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say. And here, you are
quite right; they probably
are, in a sense. But that
doesn't mean that
leaders are crowned with
that title only in utero.
Leaders happen to
come in all shapes and
sizes and wrappings. Put
it this way, if you are a
teacher (and who isn't?),
you lead. If you are a
boss or a supervisor, or
in charge of any work
operation, you lead. If
you are a parent, you
lead. If you have friends
who admire you, you
lead. If you have
siblings, you lead. The
list is truly endless.
But there seems to
be a reluctance, almost
a resistance to think of
ourselves as leaders.
First of all, we often
associate leadership
with charisma. This is
unfortunate. When we
do that we automatically
e x c l u d e t h e
overwhelming majority of
people, because how
many of us are truly
charismatic?
And then there is
the fear factor. Fear is
probably the sharpest
(Continued on page 13)
Affiliate of the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism
Volume 55 Issue 4
Leadership me? by Rabbi Yaakov Salomon (AISH.COM)
C O N G R E G A T I O N B E T H S H A L O M
Congregation Beth Shalom Bulletin
Inside this issue:
Rabbi’s Study 2
President’s Message 3
Sisterhood/Men’s Club 4/5
Calendars 12
Yahrzeits 15
Funds 16/17
Hebrew School/PTO 18
Member Updates 19
I am not a leader.
Period.
I'm a follower ... and a
good one, at that. I'm
quiet, unassuming, timid,
cautious, and decidedly
unadventurous. I avoid the
limelight and disdain any
kind of attention. I dislike
parties. I have the
personality of a stapler.
Heck, I don't even vote. In
short, I just mind my own
business.
Sound like you?
Well, I have some
important news for you.
YOU'RE WRONG!
Sorry for yelling, but
I'm trying to make sure I
get my message through
to you.
Oh, you may indeed
be quiet, timid, and
restrained. I don't doubt
that. You may even hide
when the mailman comes.
But, believe it or not, that
doesn't mean you are not
a leader.
You probably think
leadership is genetic and if
your last name isn't
Feinstein, Kanievsky -
or lehavdil Bonaparte or
Giuliani for that matter --
you just don't have what it
t a k e s . " T h e s e
are born leaders," you
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With the issue of same sex marriage placed in the juris-diction of each individual state, religious leaders are weighing in on both sides of the issue. There is an effort among the far right to influ-ence lawmakers to restrict marriage to “one man and one woman”. On the far left, religious leaders cry out for equal rights under the law, granting the status and pro-tections of marriage to “all loving monogamous cou-
ples”.
In our home state of New Jersey, the Judiciary Commit-tee voted seven to six (December 7, 2009) in favor of a bill that would afford same sex couples the oppor-tunity to marry in the state of New Jersey. Governor Jon Corzine has promised to sign the bill if it makes it to his desk during the remainder of his term. Governor Elect, Chris Christie, has promised to veto any such bill during his tenure. And so the race is
on.
Neighboring states are deal-ing with similar issues. Re-cently, the New York State Senate defeated a same sex marriage bill. Maine voters overturned a decision by their state legislature which would allow same sex marriage. In Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa and Vermont same sex marriages have been legal-ized. The issue will continue to be addressed by legisla-tures throughout the United
States of America.
Every religious group seems to have those with opinions on each end of the spectrum. The Jewish community is
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“The imposition of a theological
standard upon the civil
definition of marriage does not end with
gender specific
definitions.”
clearly divided on this issue. Here in New Jersey, organi-zations have been developed to “preserve the sanctity of marriage”. Rabbis and com-munity leaders have also mo-bilized to protect the rights of individuals to secure marital status under the law regard-
less of their gender.
It is my considered opinion that religious leaders and organizations imposing or attempting to impose a theo-logical standard on the civil definition of marriage is a dangerous precedent. The total separation of church and state has preserved our ability to practice our religious be-liefs with total freedom and discretion. The imposition of a theological standard upon the civil definition of mar-riage does not end with gen-der specific definitions. Per-haps marriage should be re-stricted to only those of the same faith tradition. Could one advocate that a Get (religious divorce) be re-quired as a prerequisite to receiving a marriage license? Should a Mamzer (individual religiously precluded from marriage) be denied the op-portunity to marry under civil law? Perhaps marriage should be limited to those who are willing to marry un-der the Sign of the Cross. If we accept the religious ma-jority’s definition of marriage in a religious context, those unions which have taken place under a Chuppah should not be recognized by
civil authority.
