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我希望我知道 I wish I knew
我希望我知道 I wish I knew
活出一个没有遗憾的人生,活出一个有目的的人生
Living a life without REGRETS, living a life with PURPOSE
Forbes Magazine (18 Aug, 2012)
“ 25 个人生最大的遗憾。而你的是什么呢?”
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language
• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去 Not asking that girl/boy out
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 学习另一个语言 Learning another language
• 没有约那个男孩 / 女孩出去 Not asking that girl/boy out
• 过于埋头于工作而牺牲了家庭和友谊Working so much at the expense of family and friendships
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much
• 自信心不足 Not having enough confidence in myself
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 担心别人如何看自己 Worrying about what others thought about me so much
• 自信心不足 Not having enough confidence in myself
• 依据父母的想法过生活而不是过自己想要的生活 Living the life that my parents wanted me to live instead of the one I wanted to
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends
• 让我的婚姻破裂Letting my marriage break down
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 更多地和家人或朋友去旅游 Gone on more trips with the family/friends
• 让我的婚姻破裂Letting my marriage break down
• 让我的孩子做更多的事情Taught my kids to do stuff more
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend
• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the wrong group of friends when I was younger
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 没有和家人或朋友释前嫌 Burying the hatchet with a family member or old friend
• 年轻时误交损友 Getting involved with the wrong group of friends when I was younger
• 弃了自己想要的工作而选择了务实的工作 Choosing the practical job over the one I really wanted
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids
• 当我还有机会时,没有好好照顾自己的健康 Not taking care of my health when I had the chance
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 花更多时间与孩子相处 Spending more time with the kids
• 当我还有机会时,没有好好照顾自己的健康 Not taking care of my health when I had the chance
• 没有探望一位垂死的朋友Not visiting a dying friend before he died
25 个最大遗憾中的一些例子 Some of the 25 biggest regrets:
• 成为一位更好的爸爸或妈妈Being a better father or mother
3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 (从 20, 30, 40 到临终)3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 (从 20, 30, 40 到临终)3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance
3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 (从 20, 30, 40 到临终)3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance
• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships
3 个主要人生遗憾的领域 (从 20, 30, 40 到临终)3 main realms of life regrets (from 20, 30, 40… death bed)
• 金钱的领域 The realm of Finance
• 关系的领域 The realm of Relationships
• 品格的领域 The realm of Character
在人生里,我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:
在人生里,我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction
在人生里,我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction
• 附和 Conformity
在人生里,我们总是用以下方法来应对 When it comes to life, we tend to approach it in few ways:
• 反应 Reaction
• 附和 Conformity
• 独立 Independence
在这一个系列,我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:
在这一个系列,我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:
• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始In self help books = Begin with the end in mind
在这一个系列,我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:
• 在自我帮助书籍 = 以终为始In self help books = Begin with the end in mind
• 在工程学里 = 逆向工程 In engineering = Reverse engineering
• 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is better than its beginning”
在这一个系列,我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:
• 传道书 7:8 = 事情的结局胜于开端In Ecclesiastes 7:8 = “The end of a matter is better than its beginning”
在生活中,如何开始是其次但如何完成是关键Truly in life, it’s not how you start but how you
finish.
在这一个系列,我们要有目的地的生活 In this series, we want to approach life with INTENTIONALITY:
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应
该如何生活 Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and determining how we should live NOW.
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living• 看见自己想要的未来然后决定我们现在应
该如何生活 Painting a picture of a preferred FUTURE and determining how we should live NOW.
• 向前预期生命和回头活出生命Anticipating life FORWARD and living it BACKWARD
• 为现在做出更好的决定,以免以后有更多的遗憾 Making better decisions NOW and having fewer regrets LATER.
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
• 为现在做出更好的决定,以免以后有更多的遗憾 Making better decisions NOW and having fewer regrets LATER.
• 忍受现在的不舒适和痛苦的改变,以便以后可享受自由和奖励 Enduring uncomfortable or even painful changes NOW and enjoying the freedom and the reward LATER.
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
• 哈巴谷书 2:2“ 耶和华回答我说:“把异象写下,清楚地记在泥板上,使读的人容易明白。”
Habakkuk 2:2 (NKJV)“Write the vision, And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it.”
