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10The Brutal TruthIn our relationships - marriage, work, children - wealways say we want openness, honesty and truth. What isit about truth though, that often as soon as we hear it weget offended? Many times we'll "excuse the truth" by say-ing it was said because of a bias, hatred or jealousy.

Rabbi Shea Hecht

Husband’s IlluminationsSometimes, a person thinks that he's already properly madeteshuva. If his wife is upset with him, then he's far from teshu-va. If he becomes upset with her, he only shows that he is stillfull of arrogance and anger and lacks emuna.

Meeting Justice - Meeting Kindness It is easy to rail against others. It is easy to talk about loosemorals and unethical behavior. It's even easy to destroy Sdom.But Hashem did not let the angels do just that. He told themfirst to visit Avraham. He wanted them to see what kindnessreally means. See an old man run to greet total strangers. Seea 90-year-old woman knead dough to bake you fresh bread.Parshas VayeraRabbi Mordechai Kaminetzky

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Leaving Home - For Good!Today, we see this phenomenon playing out on a lesserscale when families emigrate or move from city to city.Displaced from their spiritual support systems, theyflounder. The bulk of their efforts are directed at justresettling and reorganizing their lives. Putting religiousinfrastructures in place often comes last -- at great costin the long run.

Rabbi Yossi Goldman

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We all put great value on the truth and demandhonesty from others. Many times our biggestcriticism to others - especially people in the

political arena - is that people are not being honest.

In our relationships - marriage, work, children - wealways say we want openness, honesty and truth. Whatis it about truth though, that often as soon as we hear itwe get offended? Many times we'll "excuse the truth" bysaying it was said because of a bias, hatred or jealousy.

The Talmud tells us that one of the pillars that theworld exists on is truth - yet we so often fight it.

The other day I came across a fascinating ad that wasa parody of our dishonest quest for honesty.

The Craig's List nanny ad was called brutally honest orunusually honest by many.

My kids are a pain... Just in the past hour, I havehad to tell each one to do something more thanonce. oldest: can I have soda? it's just a sprite?please? can I? no, no and no.

the next one...don't even get me started. seriously.

The ad describes everything the mother expected froma nanny - in completely honest terms - everything thewoman feels she can give to a nanny and everything inbetween.

the twin six year olds: one wanted dessert beforeher dinner was over, one kept wanting to know whyI wouldn't let nine year olds swing her around byher limbs. (the fear of a dislocated shoulder didnothing.)

Please help me.

The "brutally honest" ad got lots of attention becauseof one tiny little fact - it was honest.

I can be a tad difficult to work for. I'm loud, pushyand while I used to think we paid well, I am nolonger sure. I work from home, so you get the pleas-ure of being hounded by me all day long. and, youget to pretend to like me, because I am deeply sen-sative. (but well dressed and a know it all, a winningcombination I assure you.)

The prospective nannies who read the ad recognized

the honesty in it and other women looking for nanniessaw the obvious too.

If you cannot multi task, or communicate withoutbeing passive aggressive, don't even bother reply-ing. If you are the type who doesn't notice crumbson the table, skip to the next post, because crumbsare a deal breaker. they put me over the edge.

What's most amazing about the honesty of this 1,000word ad is that people were amazed by the honesty!They were refreshed by the truthfulness of ad.

I am not looking for Super nanny, or anyone whowants this job because they will love my kids as ifthey are their own. you won't. really. they are infi-nitely lovable, but trust me, they're mine and youwill move on when your journey with us is over, andsave for some funny stories and a delightful emailevery now and again, you won't grieve. Nor will we.(okay, we did all grieve a few of our past sitters,oddly they were all named Sarah or Kate, or Nikki.And Leah. Leah was delightful, even if she did dropmy twin babies off our couch during a family gath-ering. Good times.

Have we become a nation of liars? Are we so jaded bythe lies that people tell and write that honesty hasbecome brutal? Unusual? Refreshing?

I need a team player. I need someone to back meup when it comes to remembering when the librarybooks are due, and whether I have rsvped to thatbirthday party yet.