Religious leaders and reli-gious communities are re-quired to establish religious criteria for marriage. That
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In the event of an emergency
Rabbi Senter
can be contacted by cell phone at
973-713-8727
criteria can, upon the discre-tion of religious leaders and religious communities, in-clude gender considerations. Outside of a religious con-text, we do not have a right to impose religious standards upon the civil qualifications for marriage. Within the Jewish community, the dis-tinction between civil mar-riage and religious marriage is very clear. Halacha (Jewish law) recognizes nei-ther civil marriage as Kedushin (religious mar-riage) or civil divorce as a Get (religious dissolution from a marriage). We have made a clear delineation be-tween the purview of the reli-gious community and that of the civil community in the
area of marriage and divorce.
We are blessed to live in a country that precludes our legislatures from dictating religious policy. We need to understand that this is a two-sided coin. Theological stan-dards cannot be imposed upon the civil definition of marriage. The wall of sepa-ration between church and state must be preserved. As Jewish Americans, we are compelled to separate the religious aspect of this issue from the civil aspect of this issue. We have the right and the obligation to allow the teachings of Judaism to in-form our civil opinions. This is completely different from imposing a religious standard
upon a civil mechanism.
With Torah Blessings,
Rabbi David R. Senter
Shalom Haverim,
I had the distinct pleasure to be able to attend the United Synagogue of Con-servative Judaism’s Bien-nial Convention that was held in Cherry Hill, New Jersey from December 6th through December 10th. This was the first time I had gone to the interna-tional convention. I learned a great deal, met some very interesting members as well as put faces to the Presidents’ list
server.
I had signed up for meet-ings specifically dealing with synagogue finances. The other participants came from shuls that had 700 members up to 1500 members as well as one congregation that only had 50 members. We all, no matter the size, had simi-lar difficulties making their budgets. Some of them did have endowment programs, and annual giv-ing, as well as a variety of
other fundraising program.
I also attended the busi-ness meeting at which the By-Laws for the Interna-tional Organization were changed. The Board was reduced from 200 mem-bers to a range of 45 to 70 members. The Regional structure is being changed to a much larger District Office, which is supposed
to offer the member con-gregations more services by specialists in various fields. Another change is the establishment of a General Assembly as part of the governing body. There were also changes as to how often the Con-
vention will meet.
I had the distinct pleasure to meet Rabbi Wernick, the new CEO of the move-ment, as well as, Mr. Skol-nick the new International
President.
I have not davened that much since I was in a ye-shiva as a very young boy. The shaharit services were traditional or egalitarian. On the last day they also had a Storah telling ser-vice. The mincha and Mariv service were also either traditional or egali-tarian. There was also a motzie before every meal as well as Berchat-ha-
Mozon after every meal.
Between meetings and meals, I had very little time to visit the vendors that were there. I did get to talk to a few, but not enough time to get things
to bring back to the shul.
I also attended a Cantorial Concert that would knock your socks off. The Dela-ware Valley Cantorial As-
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Message from the President– Larry Tornow
“..We all, no matter the size, had similar
difficulties making their
budgets.”
sembly performed as well as an a cappella group called Six Thirteen. They
were extremely good.
USCJ is not sure where the next convention will be or when. I would recommend that if any of you have the funds and the time to at-tend, go and learn, schmooze and have a dif-ferent experience as a member of United Syna-gogue. I met some great people, got some very good ideas and offers of help from people all over
North America.
We at CBS just had our Chanukah Supper and it was good to see some of the kids from our Hebrew School and their parents there. I, of course, would have liked to see more of our members in attendance but I guess we can use the excuse of the weather be-ing dangerous. Maybe you will attend at some other
event.
As I write this it is the 3rd night of Chanukah and I hope that your Chanukah was really great. I wish to send the best to all of you for the New Year, 2010. May next year bring you health, wealth and much
Nachus.
Larry Tornow
President
Sisterhood - Ellie Weiner 50 bags of food for the pantry. We also sent over 30 coats to a homeless she l ter in Newark . Through your warm hearts and generosity we have helped warm many others in our community. We are proud of your efforts and realize what a wonderful group of friends we have in each other.
All of Sisterhood works very hard and happily; to be a part of Congregation Beth Shalom. We enjoy sharing a piece of our Sisters’ lives in our shul and in our lives. We enjoy seeing you in the many areas of CBS and look forward to sharing more with each of you.
