Planning to MarryPlanning the Planning the Wedding of Wedding of

Your DreamsYour Dreams

The Engagement The Engagement PeriodPeriodFinal stage of dating process leading to marriage

Signals the start of a couple’s planning for married life

Usually starts with a formal announcement

The giving or receiving of a ring confirms this commitment

Allows time for the couple to plan their wedding

Families, customs and traditions must be considered

During the Engagement:During the Engagement:

Couples should:Take an honest look at their relationship

Discuss children

Discuss money

Work on better communication

Planning for Married LifePlanning for Married Life

Role ExpectationsRole Expectations::

Many roles for the marriage partners

Our role expectations are strongly influenced by the roles our parents took

Important for the couple to talk about their roles

Planning for Married LifePlanning for Married LifeDividing roles:

Don’t divide work by gender, but by what each does best

Complementary roles – each takes on a role that supplies what the other person lacks

Role sharing – working together to complete a task

Planning FinancesPlanning Finances:

Money is the most common Money is the most common thing for couples to fight thing for couples to fight aboutabout

Talking and planning Talking and planning beforehand will help beforehand will help decrease conflictdecrease conflict

A budget planned by the A budget planned by the couple will help them couple will help them managemanage money money

Premarital Premarital CounselingCounseling::Can be done by a licensed therapist or clergy

Facilitates a couple’s progress toward a “we-oriented” attitude and away from a “me-oriented” one

Helps with communication

Breaking the EngagementBreaking the Engagement::

Happens when one or both decide they are not ready for marriage

If either partner doubts that the marriage will be successful, then the engagement should be broken

Planning the Wedding:Planning the Wedding:

Respect everybody's opinion and accept the customs and traditions of both families

Be mindful that this is the joining of two families, not just two individuals

Marriage LawsMarriage Laws::Legal contract between the Legal contract between the man, the woman & the stateman, the woman & the state

Couple must enter into Couple must enter into contract by contract by mutual consentmutual consent (willingly)(willingly)

Must meet physical and Must meet physical and health requirementshealth requirements

Bride & Her Family Pay ForBride & Her Family Pay For::

Engagement announcementWedding invitations & postage Wedding gownFloral arrangements & corsages Organists, pianists, soloists Bridal attendants’ dresses/gifts Groom’s wedding ring Reception: food, entertainment

Groom & His Family Pay ForGroom & His Family Pay For::

Engagement ring Marriage LicenseClergy FeeGroom’s attire Groom’s attendants’ attire/gifts Bachelor party/rehearsal dinner Bride’s wedding ring Honeymoon

The Wedding CeremonyThe Wedding Ceremony::

1.1.Is a legal union performed Is a legal union performed by a licensed official by a licensed official

2.2.Publicly symbolizes the Publicly symbolizes the couple’s commitment to couple’s commitment to each othereach other

AssignmentAssignmentResearch the marriage Research the marriage laws in your state and laws in your state and then write a detailed plan then write a detailed plan for getting everything for getting everything done in time for the done in time for the wedding.wedding.