Rebecca Soodak, the 40-year-old mother whose hus-band owns a wine store, eventually hired a 25-year-oldUniversity of Virginia graduate, to take care of her chil-dren. I guess the honesty drew her to the job.

Help me dear G-d keep track of our skim milksupply and also, also, also, what should I make fordinner tomorrow night?

In the end, Soodak's honesty was almost a joke - onher! As Soodak told the Times: "I hope she likes it here.I sent the ad to one of my old sitters and she said shefelt it was pretty accurate, which sort of stung a littlebit."

Rabbi Shea HechtChairman NCFJE

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Reflections on the Holiday Experiences:

How My Life Was Saved Bya Sukkah

This article is dedicated to the memory of IrvingWilshinsky, noted philanthropist and a great man, wholeft this world in the days before Yom Kippur. Irvinghelped bring about a course of history which greatlyimpacted the Rome family. With his passing, it is impor-tant to share the story of how Irv helped to save my lifeand the lives of my wife and daughters. We could haveno better intercessor in Heaven on our behalf! May herest in peace.

Our Rabbi, Rabbi Mordy Einbinder, shares a storyabout a follower of an earlier Chabad Rebbe in the daysin Russia just after the Russian Revolution. In thosetimes, open celebration of the Jewish holidays was pro-hibited by the government. Officers of the agencywhich preceded the KGB went through the Jewish com-munities and arrested those who defied the governmentorders. This follower of the Rebbe had his life saved bya Sukkah. This is how it happened:

This saintly man followed the Chabad custom of not

even drinking water outside of the Sukkah during theholiday. Late one evening, he woke up and found him-self thirsty. He told his wife that he was going to go out-side in the cold wintry air to have a drink of water. Hiswife reminded him that Jewish law does not requiredrinking water in the Sukkah. But the saintly man stat-ed that he would keep the custom and go out to theSukkah. His Sukkah was hidden in the woods behind hishouse. From a distance, this small, cramped Sukkahcould not be seen. The man went through the branchesand entered the Sukkah for his water.

While he drank the water in the Sukkah, Soviet agentscame to the door of his house to arrest him. His wifereported to the agents that the man had left home. Thedisbelieving agents searched the house and could notfind him. As the man left his Sukkah, he observed theagents leaving his house. Saved by being in his Sukkah,the man realized that he had to flee the Soviet Union.He traveled to America where his wife and family weresoon able to join him.

A Sukkah saved this man’s life.

I identify with this story because a Sukkah saved mylife as well.

When we first became part of the Chabad of Tarzanacommunity 22 years ago, we lived in a condo where theonly patio had an overhang which did not permit thebuilding of a Sukkah. The following year, we bought ahome closer to the Shul.

In our first year in the Shul, while still in the condo, Iremembered eating one evening in a lovely wood-pan-eled Sukkah at the home of Steve and Nancy Wilshinsky.When it came time to build our own Sukkah the follow-ing year, I asked Steve how he had built his Sukkah. Heshared with me that it was his father, Irv, that had con-structed the Sukkah. Steve encouraged me to call Irv. Idid.

Irv not only said he would help me, but he asked whenI wanted him to come over to build the Sukkah. Irv gaveme a list of items to buy, including 4 X 8 panels of mychoice, nuts and bolts, and 2 X 4 beams. I purchased allthat was necessary and looked forward to the Sukkahbuilding.

Irv came over with so many power instruments. I hadnever seen a Jewish man with so many tools!

Systematically, he built, as I watched, the most beautiful 8’ by 12’ wooden Sukkah I had ever seen. Trained as an engi-neer, Irv’s Sukkah was strong and sturdy.

Used the first time for Sukkot in 1987, the Sukkah would be rebuilt each year thereafter. After the Chag, we wouldstore the Sukkah panels on a shelf just inside our door from the house to the garage. We stacked the four by eightsections from the shelf deck to the ceiling of the garage.