Please let us know if there is anything we are not aware of that would make your membership more valuable. Suggest a program for us, share a talent, and let us know what we can do for you! I am always available to listen and share!
Finally let me wish everyone a happy healthy new year. May 2010 bring many good things for all of us. Happiness, health and love to all. Good luck if anyone makes any resolutions!
Shalom,
Ellie Weiner
As the old song goes ………Baby its cold outside! We are now fully into the winter season. I hope you enjoyed your Chanukah with family and friends. I for one am looking forward to some cozy warm evenings at home. Thankfully we do have some wonderful events coming up that will tempt us all out of our warm houses.
We will be having our Sisterhood Shabbat on the 8th. Please come enjoy a Shabbat with us and your friends and family. A casual evening awaits us on the 25th with a girl's night out. We will be getting together to enjoy each other along with s om e wa rm soup , sandwiches and salad.
Keep those calendars open because we have a great night to look forward to in February. We are planning an ‘Evening in Italy.’ There will be a delicious meal along with some wonderful dancing to be had. Upcoming we also have a wine and cheese night, Woman of the Year and our annual Fashion Show and Tricky Tray. With so many wonderful evenings to look forward to, how can we stay home!!
Let me thank you all for helping us help others with our food and coat drives this year. We received a lovely letter from Father Downey at St Mary's parish thanking us for over
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Shalom everyone! The year is coming to an end and we are all busy going about our daily lives and it gets hectic out there. I think that I know, what can I do to slow things down a bit and stop the world from going so fast. I think I have an answer if we are all willing to give it a try. And the answer is right here at
Congregation Beth Shalom.
We can all start by coming to one Friday or Saturday service. We can also start by becoming part of Beth Shalom. One of the other many ways you can become involved is by becoming a member of the Men’s Club and getting to know each other. So what does it mean to become a member of the Men’s Club? For one thing you become part of a group within the Congregation. But that is not all. Becoming a member also allows you to be part of the greater Men’s Clubs around the world: to see what is going on around the world in Judaism: to have your children or grand-children exposed to Jewish Living. My wife was telling me of a story where she was shopping in Teaneck and there was a
Men’s Club—Bruce Weiner Christmas tree in the store. Then she overheard to two ladies asking themselves ‘what is that doing here?’ They begin to laugh and said not everyone is Jewish. We all have the Dilemma of living in a mostly Christian world and how do we past our culture on to our
children and grandchildren.
So I ask all of you to call the office and ask how to become a member of the Men’s Club. Then come to a meeting help us plan an event that you would like to see happen. The Men’s Club’s next task is the Yom Hashoah Candles and to remember the 13 million people who died in the camps. So
please call if would like to help
Have a Happy Chanukah and a
healthy New Year
Shalom
Bruce Weiner
Men’s Club President
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A WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR FROM SISTERHOODA WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR FROM SISTERHOODA WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR FROM SISTERHOODA WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR FROM SISTERHOOD
It’s time to “chill”
Do what you will
To make it through the day.
Take some “me” time
Call it “tea” time
And brew some right away.
So, while you muse
Kick off your shoes
And send a check our way
This is Sisterhood’s Mini Fundraiser.
