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Dealing with Parents
• Teachers are unprepared to deal with difficult parents
• Teachers need to learn parent management skills
• Teachers can learn how to effectively handle parents
Pinocchio’s Mother
• Insists that her child never tells a lie
• Makes teachers want to yell “liar, liar, pants on fire!!”
• Prefers to focus on teachers mistakes instead of child’s
Pinocchio's’ parent will blame the Teacher
How to Handle Pinocchio’s Mom
• Focus on Specifics (who, what, when, where, how?)
• Be prepared. Have your facts ready.• If it regarding an assignment - know when it was
due, and have a grading rubric present• It is best to have the student present and to
directly talk to the student• Remember you can deliver the message without
embarrassing the child, you do not need a full confession
• No Sarcasm!!
The Stealth Zapper
• The Stealth Zapper gently implies that you (or a colleague) aren’t up to par. However, these criticisms fly so low under to radar that you may not realize you have been zapped until you stop to think about what was said.
• Are big supporters of the school when it benefits his or her child.
• Often anonymously complain• Overall goal is to achieve
some kind of advantage for her child
When dealing with the Stealth Zapper . . .
• Deal with them directly, and be polite
• Remain positive or noncommittal when speaking about a fellow teacher
• Do not spend time with this kind of parent unless it is absolutely necessary
An ExampleS.Z – Miss T was so
strict. She had no sense of humor. Not like you, according to my daughter.
Teacher – I’m glad your daughter enjoys my jokes. I enjoy having her in class.
Helicopter Mom
• Usually begin in kindergarten• Hovers constantly, ready to
save child from anything• Invested in every facet of her
child’s school day• Spends a lot of time at school• Like to compare their child to
others students• Has a hard time letting her
child take responsibility for his or her actions
How to Handle Helicopter Parents
• Reassure parent that their child is capable, and can compete with other students in the class
• Communicate with parent as often as possible
• Keep information about other students confidential
• Never give this parent your cell or home phone number
• Be grateful that they care about their child’s success
Teacher Parent Conferences
Parent Teacher Conferences
• Parents want to be reassured that you really know their child
• Try to be on the “same team” as the parents, everyone is their for the child
• Focus first on the positive• Let parent’s vent and do
not take it personally
The Bottom Line
Remember that every parent wants to know if their child is just another student to
you, or whether you really know him or her. Parents want to know if they can
count on you to treat their child fairly, even kindly. They hope that you see in their son or daughter all the special things that they
do. . . When parents and teachers are partners, it’s wonderful for the child!