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Love Systems InsiderDate: December 2006

Making Your Own Routines

Have you ever been talking to a woman and lost your chances with her because you "ran out ofthings to say?" Did you ever have an awkward pause and then resort to "So... what do you do?"Have you ever left a set because you really just drew a blank?

Implications: Every routine should have a purpose. In my interview withThe Don on Using andCreating Routines, I explain how I assess what emotional state I want a woman to have, and thencreate or call up a piece of material that will establish that. Using a routine without knowingwhat you are trying to accomplish with it, or what can be accomplished by a specific routine, is alosing strategy.

"Literally, you can open with anything if you know what comes next." - The Don

Implications: We've been saying something like this for a while, at least the first part - that youcan open with anything. Sinn and I covered this definitively in the very first interview onOpenings and Transitions. However, what The Don is getting at is broader than this. There aretypes of routines that serve well as Transitional routines - between Opening and Attraction. Thisis comprehensively covered in Magic Bullets.

"Some people think of specific routines or specific wordings as some kind of

magical incantation... but that's not what's important." - Savoy

Implications: Most communication is non-verbal. What you say is not as important as how you

say it. Even in terms of what you say, the ideas and structure are more important than the actualsequence of words. Do not study routines. Use them as examples. Then make your own.

"If you're still using Jealous Girlfriend and Best Friends Test, you haven't

progressed... You need to learn to do this your own way." - The Don

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The Don hits the nail straight on the head here. Other peoples' routines are training wheels. Use

them to get some practice if you need to, and look at their structure to get an idea of how a goodroutine should work, then make your own. If you know what you're doing, it's not that hard. Atmost every bootcamp now, instructors work individually with students to develop - and practice- personalized routines that they can use that night that reflect the best aspects of theirpersonality.

Savoy

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