Then, at 4:31 a.m. on January 17, 1994, the Northridge earthquake shook our house. There was broken glass every-where. With cracks in the walls and in the ceiling supports, we slept the first night after the earthquake in a tent infront of our home. The next morning, an inspector from the city’s Department of Building and Safety came toinspect our home. He entered the garage and showed shock on his face. He asked, pointing to the Sukkah, “Whatis this?” I told him about the Sukkah and the Feast of Booths. Then he asked, “But what is it doing here?” Iexplained that this was the only available shelf for storing it. He then asked me to step forward as he showed methat our water heater which had been secured to the wall had broken free. The water heater gas tubing stretched asfar as it could, to the point of breaking when the water heater hit the stored shelves of the Sukkah. The inspectorsaid, “I have inspected already thousands of homes. The only other home where the water heater had broken awayin this manner was a home in Granada Hills on Balboa Boulevard where when the gas pipe broke away and the leak-ing gas hit the pilot light of the water heater, the entire house blew up. Your house would have surely blown up hadit not been for this Sukkah.”

The Sukkah saved our lives. It was Irv’s engineering and expertise that had created this strong Sukkah. Irv, we willbe forever grateful. This was a man of such tremendous talents. We will miss you, Irv. May his soul be bound upin the bond of life. Amen.

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"Success with children is 100% based on Divine help.All the efforts we expend are only so that when we comebefore the Heavenly tribunal we can claim that we tried.But ultimate success is in G-d's hands. Therefore, myfriend, remember - one must really pray for his chil-dren."

The Steipler Gaon noted,

"There are two ingredients to raise wonderful children:fifty percent tefillah and fifty percent shalom bayis."

What is your initial reaction when reading each of these quotes?Have you developed a "recipe" of your own for success in raisingyour children?

Chana Jenny Weisberg answers:

“Every parent in this room is a juggler,” RebbetzinRivka Marga Gestetner told a gathering of neighbor-hood parents a few months ago. “The mistake we allmake is that we tend to think we are juggling a few balls:career, marriage, children, and home, let’s say. But, thereality is that every parent in this room is juggling thou-sands of balls. Raising children, for example, on its ownis thousands of balls: keeping track of the dentistappointments, who prefers which sandwich in his or herlunch bag, helping your daughter with her math home-work and your son with his reading.

“It can be overwhelming because it IS overwhelming.The reality is that some of these thousands of balls aregoing to crash to the ground. Your main job as a parentis to make sure that none of the important balls in yourlife hit the ground.”

When we choose which balls must never ever fall onthe ground, among them must be Shalom Bayis, inaccordance with the sage advice of the Steipler Gaon. Irecommend that every married couple set aside time fora weekly date, for example, to laugh and communicate

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with their spouses without the distractions of children and ringing phones and urgent emails.

Another ball that we must never ever drop, in accordance with the wise teachings of the Chofetz Chaim, is ourconnection with Hashem. We should make Hashem our partner in our lives, talking with Him and requesting Hisguidance and assistance as we drive our children to nursery school and sit down at our desk in the office and sit downwith our family for dinner. In other words- at all times.

Another ball that I believe should absolutely never ever fall to the ground is our own happiness. I believe that afterShalom Bayis and Prayer, there is no other single factor that has a greater impact on our children. When parents arehappy, the home can be a happy one. When parents are happy, the children can be happy. When parents are happy,that creates the vessel for Shalom Bayis and Divine assistance.

The first step towards becoming a happier person and parent is self awareness.

Once every year or so, I find myself slipping. The morning rush suddenly seems so stressful that the thought ofthe thousands and thousands of morning rushes ahead of me feels like an impending landslide. The afternoon withthe children is colored in gray and stretches on into eternity. By the time the children are in bed, the mess and clut-ter that await me make me start dreaming about a trip on my own to Bali for the next…well, decade.

When this happens, I know that I have been juggling too many balls. I know I’m going to have to let some ballscrash, so that I don’t. That is when I sit down and write up a “10 Things I Need to be a Happy Mother” list. Overthe years, these lists have changed, because I have changed, and the needs of my family have changed as well.

My most recent list included:

-2 more hours of cleaning help a week.

-Babysitting help in the mornings for my 9-month-old so I can work.

-Going on a walk by myself every Monday evening

-A visit every Rosh Chodesh to the Kotel.