Please try to contribute by sending a check to
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Good health to all
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Title Name Phone Number E-mail Address
Rabbi Rabbi David R. Senter 973-835-3500 [email protected]
Synagogue Administrator Bea Katz 973-835-3500 F:973-835-9785 [email protected]
Synagogue Pres. Larry Tornow
First VP Bruce Weiner 973-834-1715 [email protected]
Sisterhood President Jill Bursom
Men’s Club President
Second VP Jill Bursom
Financial VP
Corresponding Sect’y Jacki Wasserman 973-839-2627 [email protected]
Recording Sect’y Beverly Berkowitz 973-693-1323 [email protected]
Budget & Finance Herb Kalmyer 973-961-3981 [email protected]
Membership Committee
Ritual Committee Dr. Charles Sokol 973-694-7613 [email protected]
Youth & Education Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361
Adult Education
PTO President Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Event Programming
Youth Activities
Security Bill Baig 973-835-4025 c:201-415-8494 [email protected]
Community Relations Mered Frankel 973-616-8048
Building & Maintenance Mike Janel 973-835-0078
Endowment Chair
Newsletter Stanley Sidlov 973-616-6220 [email protected]
Memorial Plaques Sandy Yenk 973-839-4908
Cemetery Lou Katz 973-696-1130 c:973-768-5791 [email protected]
Supermarket Gift Cards Thelma Kalmeyer 973-696-3981 [email protected]
Sisterhood Gift Shoppe Debbie Lees 973-839-6388
Library Committee Jennifer Karasik
973-839-1361
Oneg Shabbat Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Fundraising Chair
Title Name Phone Number E-mail Address
Rabbi Rabbi David R. Senter 973-835-3500 [email protected]
Synagogue Administrator Bea Katz 973-835-3500 F:973-835-9785 [email protected]
Synagogue Pres. Larry Tornow 973-728-1281 [email protected]
First VP Bruce Weiner 973-831-1715 [email protected]
Sisterhood President Ellie Weiner 973-831-1715 [email protected]
Men’s Club President Bruce Weiner 973-831-1715 [email protected]
Second VP Jill Berson 973-295-2441 [email protected]
Financial VP
Corresponding Sect’y Jacki Wasserman 973-839-2627 [email protected]
Recording Sect’y Beverly Berkowitz 973-693-1323 [email protected]
Finance & Budget Herb Kalmeyer 973-696-3981 [email protected]
Membership Committee Ellie Weiner 973-831-1715 [email protected]
Ritual Committee
Education Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Adult Education
PTO President Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Event Programming Anne Kirk 973-628-9064 [email protected]
Youth Activities Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Security Bill Baig 973-835-4025 c:201-415-8494 [email protected]
Community Relations Mered Frankel 973-616-8048
Building & Maintenance Mike Janel 973-835-0078
Endowment Chair
Newsletter Stanley Sidlov 973-616-6220 [email protected]
Memorial Plaques Sandy Yenk 973-839-4908
Cemetery Lou Katz 973-696-1130 c:973-768-5791 [email protected]
Supermarket Gift Cards Leslie Kantrowitz 973-634-4821
Sisterhood Gift Shoppe Debbie Lees 973-839-6388
Library Committee Jennifer Karasik
Jacki Wasserman
973-839-1361
973-839-2627
Oneg Shabbat Jennifer Karasik 973-839-1361 [email protected]
Fundraising Chair
Publicity Eleanor Osborn [email protected]
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very young
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January 1 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Sisterhood
3 No Hebrew School – Winter recess
5 Hebrew School classes resume
7 Executive Board meeting 7:30 PM
8 Sisterhood Shabbat Dinner and Service TBA
Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Sisterhood
9 Shabbat services at Cedar Crest, none at CBS
11 Sisterhood Board meeting 7:45 PM
14 CBS Board meeting 7:30 PM
15 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Sisterhood
16 Family Shabbat service – 7th grade helps lead service 10:15 AM - 12:00 PM
Junior Congregation 10:30 - 11:30 AM
17 Hebrew School classes reverse times
22 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Jill & Richard Berson in honor of their anniversary
23 Shabbat services at Cedar Crest, none at CBS
25 Sisterhood General meeting (Girls Night Out) 7:45 PM
29 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Paulette Schwartzman in honor of a family member’s birthday
31 Hebrew School’s 3rd "SPECIAL EVENT" requirement - Tu B'Shvat TBA
Sisterhood Trip to “Crossing to Delancy” 3:00 PM
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CBS’s Newsletter welcomes comments and articles each month from members on
any topic. Deadline is the 10th of the month for the following month.
Email [email protected]
Stan Sidlov, Editor
Who inquires of inmates
the reason for their foul
mood? Only someone
with unusual capacity for
compassion. And his
subsequent reward is a
shocking promotion to a
position of unparalleled
leadership.
No leader really sets
out to be a leader.
People just set out to
l e a d t h e i r l i v e s ,
expressing themselves
f u l l y . W hen t h a t
expression is of care and
value, they become
leaders.
No, it is not as simple
as I am stating it.
C o m p a s s i o n i s
indispensable, but you
also need desire too. And
that usually comes only
after you have actually
tasted the rush that
leadership brings.
T h e s p e c i a l
characteristics that define
leadership are perhaps
best summed up by
Warren Benis, a world-
renowned expert on
o r g a n i z a t i o n a l
development. He has
authored 27 books on
leadership. He cites 12
distinctions between
managers and leaders:
•M a n a g e r s
administer , leaders
innovate.
•Managers ask how
and when, leaders ask
what and why.
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incompetent, unqualified,
and uncaring."
