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AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

ARC Relationship Coach Training Course

Aug 20/21

Presents…

About Me


Mission Statement

The overall aim of the Academy of Relationship coaching Course is to provide

the skills to coach single individuals in making good couple relationship choices and also to increase stability, happiness

and fulfillment for couples for long lasting loving relationships.


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Relationship Wheel

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Who Are Your Clients?

Single men Single women Couples Married couples Church goers

(very large untouched market)

Divorced


EDAMS Model


Establish Decide Action Measu

re State

EDAMS Module

1.E Establish2.D Decide3.A Action4.M Measure5.S State


Hope v Expect

1. Hope

2. Expect


Edams Module

1. E Establish What is the situation?

2. D Decide Responsibilty? (Wheel)

3. A Action When and What? (Books)

4. M Measure Achievements?5. S State

Hope/Expect/EmotionsAcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

Take The Arc Qualification Anywhere In The World With You And Be Recognised!


How Much Can You Earn?


£50 /

hour

per person

£100/

hour

per couple

Average =

£75 / hour

Let’s assume you can pull in just 5 working

client hours per day...

Per… Earnings

Day (5 Hours)

£375

Week (25 Hours)

£1875

Month £7500

Year £90000

Set Up Your Own Company


Website Leads Products – Cds,

DVDs, Seminars, Workshops

Interviews, radio, TV, Travel UK & Abroad.

Work on your own Marketing training

day Benefits

What You Will Learn On The Course

How men and women cope with stress differently

Resolve issues between couples/marriages in a positive way

Saving failed marriages/families Helping singles find and attract

the right partner Helping singles keep the right

partner Guide couples to marriage Provide positive steps to improve

communication between couples Understanding how men and

women’s brain are different Why men and women react

differently Why women want men to listen

and not give advice AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

Why men dislike women who want to change them

How men really fall in love How women really fall in love How to set up your own dating

events/speed dating singles parties etc

How to set up your own dating/relationship workshops and seminars

How to create and sell your own products globally

How to get in magazines, radio stations, TV etc

How to market yourself How to receive so many clients

you cant take anymore Earn £90,000 Per year and

possibly more


• Why do you think you cant find a good man?

• How much effort have you honestly given yourself?

• Are you old fashioned?

• Would you approach a man?

• Do you believe that they are out there?

• What changes can you do?

1. Unconsciously you don’t want to be in relationship

2. You are looking for a man in all the wrong places3. Men are not stepping up the plate4. You have too many insecurities and too much

drama5. Your aura is just wrong- give it away too freely6. Independence is making you hard to deal with7. You think that being domestic is subservient8. You have created an ideal man that only a

fairytale prince can live up to9. You don’t have your stuff together 10. You have too much baggage


Top 10 Reasons Why You May Be Single

What problems have these caused you in the past and do you see this causing you more problems in the future?

What needs to change? Exercise


What “Issues” Do You Have?

Do you LOVE yourself? How much time do you give

yourself? Do You Know What YOU

Want? What is the number one

quality you look for? Where has this come from?


YOU and YOURSELF

1. Ask lots of questions2. Don’t ignore warning signs

of potential problems3. Be aware of premature

compromises 4. Don’t give into lust

blindness5. Be aware of giving in to

material seduction 6. Put compatibility before

commitmentAcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

The Top Six Ways To Prepare and Package Yourself For “The One”

Why don’t we ask more before we fall in love?

Unromantic? An intelligent way to get to know

someone. Don’t want to hear anything bad. Lonely, tired, gap is filled You don’t want to disclose your

“stuff” too early

Exercise: Which questions are important to you in the early stages of the relationship?


1. Ask Lots Of Questions

Reflect on your last relationship. Signs at the start?

Did you pay a lot of attention to these signs?

Chose to ignore these signs?

Minimize its importance, excuses?


2. Don’t Ignore Warning Signs Of Potential Problems

Values, beliefs, hobbies, friends, etc. Lose sense of self early in the

relationship? Create a false sense of harmony? Conflict – stand by your beliefs, risk

tension. Conflict – compromise to “keep the

peace”.

Exercise: Which premature compromises have you experienced?


