TMFT Ocean Edition April 2011

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Message From the PublisherDear Readers and Friends,

Have you shown praise to your kids lately? Did you know that showing praise increases the bond of affection between a parent and child? Praise also builds self-esteem and self worth for children. Try to make this March the month to start praising your children and family more regularly. We all tend to take for granted and loose gratitude for those closest to us. Whether it is a friendship or a mem-ber of your family, praise is always nice to hear and it is a great way to reinforce the relationship. Remember effective praise must be given with sincerity and enthusiasm. Talk to your children about who they feel in their life that deserves some praise more often and how they can learn to make gratitude and praise a part of their daily lives. I am certain your child’s world will be a happier place.

Have a joyous spring!Regards, Cami

Publisher: Cami GuntherAssistant to Publisher: Shawna Singler

Account Executive: Lisa GiulianoGraphic Design: Marisa Sanfilippo

Editor: Robin WolffDistribution Manager: Matthew Honeycutt

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1. Begin to understand that your girl genuinely feels strongly about the challenges in her child/teen world. Although it might seem trivial to you (“It’s one bad hair day, you can’t always get what you want”), right now, in this stage of her life, it is all consuming. So how do we help and support her through her challenges? We enter her world and we begin to see things the way she does (from her perspective). 2. Empathize with her distress. It is a simple response but sometimes the hardest thing to do as a parent. When we empathize we REC-OGNIZE and ACCEPT someone else’s emotions. When we see our girl’s in distress we want to fix it fast and taking the time to recog-nize our child’s pain can leave us feeling some pain too. Yuck. How-ever, it is important to remember that when you empathize you not only help your daughter through a rough spot but you are conveying two deeper messages. A) You cre-ate the opportunity to discuss with your daughter what she is going

through. B) You give your daughter permission and support to have the emotional experience she is feeling. 3. When you challenge, deny or ignore her emotions you may com-municate that what she is feeling is unaccept-able. So providing empathy is an op-portunity to validate your girls evolving sense of self. This will begin to add suc-cesses to her bank of emotional experi-ences.

4. When your girl expresses an emotion, try to affirm or empathize with her experience. For example: “Mom, she made fun of my out-

fit and then said, ‘Just Kidding.’ But everyone was laughing.” An empathetic response would sound like this: “I can see why you feel hurt. That sounds embarrassing or I’m sorry this happened to you.”…and then you can go on to problem solving together.

5. In our adult world it would some-thing like this. Say you had a really bad day and you tell your friend about it and she/he says,

“It couldn’t have been that bad, or your getting upset about THAT!?! or that’s life.” I’m sure at some point you’ve had this happen. It doesn’t feel good. We recognize that our feelings have been denied

and as a result the conversation usual stops, we might shut down or choose not to confide in this friend anymore. But what about when we say the same thing to a friend who replies with, “You sound so upset, tell me about it or I’m sorry it was so hard for you, I’m here to help.” You probably felt comfortable sharing more, confid-ing and afterwards felt a sense of being cared for, a sense of relief or renewed hope. 6. For your girl, sometimes just having someone understand how much distress she is in makes her charged emotion easier to handle. This will help her think and use her own problem solving skills instead of getting wrapped up in the fact that she was not heard or validated in the first place.

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GRASS FOR YOUR FAMILY

Make Your Own Grass Head Discuss With Your Child: Discuss what grass seed needs to start to grow (germinate): water, light, soil. Teach your child that the more they give their heads a “haircut” the better the grass will grow. Discuss the life cycle of the grass, which is about 6 weeks. This fact can be related to the cycles of other plants, animals, and even people.

What Your Child Will Gain And Learn: This is a great chance to give your child a hands on life-cycle lesson, which they can do at home and as a family. It also

provides a chance to learn about how plants germinate.This activity is also great to be used to prac-tice fine motor skills, increase so-cial skills, promote creativity and self expression and improve self esteem. This is a great activity that will definitely encourage laughter and fun too with your child.

Materials: Old pair of nylon stock-ings, grass seed, soil, small plastic containers, elastic bands, googlie eyes (the ones you sew on), pipe cleaners and a spray bottle.

Description: 1. Cut nylon at the knee 2. Scoop in 1 tbsp. grass seed 3. Scoop in preferred amount of soil compacted (size of a softball).

