Chapter 8 Lessons 2 & 3 PEER RELATIONSHIPS Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills Dating Abstinence

Chapter 8Lessons 2 & 3

PEER RELATIONSHIPSPeer Pressure & Refusal SkillsDatingAbstinence

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO CONFORM?

What were the examples of peer pressure and conformity in this experiment?

Peer pressure- influence people of your own age or status have on you (spoken vs. unspoken)

1) Positive - good influence

2) Negative – negative consequences

- harassment – persistently annoying others

- manipulation – indirect or dishonest way to control influence others

Blackmail Guilt Trips

Threats

PressureViolence Teasing

Flattery BribingBargaining

WAYS TO MANIPULATE

Responses to Peer Pressure

- Passive – give in, avoiding- Aggressive – overly forceful- Assertive- stand up for rights in firm but positive way

HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE1) I messages2) Respectful but firm voice3) Alternatives to actions4) Clear & simple statements5) Appropriate body language (no mixed messages)

Refusal Skills – skills help you say no

• State your position• Suggest Alternatives• Stand your ground

Make your decision knownAvoid tempting situations

Change the subjectSuggest an alternative

Leave the situation

Lifeboat Activity• You have to decide the order in which you would save the

people on the sinking ship. Place a number next to each description (1-8).

• Write on a separate sheet of paper why you would save each character in that particular order.

Lifeboat Activity (cont)• Get into groups with your rows. • You must come up with an order of saving people as a group.

Most likely, people are going to have differing opinions but you can only have one answer.

• Write this down on a separate sheet of paper and the reason why you chose each person in that order.

Lifeboat Activity Questions

Please answer these questions in a paragraph:What did this activity have to do with the topic of peer

pressure?Did your group’s answer differ from your individual answer and

Why?If you were actually on the lifeboat in real life, how would peer

pressure effect your decision? Why?

Do Now - Answer the questionsWhich would be hardest to accept?- - Husband or wife cheating- - Husband or wife doing hard drugs- - Finding out husband or wife was married before and never told you

What do you look for in a mate?- - Good looking- - lots of money- - Fun to be with

What do you look at when you meet someone of opposite sex? - eyes- - Overall figure- - face

Which of these is most preferable to you?- - Stay single- - married no kids- - married with kids

Do Now: Answer these Brainstorming ?’s in your note packet

1) What is your definition of dating?2) What age should you begin dating?3) Name some appropriate places where you could go on a

date?4) Name negative and positive benefits of dating?5) List concerns your parents have about dating?

Dating & Setting Limits

Establishing Dating Standards1) Safe transportation2) Reasonable Curfew3) Have a code of contact4) Avoid Risk Situation

Dating Violence

22.4% of women and 15.0% of men first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age

What are qualities found in both?

Good Relationshi

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Bad relationship

Feelings Health Relationship

• Happy• Growth• Contentment• Energized• Optimism• Self – Respect• Enhanced Self Esteem• Encouragement

Feeling Unhealthy Relationship

• Fatigue• Negativity• Decline• Isolation• Sadness• Diminished Self• Desperation• Obsessive thoughts

WARNING SIGNS

Jealousy

Controlling

Isolation

Verbal Abuse Physical

Violence

Quick Involvement

Blaming Others

AbstinenceHow can teen sexual activity have negative

consequences on the following categories?

LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY BELOW:

1) Physical health2) Emotional Health3) Social Health4) Legal Implications

Abstinence

What are some reasons to practice abstinence until marriage?

1) Physical Health- Sexual Transmitted Infections- unplanned pregnancy

3) Emotional Health- hurt, self respect, guilt, regret

4) Social Health- reputation, family members

Committing to Abstinence

- Establish priorities- Set personal limits on affection- Share your thoughts- Avoid high pressure situations

*Use refusal techniques