-Bedtime at 10:45 every night

This list involves handing a cleaning lady one housework ball. It means passing a babysitter a babycare ball. It meanshanding my husband the Monday bedtime ball. It means dropping the last minute emails that usually get sent offbetween 10:45 and midnight ball.

After I made up my last list of 10 happiness requirements, and made the arrangements to put them into action, theimpact on my attitude and my home and my children was revolutionary. The morning rush suddenly seemed not sorushed. The gray afternoons transformed into technicolor. The clutter all of a sudden seemed not so awful. Whocares so much about a little mess, anyway? We are raising a growing Jewish family here!

As devoted parents who want to do the best for our children, we tend to think that by taking time out to take careof ourselves and our needs, we are neglecting our children.

But the opposite is true. When we neglect ourselves, our children suffer. When mom and dad are happy, everybodycan be happy. When we are thriving, we enable our precious children to thrive as well.

Chana Jenny Weisberg is the author of the book One Baby Step at a Time: 7 Secrets of Jewish Motherhood andthe creator of the popular website http://www.jewishmom.com/

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In this week's portion, Hashem challenges his loyal follower Avram to a most difficult task.

"He took him outside and said, 'Gaze up at the heavens and count the stars if you able to.' Then G-d said, 'thusshall be your children'" (Genesis 15:5).

Hashem says count the stars if you can, and then concludes that thus shall be your children. What is this referringto? If it is a reference to the amount of stars, then why did Hashem tell Avram to attempt to count them? Surelythey both knew it was an impossible task for a mortal being. In addition, from the sentence structure it would appearthat the word thus may actually refer to the impossible attempt to count the stars?

Many people assume that Hashem assured Avram that his children will be as numerous as the stars, but thosewords were never spoken. After all, there may be more stars in heaven than people on earth!

Perhaps then, it is not the actual number of stars that personify the Jews but the attempt to count and understandthem. The constant curiosity and mystery that surround the galaxies are the metaphor for the Chosen People.

Rabbi Yosef Weiss, in his recently published work Visions of Greatness, tells the story of one Sam Goldish, anobservant Jew who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma and works for the United States Department of Defense.

Working on a major government contract, Sam was involved in a major project that needed constant defensedepartment scrutiny. Huddled with a dozen co-workers examining structural modifications for a tank, one workermentioned that there was a string hanging from Sam's pants. He offered to remove it, and Sam, eyes fixed on theschematics, nodded his approval. What happened next was more significant. The co-worker tugged innocently at thestring and it did not yield. In fact, seven other strings followed. Sam's tzizit were revealed. The startled workersgasped. They had never seen that sort of sartorial ornament.

For the next hour, a debate among a dozen gentile workers ensued - in the heart of the Christian Bible belt - allabout whether or not Jews must wear fringes. Each worker claimed to be an authority on Jews, each said they knewthe religion and were well versed in its customs -- yet no one had heard of tzizit! They refused to return to the meet-ing until Sam showed them, in a King James edition of the Bible, that one of the workers had on hand, exactly wherein the Bible it stated that Jews are to wear fringes on the corners of their garments.


The fascination with the little strings far surpassed their interest in the army's latest tanks.

Perhaps Mark Twain asked it best:

"If the statistics are right, the Jews constitute but one percent of the human race. It suggests a nebulous dim puffof stardust lost in the blaze of the Milky Way. Properly the Jew ought hardly to be heard of; but he is heard of, hasalways been heard of. He is as prominent on the planet as any other people, and his commercial importance isextravagantly out of proportion to the smallness of his bulk. His contributions to the world's list of great namesin literature, science, art, music, finance, medicine, and abstruse learning are also away out of proportion to theweakness of his numbers. He has made a marvelous fight in this world, in all the ages; and has done it with hishands tied behind him. He could be vain of himself, and be excused for it. The Egyptian, the Babylonian, and thePersian rose, filled the planet with sound and splendor, then faded to dream-stuff and passed away; the Greek andthe Roman followed, and made a vast noise, and they are gone; other peoples have sprung up and held their torchhigh for a time, but it burned out, and they sit in twilight now, or have vanished. The Jew saw them all, beat themall, and is now what he always was, exhibiting no decadence, no infirmities of age, no weakening of his parts, noslowing of his energies, no dulling of his alert and aggressive mind. All things are mortal but the Jew; all otherforces pass, but he remains. What is the secret of his immortality?"

