Steps on how to FALL INLOVE

By: Elvie Boño

1.Boost your self-esteem

Finding the Right Person?

• Fall in love and find the right person you must first have confidence and love invested in yourself. People with self-confidence tend to have happier and longer lasting relationships than those that don't. It might seem hard to suddenly start loving yourself, but it's an important component of a strong relationship.

Consider why you want to fall in love

There's no right answer for why you want to fall in love, but there are some reasons that aren't good and that indicate a deeper problem. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a loving relationship, but basing your self worth on the success of such a relationship will place too much pressure on the other person and ultimately doom!

Consider what you are looking for

No, don't make a list of exact specifications

detailing the hair color, job, schooling level,

and personality of your potential significant

other. You're not going to ever find an exact

match, but you should acknowledge the basics

of what you're looking for.

Meet people

Of course, to be able to find someone with

whom to fall in love, you're going to need to go

out and meet people. This doesn't mean you

have to be a big part animal, or that you have

to do things that you're not entirely

comfortable with, but it's a good idea to at

least try and get out of your comfort zone a

little bit.

Open yourself to new

possibilities

Doing things that you might not otherwise have done can help foster a sense of excitement for you, as well as take you outside your comfort zone to meet different kinds of people.

Give things time

Even if you've been going to parties and your friends have been introducing you to plenty of fun, attractive people, you should still expect the process to take some time. Be patient. It can take years to find the right person. Along the way, you may find people that you think are right for you, but turn out not to be. Use these opportunities as learning experiences. Eventually, you'll get a sense for the kind of person you're looking for.

Express interest

So after you've found someone you're interested in and could see yourself falling in love, you'll need to talk with them about this. In short, you'll need to ask them out and see if the interest is returned. It might be a little nerve-wracking, since you're opening yourself up, but finding love means taking emotional risks.

Open yourself up emotionally.

Falling in love means opening yourself up to the other person emotionally. It's about taking a risk and being open and vulnerable with another person. It can be scary to lay yourself open like that, but it's the only way to deepen a relationship.

Check Compatibility

Intimate compatibility is incredibly important to ensuring a loving connection (and this doesn't mean sex, necessarily). Look at the person you're with and see how closely connected the two of you are.

Don't force it

Trying to force yourself or another person to fall in love won't work and will simply make you or them resent the relationship, eventually. Falling in love is, in a sense, letting go of control. Be open what the other person is feeling about the relationship, as well as what you want from it.

Build Trust

Trusting your partner is one of the keys to staying in love and staying in a relationship. Without trust, the relationship becomes a ticking time bomb and not something you want to be a part of. Don’t constantly second-guess them or question their motives. Trust them and show them that you trust them. Love can’t exist long-term in a relationship that doesn’t have trust. Show your significant other that you are a safe haven, where they can find and give trust without having to worry that they will get hurt.

Deal with conflict appropriately

All relationships have conflict. You aren't going to agree with your significant other all the time, but dealing with your argument in the right manner will mean that the relationship is more likely to last.

Recognize the signs of falling in LOVE

There's no tried and true way to know

you're in love. People often say you'll just

'know' if you're love, but there are some

things that indicate you're heading that

direction, if not already there.

Have an Honest Discussion

Honesty is often embarrassing or confronting. It requires clarity of thought, very carefully chosen words of candor and a commitment not to stray from the facts (keeping away from the minefield of emotional interpretations). Other reasons for lying include covering up your own weaknesses, maintaining compromises that make life easier to cope with and avoiding getting into trouble. And many people have been raised to see honesty as too "blunt" or "rude"; yet rather than being an issue of etiquette, this stems from a misunderstanding as to how to put forward honest messages compassionately. There is a world of difference between being tactless and being considerately and respectfully open.

Keep it Fresh

Truly appreciate the other

Person

Appreciation is a huge part of a relationship and having gratitude for the other person and telling them that you have that gratitude will strengthen and deepen your relationship.

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