Hammond family

Building Strong Relationships

Love

1Corinthians 13 verses 1 – 8

1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.

3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails.

Love is…•v4 patient, kind•v5 keeps no record of wrongs•v6 rejoices with the truth•v7 always protects• always trusts• always hopes• always perseveres

Love is not/does not…•V4 envy, boast, proud •V5 dishonours others, • self-seeking, • easily angered•V6 delight in evil

v8 Love never fails

Know God• in perfect relationship • “…I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do

only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.” John 5v19;

• “When the Advocate comes, whom I will send to you from the Father—the Spirit of truth who goes out from the Father—he will testify about me.” John 15v26

• creates us “in His image”

• God’s love is totally self-giving and sacrificial

Know our Salvation• we are sinners • “For God so loved the world that he gave his one

and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” John 3v16

• repent then God will forgive us

• HS gives us ability to make relationships his way

Know ourselves• Our strengths and weakenesses, our

needs and desires, our contentment or lack of contentment… all of these, and more, can have an influence in our relationships

• Ask someone who knows you well how they ‘see’ you?

• How do you come across to them in your relationship?

Know the other person

• We need to spend time with them, listen to them and truly understand them.

• Then we can bring what they need to the relationship.

• remember that they are a sinner saved by grace too!

for healthy, strong relationships we need to… • know God

• know our salvation

• know ourselves

• know the other person

be aware of

our motivation and

our

methods

our motivation

“why am I doing this?”

• my needs

• the needs of the other person

warning 关系

our methods

“why this way?”

5 love languages Gary Chapman

our methods “why this way?”

5 differing ways we like to receive love: •gift giving

•quality time•words of affirmation

•acts of service•physical touch

A simple act of lovecan make such

a difference in our relationships!