G-d assures Avram that the interest in his kin will rival man's fixation with the starry worlds that he will neverreach. The intrigue that surrounds the Jew is inversely proportional to the space he fills in the universe. No matterhow tiny the glow of Judaism may seem, civilizations study it, societies try to imitate it, and mystified as they are,some nations try to destroy it.

The proverbial Hubble telescopes of the gentile world will be just as fascinated, fixated, and constantly occupiedin utter mystery of the immortal and indestructible lights that twinkle past the dark clouds of civilization - the Jew.And though those gentile observers may never discover the answer to our immortality, nor understand the reasonof or resilience, one thing they will surely understand - we shine. •

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A Husband's Illuminations

By: Rabbi Shalom Arush


Translated and adapted by Rabbi Lazer Brody

Respecting Your Wife

AJewish husband must act like Hashem -he must show his wife patience, com-passion, and understanding.

Once a husband internalizes the fact that his wife is hisown mirror, he saves himself a lot of grief. When a per-son without marital peace goes around blaming his wife,or the matchmaker, or his in-laws for his problems, notonly is he constantly angry and without inner peace, hisentire life is purgatory. What's worse, as long as he lacksemuna and tries to blame his problems on others, he'llnever succeed in correcting himself.

Not only is a wife a mirror, she's a magnifying glass.She exposes the problems in our character and behaviorthat need to be improved.

In that manner, an angry wife is essentially a messagefrom Hashem that the husband hasn't overcome anduprooted anger from his life.

With emuna, the husband utilizes the wife's negativestimuli to ask himself, "What does Hashem want fromme?" In that way, a wife facilitates her husband's rela-tionship with Hashem, for in order to keep peace in thehome, a husband must always look for Hashem withinhis wife's negative reactions. That way, the husbandavoids the pitfalls of anger and negative reactions whichonly destroy his home. With emuna, he is free to love,respect, and cherish his wife no matter how she acts.Once he does so, he triggers a powerful upward spiral oflove and peace in the home.

The Zohar teaches us that on a spiritual level, the hus-band resembles the sun while the wife resembles themoon. She has no light of her own, only the light that heshines on her. Positive emotions - happiness, respect,patience - all come from light, or spiritual illumination.Negative emotions - anger, disrespect, tension - all comefrom darkness, or lack of spiritual illumination.Therefore, what a husband gives is what a husband gets.The wife is his true mirror.

Rav Lazer Berland once said that the minute he learned

from Rebbe Levi Yitzchak Binder that a wife is the mir-ror of a husband, he entirely changed his life. Ratherthan trying to educate her, correct her, or criticize her, heput all his efforts into educating, correcting, and criticiz-ing himself. Right before I got married, Rav LazerBerland grabbed me by the lapels and said, "Don't evercriticize or make make a negative remark about anythingyour wife does. Rather than criticizing her, go maketeshuva!" Those words were probably the most impor-tant words I ever heard in my life.

Sometimes, a person thinks that he's already properlymade teshuva. If his wife is upset with him, then he's farfrom teshuva. If he becomes upset with her, he onlyshows that he is still full of arrogance and anger andlacks emuna.

A real "Ben-Torah", a Torah-observant Jew, respectsand cherishes his wife. He no sooner criticizes his wifethat he would criticize Hashem. Our sages teach thatwhen a person is truly humble and sincere in the serviceof Hashem, his wife is automatically enamored withhim. Eliahu HaNavi (Elijah the Prophet) teaches in"Tana DeBai Eliahu" that a person should be humble,and especially humble at home.

Why does Eliahu HaNavi put so much emphasis onhumility? Humility is a true sign of tikkun haBrit - prop-er kedusha and personal holiness, the opposite of licen-tiousness. Arrogance and tikkun haBrit don't go togeth-er. The logical outcome is that a wife will react favorablyto a husband that is bound in holiness, for true holinessand true humility go together.