3. Be Aware Of Premature Compromises

• What is “lust blindness”? • In love with the passion and not the

person?• Feel your partner with your heart and not

your eyes.• Media influence.• Sex - make your partner wait . . .• Would you want to have this person’s

children?• Really get to know them first

Exercise: Have you ever given in to lust blindness?


4. Give In To Lust Blindness

• Judging by what materialistic things are available.

• Money, lifestyle, appearance, power, career, reputation.

• Men focus on women’s appearance rather than what she does .

• Women focus on what he does, husband material, security.

• Focus on YOU, not what someone can bring you.

Exercise: Have you experienced material seduction?


5. Material Seduction

• Emotional commitment before you know him / her very well

• Sex too early• Living together for the wrong reason and too

soon• Feel this is “the one” after just a few weeks• Feelings are much greater when compared to

quality time together• You have “changed” and are not aware of

this?• You plan the rest of your life with this

Partner?

Exercise: When have you put compatibility before commitment?


6. Put Compatibility Before Commitment


How To Coach Single Men


How To Coach Single Women


How To Coach Couples in Problems


How To Coach Married Couples in Problems


How To Coach Divorcees


ARC's FREE Resources Website

Marketing Coaching Relationship

Coaching Videos Articles

Tests Modules Network Training

Updates


ARC's Tools

Marketing Photograph Website Social Media

Support Facebook Fan

Page Admin Assistant London Chamber

of Commerce

October 22 Pop UP Banner

Stand Business Cards Flyers Networking

Events UK Tour Train Coachees Dating Events


What Is Your Chosen Niche Area?

Single Men Single Women Couples Divorcees Married Couples


You Will Now Be Perceived As A Relationship Expert


Congratulations!!!!

ARC Diploma in Relationship Coaching


ARCs Tools And Models

Marriage Wheel Divorce Wheel Couples Wheel Divorcee Wheel Singles Wheel Edams Model

SMERTIE

Identify what type of man you require in your life.

Where is this type of man likely to hang out?

Business man – clubs Fit / healthy man - gym Party man – networking / business

List the last 5 places you went and consider if there are other places you can go.


Secret 1: Looking For Men In The Wrong Places

Find friends who tell you the truth, regardless. Don’t cultivate friends who always tell you what you want to hear.

Take advice from those who are living the life you want to live.


Secret 2: Listening To Negative Female Friends And Allowing Them To Influence You


Secret 3: You’re Surrounded By Girlfriends Who Are Single Or Not In Serious Relationships If any of your girlfriends

have issues or are angry about relationships, are they the best person to have around?

Why do you confide in her?

What wouldn’t YOU do that SHE has done in the past?

What vibe DO you send out? Share with someone your first impressions

Ask friends and family to be frank and communicate what vibe/energy you send out when you enter the room

Law of AttractionAcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

Secret 4: Men Do Not Approach You Because Of The Vibe You Send Out

Who are your competitors?

Are they dating the men you want?

How are they attracting these men?


Secret 5: Be Aware That There Is More Competition Out There And Realise That Its Not All About You

Do you truly believe he is out there?

When you think about finding him, what goes through your mind?

You must think positively, especially when doubt creeps in or you find someone that interests you.

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Secret 6: You Need To Be Confident That The “Right” Man For You Does Exist

List your top 3 things that you must have from your next relationship and these things are so important to you

Where have these preferences come from? Are they perhaps associated with your ex partners, family or your past.

Can these preferences be amended to increase your chances?


Secret 7: Unrealistic Expectations

What personal development have you undertaken over the last 12 months?

Have you attended a workshop, seminar or class that spurred you to immediate action.

What development products do you have?

Have you joined any communication groups, eg on-line newsletters etc?

Do you surround yourself with like-minded, positive people?


Secret 8: Personal Development

How much YOU time do you devote to YOU?

Do you understand YOU?

How would you describe YOU

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

What do you think about yourself?


Secret 9: Do You Love Yourself?

We all have “stuff”, “issues” and “baggage” to work on and need to “let go”. What issues do YOU have?

Has there been a pattern to your past relationships?

What complaints did your exes have about you?

Choose the top one and make a decision to work on this.


