Motivating disaffected and hard to handle students

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), also known as developmental trauma disorder (DTD) or complex trauma, is a proposed diagnostic term for a set of symptoms resulting from prolonged stress of a social and/or interpersonal nature, especially in the context of interpersonal dependence.

• Build on mistakes or partially correct answers• Wrong answers should be dignified by acknowledging the

part that was right• Allow the 3Rs of Academics Revise, Redo, Retake• Separate effort from achievement when grading• Encourage each student to improve one little thing each

day• Show simple courtesy• Let the student know that you care more about them then

their performance• Ask for small thing first• Celebrate markers and endings

• I don’t want a power struggle with you because neither of us wants to lose

• We both know you have the power to________. Thanks for using it

• Ask for an opinion• Teach a lesson• Teach responsibility and self-control• Speak to the student in private• Call home to speak to the student• Emphasize success and acknowledge students who already have

the skills to succeed• Don’t use extrinsic reinforcement-It promotes temporary relief

not permanent help

Keys to The Foundation of Character

COMPLIANCE/RESPECT

OPTIMAL AGES TO TEACH CHILDREN RESPONSIBILITY

Between the ages of 9 and 13 behaviors need to be taught

that stress respect, responsibility, and compliance.

When the child understands authority and can self generate these behaviors he is now ready

to have relational interaction with adults.

Character needs to be stressed at this age.

RELATIONSHIPS-APPLICATION

•With teenagers - We lead by the power of our relational influence and look to

help them understand relationships and friendships and the application of

character in their life.

•Once compliance is established and authority is understood we should allow more freedom as we move to the bottom of the triangle.

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What We Do Now!!!The Exact Opposite

FREEDOM AND CHOICES TO YOUNG CHILDREN – 2-9 TEMPER TANTRUMS, CRYING AND WHINNING. IT IS

VERY EASY TO GIVE IN TO A CRYING CHILD!

NO BOUNDRIES BETWEEN 10-13 YEARS OLDSTART SAYING AND DOING WHAT THEY WANT VERY

ARGUEMENTATIVE-CONCERN DEVELOPS ON THE PART OF TEACHERS AND PARENTS REGARDING THE CHILD’S

BEHAVIORREBELLION, GRADES 9-12, NO SELF DISCIPLINE, OR SELF MOTIVATION

POWER STRUGGLES, NO CHARACTER. IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO RESTRAIN THE

BEHAVIORS OF A REBELLIOUS TEENAGER

Neo-Cortex Higher

Order Thinking Limbic System – Mind Will

Emotions

Brain Stem

Bricks in the Wall

• As the brain is placed under stress the need for survival becomes greater. It then downshifts into the stem. There are only two ways it can survive ------ FIGHT OR FLIGHT. A person with the FIGHT mentality will develop conduct problems. A person with the FLIGHT mentality develops clinical problems. Conduct problems require respect, Clinical problems require responsibility

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• Teachers should teach students how to problem solve in the following areas that are universal to all students: Relationships, Family issues, Fears and Anxieties, Self-Acceptance issues, Anger problems, Right vs. Wrong, Peer Pressure, and Problems with Authority.

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We can’t solve a problem at the same level of thinking we were at when the problem was created.

If you can’t explain it simply, you probably don’t understand it well enough.

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