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The art ofself-coachingEd Batista
Class 9: SUCCESS
“Success Kid” photograph © Laney Griner, used with permission [link]
Success
“Success Kid” photograph © Laney Griner, used with permission [link]
Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]
Strengths + a conversation 30 minsValues + a group discussion35 minsConditions + a conversation 25 minsFor next time… 5 mins
Agenda
Today’s guiding spirit
StrengthsIt takes far more energy and work to improve from incompetence to mediocrity than it takes to improve from first-rate performance to excellence.
~Peter Drucker
Growth mindset?Change is always possible…
What’s the opportunity cost?
With yourpartnerWhat are my greatest strengths?Where am I capable of excellence?
DebriefWhat did you learn?
More happiness
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myths…
I’ll be happy
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when…
I’ll be happy
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when…
I’ll be happySonja LyubomirskyWhy doesn’t success make us happier?
when…
Hedonic treadmill
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Hedonic treadmillThe more we attain, the happier we
become. But the more we attain, the more we want.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
Hedonic treadmillTwo chief explanations: We experience
less & less pleasure over time & our aspirations rise.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
Hedonic treadmillAre high achievers doomed?
How do we avoid settling?
SocialThose of us who typically rely on our own internal, objective standards are happiest.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
SocialThose of us who base our self-evaluations on comparisons with others are the unhappy ones.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
SocialWhy might this be a bigger problem post-GSB?
comparison
Goal
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pursuit
GoalThe critical factor in whether goal pursuit makes us happy lies in enjoying the journey & not in realizing the end-goal.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
pursuit
GoalBut when do we prioritize the journey?And is now too soon?
pursuit
So whatcan we do?
AspirationConcrete experiences & observationsGratitude & appreciationGoal selection & framingValues
management
ValuesTo work in an organization whose value system is incompatible with one’s own condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker
A value systemIf you worship money & things, you will never have enough. Worship your own body & beauty, you will always feel ugly. Worship power, you will end up feeling weak & afraid.
~David Foster Wallace
A value systemThe really important kind of freedom involves attention & awareness & discipline & effort & being able truly to care about other people & to sacrifice for them, over & over.
~David Foster Wallace
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In your groupsof 6What have I learned about my values?How do they influence my aspirations?
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DebriefWhat did you learn?
Thank your group
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Find your Profl.
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Partner
ConditionsFor knowledge workers, How do I perform? may be an even more important question than What are my strengths?
~Peter Drucker
A conversation
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A conversationWhat have you learned about the conditions
under which you do your best work?
To sum upSuccess may entail focusing on strengthsManaging aspirations will be keyClarity on values can helpThe power of No
EndingsWilliam Bridges on transitionsChristopher Peterson on life & habits& some feedback…
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FeedbackFor both of your partnersThe worksheet is a suggestionUse whatever format work best for you
Other items…Weekly assignment: Tuesday Dec 6, 9pmFinal paper: Tuesday Dec 13, 9pm