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
•如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何做出更好的决定 How to make better decisions
•如何摆脱债务 How to get out of debts
•如何获得财务利差 How to gain financial margin
•如何拥有稳固的婚姻 How to have a strong marriage life
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
•如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
接下来的几个星期,《我希望我知道》Next few weeks, “I Wish I Knew”:
•如何建立一个健康的约会生活 / 育儿生活 How to build a healthy dating life / parenting
•如何避免愤怒 How to keep anger at bay
•如何避免无法饶恕的陷阱 How to avoid unforgiveness trap
有目的地的生活 Intentional Living
第一部:如何做出更好的决定Part 1: How to make better decisions
决定我们终点的,是我们的决定,而不是我们的欲望
Our Decisions, not our Desiresdetermine our Destinations.
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物? Do I have a clear priority in life?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我对生活是否有明确的优先事物? Do I have a clear priority in life?
– 我是否已搜寻了所有的事实 / 研究报告? Do I gather all the facts / research thoroughly?
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否已听取各方?Do I listen to all parties?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否已听取各方?Do I listen to all parties?
– 我是否做了个冲动 / 情绪化的决定?Do I make an impulsive / emotional decision?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性? Do I weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否评估了所有长期与短期的可能性? Do I weigh all possible outcome, both short and long term?
– 我是否违反了任何道德 /神的道德原则? Do I violate any clear moral / ethical principle of God?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
1. 原则 - 什么是正确的事? Principles - What is the right thing to do?
•适用于大多数决定的原则 Principles that applies in almost every decisions:
– 我是否做了个共同决定(夫妻)? Do I make a together decision (for couples)
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel•爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人
People who love you / have best interest for you
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
• 明智的忠告 Wise counsel•爱你的人 / 为你获得最佳利益的人
People who love you / have best interest for you
•牵涉在问题或是参与在解决方案里的人People who are part of the problem or part of the solution
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•罗波安 (列王记上 12) - 拒绝了明智的忠告,听取了错误的忠告 Rehoboam (1 King 12) – rejected wise counsel, listened wrong counsel
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
–箴言 12:15 愚妄人所行的,在自己眼中看為正直,只有智慧人肯聽勸告。Pro 12:15 - The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
–箴言 15:22 不經商議,計劃必定失敗;謀士眾多,計劃就可成功 Pro 15:22 - Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
–箴言 11:14 沒有智謀,國家敗落;謀士眾多,就能得勝。 Pro 11:14 - Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
2. 人 - 我可以向谁问取明智的忠告? People - Who can I go to for wise counsel?
•箴言里有许多寻求忠告的经文 Proverbs has overwhelming many verses on seeking wise counsel:
– 这些大多数是由所罗门王写的:最有智慧的人寻求明智的忠告 King Solomon wrote most of it – the wisest man seeks wise counsel!
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:
– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定 Never decide without seeking God
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•在人生中的重大决定For major decision in life:
– 别在没有寻求神的情况下做决定 Never decide without seeking God
– 别在不交托给神的情况下做决定Never decide without submitting it to God
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•神知道最好的,神最爱我们 God knows best, God loves us most.
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•神知道最好的,神最爱我们 God knows best, God loves us most.
•罗得与亚伯兰(创世纪 13) -罗得的决定基于自然,亚伯兰的决定基于神。 Lot and Abram (Gen 13) – Lot decided based on the natural, Abram decided based on the divine.
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•箴言 16:3 當把你所作的交託耶和華,你的計劃就必成功 Pro 16:3 - Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
3. 祷告 - 上帝怎么说? Prayers - What is God saying in this?
•箴言 16:9 人心計劃自己的道路,他的腳步卻由耶和華指引。 Proverbs 16:9 - In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God
•我该如何反应? 在下一步,我是否可相信上帝 ? How can I respond to this? Can I trust God in the next step?
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God
•旧约: 大卫在每一场战争中都寻问耶和华OT - David inquire of the Lord at every battle
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God
•新约:保罗在圣灵的带领下改变已经决定好的旅途 NT - Paul changes his planned journey as HS leads
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God•箴言 19:21 人心裡的謀算很多,唯有耶和華的計劃能實現。 Pro 19:21 - Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
4. 天意:神的介入 / 上帝的工作 Providence - the divine intervention / engineering of God•罗马书 8:28 我們知道,為了愛神的人,就是按他旨意蒙召的人的益處,萬事都一同效力。 Rom 8:28 - 28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose
4 个做出更好决定的指引4 Guiding Rules of Better Decision Making:
决定我们终点的,是我们的决定,而不是我们的欲望
Our Decisions, not our Desiresdetermine our Destinations.
反思 Take away reflections:
反思 Take away reflections:• 在过去,你是如何做决定的?
How did you make decisions in the past?
反思 Take away reflections:• 在过去,你是如何做决定的?
How did you make decisions in the past?
• 继续前行时,你会如何做出决定?How are you going to make decisions moving forward?
第一部:如何做出更好的决定Part 1: How to make better decisions