•"Decision-maker? I
have trouble deciding
which shoes to wear to the
office!"
•"The pressure would
be too much to bear."
•"I will fail."
And the fear is
compounded when we
picture ourselves on the
hot seat, alone at the top,
comparing ourselves to
World Leaders and CEO's
of major corporations, as if
all leaders are rich,
famous, or powerful.
The essential trait to
great leadership is
compassion.
Well, the good news is
that you need not be
Moses or Queen Esther to
qualify. You can just be ...
well ... yourself. Yes, with
all your insecurities,
imperfections, anxieties,
and stapler personality.
You are still not ineligible.
The one and possible
only trait that is essential
to great leadership is
compassion. It is very hard
to affect anyone else
without feeling a certain
measure of caring for
another person. It is, I
be l ieve, the s ingle
i n d i s p e n s a b l e
characteristic that truly
unites all leaders. (Notice,
if you will, that I am not
including the Hitlers,
double-edged sword in the
universe. On the one
hand , no th ing can
motivate a person to do
something more than fear
can. Just ask the petite
mother who witnesses the
horror of her little baby
stuck under a car. She still
cannot explain how she
was able to actually lift the
car and extricate her
treasure. Nor could she do
it again, if asked. Answer?
Fear.
B u t , s e e m i n g l y
contradictory, nothing
carries the capacity to
cripple and "freeze"
someone like fear can.
J u s t a s k y o u r
neighborhood deer, who
can often outrun a Honda
when its life depends on it.
But more frequently it
stands frozen at 11 p.m.
on Route 42 when the
headlights of an oncoming
Camry bear down on it.
Yes, fear. And it's the
same way with humans.
Fact is, we fear
leadership. We see it as a
burden we can well do
without. We picture
ourselves crashing down
from the overwhelming
responsibility that it
carries.
•"How am I supposed
to guide others when I
can't get my own life
together?"
•I'll be exposed as
(Continued from page 1) Stalins, and Husseins of the
world, whose "leadership
skills" were channeled
exclusively in forming
oppressive and tyrannical
regimes.)
All truly great leaders
throughout history felt a
compelling desire to better
the lives of others: globally,
communally, or personally.
And that desire was an
expression of the sense of
compassion that resonated
within them, no matter where
life's circumstances took
them or how turbulent the
storms they weathered
seemed to be.
Biblical Joseph best
e x e m p l i f i e s t h i s
phenomenon. After having
been sold into slavery by his
brothers, he finds himself
incarcerated in Egypt: bereft
and alone. But as the
narrative so brilliantly relates,
the events that lead to his
eventual release from prison
and ultimate rise to power
and reunion, all begin with
J o s e p h ' s s t a r t l i n g
compassionate initiative.
He had already been in
jail for nine arduous years.
The despair and resignation
that swells in intolerable
conditions such as those is,
undoubtedly, unimaginable.
And yet, Joseph meets up
with two fellow prisoners and
asks them a seemingly odd
question.
"Why do your faces seem
depressed today?" (Genesis.
40:7)
What does he expect to
see on their faces, glee?
Leadership me? Continued….
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There are spots available on the S imcha Tree which is promi-nently displayed in our lobby. The cost of each en-graved leaf is $180 and each engraved rock is $1,800. Please call Bea in the of-fice if you’d like to honor some-one with a spe-cial gift such as this.
Address
Bill Me
Method of Payment
21 Passaic Avenue Pompton Lakes, NJ 07442
C o n g r e g a t i o n B e t h S h a l o m
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Phone: 973-835-3500 E-mail: [email protected]
The 2010 ENTERTAINMENT
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$30 each and packed with over $16,200 in local savings:
• 248 Dining Discounts • 138 Attraction Discounts • 197 Shopping Discounts
• Over $15,000 in Travel Discounts • Movie Ticket Discounts
• And Much More... You can pick yours up from Bea in the
synagogue office during regular office hours
or call for different arrangements.
