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Mentoring Ideas: Keys to becoming a successful mentor
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10 Characteristics of Successful Mentors
Keys to becoming a successful mentor
According to a study of Big Brothers, Big Sisters in the USA, one of the largest mentoring organizations in the world
1. Be a friendo Don’t act like a parento Don’t try to be an authority figureo Don’t preach about valueso DO FOCUS ON THE BOND
2. Have realistic goals and expectationso Focus on overall development, not performance
and changeo Center initial goals on the relationship itselfo Emphasize friendship over performance
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3. Have fun togethero Youth spell love – TIMEo Informal activities lay the foundation for formal
oneso Shared activities become great discussion starters
4. Give your protégé voice and choice in deciding activitieso Help them to explore possibilities and then make
their choiceso Listen more than you talko Question more than you Preach
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5. Be positiveo Praise and encouragement build self-esteemo Be supportive rather than critical – focus on
solutions rather than problems
6. Let the protégé have much of the control over what the two of you talk abouto Don’t push, be patiento Be sensitive and responsive to cueso Let them know that can confide in you without you
becoming judgmental
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7. Listeno Let youth vent without criticizing themo When you listen they see you as a friend, not an
authority figure
8. Respect the trust your protégé places in youo Respond in ways that show you understand. This is
not the same as agreeo Reassure the protégé that you are there for themo Advice should not be dispensed but mutually
discoveredo If you have to convey concern or displeasure, do it
with caring and understandingo Sound like a friend not a parent… youth easily
discern the difference
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9. Remember your relationship is with the youth and not the youth’s parento Maintain cordial contact, but you are not there to
be a spy for parents. You are there to be a champion for the youth
o Keep your focus on the youtho You are not there to bring about the parents
wishes, but to help the youth discover their potential
o Be non-judgmental about the family
10. You are responsible for building the relationshipo Take responsibility for making and maintaining
contacto Don’t expect adult to adult relationships
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