Improving Low Self Esteem.doc

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How To Improve Low SelfEsteem

The effects of low self esteem destroy success. Eliminate negative influences as they are a major cause of low

self esteem. If you have low self esteem, fake it until you make it. You can train your brain to develop high self esteem.

In this article you will learn briefly about what self esteem is, and howto improve low self esteem.

For more detailed information about self esteem, head over to thepersonal developmentsection and read each article on self esteem in

the order they are listed.

What Is Self Esteem?

In its most simplest form, self esteem means liking the person you areand seeing yourself as a worthwhile and important individual.

any people wrongly assume that any person who is rich, famous orgood looking, will automatically have high self esteem.

The reason this is incorrect is because true self esteem can only comefrom within you, and should not be dependant upon other people orother things.

If your self esteem comes from these e!ternal factors, it is vulnerableto fluctuations throughout your life. "ometimes it may go up."ometimes it may go down. It will all depend on the circumstances inyour life.

This last point can be seen in numerous celebrities who have sufferedfrom low self esteem. For e!ample, #eith $edger, %ngelina &olie, and'ritney "pears are all reported to have suffered from low self esteem.

(espite the )average* person considering these people to have perfectlives, their lack of true self esteem lead to a rejection of themselves. %sa result, they e!perienced much pain and psychological discomfort intheir lives.
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Self Esteem Is Your Foundation ForGrowth

You cannot change the person you are today. You can however

improve and upgrade what you have been given. 'ecoming the bestperson you can be ultimately will allow you to feel better, look betterand live a better life.

+owever the very foundation of this self improvement comes fromwithin. It comes from improving your level of self esteem, and learningto accept and love the person you are.

ithout a strong foundation of self esteem, anything you build upon itis likely to crumble and fall. %s you have already seen with the manycelebrities who suffer very public breakdowns.

What Is The Cause Of Low Self Esteem?

%nything that makes you feel valuable, special, worthwhile, needed,important or anything else that makes you feel good, will raise yourlevel of self esteem. +owever, the opposite is also true.

%nything that makes you feel bad such as fear of failure, poverty, selfdoubt, rejection or criticism will lower your feeling of self worth andcreate low self esteem.

"o when you break self esteem down to this level, it really is -uitesimple to understand. Things that make you feel good, will raise yourself esteem. Things that make you feel bad, will lower your selfesteem.


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f course, self esteem is a bit more complicated than this, and thereare many other factors which play a role in shaping your self esteem.

'ut if you can apply this basic principle of ma!imising the good thingsin your life, and eliminating or reducing the bad, you will notice yourself esteem will rapidly start to improve.

Low Self Esteem nd Failure

/irtually all human failure occurs due to low self esteem, becauseaccompanying it are limiting belief systems that make you believe youunable to achieve your goal.

For e!ample, if you doubt your ability to complete a certain task youunlikely to give it 0112 of your best effort.

%s a result you will perform far below your true potential, and thereforeachieve far less than you were capable of. If you set out with anattitude that failure is inevitable, ultimately that is what you willachieve, failure.


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hat is the result of failure3 Feelings of inade-uacy, self doubt and areduced confidence in your abilities. In other words failure makes youfeel bad, and as you already know, things that make you feel bad canlower your self esteem.

This just goes to show the effect of low self esteem on failure. It is aself reinforcing cycle, whereby the lower your self esteem is, the morelikely you are to fail, causing your self esteem to drop even more.

hen self esteem reaches absolutely rock bottom, many people thenresort to drugs, alcohol or even suicide.

You !e"ome What You Thin# $out %ostOf The Time

It is often suggested that in order to build self esteem you should justthink positive thoughts. I agree, but only partly.

There is no doubt that negative self talk will lower your self esteem,however there are also many other factors which play a role.

Low Self Esteem nd Self Tal#


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In case you don4t know what self talk is, self talk is a term used todescribe how you speak to yourself on a daily basis.

It is those little voices in your head that either encourage you, tellingyou what a good job you have done. r the voices which tell you how

you are never going to achieve something, or how you messedsomething up.

+ow you talk to yourself today, is often a reflection of how yourparents talked to you as a child. "o for e!ample, if you call yourself anidiot after doing something wrong, it is likely you were called an idiotby your parent5s6 when you did something wrong.

The most common form of self talk is negative, and usually involvesputting yourself down or doubting your ability to do something.

It is very destructive because it is often done without really thinkingabout it, and on a day to day basis.

The affect of negative self talk serves to reinforce limiting beliefs intothe mind, thereby reducing your overall level of confidence and beliefin what you are capable of.

bviously this will lower your self esteem. "o monitoring andimproving the way you talk to yourself is an easy and effective way ofimproving self esteem.

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hilst eliminating negative self talk certainly is beneficial, it is alsoimportant to eliminate negative e!ternal influences that may becontributing towards creating low self esteem.

Low Self Esteem nd So"ial Groups

%ssociating with negative individuals is perhaps one of the worst thingsthat you can do when trying to raise your self esteem.

It is best to avoid these people whenever possible, as they will justbring you down and further lower your self esteem.

+ave you ever noticed how you feel good around some people, whilstyou feel tense, an!ious or uncomfortable around others3 This occursbecause the way a person is feeling affects the energy field, or aura,that surrounds them.

hen you are filled with negativity you emit a negative aura aroundyou. This aura will repel people and make them feel uncomfortable inyour presence.


