October–December 2021 Issue 8

Helping Seniors In Our CommunityHelping Seniors In Our CommunityQuarterly NNORC Newsletter

Mid-Island Y JCC 45 Manetto Hill Road, Plainview, NY 11803 | 516.822.3535 | miyjcc.org

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When mourning a friend, we are grieving the loss of that person, and also the many roles they played in our lives. Recognizing these roles can be helpful in understanding the impact of the loss.

Friend as coping partner in life’s challenges. Often it is our friends who have gotten us through other tough times. Facing their death without them here to provide support can feel like a double loss and force us to find new ways of coping at an already challenging time.

Friend as activity partner. Our friends are often the people with whom we enjoy fun activities and diversions. When we lose our Bridge partner, member of our golf foursome, Mah Jongg friend, or fishing buddy, we are experiencing not only the loss of that person but also an upheaval in how we spend our time and how we meet our need for meaningful, enjoyable activity. Finding new ways to fill this need, while also feeling bereft, can feel daunting.

Friend as keeper of shared history. Our friends are often those who were there with us for memorable life events, from the mundane to the momentous. The death of a friend can mean losing the ability to share special memories with someone who was there alongside us and can feel like losing a portion of one’s own past as well.

Given the multifaceted losses we face when a friend dies, what can we do to help ourselves through?

Allow yourself to feel/grieve. Often people try to avoid or fast-forward through difficult emotions. But feelings that are ignored don’t just go away, and often they come out in other, less healthy ways. The feelings we try to avoid often cause us greater pain than those we allow ourselves to feel.

Seek out people who you find supportive (even if they’re not the people you might “expect” support from). People are often disappointed when significant people in their

Honoring your FEELINGS, Honoring their MEMORYThe loss of close friends is one of the more distressing challenges of older adulthood, yet also one of the more under-acknowledged. Family members of the deceased are typically recognized as mourners and afforded the rituals and allowances of the grieving role. Yet, close friends may be left similarly bereft but without the same validation and support for their loss.

Sadly, the lack of validation can lead to further isolation, sadness and loneliness, in addition to that of the loss itself.

Friend Loss

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lives do not respond to their grief in ways that they find supportive. It is helpful to remember that people’s responses are influenced by a multitude of factors that may have very little to do with how much they care, and more to do with their own underlying issues, coping styles, and possibly their discomfort with seeing us in pain. Sometimes we are so focused on those we wish would respond in a supportive way, that we overlook others who are willing and able to support us in the ways we need. You may find that your greatest support comes from someone you didn’t expect, so keep an open mind.

Honor your friend’s memory by carrying forward their legacy. Think of small ways that you can keep their memory in your heart and their goodness in the world. If your friend always put you at ease, try doing that for others. If you used to treat one another for coffee, consider paying for the person behind you in line the next time you go out for

a cup. If you became friends performing in plays at your old high school, consider a donation to the district’s theatre program. Making something meaningful come from their life and loss can be a powerful outlet for your grief.

If you have experienced the loss of a friend, please don’t hesitate to reach out to the team of Seniors of Syosset if we can be of support to you in your grief. Call 516.822.3535, x383.

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Upcoming NNORC ProgramsNNORC-S.O.S. (Seniors of Syosset) is a state-funded program to provide programming

and services to help older adults (ages 60+) age-in-place in their homes in Syosset.

According to New York State Office for the Aging guidelines, the programs listed below are for residents of NNORC-S.O.S. Adults over age 60 residing in the designated map area, with limited exceptions*. Please call 516.822.3535 x385 with any questions or to connect with our NNORC staff.

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*State law requires that certain senior housing units be excluded from eligibility. Please call with any questions or to confirm your eligibility.

Join Us Each Week for Phone-In Fun Days! First and Third week of each month – BINGO for small prizes!Second and Fourth Week of the month – Other interactive trivia and word games.Call in Toll-Free from any phone, or join us by video conference on Zoom! Tuesdays: 1:00 pm Dial In: 1.888.788.0099 Meeting ID: 898 3135 1613Or visit zoom.us and enter meeting code 898 3135 1613To request a packet with Bingo boards and other activity sheets for our Phone-In Fun Days, call Amy at 516.822.3535, x383.