Work the soil down to foot of nylon into shape of a head. 4. Tie the open end of the nylon tight (snip excess nylon and leave about 3 inches dangling). 5. Have the children pinch the soil through the nylon to make it easy to tie an elastic around for ears and nose. 6. Sew on googlie eyes. 7. Make glasses out of pipe cleaners 8. Place grass head on top of small container and leave excess 3 inch nylon dangling into the container 9. Pour in 1/2 inch of water in bot-tom of the container every couple of days. 10. Spray water gently over grass seeds on top 2 times each day.

WATCH THE GRASS GROW and watch your child or children enjoy

creating their own hairdo’s.


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SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WENDSDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY1 READ A BOOK TO YOUR CHILD

2 READ ACROSS AMERICA DAY

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4 Family Game Night

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6 Turtle Feeding Cooper Environ-mental Center Toms River 1:30pm

7 STORY TIME Howell Barnes & Noble 11am

8 MARDI GRAS 9 ASH WEDNESDAY

10 Seaside park Rec Center 5pm-8pm Free XBOX, Air hockey, Basketball & More!

11 Good Morn-ing Stories at the Toms River Library 9:30am

12 FAMILY MOVIE NIGHT

13 DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME BEGINS

14 HUG YOUR CHILD

15 Burger Night at The Fromagerie Rumson

16 Preschool Play-date at BounceU 10am-11:30am

17 ST. PATRICK’S DAY

18 Afternoon Stories at the Toms River Library 2:30pm

19 LAST DAY OF WINTER

20 PURIM 21 Play, Stay + Sing Session at Honey Music Child Red Bank

22 Pottery Barn Kids Book Club 11am Shrewsbury

23 Changing Climate: Changing Weather Ex-hibition at Monmouth Museum 2pm

24 After School Ac-tivities in the Becker Children’s Wing at Monmouth Museum 3:30

25 Free Parent and Child Class! at King of Kings in Middletown 9am

26 Snappy Saturday-for Special Needs Children at Monmouth County Library Head-quarters in Manalapan

27 Magical Dance Performance Count Baise Theater

28 Talk To Your Child About Who They Want To Praise & Why

29 Educational Mati-nee At Two River Theater 9am-12pm

30 Take Your Child On A Date

31 Preschool Play-date at BounceU 10am-11:30am

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FOOD FOR YOUR FAMILY

THE DINNER DOCTOR’s Family Recipe For MarchGinger-Honey Glazed Salmon

* 1/2 cup orange juice* 1/4 cup soy sauce* 2 Tbsp. fresh ginger ,finely chopped* 2 Tbsp. honey* 1 tsp. toasted sesame oil * 1 fillet of salmon (2 pounds; prefer-ably wild), skin on, cut into 6 equal pieces* 2 Tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil* (serves 4)

DirectionsIn a small saucepan, bring orange juice, soy sauce, ginger, honey, and sesame oil to a simmer over high heat. Reduce to medium-low; cook 5 minutes. Pour half of marinade into a shallow dish large enough to hold fish

in a single layer; cool 10 minutes. Add fish; coat with marinade. Turn skin side up. Cover with plastic; set aside 10 minutes.

In large frying pan, heat olive oil over medium-high heat. Place fish in pan skin side down; cover and cook until skin is crisp, about 3 minutes. Flip and cook just until opaque throughout, 2 to 3 minutes more.

ROASTED VEGETABLESIngrediens

* 1 small butternut squash, cubed* 2 red bell peppers, seeded and diced* 1 sweet potato, peeled and cubed* 3 Yukon Gold potatoes, cubed* 1 red onion, quartered* 1 tablespoon chopped fresh thyme* 2 tablespoons chopped fresh rosemary* 1/4 cup olive oil

* 2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar* salt and freshly ground black pepper

Directions

1. Preheat oven to 475 degrees F (245 degrees C).2. In a large bowl, combine the squash, red bell peppers, sweet potato, and Yukon Gold potatoes. Separate the red onion quarters into pieces, and add them to the mixture.3. In a small bowl, stir together thyme, rosemary, olive oil, vinegar, salt, and pepper. Toss with vegetables until they are coated. Spread evenly on a large roasting pan.4. Roast for 35 to 40 minutes in the preheated oven, stirring every 10 minutes, or until vegetables are cooked through and browned.

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Read each sentence. Circle the word that means almost the same as the underlined word.

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2. Dad rushed to Simply Skin Spa to get mom a gift certificate.

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3. I want to give my mom a nice present to the spa on her Birthday.

