When Does God Tell One to Marry

8/7/2019 When Does God Tell One to Marry

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fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, becausehe hath humbled her; he may not put her away all hisdays. ***Dt. 25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one ofthem die, and have no son, the wife of the dead shall not

marry a stranger abroad: her husbands brother shall goin unto her, and take her to him as wife, and perform theduty of a husbands brother unto her.***Ex 22:16* Andif a man seduce a virgin that is not betrothed, and lie withher, he shall certainly endow her, to be his wife. 17 If herfather utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall weighmoney according to the dowry of virgins. 1 Cor 7 is a casein point of commands to be obeyed as an expression of

our Love for Jesus (Jn14:15,21). First of all, what is acommand?Strong's Greek Lexicon:5794 Mood -ImperativeThe imperative mood corresponds to theEnglish imperative, andexpresses a command to thehearer to perform a certain actionby the order andauthority of the one commanding. Thus,Jesus' phrase,"Repent ye, and believe the gospel" (Mk.1:15)is not at allan "invitation," but an absolute commandrequiring full

obedience on the part of all hearers.1 Cor 7:2* but onaccount of fornications, each man >>>>>>>>>iscommanded to be having


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instruction as to the Bible and its Greek. Many of usmisread and misunderstood the commands in 1 Cor 7 forthis reason: 1 Cor 7:" let each have his own wife, . . . . . 3Let the husband render her due to the wife, . . . . . . . . . .

9 . . . . , let them marry; . . . ". In our unenlightenedand/or untaught thinking, we took those "let" passages tomean the following: You saints let each have his ownwife, . . . . . 3 You church let the husband render her dueto the wife, . . . . . . . . . . 9 . . . . , you saints of the churchlet them marry; . . . We didn't know any better and wewere not taught better.+++We didn't know that "theEnglish language has . . . no imperative of the third

person. Hence in translating the Greek imperative of thethird person we have to use the helping verb 'let', so thatthe noun or pronoun that is the subject of the imperativein Greek becomes the object of the helping verb 'let' inEnglish."#1 [#1. P. 180, New Testament Greek; by J. G.Machen; Macmillan Co.]+++Some modern translationshave more correctly rendered such "let" passages.Consider the following:7:2. let each have his own

wife, . . . . . (KJV, NKJV, Darby)---"every man should have awife of his own" (Williams)---"each man is to have his ownwife" (NASB)---"each man should have his own wife" (NIV.NLT, NCV)---"every man should have his own wife" (NAB)7:3 Let the husband render her due to the wife, . . . . (KJV,NKJV, Darby)---"The husband should give his wife whatshe is entitled to in the marriage . . . .(CompleteJewishBible) ---"The husband must always give

his wife what is due her" (Williams)---"The husband mustfulfill his duty to his wife" (NASB)---"The husband shouldfulfill his marital duty y to his wife" (NIV)---"The husbandshould not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy" (NLT)---"The husband should give his wife all that he owes heras his wife" (NCV)---"The husband should give to his wife


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her conjugal rights" (RSV, AB)---"The husband shouldfulfill his duty toward his wife" (NAB)---"The husband mustgive the wife what is due to her" (NEB)7:9 . . . . , let themmarry; . . .(KJV, NKJV, Darby)---"they should get married."

(Complete Jewish Bible)---"they should marry" (NIV, NCV,NAB, NEB, AB)---"they should go ahead and marry" (NLT)---"go ahead and get married" (CEV,---"they should by allmeans go ahead and get married" (Message---"getmarried" (Beck+++So the passage is much morecorrectly understood as saying "2 but because of cases ofimmorality every man should be having his ownwife, . . . . .3. The husband should be fulfilling his duty

towards his wife . . . 8 But I say to the unmarried and tothe widows, It is good for them that they remain even asI. 9. But if they are not exercising self-control, they shouldmarry. . . ." Recognizing the present tense of the Greek,the fuller and more exact meaning is as follows: "2 butbecause of cases of immorality every man SHOULD BEHAVING his own wife, . . . . .3. The husband SHOULD BEFULFILLING his duty toward his wife . . ." +++The active

aorist of verse nine really expands the meaning of thecommand. "The aorist is like the imperfect in that it refersto past time. But the imperfect refers to continuousaction in past time (I was loosing), while the aorist is thesimple past tense (I loosed). . . . But in past time thedistinction is very carefully made; the Greek languageshows no tendency whatever to confuse the aorist withthe imperfect" (pp.81ff; New Testament Greek; by J. G.