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YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 1 + 2
Dorothy Salinger, mother of Ed Norin
Regina Malc, mother of Steve Malc
Dr. Paul Schofield, brother of Barbara Goll
Sophie Goldenthal Frankel, grandmother of Mered Frankel
Jesse Wallace, father of Eleanor Spreiregen
Sarah Stone, mother of Alice Spira
Ida Wecht, mother of Bernard Wecht
Esther Goldberg, mother of Phyllis Gaines
Sidney Krantz, father of Jerry Krantz
Jack Ruchlin, father of Thelma Kalmeyer
Henry Frenkel, husband of Hannah Frenkel
YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 8 + 9
Celia Laster, mother-in-law of Hy Nadel
Sophie Sirota, mother of Barry Sirota
Harold Shulman, father of Joyce Goldman
Ralph Teitelbaum, husband of Fran Teitelbaum
Jacob Olstein, father of Elliot Olstein
Isaac Tell, father of Dr. Bernard Tell
William Wall, father of Eleanor Osborn
Herman Preiser, father of Rose Lynn Winters
Isaiah Marshak, father-in-law of Goldie Marshak
Nettie Lovitch, aunt of Alan Lovitch
David Rosenberg, brother of Sue Charnet
YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 15 + 16
Harry Goldhammer, father of Elaine Dover and grandfather of Jill Berson
Ethel Altman, mother of Fran Teitelbaum
Mary Sharr, mother-in-law of Dr. Harvey Cohen
Nathan Greene, father of Phyllis Fritz
Sylvia Gaines, mother of Ed Gaines
Bertha Esterman, mother of Ethel Bernson
Gabriel Goldberg, brother of Abe Goll
Jacob David Friedmann, father of Morris Friedmann
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YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 22 + 23
Irving Berkowitz, father-in-law of Beverly Berkowitz
Fannie Einhorn, mother-in-law of Nathalie Einhorn
Lewis Singer, grandfather of Mildred Nochimson
Charles Katz, father of Louis Katz
William Sherman, late husband of Gertie Sherman
Sidney Weisbar, father-in-law of Herb Diamond
Florence Rock, mother of Michael Rock
Isser Schnur, father of Gertie Sherman
Gilbert Wasserman, father of Allen Wasserman
Julia Fechter, mother of Dena Lurin
Leslie Schofield, father of Barbara Goll
YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 29 + 30
Abraham Lees, father of Dr. Louis Lees
Harry Kolpon, father of Kevin Kolpon
George Lamb, father of Ellen Steuer
Jennie Newman, mother of Leonard Newman
Louis Grosser, father of Anita Fischer & Edward Grosser & grandfather of Joe Fischer &
Brian Grosser
Gussie Gitomer, mother-in-law of Mimi Gitomer
Rose Elinowitz, mother of Vivian Weiss
Jack Fuchs, father of Sydelle Fischer
Rose Lees, mother of Dr. Louis Lees
Frances Joslin, mother of Sandy Yenk
Tillie Fietelson, mother of Marv Fietelson
Max Saltzman, father of Bernard Saltzman
David Louis Wolf, father of Allan Wolf
2010 YAHRZEITS FOR THE MONTH OF JANUARY - TEVET/SHEVAT 5770
MMMMEMORIALSEMORIALSEMORIALSEMORIALS
Donate Etz Hayim (or Chumash) to the Synagogue. Honor a beloved departed with a
plaque on our NEW Memorial Board.
Call Sandy Yenk: 973-839-4908
•Managers have a
short-term perspective,
leaders have a longer-term
perspective.
•Managers accept the
status quo, leaders
challenge the status quo.
•Managers have an
eye on the bottom line,
leaders have an eye on
the horizon.
•Managers imitate,
leaders originate.
•Managers emulate
the classic good soldier,
leaders are their own
person.
•Managers copy,
leaders show originality.
So remember, you
don't have to be Joshua,
King David, or especially
great at anything at all.
Just be yourself and
feel a little compassion.
It happens every day.
•Managers focus on
systems, leaders focus on
people.
•Managers do things
right, leaders do the right
things.
•Managers maintain,
leaders develop.
•Managers rely on
control, leaders inspire
trust.
(Continued from page 13)
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Shop for all your Holiday and Special Occasion Gifts
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Leadership…… continued
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SYNAGOGUE FUND
Lou Lees, Speedy recovery Fran & Jerry Green
The Bernstein family, in memory of beloved father, Robert Bernstein Phyllis & Irv Brettschneider
Rabbi Iscah Waldman, in memory of beloved mother, Saula Waldman Sandy & Bob Yenk
JEWISH NATIONAL FUND
Rabbi Iscah Waldman, in memory of beloved mother, Saula Waldman
Larry Tornow; Bea & Sy Katz and family
Evelyn Kolpon, in memory of beloved mother, Angelina Aguiar Bea & Sy Katz and family
please contact
Consider Making a Donation to the Synagogue
Sometimes only the big donations get all the attention. Some of us are happy to be able to donate hundreds or more, and see our names in print or on a plaque. It is not only the big machers who can afford to donate. There are lots of small ways to donate in every day life to the Congregation to help it without making a fuss or huge dent in your wallet. CBS has a number of programs that help earn a little
extra towards the bottom line.