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4. My sister said mom would definitely like a facial.step ice cream want

5. Mom will savor every moment at the Simply Skin Spa. scream tired enjoy


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Snowman Coloring!1. If you are a boy, color the snowman’s scarf green. If you are a girl, color the snowman’s scarf purple.

2. If you like the winter, color the snowman’s hat yellow. If you do not like the winter, color the snowman’s hat red.

3. If you have a sled, draw two blue eyes on the snowman. If you do not have a sled, draw two black eyes on the snowman.

4. If you like to play in the snow, draw three red buttons on the snowman’s body. If you don’t like to play in the snow, draw three orange buttons on the snowman’s body.

5. If you have a snowman in your yard now, draw an pink nose on the snowman’s face. If you don’t have a snowman in your yard now, draw a green nose on the snowman’s face.

6. If you like building snowmen, draw three red circles on the snowman’s face to make the snowman’s mouth. If you do not like building snowmen, draw three black circles to make the snowman’s mouth.

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FOOD FOR YOUR FAMILY

Make a wrap for your child to take to school They are so much easier to prepare than a sandwich is. Use small whole wheat wraps. Spread a thin layer of mayo, or butter, lay your child’s favorite meat on top, spread whatever condiments they like on top and roll into a tight log. Cut width-wise on angles. Your children will think it’s so neat eat their sandwich in a cool new way. If your child likes cheese, you can even do a cheese log for a surprise one day. Shred marble cheese into the wrap and follow the wrapping and cutting directions above. To keep children full throughout the day, pack their lunches with hearty, stick to their ribs, snack ideas. Example: Buy oatmeal based cookies, buy granola and oatmeal based bars.

Pack a yummy soup in a thermos and add cheese and crackers as a side.

Instead of a sandwich everyday, change it up by sending some of their favorite meat rolled up in a baggie with a side of some yummy seasoned bread sticks and some cheese.

Super fast cheesecake the kids will enjoy. Spread one graham cracker with cream cheese, spread some strawberry jam on the cream cheese and top with another graham cracker. There you are - cheesecake to go!

Change up your child’s lunch easily by mixing up dif-ferent food on different days: One day pudding, one day have yogurt, one day have fruit bars. Your child won’t be bored with their lunch and they will look forward to checking what they will get each day. Veggies- Sending veggies and dip doesn’t have to be an all-night chopping job. Choose one veggie per day. Slice up some cucumber one day and send with a small container of dip or salad dressing. The next day send carrots. The next day send broccoli. Then the next week try a fruit and dip one day, and another kind the next day.

Never forget to send along something extra “sweet” in the snack bag. A small note or a simple smiley

face on a piece of paper will surely put a smile on your child’s face.

Great Snack Ideas For Kids To Take To School Here are some tips that are healthy and quick to make and will also fill those hungry little tummies.

There was a time, not too long ago, when food was not only simple and tasty, but also about getting the family to-gether. The dining room at STAGECOACH RESTAURANT is “designed to take you back to a simpler time where family gatherings were a common place and everyone looked forward to them because of the food and fellowship.” Stagecoach Restaurant has managed to create this experi-ence with an Italian menu of items that they are really good at preparing. The feeling is that they are trying to have you

recede back to the comfort-ing aromas of your mother’s or grandmother’s Italian home. The waitress is always there to seat you quickly into the re-finished building of the Stage-coach restaurant. The first sur-prise is that the decor is warm and friendly just like a home. The atmosphere is fashionable and clean. In the dining room you will see families, friends and “dates”. The menu contains both classic Italian fare, such as pasta’s and homemade dishes such as scampi, parmagiano’s and prime rib. Stagecoach also offers several sandwiches,

soups,wraps, salads, desserts and a kids menu. The plate portions are over-loaded and large. The nightly dinner specials offer a lot to choose from and are very rea-sonably priced for the qual-ity and quantity. Many dinner patrons have “goodie bags” and left-overs to take home. Stagecoach restaurant in Millstone New Jersey serves a great purpose in the collec-tive restaurant scene of both Ocean and Monmouth counties. Stagecoach is already looking to be a favorite among the lo-cal families as well for families

outside of Millstone looking to find a new alternative to din-ing out and dining well. It is not often that a family can dine out together at a local restaurant with having a full course family meal including, appetizers, main course meals, side dishes, salad and dessert for a great price. Stagecoach offers a great value and laid back cozy atmosphere that anyone would surely enjoy.Stagecoach Pizzeria and Res-taurant is located where the old Primaverra Pizzeria was. The owners are now Bob and Leann Nicholas and they welcome you to stop in anytime.


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