Machen; Macmillan Co.). This means that the fullermeaning of the verse is as follows: "9. but if they are notexercising self-control they should already bemarried. . . . " This means that those unmarried orwidows who were not exercising self-control successfullyshould already have remedied the situation by marrying.


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The precedent for this in Sinai Law, the Law that Jesuscommanded be kept while He was walking on earth (Mat23:1-3), is found in Deut 22: 28 "If a man find a damsel, avirgin, who is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie

with her, and they be found, 29 then the man that laywith her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekelsof silver, and she shall be his wife, because he hashumbled her; he may not put her away all his days."+++This makes 1 Cor 7:8,9 more than just a command forthe unmarried or widows who are failing to exercise self-control. This means that not only are they sinning byfailing to control themselves, it means that they failed to

marry when they failed to exercise self-control, and arecontinuing in the double sin of failing to exercise self-control as well as failing to marry because of their self-control. Their sin has two aspects, failure to be self-controlled and failure to have married because of theirself-control. We know that the correct response to suchfailure and sin is to agree with Jesus about the sin andforsake it (1 John 1:7-9; Prov 28:13). We know that

forsaking of the sin is to take the form of the godly sorrowof 2 Cor 7:11 "For, behold, this same thing, your beinggrieved according to God, how much diligence it wroughtin *you*, but what excusing of yourselves, but whatindignation, but what fear, but what ardent desire, butwhat zeal, but what vengeance: in every way ye haveproved yourselves to be pure in the matter."+++Jesus,by His Spirit in Paul, indicated how He wants us grieve

over such sin, so that with diligence, indignation, fear,ardent desire, zeal, vengeance, and on account of and toavoid sexual immorality each man would be having hisown wife and each woman would be having her ownhusband (1 Cor 7:2; 1 Thess 4:3-8). "9. but if they are notexercising self-control they should already be


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married. . . . ". Jesus solution for avoiding sexualimmorality is not cold showers, fasting, exercising andpraying alone. Jesus ultimate solution for avoiding sexualimmorality is marriage, each man having his own woman

and each woman having her own man. So we see that thewidows and unmarried of 1 Cor 7:8,9 who are failing toexercise self-control are under command to grieve andrepent with diligence, indignation, fear, ardent desire,zeal, and vengeance by finally getting married.+++Whatdoes it mean to not be having self-control, to not beexercising self-control?9* But if they are nothaving control over themselves, let them

marry; for it is better to marry than to burn.>>>But ifthey are not having>>controlover themselves


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oneself, and must call on Jesus (Rm 10:17) to be savedfrom the sin, agreeing with Jesus about one's sin (1Jn1:9),and yielding oneself to Jesus for Him to work and willGodly sorrow and repentance of the sin (Ph 2:13;4:13;Heb

13:20,21; Prov 28:13; 2 Cor 7). Part of the repentanceand godly sorrow (2Cor7) is to obey the command to getmarried to deal with the problem. Why is such repentanceso important? One has lost control of oneself and issnared (2Tim2:22-26) in sin when one habitually falls outof union with Jesus, practicing and living sin.1 John 3:6 Noone who continues in union with Him keeps on practicingand living in sin: no one who keeps on living in sin has

seen Him or knows Him. 7 Dear children, let no one leadyou astray. The man who continues acting righteously,practicing righteousness, is righteous, just as He isrighteous. 8 He who is habitually practicing and living insin is a child of the Devil, . . . . 9 No one who is a child ofGod habitually practices and lives in sin. A God-givengerm of life remains in him, and he cannot habitually sin--because he is a child of God. 10 By this we can

distinguish Gods children and the Devils children: no onewho keeps on failing to act righteously is a child of God,nor he who does not keep on loving his brother man. 1

John 3 WEY+TCNT+DBYThere is Scriptural precedent forwidows being commandedto remarry in the Lord.***Dt25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one of them die,and have no son, the wife of the dead shall not marry astranger abroad: her husbands brother shall go in unto

her, and take her to him as wife, and perform the duty ofa husbands brother unto her.So is it any surprise that wefind in the New Covenant theexpression of God's will thatyounger widows remarry.***1Cor 7:8 But I say to theunmarried and to the widows, It is good for themthat they remain even as I. 9. 9. but if they do not