Secret 10: Issues

Avoid going out with large groups of girlfriends – men feel intimidated by a large group of women and fear public rejection

Make sure you are clearly visible. No one will see you hidden away. You are more likely to be approached if you position yourself at or near the bar, the cloakrooms etc where men will be passing by frequently.


Secret 11: Getting Noticed

List the…

Top 5 things you want to know about him

Why the answers are important to you

What history has prompted these questions

What YOU have to do to attract this type of man. AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

Secret 12: Discreetly Interview / Screen Him

If you have any negative thoughts, teach yourself to automatically switch to positive ones

Practice this until it becomes second nature.

Devote just five minutes of your time to this mental exercise before you go to bed and again when you wake up.


Secret 13: Positive Thoughts/Affirmations

Unaware of your levels of compatibility

Unaware of each other’s core values

Emotional state when you met

Unaware or missing the early “signs” that indicate relationship success or failure


Secret 14: Why Do We Choose The Wrong Partner?

Are you set in your ways and not willing or able to be flexible and to compromise?

Would YOU date you?

What things are so important to you that you are not prepared to be flexible and change?

Do you know where this inflexibility has come from and is this attitude holding you back?

If you could compromise, what opportunities would it create for you?


Secret 15: Adaptability

Expand you circle of male friends. Just men – not potential partners.

Meet up with them and their male friends on a regular basis

Listen to their conversations and watch them look at other women.

What advantages do you think this would give you? AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com

Secret 16: Men !

List the top five places men have a reason to go and to hang out (eg. men’s shops, sport events, etc)

Plan beforehand – why are you there?

Educate yourself about sport – men love this!


Secret 17: Right Place

Be grateful every day and give yourself “Me” time at least once week.

Allocate an hour that is just for YOU and make appropriate arrangements so that you can always achieve this.

Turn off all forms of communication - this is YOUR time.

Perhaps a candlelit bath, your favourite sensual music?


Secret 18: ME Time

Chill and relax and focus on how you want your life to be.

Read books that are important and empowering to you.

What is the first thing you are going to do to achieve your goal? Write it down.

Be grateful for all the good things around you before you go to bed.


Secret 18: More ME Time

Assess how he copes when he is stressed with his job, his life in general, in his interactions with family, friends, children, officialdom etc.

How do YOU cope with stress?

What is it like when you are BOTH stressed?

Do you understand how differently men and women cope with stress?


Secret 19: Stress

Ask at least five truthful men what positive and negative traits you have.

Be prepared to be shocked or upset.

Even though their replies are about you, don’t take it “personally”

Learn from their comments and be honest with yourself


Secret 20: Getting To Know You

Ask the right questions in the early stages:

What are his goals for the coming year, the next three years’ the next five years?

How does he feel about having a family,

marriage, 100% commitment?

What are the warning signs?

If you know from the start, you can take the appropriate path through your relationship.


Secret 21: Questions

Decide on exactly what you want

Write down all you want from your next relationship.

Have you devoted 100% of your effort on finding him? If not, why not?

Could you do more?


Secret 22: What Do You Want?

Reflect on your past relationships. Do you know how your exes are feeling about breaking up with you?

How do you feel about the breakups?

Is it all about you?

What have you learned about you and men so far?

What are going to do differently from now on?


Secret 23: The Past

Signs are always there but we CHOOSE not to see them.

You minimise their importance

You don’t want to damage what’s good

You don’t want to be alone AGAIN, especially when you are tired of searching


Secret 24: Warning Signs

Write down the first thing that came to your mind when you read this question

Do you know why this was the first thing?

Write down another 30 things that make you happy?

Write down one thing you are going to do

to work towards your happiness


Secret 25: Are You Happy?

Coaching Skills


Selling Skills


Managing Positive Reactions To Changes


Managing Negative Reactions To Changes


Confront


Persuasive Presentation Skills


7 Step Model Of Change


20 Solution Focus Techniques


50 Solution Focused Quotes


Solution Focused Scaling Questions


Positive Solutions Clip


Positive Inspiring Clip For Your Clients


Man’s Sex Drive


Points System


Men’s Ideas – What Women Shouldn’t Do


What Makes Women Attractive To Men (Mark Gungar)?


6 Things Men Find Unattractive In A Woman


Coach Training With Tony Robbins


Questions?

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