#11 – Blended Families - Part II

In Love for Life Building or Rebuilding a Great Marriage

Mike Mazzalongo

Preparing for a Subsequent Marriage

•  Know future mate and children •  Attention to children’s needs •  Build a new relationship •  Include everyone at wedding

Achieving Unity

•  Avoid co-conductor system •  Give up old roles •  Establish ground rules

True Unity Only Attainable in Christ

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

•  Denial

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

•  Denial •  Anger

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

•  Denial •  Anger •  Bargaining

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

•  Denial •  Anger •  Bargaining •  Depression

Grieving Children in a Blended Family

•  Denial •  Anger •  Bargaining •  Depression

•  Acceptance

Development Levels

0 to 2 years – Tactile

Development Levels

0 to 2 years – Tactile 3 to 5 years – Reassurance

Development Levels

0 to 2 years – Tactile 3 to 5 years – Reassurance 6 to 12 years – Knowledge

Development Levels

0 to 2 years – Tactile 3 to 5 years – Reassurance 6 to 12 years – Knowledge

13+ years – Independence

Parenting Styles

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent 2.  The “Glue” Parent

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent 2.  The “Glue” Parent 3.  The “Distant” Parent

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent 2.  The “Glue” Parent 3.  The “Distant” Parent 4.  The “Sometimes” Parent

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent 2.  The “Glue” Parent 3.  The “Distant” Parent 4.  The “Sometimes” Parent 5.  The “Ruthless” Parent

Parenting Styles

1.  The “Star” Parent 2.  The “Glue” Parent 3.  The “Distant” Parent 4.  The “Sometimes” Parent 5.  The “Ruthless” Parent

6. The “Parent” Parent

The “Week-End” Visit

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative 2.  Provide Structure

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative 2.  Provide Structure 3.  Be Accepting

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative 2.  Provide Structure 3.  Be Accepting 4.  Provide a Home

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative 2.  Provide Structure 3.  Be Accepting 4.  Provide a Home 5.  Give Permission to Love

The “Week-End” Visit

1.  Take the Initiative 2.  Provide Structure 3.  Be Accepting 4.  Provide a Home 5.  Give Permission to Love

6. Smooth Out Transitions

Visitation is not the best way to parent But it’s not an impossible way to parent.