is a relational experience through which one person empowers another by sharing God-given resources
is a positive dynamic that enables people to develop their potential
is a brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on and a kick in the seat of pants
Matthew 9:37–10:8Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is abundant but the laborers are few; so ask the master of the harvest to send out laborers for his harvest.” Then he summoned his twelve disciples and gave them authority over unclean spirits to drive them out and to cure every disease and every illness. The names of the twelve apostles are these: first, Simon called Peter, and his brother Andrew; James, the son of Zebedee, and his brother John; Philip and Bartholomew, Thomas and Matthew the tax collector; James, the son of Alphaeus, and Thaddeus; Simon the Cananean, and Judas Iscariot who betrayed him. Jesus sent out these twelve after instructing them thus, “Do not go into pagan territory or enter a Samaritan town. Go rather to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. As you go, make this proclamation: ‘The kingdom of heaven is at hand.’ Cure the sick, raise the dead, cleanse lepers, drive out demons. Without cost you have received; without cost you are to give.
The surest way to secure your impact on people is to enter into an
accountablerelationship with a conscious objective
to produce measurable growth.
COME AND SEE… (Do the first move)COME AND FOLLOW… (Give assignments) COME AND SURRENDER… (Do the assist)COME AND MULTIPLY… (Role-playing)
Recognize What You Are Looking For.Keep in mind, MENTORS ARE NOT …Perfect people
Leaders who try to make you like them
Workers who want to use you to help accomplish their goals
People who give you time out of duty and obligation.
Successes who will give you a “free ride” to fame and fortune
Recognize What You Are Looking For.Instead, MENTORS ARE …More like caring aunts and uncles than like another mother and father.
Those with whom we share the lows and celebrate the highs in life …together
Those rare individuals in life who ….
Love us deeply …See our greatest potentials …Cheer us on …Correct when needed …Teach us selflessly about life …Become our lifelong friends …At whose funerals we weep shamelessly …With no regard whatsoever for the clock.
Steps to take:Pray consistently
Lower your standard
Be willing to sacrifice to find them
Keep your antennas up. Be on the constant lookout for potential mentors.
Setting your GOALS:G – Godliness
O – Objectivity.
A – Authenticity
L – Loyalty.
S – Servanthood.
Proverbs 20:5 – Counsel in another’s heart is like deep water, but a discerning man will draw it up.
Proverbs 24:26 – A straightforward answer is as good as a kiss of friendship
Proverbs 27:17 – As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens the wit of another.
A Checklist• Will the mentor be an objective, lovingly honest and balanced source of feedback for your questions?
• Will the mentor be open and transparent with their own struggles?
• Will the mentor model their teachings?
• Does the mentor know and believe in you … one of your cheerleaders and not your chief critic?
• Will the mentor teach as well as answer your questions?
• Is the mentor successful in your eyes?
• Will the mentor be open to two-way communication … learning from you on occasions as well as teaching you?
• Does the mentor want to see younger people succeed in
developing their spiritual and leadership potential?
A. Pray – Pray For It And God Will Reveal Him/ Her To You.
B. Examine His/ Her Potential As A Leader And Know The Strengths And Weakness So That You Know Where You Can Come In.
C. Indicators Of A Good Mentor-to-mentee Relationship
• Responsiveness.
• Accountability.
A Checklist• Will you be able to believe 100% in this person?
• Do you naturally enjoy communicating with this person?
• Will you be able to give without reservation to this person?
• Will you love him or her as s brother or sister?
• Do you admire their potential as a leader?
• Is this person teachable … eager to learn from you and mature in his or her spiritual and leadership potential?
• Does this person admire you?
• Is this person self-motivated even though not always confident?
• Will this person be threatened by you or threatening to you?
• Does this person have the time to meet regularly?
• Is God the first priority in their life?
“Success … without a successor … is a failure.”DISCIPLER. Helping with the basics of following Christ.SPIRITUAL GUIDE. Accountability, direction/insight for maturation.COACH. Motivation, skills needed to meet a task/challenge.COUNSELOR. Timely advice, perspective on self, others, ministry.TEACHER. Knowledge, understanding on a specific subject.SPONSOR. Career guidance, protection; network with contacts.MODEL. A living personal example for life, ministry, career.
“Success … without a successor … is a failure.”DISCIPLER. Helping with the basics of following Christ.SPIRITUAL GUIDE. Accountability, direction/insight for maturation.COACH. Motivation, skills needed to meet a task/challenge.COUNSELOR. Timely advice, perspective on self, others, ministry.TEACHER. Knowledge, understanding on a specific subject.SPONSOR. Career guidance, protection; network with contacts.MODEL. A living personal example for life, ministry, career.
How to spot a Toxic Mentor:
a. The Avoider b. The Dumper c. The Criticizer d. The User e. The Black Halo f. The Queen Bee
The successful mentor is going to be: a. Guide
b. Encourager
c. Resource
d. Evaluator
e. Provider
DRAWING UP A PASTORAL PLAN
What is a Pastoral Plan?
Purpose of the Pastoral Plan 1. To identify the person’s vision for his life with the Lord 2. To identify specific actions needed to accomplish the vision 3. To specify the timetable for actions desired 4. To identify parameters of success in accomplishing the vision 5. To note highlights of action taken on the pastoral plan
Elements of the Pastoral Plan 1. Background2. Needs Assessment3. Action Plan (for 3 months) - Activities ; Objectives ; Desired Effect/Result4. Evaluation-
Quality of Prayer Quality of Relationships Quality of Insights Quality of Work Quality of Leadership
5. Success/Conversion Stories
Action PlanActivities Objectives Desired Effect/Result
Month 1 Week 1 Week 2 Week 3 Week 4
Month 2 Week 1 Week 2 Week 3 Week 4
Month 2 Week 1 Week 2 Week 3 Week 4
The vision of making Christ known to the ends of the earth is possible.
Let us develop the potential in each and every member in our areas.
By this way, we will make them know that Christ is not only the most exciting person in this world but also our role model and our great mentor