Family Development As a Process

Human Behavior And Social Environtment

Family Life Cycle

• Pre marriage/Engagement• Established• A new couple• A new parent/family with a new baby• Family with pre school age child• Family with shool age child• Family with teenagers/adolescence• Family as a launching centre/with adult children• Aging family

Parenting life stages

• Infant and parents stage - Parents functional pattern : Nurturing,protecting,

caring for infant Infant’s functional pattern : total dependency on

parent - Parents disfunctional pattern : child

rejection,negligence, or abuse Infant’s disfunctional pattern : regression and

withdrawal from forming relationships with parents

Younger child and parents stage

• Parents functional pattern : Adjustment of triadic relation to provision of behavior model for child to imitate

Provision of appropriate restrictions and limitations• Child’s funcional pattern: Achieving psychological

separation from parents Achieving autonomy , mirrroring and imitating parents’ behavior, mastering omnipotent wish

Lanjutan Younger and .....

• Parents’ disfunctional patterns : Inability to let child gradually separate from parents

• Child ‘s functional pattern : Prolonged symbiotic relation with parents

Older child and parents’ stage

• Parents’ functional pattern : Sensitivity to child’s gr owth needs, Provision of opportunities for child to do things for self within child’s abilities, Letting child go and grow, Enjoying life through child’s experience.

• Child’s functional pattern: Search for indivuduality.

Lanjutan older child and parent...

• Parents’ dysfunctional pattern s : Insensitive to child’s growth, Inhibition or limitation of child’s individuality,

• Child’s disfunctional patterns : Failure to seek individuality.

Adolescent and parents’ stage

• Parents’ f unctional patterns : Provision of assistance in establishment of role and identity, Toleration and compromise of the cultural gap that may exist between generations

• Adolescent’s functional patterns : Development of self image and identity

Lanjutan adolescent’s....

• Parents’ disfunctional patterns : Parents feel their child undervalues them, Unwilling to negotiate cultural gap with adolescent

• Adolescent’s dysfunctional patterns : Adolescent believes that parents depreciate him or her, Adolescent rebels against parents

Adult child and parents’ stage

• Parents’ functional patterns : Letting grown-up child go and be independent, Accepting adult-to- adult relationships with grown-up child, Standing by with encouragement,reassurance, and appreciation

• Child’s functional patterns : Relative independence from parents, Develop adult- to- adult relationship with parents, Seek guidance and support from parents whenever they are needed.

Lanjutan adult ...

• Parents’ dysfunctional patterns :• Unable to let grown-up child go and be

independent• Child’s dysfunctional patterns : Fail to develop adult –to adult relationship

with parents

Adult child and aged parents’ stage• Parents functional patterns :Reverse role to be

taken care of by child Child’s functional patterns : Reverse role to

take care of age and incapacitated parents• Parents’ dysfunctional patterns: Resistance to

giving up authoriative role toward grown-up child, Refusal of help from adult child when needed

Lanjutan adult ....

• Chid’s dysfunctional patterns : Inabilityto take the reversed role, still

expecting parents to be omniponent, Rejection and negligence of incapacitated aged parents when they need help.