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Effective Listening
Key Elements of Good Listening
LISTENING IS VOLUNTARY
Hear the MessageInterpret the MessageEvaluate the MessageRespond to the Message
Step 1: Hear the Message
We choose to listen because The message is important We are interested We feel like listening We listened to this kind of information in the
past We like/respect the person speaking.
Even when we choose to listen, these factors can impede our listening Anger Frustration Grief Hostility
OFTEN WE TEND TO HEAR WHAT WE WANT TO HEAR AND FILTER OUT THAT WHICH IS NOT CONSISTENT WITH OUR OWN FEELINGS AND ATTITUDES!
Three keys to hearing the message
Care about the messagePay attentionSelect what is important
Step 2: Interpreting the Message
Filters Both listeners and speakers have filters, which
help or hinder the interpreting process. These filters are in our brains’ data base and
they attach personal meaning to information as it is presented
Examples of filters Memories, perceptions, biases, attitudes,
expectations, attention span, past experiences, values, knowledge, intelligence, feelings, age, needs, motives, emotions
Tone of Voice
Monotones Insistent Pleading Whining Demanding Questioning High-pitched Angry Emotional Condemning Accusing Argumenative
Nonverbal Communication/Body Language
Messages sent by such things as a speaker’s gestures, facial expressions, body movements, eyes, and posture
Three Keys to Interpreting the Message
Understand the filtersUse all five channels—ears, eyes, heart,
mind, and intuitionAsk for clarification
Step 4: Evaluate the Message
“Good listeners make sure they have all the key information before forming an opinion. They do not jump to conclusions based on a bias or incomplete information. They may agree or disagree with the speaker. Good listening does not mean automatic compliance. A good listener will weigh and analyze all of the evidence before reaching a final decisions or making a written or verbal judgment.” (Bone, 1994)
Three Keys to Evaluating the Message
Ask questionsAnalyze the evidenceDon’t jump to conclusions
Step 5: Respond to the Message
Even though responding to the message is a speaking role, rather than a listening role, this step is imperative to effective communication.
The listener has a responsibility to let the speaker know by either verbal or nonverbal feedback whether they clearly understood the message from the speaker.
The listener must convey to the speaker that …
The message was heard.The message was understood.The message was evaluated
appropriately.
Three keys to responding to the message
Reach a common understanding.Give feedback verbally or nonverbally.Avoid confusing messages.
Article Questions
Name at least three benefits of effective listening.
According to the article, what does it take to be an effective listener?
Why is it important to respond both verbally and nonverbally?
List your favorite five suggestions to becoming a better listener.
Attentive listening is a ____skill that people respect and welcome.