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Keep off Third Parties in your marriages as they will bring disasters in the marriage institution. Note that it is better not to start Third Party involvement at all. But if you have, stop it before it's too late because it will get to a stage when it will be very difficult to stop it without causing great trouble for yourself.
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THIRD PARTIES AFFECT
OUR MARRIAGES
Lots of marriages have been destroyed by the couples
allowing Third Parties to influence their marriages.
Third Parties must not be allowed to play any pivotal
roles in your marriage.
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WHO IS A THIRD PARTY
This is a person or persons who
is/are not a party to a contract or
transaction but has/have but an
involvement.
The third party normally has no l
egal rights in the matter, unless
the contract was made for the thi
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Many marriages have been
destroyed by the interference of
the Third Parties in the same. They
pose as good people who want to
better your marriage but at the end
of it they will destroy your
marriage. We should not give room
to them.
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THIRD PARTIES IN OUR MARRIAGES
Children
Parents
Siblings( brothers and sisters)
Relatives
Friends
Colleagues ( workmates/ business associates, etc)
Acquaintances
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Doctors
Lawyers
Neighbours
Shopkeepers
Employers
Pastors
Driving School instructors
Micro finance institutions and banks
Women /Men Groups, etc
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What does it mean to have a
third party in your marriage? It
simply means you allow
external people to interfere in
your marriage.
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E.g. as a woman you always run to
your parent to tell them what your
husband does wrong or as a man,
you allow your family members to
dictate to you what should be and
not be in your home thereby
making your wife irrelevant when it
comes to decision making.
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Most marriages today do not
work not because the husband
and wife aren't meant for each
other but because third parties
are being allowed in the
marriage.
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Marriage is a union between a man and his wife and not a man, his wife and the entire extended family or friends. Of course these people are necessary in ones life but they should have their limits when it comes to family matter in order for peace to reign in that marriage.
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Lots of marriages have
broken up because one of
the spouse gave in the
advice gotten from an
outsider.
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The couple normally set high
expectations when they are entering
into marriage believing that they
would have a wonderful marriage
since the love they had for each
other is so strong.
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But like all marriages, they would start having little misunderstandings, the husband begins to see the things he never knew the wife had in her and the wife also starts seeing things she did not bargain for in her marriage.
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As young couples they can’t
take it and normally they would
decided start talking to people
about their problems.
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Both get different types of
advice from different people
that does not help them. Some
people go as far as teaching the
man to beat his wife and stay
out late as a way of punishing
her for not cooking his meal
on time.
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No one should be allowed to interfere
in your marriage. When you start
thinking you have someone else to
talk to if your wife does not want to
talk, things will get worse till
communication gap widens. When
there is no communication, things go
from worse to worst.
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The people you go to meet
might not be having a good
marriage so what do you expect
to get from such places? I
believe in couples sitting down
to settle their differences
instead of having others do it
for them.
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The bond between a man and a
woman who stand in front of
God with their hearts open to
His guidance and involvement
is very strong. God is interested
in that union.
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This union should be full of assurance that their promise is a lifelong union in order to enjoy this union these qualities in their life are a must:
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Unshakeable Trust Calmness Respect Reliability Devotion Integrity Honesty Faith Love Hope
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Dignity
Stability
Joy
Peace
Friendship
Standing on a Strong foundation
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To all the Husbands and wives;
My encouragement to you is
this: Follow Christ’s example;
Be absolutely, unshakably
committed to your spouse, in
good times and bad.
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EFFECTS OF ALLOWING THIRD PARTIES IN
MARRIAGES
1) It doesn't allow for closeness
between husband and wife
2) It diminishes love between a
man and his wife
3) It reduces your value as a man.
You will be assumed that you are a
man who can't bring orderliness in
his home.
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4) It doesn't give room for privacy.
People get to know what goes on
in your home
5) It widens the communication
gap in the home
6) You will really have low esteem
as you will not be able to make any
independent decisions on your
own.
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8) It results in lots of confusion
7) People will write you off as
being an irresponsible man.
9.) Your marriage will be the talk
of the village/estate where you
are.
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The above and lots more are the after effect of allowing third parties into your home. Note that it is better not to start it at all but if you have, stop it before it's too late because it will get to a stage when it will be very difficult to stop it without causing great trouble for yourself.
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There might be times when you
might need someone to talk to,
the best person to talk to is a
marriage counselor. There are
lots of them out there. They are
in a better position to help.
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My wife and I have been happily
married for 37 YEARS. We
attribute this to the Lord’s
goodness as well as to our
having learned and practiced
Biblical Principles of Marriage.
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FINALLY
Keep off Third Parties in your
marriages as they will bring
disasters in the marriage
institution.
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