Many unaware husbands try and throw the ball ofresponsibility to their wife's side of the court. They say,first let her respect me, and then I'll respect her. We'vealready shown why that's a misguided attitude in ourexample of the sun and the moon. But even more so, awife's respect of a husband is an outcome of his behav-ior; a husband's respect of a wife is an absolute halachicobligation that's written specifically in the Ketuba, theJewish marriage contract. For those who've never readtheir ketuba, it would be a good idea to do so. Eflach,okir, afarness - the husband unilaterally commits to love,cherish, and work for his wife.

The Gemara says, that if a husband so merits, he getsa helpful loving wife, but if he doesn't merit, she'll be anenemy.


Rav Lazer Berland says that when a wife "dumps"on a husband, she's dumping his own garbage onhim. Rebbe Nachman of Breslev teaches that a hus-band that hasn't overcome the urge for the lewd andlicentious will ultimately suffer all kinds of insult -verbal and otherwise from his wife.

For that reason, when a husband suffers disrespectand insult, not only should he not get angry, but heshould make double teshuva: first, for not yet over-coming his lustful urges, and second, for causing hiswife to be angry. A husband - under any and everycircumstance - must only shine light at home - nodarkness. Light means respect, love, a smile, a kindword, and consideration, with no expectations inreturn. Once a man internalizes the fact that hedeserves nothing, but is required to give everything,then all of a sudden he starts getting big dividends.She begins reflecting his light.

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A certain patient was so weak that he could not utter asingle syllable. Even his doctor feared the worst. Hecalled the man’s anxious wife aside and said gently, “I’mafraid there is nothing more I can do for him.”

It so happened that the Baal Shem Tov (founder of theChassidic movement and a profound healer) was passingthrough the town at the time. He came to visit the ailingman. He sat quietly with the patient for a while, and theninstructed the man’s wife to prepare some meat broth,which she did dutifully. As soon as the steaming brothwas ready, she held it to her husband’s parched lips.Slowly, he took sip after careful sip, until at last the bowlwas empty. A little color returned to the man’s cheeks,which only minutes earlier had been deathly pale. Then,to the amazement of the wife and doctor, the manopened his mouth and began to speak. The Baal ShemTov continued attending to him until he was completelyrestored to health.

Bewildered by the miraculous events he had witnessed,the doctor asked the Baal Shem Tov what he had done.“There is no logical explanation for my patient’s recov-ery,” he claimed. “I know that the poor man’s blood ves-sels were diseased beyond cure.”

The Baal Shem Tov replied, “You comprehended thepatient physically, whereas I comprehended him spiritu-

ally. Our bodies contain both organs and blood vessels.We have 248 organs, which correspond to the 248 posi-tive precepts of the Torah. We also have 365 blood ves-sels, and these correspond to the 365 negative precepts.When a person disobeys one of these precepts, theorgan or blood vessel corresponding to that mitzvah isaffected. If he transgresses many negative precepts, alarge number of vessels are impaired. This has a detri-mental effect on his blood circulation, putting the man’slife is in danger.

This is why I spoke to the soul of the patient. Iappealed to it to do teshuvah, and it agreed to do so. Asa result, all the man’s organs and vessels began to func-tion efficiently once more. In this way, I was able to healhim.”

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The story is told of an encounter between two famous rabbis of yesteryear -- Rabbi Elijah, thefamed "Gaon" (prodigious scholar) of Vilna, and Rabbi Yaakov Krantz, known as the "Maggid"(preacher) of Dubne. Apparently the Maggid of Dubne once visited Vilna and went to pay a cour-

tesy call on the great Gaon. The Gaon asked the Maggid to preach to him, as was his specialty. "Give me mussar(words of rebuke). Chastise me," said the Gaon. "G-d forbid that I should have the chutzpah to chastise the greatGaon of Vilna," replied the Magid, quite horrified at the suggestion. "No matter, that is your forte and I want tohear mussar from you," insisted the Gaon.

