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DR. DAVID ECKMAN
EMPATHYEMPATHY
THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF EMPATHYEMPATHY
共情(体谅)的生理现象共情(体谅)的生理现象
EMPATHYEMPATHY
MIRROR NEURONSMIRROR NEURONS
镜子反射试验镜子反射试验
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镜子反射试验中的大脑图
知道心思的脑细胞
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MIRROR NEURONS 镜子反射试验• Mimicking Actions Mimicking Actions 模仿动作模仿动作• Reading Intentions Reading Intentions 了解意图了解意图• Reading Implications Reading Implications 了解含义了解含义• Reading Emotions Reading Emotions 了解情感了解情感
““Our nervous systems. . . are constructed to Our nervous systems. . . are constructed to be captured by the nervous systems of be captured by the nervous systems of others, so that we can experience others as others, so that we can experience others as if we are within their skin.” if we are within their skin.”
““ 我们的神经系统的构成我们的神经系统的构成……是能够体会他人的神经系是能够体会他人的神经系统的知觉,好像我们自己亲身经历一样”。统的知觉,好像我们自己亲身经历一样”。
Dr. Daniel Stern University of Geneva Dr. Daniel Stern University of Geneva 日内瓦大日内瓦大学学 SternStern 博士博士
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EMPATHY EXERCISE
MIRROR IMAGE THE PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS AND THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON FOR THREE MINUTES, AND THEN REVERSE IT FOR THREE MINUTES!
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EMPATHY 学习同情体谅
• Ask for a story 询问一个故事• Picture the story in your mind
心中想象出来• Listen and ask questions until you feel
the story 聆听和询问,直到你能感受到对方的情感• Then respond sympathetically
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TEMPORAL-PARIETAL JUNCTION SYSTEM (TPJ)
• Found where the lobes of the brain intersect
• Helps us to understand other’s emotional states
• Responsible for Cognitive Empathy
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TEMPORAL-PARIETAL JUNCTION SYSTEM (TPJ)
• Utilized more by men• Mirror Neuron System
used more by women• Mirror Neuron
Responsible for Emotional Empathy
• In the analytical mode men may not feel other’s emotions
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SONG OF SOLOMON 所罗门的雅歌
The Woman
Beautiful One (13) Yafathy 2:10 美人
Companion (9) Rathy 1:9 伴侣
Bride (6) 新娘 Caalah 4:8
Sister (5) Aghaty 4:12 妹子
Beloved (4) Ahavah 3:7 亲爱的
Dove (3) Yonathy 5:2 鸽子
Perfect One (2) Tamathy 5:2 完全人
Pure One (2) Barah 6:9 纯贞
The Man
Beloved (33) Dody 1:14 良人
My Friend (1) Rathy 5:16 伴侣
Brother (1) Aghy 8:1 兄弟
BEAUTIFUL ONE
YAFATHY 2:10 美人
BELOVED AHAVAH
3:6 亲爱的
SISTER AGHATY 4:12 妹子
PERFECT ONE
TAMATHY 5:2 完全人
BRIDE 新娘CAALAH
4:8
PURE ONE BARAH 6:9
纯贞
DOVE YONATHY 5:2 鸽子
COMPANION RATHY 1:9 伴侣
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6:8 “There are sixty queens and eighty concubines, And maidens without number; 有 60 王后、八十嫔妃,并有无数的童女, 9 One she is, my dove, my perfect one: One she is to her mother; Pure One she is to the one who bore her. The maidens saw her and called her blessed, The queens and the concubines also, and they praised her, 她却是我的鸽子,我的完全人:她母亲所独生钟爱的纯贞女。众女子见了就称她有福;王后嫔妃见了也赞美她。
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GREATEST COMPLIMENT EXERCISE 最大赞许的练习• Write Gender on Paper 在纸条上写下自己的性别• Write Greatest Compliment from your
Mother 写下你母亲对你的最大赞许• Write Greatest Compliment from your Father
写下你父亲对你的最大赞许 • Write Greatest Compliment from Opposite
Gender 写下异性对你的最大赞许• Hand in and redistribute to groups of five to
sort out best one of each 将纸条收集起来,将人分为 5 至六人的小组,将纸条混合重新发给大家
• Hand in best from each group 各组选出最好的赞许交上来。
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EMPATHY
THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPTHE EMOTIONAL SYMPTOMS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPTHE ACHIEVEMENT OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
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28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, (Eph 5:28-29 NAS)
EPHESIANS 5:28-29
COMPASSIONCOMPASSION
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“31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.”
EPHESIANS 5:31-33
COMPASSIONCOMPASSION
GENDER CYCLE 性别间的循环
LOVE 爱
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GENDER CYCLE 性别间的循环
RESPECT 尊重
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GENDER CYCLE 性别间的循环
RESPECT 尊重
LOVE 爱
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE情绪智商
BY: DANIEL COLEMAN“HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE” PAGES 141-142“ 他与她的婚姻指导” 141-142 页
PRACTICAL APPLICATION实际应用
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“ . . . be careful not to attack their husbands - to complain about what they did, but not criticize them as a person or express contempt”
“应当小心,不要攻击她们的丈夫 - 可投诉他们的行为,但不要作人身攻击或表现轻视。”
PRACTICAL APPLICATION实际应用
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE情绪智商
BY: DANIEL COLEMAN“HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE” PAGES 141-142“ 他与她的婚姻指导” 141-142 页
PRACTICAL APPLICATION实际应用
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“Most especially, wives want their feelings acknowledged and respected as valid, even if their husbands disagree.”
“最重要的是,妻子希望她们的感受是被承认及尊重的,即使他们的丈夫不认同她们的想法。”
PRACTICAL APPLICATION 实际应用
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SKILL
Skill: have groups of four write out what are the four marks of a happy and stable marriage (then lecture on them)
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BWGI APP
Download “Becoming What God Intended” app in July
DR. DAVID ECKMAN