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exercise self-control they should marry; for it is better tomarry than to burn.1 Tim 5:11 But the younger widows you must not enrol; for as soon as theybegin to chafe against the yoke of Christ, they want to

marry, 12 and they incur disapproval for having brokentheir original vow. 13 And at the same time they alsolearn to be idle as they go round from house to house;and they are not only idle, but are gossips also andbusybodies, speaking of things that ought not to bespoken of. 14 I will therefore that theyounger [widows] marry, bear children, rule indomestic matters, and furnish the Adversary with no

excuse for slander. 1014 boulomai, middle voice; v1) towill deliberately, have a purpose, be minded2) of willingas an affection, to desireSo v. 14 means----------14.therefore I deliberately will that the younger widowsmarry14. therefore I desire that the younger widowsmarryIs this Paul speaking for himself, speaking only hisown personal desire?We know that ALL Scripture isinspired by God, and that 1 Tim 5:14 IS SCRIPTURE

INSPIRED BY GOD.***2Tim3:16 Every scripture is divinelyinspired, and profitable for teaching, for conviction, forcorrection, for instruction in righteousness;***2Sa 23:2

The Spirit of Jehovah spoke by me, And his word was onmy tongue.***Mt 22:31 But concerning the resurrection ofthe dead, have ye not read what was spoken to you byGod, . .***Mr 12:36 for David himself said speaking in theHoly Spirit, The Lord said to my Lord, Sit on my right hand

until I put thine enemies as footstool of thy feet.***Ac1:16 Brethren, it was necessary that the scripture shouldhave been fulfilled, which the Holy Spirit spoke before, bythe mouth of David, concerning Judas, who became guideto those who took Jesus;***Ac 28:25 And being disagreedamong themselves they left; Paul having spoken one


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word, Well spoke the Holy Spirit through Esaias theprophet to our fathers,We know that ALL Scripture isinspired by God, and that 1 Tim 5:14 IS SCRIPTUREINSPIRED BY GOD,NOT BY THE WILL OF PAUL. Paul

uttered His Spirit filled and led desire and deliberate willthat the younger widows marry, uttering his will underthe power of the Holy Spirit.***2Pe 1:21 for prophecy wasnot ever uttered by the will of man, but holy men of Godspake under the power of the Holy Spirit.Paul made itclear that his word, written under the power of the HolySpirit, was to be obeyed. Surely this includes all hisinspried words, including those of that he deliberately

willed that younger widows remarry.***2Th 3:14* But ifany one obey not our word by the letter, mark that man,and do not keep company with him, that he may beashamed of himself;Under the power of the Holy Spirit,Paul wrote that as Jesus messenger, he was to bevoluntarily obeyed. That would include his inspireddeliberate will that younger widows marry.***Heb 13:17Obey your leaders, and be submissive; for *they* watch

over your souls as those that shall give account; that theymay do this with joy, and not groaning, for this would beunprofitable for you.When Paul wrote 1 Tim 5:14, he andthe other Apostles were all obeying Jesus' command (Mt23:2,3) to keep the Sinai Law (not for salvation but tohonor the covenant of their ancestors at Sinai, to obey

Jesus' command [Matt23:2,3], and to be walking orderly[Acts 15 & 21:17-24---- only the nonJews were freed from

having to keep the Law of Sinai]).That means that when 1Timothy and Acts were written, if a reborn in Jesusdaughter of Israel became a widow, she and the brotherof her former husband were under the command of King

Jesus to marry.Deut 25:5 If brethren dwell together, andone of them die, and have no son, the wife of the dead


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shall not marry a stranger abroad: her husbands brothershall go in unto her, and take her to him as wife, andperform the duty of a husbands brother unto her.///Whatdoes it mean to not be having godly self-control over

myself?1 Cor 7:9* But if they are not having control overthemselves, they are >>>commanded to marry;