We have many different funds and areas of the congregation’s activities that require funding of any amount. We have Jewish National Fund, Speaker Fund, Torah Maintenance, Synagogue Fund, Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund, memorial & scholarship funds such as the Eliot Sakolsky & Bari Goldstein Funds, the Library Fund, Shiva Basket Fund and many other ways to help us improve our congregation and the activities we sponsor.
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Hebrew School - Bea Katz
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I hope that everyone’s Chanukah was most fes-tive! Sy and I celebrated ours in Italy and, as I’m writing this article prior to my leaving, I can’t report on how it was for us. Unfortunately I will have missed attend-ing our synagogue’s an-nual Chanukah Supper, but I’m certain that it was most entertaining and delicious. I have to thank Jennifer Karasik and her crew for having taken care of all of its preparations without me being able to lend a
hand.
We are now starting to plan for our annual Pu-rim Celebration in Feb-
ruary. Please help
us out by volunteering to help work that day. We also are accepting donations for the kids’ Mini Tricky Tray in the form of games, toys, books, gift cards, mone-tary donations, etc. You can drop that off at any time in the syna-
gogue office.
Wishing all a most safe and easy winter…. And a most happy and
healthy 2010.
PTO Corner
We pray for many things but this month I am praying for good weather for the Chanukah supper. Last two
years we weren’t so lucky!
Our newsletter goes to print before the supper so I will be a fortune teller and say that it was quite the success and we all had a good time. Thanks to all who attended (wish we had more!) and for all the volunteers who made the day go easy. Spe-cial thanks to our sponsors – Jill and Richard Berson, Leslie and Alan Kantrowitz, Allen and Helene Wolf, and Bea and Sy Katz. ----
Will give you more next
month.
Youth Group
We celebrated Chanukah on Dec. 6th in our syna-gogue kitchen and youth lounge. We made potato latkes and homemade ap-plesauce, cookies and brownies. There was mu-sic and laughter. Thanks to the parents who assisted and special thanks to Marjorie Ellias who played guitar and sang
songs.
Remember, our Purim
Celebration and Mini-Tricky Tray is at the end of February. Donations gratefully accepted. Drop them off at the Library
downstairs.
Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday season
and Chanukah.
PTO, Youth Group & Library— Jennifer Karasik
(Left) Debbie Lees manning the
Chanukah gift shop.
(Below)The ladies responsible for the delicious dinner. l. to r. Leslie Kantrowitz, Jennifer Karasik, Ellie Weiner, Jacki Wasserman, Halley Weiner,
Vivian Lovitch and Marjorie Ellias
(2nd photo below) R.J Lewis wows the kids with his magic.
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Member Updates Get Well:
Richard Charnet
Don Fritz
Sandy Goodkin
Fran Green
Mary Greenberg
Anita & Sol Maizel
Hy Nadel
Marvin Newman
Leo Raven
Sheila Robbins
Condolences to:
Rabbi Iscah Waldman on the loss of her be-loved mother, Saula Waldman
Evelyn Kolpon on the loss of her beloved mother, Angelina Aguiar
Support the
Local Food Bank
Please bring canned and other dry goods
for distribution to local families in need.
A
Beth Shalom
Community Project
Photos courtesy of Alan Lovitch
Braving the elements. these stalwart denizens of CBS manned the Chanukah table during the Pompton Lakes
holiday stroll:
l. to r. Ellie Weiner, Rabbi David Senter, Mered Frankel, Jacki
Wasserman and Vivian Lovitch. Also present were Bruce and Halley
Weiner and Allen Wasserman.
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HEBREW SCHOOL CALENDAR
JANUARY 3 No Hebrew School – Winter recess
5 Classes resume
16 Family Shabbat service - 7th grade helps lead service 10:15 AM- 12:00 PM
Junior Congregation 10:30 - 11:30 AM
17 Sunday classes reverse times
30 TU B'SHVAT
31 3rd "SPECIAL EVENT" - Tu B'Shvat TBA
Return Service Requested