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The art of Photo by Seth Anderson [link ] self-coaching Ed Batista CLASS 4: HAPPINESS

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The art of

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self-coachingEd BatistaCLASS 4: HAPPINESS

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Class 4

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Happiness

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Happiness 15 minsStrategize 35 minsCharacter strengths 20 minsA conversation 25 minsFor next time… 5 mins

Agenda

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Positive

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psychology

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Positive

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psychologyEudaimoniaThe highest human aimFlourishing or fulfillmentDistinct from mere pleasure

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Positive

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psychologyEudaimonia“Happiness does not lie in amusement…

…but in virtuous activities.”~Nicomachean Ethics, Book X

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Happiness

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HappinessIt matters(Although more isn’t always better)

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Happiness

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HappinessCan it be pursued?Or must it ensue?

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HappinessViktor Frankl

Happiness must happen.Martin Seligman

H = S + C + V

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GeneticSet Point(50%)

Intentional

Activities(40%)

(10%)

Life Circumstances

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Facts & myths

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Facts & mythsFact: Variance among individuals in the sampleMyth: Sources of each individual’s happiness

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Facts & mythsFact: Hereditary traits influence happinessMyth: Genetics = 50% of your happiness

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Facts & mythsFact: Circumstances matter less than we thinkMyth: Circumstances = 10% of your happiness

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Facts & mythsFact: Hedonic adaptation diminishes impactMyth: Circumstances don’t matter

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Facts & mythsFact: Money ≠ happinessMyth: It’s irrelevant

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Facts & mythsMyth: Intentional activities = 40% of happinessFact: They can have a significant impactWhy does this matter?

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ChangeLarge goals Small componentsCelebrate small victoriesExperimentAgency

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Happiness

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strategies

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HappinessstrategiesSonja Lyubomirsky, UC RiversideWhat activities have a demonstrable impact?

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HappinessstrategiesGratitude SavoringOptimism CommitmentOverthinking CopingKindness ForgivenessRelationships SpiritualityEngagement (Flow) Your Body

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HappinessstrategiesGratitude SavoringOptimism CommitmentOverthinking CopingKindness ForgivenessRelationships SpiritualityEngagement (Flow) Your Body

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FlowMihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Claremont(Cheek-sent-me-high)

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Skill

BOREDOM

ANXIETY

FLOWChallenge

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HappinessstrategiesGratitude SavoringOptimism CommitmentOverthinking CopingKindness ForgivenessRelationships SpiritualityEngagement (Flow) Your Body

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Taking careMeditationExercise & restSmiling & laughingGrouped for convenience?Treat them as distinct strategies?

of your body

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HappinessstrategiesGratitude SavoringOptimism CommitmentOverthinking CopingKindness ForgivenessRelationships SpiritualityEngagement (Flow) Your Body

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HappinessNo optimal mixHighly personalized

strategies

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HappinessContingent on…NaturalnessEnjoymentValuesAbsence of guilt or pressure

strategies

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Character

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strengths

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CharacterMartin Seligman, Christopher Peterson, et al How do we achieve eudaimonia?How do we live the good life?

strengths

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CharacterValues in Action (VIA) InstituteA DSM for positive psychology“Manual of the Sanities”

strengths

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CharacterStudied cultural, philosophical, religious traditionsClassification scheme of universal* values Valid, reliable instrument (VIA Survey)

strengths

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VIA schemeVirtues (Abstract, universal)StrengthsSituational themes (Specific, contextual)

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VIA schemeVirtues6 universally* valuedToo abstract to test

WisdomCourage

HumanityJustice

TemperanceTranscendenc

e

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VIA schemeVirtuesStrengthsDistinct paths to the virtues24 items in your VIA report

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VIA schemeVirtuesStrengthsSituational themesHabits that give rise to strengthsHighly variable across settings & cultures

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VIA schemeVirtuesStrengths (Best for testing) Situational themes

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CharacterWhat are they?Processes that define the virtuesRoutes through which a virtue is enacted

strengths

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CharacterWhat are my VIA results?NOT aptitude or proficiencyOwnership, celebration & frequency of use

strengths

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Remember…

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Remember…“A map is not the territory it represents.”

~Alford Korzybski

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6 virtuesWisdomCourageHumanityJusticeTemperanceTranscendence

(& 24 strengths)

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Wisdom

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CognitiveAcquisition & use of knowledge

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Wisdom

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CreativityCuriosityJudgmentLove of learningPerspective

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Courage

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EmotionalAccomplish goals in the face of resistance

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Courage

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BraveryHonestyPersistenceZest

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Humanity

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InterpersonalTending & befriending others

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Humanity

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KindnessLoveSocial intelligence

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Justice

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CivicHealthy community life

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Justice

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FairnessLeadership Teamwork

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Temperance

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Intra-personalAuspicious self-restraint

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Temperance

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ForgivenessHumilityPrudenceSelf-regulation

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Transcendence

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Connection to something beyond ourselves

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Transcendence

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Appreciation of beauty & excellenceGratitudeHopeHumorSpirituality

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Signaturestrengths

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SignatureCharacterized by…Sense of ownership & authenticityFeeling of excitementContinuous learningDesire to use itInvigoration

strengths

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SignatureMartin SeligmanThe good life is “Using your signature strengths

every day in the main realms of your life

to bring abundant gratification andauthentic happiness.”

strengths

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To sum up

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Happiness (eudaimonia) mattersIntentional activities do, tooIntrinsic motivation is keySignature strengths point the way

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For next time…

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Resilience

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Two exercises

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ResilienceQuotient

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Resilience56 questionsSame as in Reivich & Shatté (easier to score)Go with your gut; don’t deliberate

Quotient

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ResilienceComplete it (10 mins)Then score it (10 mins)Then do the Class 5 readingsThen prepare a story…

Quotient

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A story…

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A story…After doing the reading, complete the worksheetAn experience when you were resilientBe prepared to explain your resilience(Use your RQ Assessment)You’ll have 4 minutes