So the Dubner Maggid thought a while and then most reluctantly acceded to the wishes of his illustrious host. Saidthe Maggid, "Is it a great achievement to be a Gaon sitting in Vilna in your little secluded kloiz (small study hall)?Go out into the world, mix with the people, and then let us see what kind of Gaon you will be."

Indeed, it is much easier to be scholarly and pious in a sequestered ghetto than it is outside in a world that is oftenoblivious, or even hostile, to Torah and its values.

This, in fact, was more or less the test of Abraham in this week's Parshah. "Go from your land, from your birth-place, from your father's house, to the land I will show you." And it was there -- far from his natural environmentand comfort zones -- that Abraham accomplished his divine mission. He spread the truth of the One G-d to a paganworld and, in the process, his own name and reputation was established for eternity. It was only after leaving homethat Abraham became the founding father of the Jewish people.

A hundred years ago, an entire generation of Yiddish-speaking, Torah-observant Jews migrated from Europe.They came to America, the golden land of opportunity, to escape pogroms and persecution. With blood, sweat andtears they raised themselves from rags to riches and soon came to personify the American dream -- an amazing andinspiring success story. But the fact is that, for the most part, as their businesses succeeded their religious lives failed.Unquestionably, Judaism took a severe body blow. Most were unable to sustain their old world values in new worldAmerica. The transition from shtetl to suburbia proved too formidable and children and grandchildren grew upignorant of and alienated from their own sacred traditions.

Today, we see this phenomenon playing out on a lesser scale when families emigrate or move from city to city.Displaced from their spiritual support systems, they flounder. The bulk of their efforts are directed at just resettlingand reorganizing their lives. Putting religious infrastructures in place often comes last -- at great cost in the long run.

And on a more subtle level, a similar test of conscience faces us when we take our annual vacations. Away fromhome and our habitual norms of behavior, we are challenged to maintain the code of conduct we are committed toall year long.

It's like the story of the shadchan (matchmaker) who suggested a young lady to a fellow and absolutely raved abouther. After their first date, the fellow calls up the shadchan and gives him a piece of his mind. "How dare you intro-duce me to such a girl, didn't you know she limps!" Quite unflustered, the shadchan retorts, "But, what's the prob-lem, it's only when she walks."

It is when we walk away from our comfortable spiritual cocoons of home and community into the wider societythat we may find ourselves limping somewhat, losing our Jewish equilibrium. It is then that our faith, our values, ourmorals and beliefs are truly challenged.

May G-d help that the children of Abraham will emulate their forefather, who left his land and remained strongin faith, going on to achieve remarkable success, both spiritually and materially.

By Yossy Goldman


A person was looking to purchase a used car. He approached a friend of his whohas a reputation to have expertise in cars to ask advice regarding one specific car.The friend inspected the exterior of the car visually, and advised the potential buyerto buy it. Based on this advice, the car was purchased.

After driving the car for a few days, the buyer realized that there were severeproblems with the engine of the car. Had there been a thorough evaluation of thecar before purchase, these defects would have detected. He has tried to find theseller to demand a refund, but the seller is no where to be found.

Is the friend who advised the purchaser to acquire the car liable for the loss caused by his advice?

What is the Halacha?

a.If the friend received payment for his advice, he is obligated to pay for any

direct loss that resulted from his advice. This is true even if the purchaser did nottell the adviser that he is going to buy the car based solely on his advice.

b.If the adviser is not getting paid for his advice, we make the following distinction. If he really is

an expert on cars but happened to make an unintentional mistake this once, he is not liable to pay for the loss.However, he must provide proof that he is an expert.

However, if he is not an expert on this subject, and offered his advice anyway without telling the buyer that hehas no expertise, or without telling him not to rely solely on his advice, if it was clear that the buyer was going tosolely rely on his advice, the adviser must pay for the loss caused by his advice. This is because this case goes intothe classification of Garmi (see below), in which a person is held liable for causing damage.