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hen you are feeling good about yourself, your aura changes. Itbecomes filled with a positive energy, that attracts people and makesthem feel good being around you.

This is why you should always eliminate or reduce the number of

negative people you associate with. Their negativity bring you down,and make you feel worse about yourself.

'y spending your time with happy positive people their energy willspread to you, and you will automatically begin to feel better.

If you would like more information on the human aura, how energyfields affect people and a video of an aura, see this article 7 (evelop8apport ith %nyone

"tin& Your Wa' Into Hi&h Self Esteem

ne of the best ways to boost self esteem is to feel good aboutyourself, after9all, that4s what self esteem is. 'ut it4s difficult to feelgood if you feel down. Isn4t it3

There has been countless research that shows if you feel a certain wayyou will act a certain way, but if you don4t feel a certain way, you canact a certain way to feel that way. In other words, fake it until youmake it: %nd this is e!actly what actors do:


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I4m not going detail how to act confidently, because that would takeseveral articles to do justice. 'ut the basic idea is that if you actconfident and courageous, soon enough you will become confident andcourageous, here4s why;

(ra"ti"e %a#es (erfe"tThe more you practice something, the better you get at it. This occursbecause the brain begins to form new connections. In this e!ample, Iwill call them confidence connections.

Creatin& Confiden"e Conne"tions In The!rain

If you have low self confidence your )confidence connections* are

weak and few in number, just like the twigs on a young tree.

'ut if you practice acting confident an ama


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"o the more you work on improving your self esteem the weaker lowself esteem becomes. This is why it is important to surround yourselfwith positive influences, and to do something each day that will raiseyour self esteem.

+owever the reverse of this is also true. The more you give into fear,the worse your fear will become. 'y fearing your fears you are literallyfeeding them and making things worse.

"o focus on the things you want in your life, and allow them to growand develop. %void focusing on the things you don4t want in your life,so that they can shrink and disappear.

'ut be warned, mental fitness is like physical fitness: %t the start it ishard. 'ut the more you practice the stronger those connections willbecome, and the higher your self esteem will be.

You re *estined For Su""ess

"uccess is not an accident or luck, it is a skill, it is predictable and canbe learnt by you or anyone. The sooner you learn the skill of success,the sooner you will achieve what you were destined to accomplish inlife.

8emember, success must be learnt and it is only through small butconstant daily improvement will you succeed. Things won4t happenovernight, but they are guaranteed to happen if you never ever giveup.
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If you fail try again, learn from your mistakes and you will be one stepcloser to achieving your goal.

=I firmly believe anything is possible, you just have to know what to do,how to do it, then keep doing it until you succeed.

Importan"e Of Chan&in& !eliefS'stems

Your belief systems influence your actions. These belief systems are created at an early age. 'y changing your belief systems, you can change your life:

In >art 0 I revealed how despite coming from unprivilegedbackgrounds, many individuals become e!tremely successful. This

showed that success is a skill and can be learnt by anyone.
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I also e!plored how one of the biggest barriers to success are beliefsystems, and that by changing these beliefs you can open up many

new possibilities for you to e!plore.

What re !elief S'stems?

% belief is something that you regard to be true, or occur in a particularway. 'elief systems act like filters in the brain, causing you to see the

world in a specific way.

They edit your reality, and therefore influence your actions. "o how dobelief systems form3 ell, although many factors can form beliefsystems, the ? most important are your parents and your early schoolyears.

!elief S'stems From (arents
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hen you enter the world you arrive with a blank slate. You have nopreconceived ideas about the world, how it works, you have no )filters*and anything is possible.

+owever as a survival mechanism human beings are geneticallyprogrammed to mimicor model those around them, and as a result aree!tremely susceptible to e!ternal influences.

These influences first come in the form of our parents. %s we growolder we learn from our parents what we can and can4t do, in short weadopt their belief systems, which in turn filter our reality and thereforehow we view the world.

For e!ample, are you an optimistic person or are you negative3 %reyou a calm person or do you have a temper3 @ompare yourcharacteristics to those of your parents, and see how many beliefsystems they passed onto you.

!elief S'stems From S"hool
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ne common belief told to children is that if they don4t get goodgrades they won4t get a good job.

'ut as you saw in >art 0, this belief is false. There are manysuccessful millionaires in the world, many of whom never even finished

school.

+owever should a child finish school with poor grades and accept thislimiting false belief, they are then likely to believe success issomething they cannot achieve.

Their belief system simply does not allow for the possibility of success,

and as a result they most likely will never achieve it.

Chan&in& !elief S'stems

f course there are many, many other factors which influence ourbeliefs. These beliefs are usually formed at an early age and unlesschanged, stay with us for the rest of our lives.

The important point however is that whilst some beliefs may benefitus, many do not, and only serve to limit what you believe you can

achieve.

'ut if you can change these belief systems, you will change what youthink is possible, and ultimately what you can achieve.

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I firmly believe that anything is possible. You just have to know what todo, how to do it, then keep doing it until you succeed. If you want tobecome successful, it is necessary for you to believe you can becomesuccessful.

You first need to remove your limiting beliefs and replace them withones that are congruent with what you would like to achieve.

'ut remember, believing something will not automatically make ithappen. It merely opens the door of possibility. Your job is to walkthrough that door and make it a reality:

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