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cardboard box, two sleeping bags, second hand charityclothing, with only rice, beans and eggs to eat. That isprovision, for the Spirit declares" 6 But piety withcontentment *is* great gain. 7 For we have brought

nothing into the world: it is manifest that neither can wecarry anything out. 8 But having sustenance andcovering, we will be content with these." 1 Tim 6///Surelyin Ex 21:7-11 Jesus makes it clear that before a manvoluntarily took a second wife in polygyny, he must havebeen able to provide certain things for his second wife, orshe was free to leave him for failing to be husband to her.It is quite different in the case of a single man, or in the

case of mandatory marriage.Dt. 22:28 If a man find adamsel, a virgin, who is not betrothed, and lay hold onher, and lie with her, and they be found, 29* then theman that lay with her shall give unto the damsels fatherfifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, becausehe hath humbled her; he may not put her away all hisdays. ***Dt. 25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one ofthem die, and have no son, the wife of the dead shall not

marry a stranger abroad: her husbands brother shall goin unto her, and take her to him as wife, and perform theduty of a husbands brother unto her.///There is norequirement that he have the financial resources beforehe can claim her as his wife. Even if he doesn't have the50 shekels at the time, it stands against him as alegitimate debt until paid.Ex 22:16* And if a manseduce a virgin that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he

shall certainly endow her, to be his wife. 17 If her fatherutterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall weigh moneyaccording to the dowry of virgins. ///There is norequirement that he have the financial resources beforehe can claim her as his wife. Even if he doesn't have thedowry at the time, it stands against him as a legitimate


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debt until paid.///If they were as poor as church mice andmaritally covenanted/betrothed like Mary and Joseph inMatt 1, then as in Matt 1 they are considered husbandand wife according to the SpiritMatt 1: 18* Now the

birth of Jesus Christ was thus: His mother, Mary, that is,having been BETROTHED to Joseph, before they cametogether, she was found to be with child of the Holy Spirit.19 But Joseph, her HUSBAND, being a righteous man, andunwilling to expose her publicly, purposed to have put heraway secretly; 20 but while he pondered on these things,behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream,saying, Joseph, son of David, fear not to take to thee

Mary, thy WIFE, for that which is begotten in her is of theHoly Spirit.///Even in the case of mandatory marriage (1Cor 7:9) in the Church age, when one comes undercommand to marry, one must marry no matter what maybe the financial capabilities of those marrying.1Cor 7:8But I say to the unmarried and to the widows, It is goodfor them that they remain [unmarried] even as I. 9 But ifthey are not having [enough] control over themselves [to

keep from sinning sexually once in a while], THEY AREUNDER COMMAND TO MARRY; for it is better to marrythan to burn.Jas 4:17 To him therefore who knows how todo good [BY MARRYING], and does it not, to him it is sin.///OKAY, OKAY, OKAY!!!! I GET IT!!!!! OKAY????!!! So I'munder command to get married? Alright already I WANTto getmarried and I'm willing to get married, BUT TOWHOM??????????!!!!!!!!! THERE'S NO LINE OF

CANDIDATES AT MYDOOR TRYING TO BREAK IT DOWN TOMARRY ME!!!!! ///Calmate nio, por favor. Believers arenot to marry unbelievers (2Cor 6 & Malachi 2). Believersare not to marrypeople who call themselves believers, orwho are called believers, who are living in sin, habituallysinning, continuing on in disobedience to Jesus (1 Cor 5; 2


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Thes 3). Believers are to marry people who continueacting righteously according to the Word of God,continually and habitually practice righteousness, eventhough they screw up and stumble once in a while.Jesus

has promised to meet the need for a marital partner sinceHe has commanded it (Ph 4:19), but for Jesus to meetthat need a believer in need of marriage must come tothe place that Jesus was in in the Garden, and say "Notmy will in this matter, but Your will in this matter bedone", "Not the one I want, but the one You want, Lord."Like I told the prisoners in chapel, until you are ready toaccept WHOEVER HE GIVES to be your marital partner ----

whether she/he be 350 lbs overweight, so skinny you cansee where each of her ribs are, blind, deaf, cerebralpalsied, quadraplegic, toothless, bald, scarred, tattoed,missing body parts, poor and living in a card board box,on welfare, an excon, of the "wrong" race, of the "wrong"ethnicity, of the "wrong" social class, uneducated,unacceptable to your folks, undereducated, underemployed -------- you aren't ready to receive the one He

may give to you. If He really is your Lord/King, then youwill want the one He wants for you, not the one you wantfor yourself. When you are really ready to receive ------ASK AND KEEP ON ASKING HIM FOR THAT ONE --- "22 Andwhatsoever we may [ habitually, continually andpresently keep on] asking for, we receive of him, becausewe [habitually, continually and presently keep on]observing his commandments, and [habitually,

continually and presently keep on] doing those thingsthat are pleasing in his sight." 1 JN 3

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