,

are a snob.

—Thackeray

Friendship is a plant that loves

the sun, thrives ill under clouds.

—A. Bronson Alcott

To have the same desires and

the same aversions is assuredly a

firm bond of friendship. —saiiust

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NÔTHING makes the

earth seem so spacious

as to have friends at

a distance ; they make

the latitudes and longitudes.

—Henry D. Thoreau

Friendship, pecuhar boon of

heaven,

The noble mind's delight and

pride,

To men and angels only given,

To all the lower world denied

!

—Samuel Johnson

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FRIENDSHIP heightens all

our affections. We re-

ceive all the ardor of

our friends in addition

to our own. The communication

of minds gives to each the fervor

of each. —Channing

Friendship ! Sir, there can be

no such thing without an equality I

—Farquhar

Friendship admits of difference

of character, as love does that of

sex. —Joseph Roux

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SOMETHING like home,

that is not home, is to

be desired ; it is to be

found in the house of

a friend. _sir WUliam Temple

The feeling of friendship is like

that of being comfortably filled

with roast beef; love, like being

enlivened with champagne.

—Dr. Johnion

Take the advice of a faithful

friend, and submit thy inventions

to his censure. —Thomas FuUer

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WHEN men are friends,

there is no need of

justice ; but when

they are just, they

still need friendship.

—Aristotle

There are no rules for friend-

ship. It must be left to itself; we

cannot force it any more than love.

—William Hazlitt

In friendship, your heart is like

a bell struck every time your friend

is in trouble. ^h. w. Bcechet

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CEREMONY and great

professing renders

friendship as much sus-

pected as it does religion.

—Wycherley

The most famlHar and intimate

habitudes, connections, friendships,

require a degree of good-breeding

both to preserve and cement them.

—Lord Chesterfield

Sincerity, truth, faithfulness,

come into the very essence of

friendship. —channing

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THE services whichcement friendship are

reciprocal services. Afeeling of dependence is

scarcely compatible with friend-

ship. —WiUiam Smith

It is better to break off a

thousand friendships than to en-

dure the sight of a single enemy.

—Saacfi

Nature and religion are the bands

of friendship, excellency and useful-

ness are its great endearments.

—Jeremy Tajlor

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