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Training Program on
Presented By:-
Sucheta Deshpande 09-715Supriya Gouda 09- 717Deepali Koli 09-735
Assertiveness Skills
Training Module
Course Level: Basic through advancedDuration: 1 dayTraining Presented in: EnglishTrainers: Supriya, Sucheta & DeepaliNumber of Trainees: 8Venue: Vidyalankar Institute of
TechnologyTime: 1 p.m
Icebreaker : Congratulations
Course Objectives
Understand the philosophy of being assertive.
Recognize the differences between being assertive & aggressive
Controlling emotions
Successful Strategies to become confident
Setting clear boundaries
Experiential working through simulations
Use what already works
Use of quiz, management games, simulations etc.
Have You Ever
Felt… … guilty about saying “no”?
… that others regard you as a pushover?
… that it’s better to be well liked than well respected?
… that outbursts of anger are appropriate?
… that intimidation is the only way you can get what you want?
Sounds Familiar?
If any of these things sound like you, it means you are probably exhibiting non-assertive behavior.
Realize that you are not alone.
Non-assertive behavior is very common in people.
What Assertiveness is..
An honest, direct, and appropriate expression of one's feelings, thoughts, and beliefs
A response that seeks to maintain an appropriate balance between passivity and aggression.
Respect for yourself and others
Effectively influencing, listening, and negotiating with others.
Why Assertiveness Is Important? Effective communication brings
about the achievement of individual and/or shared goals.
Assertiveness increases your ability to reach these goals while maintaining your rights and dignity.
Quiz
Characteristics of Assertive Person
Tend to face problems promptly and they focus
on solutions rather than problems.
A person with an assertive attitude recognizes
that each individual has rights.
Defend themselves when someone else attempts
to dominate them
Use aggression defensively, and never offensively.
Chocolate Game
AGGRESSIVE PASSIVE ASSERTIVEMeaning opinions, feelings,
and wants are honestly stated, but at the expense of others
– opinions, feelings, and wants are withheld altogether or expressed indirectly
opinions, feelings, and wants are clearly stated without violating the rights of others
Advantages
get what they want
minimizes responsibility for making decisions
– active participation in making decisions, getting what you want without alienating others etc
Disadvantages
– make enemies and people avoid them
– low self-esteem and having to live with others decisions
What you are???
What’s Keeping You From Being Assertive?
Fear of change.
Fear of ruining relationships if you speak your mind.
Fear of making mistakes
Fear of displeasing others
Fear of disapproval
Lack confidence in your ability
The Myths About Assertiveness
Other people’s feelings and rights are more important than yours.
You are not important enough to express your feelings and rights.
You will offend other people by being assertive.
ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION
Situation # 1
Your friend, who habitually arrives late for
your plans, has shown up twenty minutes late
for a lunch date.
“You’re so rude! You’re always late.”
"We were supposed to meet at 11:30, but now
it’s 11:50."
Situation # 2 Your friend’s certain type of
behaviour annoys you.
“You need to stop that!” “I’d like it if you’d stop that.”
Verbal Communication
Avoid fillers like “uh” and “um” and diminutives like “little,” “only” and “just.”
Don’t use “I’m sorry” if you’re not sincere or if the situation doesn’t call for it.Always keep in mind your tone and volume, and how think about how they may be perceived by others.
Non-Verbal CommunicationBe aware of gestures and
body language.
Make sure to allow for comfortable personal space between you and the person you’re communicating with.
Always maintain good
posture.
Written Communication
Be concise and clear.
Use the active voice when writing, and remember to be inclusive and aware of your audience.
Use specific and simple language.
Assertive Listening
Let the other person know that you
want to understand his/her point of
view.
Understand accurately what the other
is saying.
Let the other know that s/he has been
understood.
*This doesn’t mean that you have to
agree!
Examples:
“I’d like to hear your views on…”
“Could you tell me about…”
“I’m confused about your stand on…”
“What does the situation look like from
your perspective…?”
Nonverbal Assertiveness
Eye contact.
Posture
Facial expression
Gestures
Personal Appearance
Tone of Voice
Conflicts & Assertiveness Deal with the situation immediately.
Listen carefully.
Avoid being defensive.
Ask questions.
Compliment the individual/group
for having the courage to bring this to your
attention.
Respond calmly and clearly.
Offer alternatives.
Controlling Your Emotions
1. Breathe, relax, and
remain calm.
2. Realize demonstrations
of anger, shouting, and
threats are never
appropriate.
3. Use neutral, non-
judgmental statements.
Contd..
4. Consider the other
party’s viewpoint and
emotions.
5. Don’t make accusatory
statements-- blame is
usually a dead-end road.
6. Check yourself before
you say something you’ll
regret later on.
Four Steps To Saying “No”
1. Listen to the request
2. Say no immediately
3. Give a reason for your refusal
4. Offer to find an alternative
Assertiveness Tips… Actually use the word "no" when declining. Pay attention to what others are saying
and let them know that you are listening. Anger may seem like a quick fix, but it will
get you nowhere fast. Yelling until you are blue in the face will
only come back to haunt you later.
Be aware of your gestures and how you hold
and present yourself.
Always ask questions when clarification is needed to avoid misunderstanding.
Look for ways to solve the problem so all parties are satisfied.
Make sure your body reflects confidence Try to think win-win Don’t assume you know what the other
person’s motives are Avoid feeling guilty
It Doesn't End Here !!
Think about the situations you encounter
where you would like to be more assertive.
Develop an action plan: what will you do
differently in the future in order to be
more assertive?
"Let's build bridges, not walls“
-MLK, Jr.
THANK YOU