Open ForumOpen to all older adults in Syosset Please join us to share feedback on what we are doing in the community and/or what you would like to see being done in the community! Choose between joining in-person at the MIYJCC or via Zoom from home! Wednesday, October 27, 202112:30 pm • Room 204Dial In: 1.888.788.0099 Meeting ID: 854 1331 3397Or visit zoom.us and enter meeting code 854 1331 3397

Wellness Wednesdaywith Nurse Jackie Join our NNORC RN Jackie Griffiths for a fun and informative look at what we can all do to promote wellbeing. Each attendee will receive a wellness board to track their progress. Come meet our new Associate NNORC Director for NNORC-SOS, Amy Angelone, LMSW.Wednesday, October 13, 202111:00 am For more information or to RSVP, please call 516.822.3535, x383

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Building Your BrainOne of your favorite groups is back! Join us for an hour of paper and pencil brain games! Exercise your brain, challenge your memory and have fun! Fee: $8 per person per session

Member Discounted Fee: $5 per person per session

Tuesdays 10:30 amFor more information, contact Hillary at 516.822.3535, x328 or hcook@myjcc.org.

Medicare Open Enrollment Information Session with Barry Klitsberg from the Health Insurance Information Counseling and Assistance Program of FCA. Choose between joining in-person at the MIYJCC or via Zoom from home! Wednesday, October 20, 202112:30-1:30 pm • Room 204Dial In: 1.888.788.0099 Meeting ID: 831 4403 1723Or visit zoom.us and enter meeting code 831 4403 1723Info table for individual questions in the JCC lobby after the presentation from 1:45 - 2:45 PM

Vaccinate and VoteFriday, October 29, 202112:00-3:00 pm Come to the JCC for an outdoor FLU Vaccine clinic in partnership with Northwell Health. While you are here, take advantage of early voting indoors at the MIYJCC. For more information, contact Marcia Cooperman at 516.822.3535, x310 or mcooperman@miyjcc.org.

Programs Open to All SeniorsNassau County Police Department Smart 911The Senior Engagement Program through Smart 911 allows older adults in Nassau County to register to receive announcements related to weather, senior scams, and other topics of interest. Seniors can opt-in to receive periodic check-in visits from a police officer if they choose. You can register at smart911.com or contact Puja Malhotra at 516.822.3535, x345 or pmalhotra@miyjcc.org for more information.

Memory Care Consultations Meet one-to-one with a geriatric social worker to discuss memory care needs. Receive information and referrals personalized to your family’s situation, wherever you are in your dementia care journey. Our caring staff can assess the needs and abilities of the person with dementia to provide targeted guidance and/or meet separately with the family caregiver to provide information and support. Copies of The 36 Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer’s Disease, Other Dementias and Memory Loss by Nancy Mace and Peter Rabins will be provided courtesy of Right at Home Nassau Suffolk. For more information, contact Alana at 516.822.3535, x385

Instructional Classes The Mid-Island Y JCC is pleased to offer instructional classes on a variety of topics, including Mah Jongg, Canasta, Watercolor, Cricut, Pickleball and a sampling of fun and engaging hobbies. For current class offerings, please visit our website at miyjcc.org/adult-center.

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Help Us Help You! If you value the support that NNORC-S.O.S. provides to local seniors, please donate to help continue these important services! If you would like to make a donation, please complete the donation form below and send it with your contribution to: NNORC-S.O.S. c/o Mid-Island Y JCC 45 Manetto Hill Road, Plainview, NY 11803 Attn: Alana Rosenstein

Or call: Alana Rosenstein at 516.822.3535, x385.

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TO REACH OUR STAFF, Call: 516.822.3535

Marlie Cohen, LMSWChief Program Officer

Alana Rosenstein, LMSWDirector, Senior and Adult Services, x385

Amy Angelone, LMSWAssociate NNORC Director, x383

Kelsey Greene, LMSWCase Manager, x345

Puja Malhotra, LMSWSocial Worker, x345

Marcy Rosenbaum Meal Coordinator, x 315

Jackie Griffiths, RN Community Health Nurse, x 345

In these uncertain times, the team from Seniors of Syosset is here to support you.We can provide:• Consultation with a social worker or community health nurse• Subsidized transportation to local medical appointments• Facilitation of online grocery orders and linkage with home delivered meals• Linkages with a broad array of community services and programs

If you need support, PLEASE do not hesitate to reach out: 516.822.3535, x328.

Mid-Island Y JCC 45 Manetto Hill Road, Plainview, NY 11803 516.822.3535 miyjcc.org