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Meeting Justice - Meeting

Kindness

PARSHAS VAYERA


In what must be one of the greatest transitionalscenes in the entire Biblical narrative, this week theTorah transposes us from the gracious home of

Avraham in one scene and to the evil city of S'dom in thenext. Avraham's home was one of kindness. It was a homewhere the master of the house would run to greet nomadicwanderers, and invite them into his abode only three daysafter a bris milah! It was a home in which Sora had openeda door in every direction, ensuring that there was an unre-stricted invitation to any wayfarer, no matter which direc-tion he or she came from.

The scene switches to S'dom, a city in which kindnessand charity were unheard of. A city in which a damsel whocommitted the terrible crime of feeding a pauper, wassmeared with honey and set out for the bees. Sdom was acity where visitors who had the audacity to ask forovernight lodging were treated to a special type of hospi-tality. They were placed in beds, and then, if they were tooshort for the beds, their limbs were tortuously stretched tofit the bed; if they were larger than the beds their limbswere chopped off.

How does the Torah make the transition from the worldof kindness and charity to the world of evil? The Parshatells us the story of three angels who visited Avraham.Each had a mission. Rashi tells us, "one to announce toSarah the birth of a son, one to overthrow Sodom, andone to cure Abraham." You see, three were needed as oneangel does not carry out two commissions. "Raphael,"explains Rashi, "who healed Abraham went on to rescueLot, as healing and saving may be one mission." And sothe scene moves from Avraham in Eilonai Mamrei to Lotin S'dom, where the angels posing again as wayfarers weregraciously invited. They saved the hospitable Lot anddestroyed the rest of the city.

I have a simple question. Why did the angel who was sentto destroy S'dom make a stop at Avraham's home? Twoangels could have gone to Avraham's home, one to healAvraham and the other to inform Sora of the good news.The third could have gone directly to S'dom and waitedthere for the others to catch up. Why make a detour toAvraham?

Traditionally, young children who start learning Talmud,are introduced to Tractate Bava Metzia in general and thechapter Eilu M'tziyos in particular. The tractate deals with

property law and emphasizes respect for other people'spossessions. Eilu M'tziyos stresses the laws of returninglost items and the responsibilities of a finder of thoseobjects. Some wanted the boys to learn about the blessings,but Rav Moshe Feinstein insisted that the custom not bechanged. He wanted to imbue the youngsters of the enor-mous responsibilities that they have to their fellow man.One cannot be a Jew only in shul where he can sway, pray,and recite blessings, but one must also be also be a Jew inthe outside world, where the tests of honesty arise eachday.

I heard the story of one of those youngsters, who foundhis way off the beaten yeshiva path. His college-yearssearch for spirituality found him studying with a yogi inBombay, India who railed against Western comforts andderided the culture of materialism. He preached peace,love, and harmony while decrying selfishness and greed.The young man was enamored with his master's vociferousobjections to Western society, until he was together withhim on a Bombay street. A wallet lay on the ground. Therewas cash and credit cards sticking out from it. It was clear-ly owned by an American tourist. The Yogi picked it upand put it in his sarong. "But it may belong to someone,"protested his young charge. "It is a gift from the gods," heanswered, "heaven meant it for us . . . ." The young man'sprotests fell on deaf ears.

At that moment, the words of his Rabbi back in fifthgrade rang in his ears. "These are the items that must beannounced for return; any item with an identifying sign . .."

He was stirred by truth of his traditions, and the purityof his past. He left the Yogi and the wallet, and eventuallyreturned to a Torah life.

It is easy to rail against others. It is easy to talk aboutloose morals and unethical behavior. It's even easy todestroy Sdom. But Hashem did not let the angels do justthat. He told them all to them first visit Avraham. Hewanted them to see what kindness really means. See an oldman run to greet total strangers. See a 90-year-old womanknead dough to bake you fresh bread. Meet the man whowill plead for mercy on behalf of S'dom. And then, andonly then can you mete the punishment that they trulydeserve. Because without studying the good, we cannotunderstand the true flaws of the bad. Without watchingAbraham commit true kindness, we should not watch theinhabitants of Sdom get their due. •

by Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky www.torah.org • Rabbi Aaron Tendler, Ner Yisroel Baltimore


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Former Chief Rabbi Mordechai Eliyahu's conditionwas stabilized Monday night after a long heart sur-

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