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Yours, Mine ,Ours or Not?. THE SCIENCE OF CUSTODY Heather McDonnell Sarah Lawrence College. The Obligation to Pay for College. Gamete One meets Gamete Two Somewhere, someplace, somehow Two gametes join and become one chromosome…. Occurs. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Yours, Mine ,Ours or Not?
THE SCIENCE OF CUSTODYHeather McDonnell
Sarah Lawrence College
The Obligation to Pay for College Gamete One
meets Gamete Two
Somewhere, someplace, somehow
Two gametes join and become one chromosome….
Occurs Gamete One does
not need to be married to Gamete Two for this obligation or chromosome to be created
At the Moment of Conception Gamete One can
be the same as Gamete Two.
How both joined to become one is irrelevant.
IT’S YOUR chromosome.
Definition of Parent Has nothing to do with marriage Has nothing to do with more than
50% support Has nothing to do with
relationships other than the one each parent has with the student
Has everything to do with your child’s future
Parent?
Catalog 12345 Specimen 456Ethiopian architect 6’5”
However…..
Some things don’t last
Homeless Youth 1.7 million youth between ages 13-
17 experience at least one episode of homelessness. Runaways Transitory UnaccompaniedUnaccompanied Street dependent
Homeless Youth Unaccompanied youth
Frequents a safe harbor Night shelter Food line/soup kitchen Shelter services
All are easily documented
Homeless Youth Runaways Transitory Street dependent
Not so easy to document…..
Circumstances change
Not all relationships make it…
Not all families make it either…
The Obligation
Does Last…..
When Life Changes The obligation
must be understood by both parents.
This obligation is expected to be met when considering college expenses.
The “UnParent” Is this person
really a “non” entity?
Is there contact? Is there money
exchanged? Is there
participation in school activities?
The Ability to Pay
Same formula as the other parent Same expectation to contribute
Same kid, different address Supplement the complete family’s
ability to pay for college expenses
The Inability to Pay
Low or lost income Other obligations
New family
Whereabouts unknown……
Third Party Documentation
Unbiased and disinterested person attests to the lack of support and/or involvement
-someone who has nothing to gain by making such a statement
Δ How disinterested is a school or college counselor?
Willingness to Pay Part of the
decision to choose a college
Part of the discussion about going to college
The UnParent is partnered with student
Unwilling to Pay
Supplant available resources?
Divorce/separation residual
A “silent” partner?
Limited Resources
Colleges and universities do not have “spare” money
Our obligation is to get the money to the right student
Our commitment is to supplement the complete family’s ability to pay
Final Word
Each college and university reacts to the dynamic family circumstance with an eye on the total resources available for all students