Adab of Adab of DisagreementDisagreement

(Ikhtilaf)Taking a different position of another person either in opinion, utterance or action (two individuals or more have

conflicting ideas, positions, or sayings)Means : difference, disagreement, conflict

The Etiquette (adab) of The Etiquette (adab) of DisagreementDisagreement

1)1)SINCERITYSINCERITY2)2)PATIENCEPATIENCE3)3)TOLERANCE AND MERCYTOLERANCE AND MERCY4)4)WISDOMWISDOM5)5)GIVE NASIHAHGIVE NASIHAH

1. SincerityMust be based on sincerity, not

because of dislike or personal benefit.Disagreement is permissible but

must rely on sincere intentions (ikhlas)-for the sake of Allah Ta’ala-and also to help our brothers in Islam.

Muslims should have the pure intention of pleasing Allah (S.W.T.) in any of their disagreements, and should not argue just for satisfying one's desires or for arrogance.

Hadith reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim, in which Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) ordered his companions after the battle of Al-Ahzaab saying, “No one of you should pray Asr until you reach the village of Bani-Qurayzah (A Jewish tribe) .” While they were on their way, the time of Asr came. Some companions said we should not pray until we reach Bani-Qurayzah. Others said we should pray Asr now because the Prophet (S.A.W.) did not mean for us to leave the Asr prayer, but he wanted us to be in a hurry. So some of the companions prayed Asr , while others continued on until they reached Bani-Qurayzah after sunset. When they went back to the Prophet, they mentioned to him the story and he did not blame either one of them." This Hadith clearly shows us that the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) accepted both opinions, because if one of them were wrong then the Prophet would have expressed it at that time.

2. PatienceStay calm and speak with soft voice- people

tend to listen when their not being yelled at.Choose the most accurate words, clarifying

the meaning of certain terminology that will be used, using the best words and avoiding the bad ones, listening to other opinions carefully with an open mind, avoiding interrupting others while they speak, and finally, giving others enough time to express their opinions.

3. Tolerance and MercyDo not insult and bombard the personDo not force them to agree with you (open

minded)Respect others opinionEveryone in disagreement should believe that

there is a chance that the others could be correct and that he could be wrong.

4. WisdomIt has to be something that is importantDo not waste time arguing unnecessary

issues or issues that have been clearly satated in the Quran Al-Kareem.

Muslims must be ready to accept the verdict from Allah (S.W.T.) and His Messenger with complete submission after the truth becomes clear to them. In this case they should follow the truth, no matter what.

5.Sincere NasihahGive advice to direct someone to the right path.

Think about the best way to approach and change the attitudes of any person we advice.

Some Practices of Adab of disagreement After the Death of the Prophet s.a.w Disagreement over the reality of the death. Saidina Umar Al-Khattab –do not believe that

The Messenger had died and threatened to punish for those who said so.

Saidina Abu Bakr Siddiq came and recite verse 144 Surah Ali Imran and verse 30 (Al-Zumar)

S.Umar drop his sword and realised the truth.

Differences over the Prophet Burial Where should be buried? Some said, in Masjid Nabawi, other said,

next to his Companions… Saidina Abu Bakr said : I heard

Rasulullah said, Whenever a Prophet died he was buried where he died.

Thereupon, the Prophet was buried in Saidatina ‘Aisyah’s house.

The successor of The Prophet Who was to succeed the Prophet (pbuh)?? Should it be the Muhajirun or Ansar? Saidina Abu Bakr was elected to be the

first caliph by the acclamation of the people present at the meeting of Thaqifah.

Saidina Umar was the first person to give the allegiance (bai’ah) to Saidina Abu Bakr.

• Finally, Muslims should always supplicate to Allah (S.W.T.) to open our hearts and minds to the truth. “O' Allah show us the truth “O' Allah show us the truth clearly and help us to follow it clearly and help us to follow it and love it. O' Allah show us the and love it. O' Allah show us the false clearly and help us to stay false clearly and help us to stay away from it and to hate it.”away from it and to hate it.”