June 2016

The Carlton TimesLove Honor Provide

Theme of the Month:

In the month of June we will explore the life of a cowboy in the wild west.Our residents will have the opportunity to join in activities centered arounddesert plants, horse back riding, farming, and cowboy attire. Residents areencouraged to share their personal experiences and learn about the cowboylifestyle. For theme related programs see the activities highlighted in orangeon our monthly calendar. Join us in our celebration of everything…

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Memory CornerLiving with Alzheimer’s: Denial and Acceptance

By Ava M. Stinnett

When a loved one starts to exhibit signs of dementia, it can be difficult to know what to do first. Are the signstypical of the normal aging process? Maybe it’s a medical issue that mimics dementia but is treatable and,perhaps, reversible. Or maybe it’s cognitive decline. Whatever the clue might be, how do we deal with aparent, spouse, or friend who refuses to seek medical attention?

One of the most difficult steps may be engaging them in a discussion of what is happening. Some folks arewilling to talk about symptoms because they want to gather as much information as possible to make plansfor the future. Others, however, may be reluctant to see a doctor because they believe that their occasionalforgetfulness or trouble coming up with the right word is perfectly normal. Then there are those who refuse totalk about it at all. This may be due to denial. Admitting that a problem exists may mean having to deal withthe truth before one is ready to do so. The thought of making plans for future living arrangements or drawingup the necessary legal documents (e.g., durable power of attorney, living will, healthcare directive, and lastwishes) may seem overwhelming. Yet once a person has a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, their signature may nolonger be legally binding.

In addition, people who have always been independent are often adamant about handling their own affairs.The need for this control may intensify as the ability to navigate one’s daily life begins to slip away. A formalassessment and diagnosis can be helpful in admitting the need for help. Although awareness of dementia-related diseases such as Alzheimer’s has gotten much more attention in recent years, it still carries with it aterrible stigma.

What to Do?First and foremost, remember that the earlier the diagnosis, the better the chances are for treating and possi-bly slowing the progress of the disease. However, try not to argue with your loved one about the need for adoctor’s visit. Trying to force the issue may only increase your frustration and their resolve not to go. Main-taining their self-esteem and a sense of control will work much better in the long run.

Second, dementia-related diseases such as Alzheimer’s are family diseases. You may find that denial existseven among siblings or close family friends. Keep in mind that people don’t always know how to help or whatto say. Strive for open communication and look for ways to divide caregiving tasks among those closest toyour loved one.

It helps to realize that people in the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease maysimultaneously acknowledge and resist aspects of their disease in order tomaintain some sense of control in the face of cognitive losses.Acknowledgement is expressed in terms of acceptance of the disease and itssymptoms, expression of feelings about the disease, and strategies to cope withthe symptoms. Resistance may be expressed as denial and reminiscence aboutlife achievements and past experiences. Living with Alzheimer’s disease shouldnot be described as either denial or acceptance but rather a combination thatincludes both acknowledgement and resistance. (Macquarrie, 2005)

Reference: Macquarrie, C.R. (2005). Experiences in early stage Alzheimer’sdisease: Understanding the paradox of acceptance and denial. Aging &Mental Health, 9(5), 430–441.

Join us for a Candle LightDinner

with Angel the Harpist

Thursday, June 30th

4:30 PM - 6:30 PM

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Marguerite LoweMy name is Marguerite Loweand I was born February 20,

1920 in Palestine Texas. Iraised family in Seattle

Washington. I am a retiredhomemaker. I was a member of

the Red Hat Association formany years. I enjoy playing

cards, bingo and dominoes. Ilove to go on scenic drives and

anything to do with smallchildren.

Location KeyBOLD RED = Instructor or Entertainer

GREEN BOLD = Spring Activity

AL LR = Living RoomAL CY = Assisted Living Courtyard

AL PE = Assisted LivingPersonal Expressions Room

Friday, June 3 20167:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sing Fit / Magnet Therapy10:30 Balance Bar Fitness / Magnet Therapy10:45 Nail Painting / Tactile Sensory1:30 Popcorn & Afternoon Matinee / Tactile Sensory2:45 Trivia/ Wood Works3:00 Afternoon Social and Rhythms3:45 Walking Club/ No Rhyme or Reason6:00 Evening Movie: Yankee Doodle Dandy6:15 Follow the Scent

Saturday, June 4 , 20167:00 Coffee & Doughnut Social/ News10:15 Gentle Exercise with Ziv (AL LR)10:30 Balance Bar Fitness and Jazz Music1:30 Entertainment with Tony B (AL LR)1:30 Comedy Hour / Lace a Board2:45 Balloon Volley Ball/Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Tea3:45 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle Games6:00 Evening Movie: Count of Monte Cristo6:15 Clay Play

Wednesday, June 1, 2016 Sunday, June 5, 20167:00 Coffee Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Balance Fitness / Lace A Board10:30 Chair Aerobics with Carmen12:45 Comedy Hour1:30 Bubbles and Bird Watching2:30 Scenic Drive / Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Popcorn & Soda Pop3:45 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy6:00 Evening Movie: Mary Poppins6:15 Art Circle

7:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & NewsHappy Birthday 10:30 Sunday Sing Along (AL LR)

10:30 Morning Stroll / Tender Loving Care12:45 Afternoon Stretch1:30 Sunday Sports / Table Top Art2:45 Afternoon Social with Popcicles3:45 Sit & Be Fit/ Hand Spa / Tactile Sensory6:00 Evening Movie: My Dog Skip6:15 Sorting & Folding / Hand Spa

Thursday, June 2 , 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspapers & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Parachute Pump / Tactile Sensory10:30 Prayer Service with Sister Rosalia11:00 Carlton Tour / Ladies Glamour Hour12:45 Circle Kick Ball1:30 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle & Games2:30 Poetry Project3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: African Queen6:15 Melody Lane

Gladys Rouge

This Months Food Debuts:Keep an eye out for these new dishes

coming to the dining room.

Beef Bourguignon

Teriyaki Glaze Chicken

Crab Cake Sandwich

Creamy Pesto Shrimp

Strawberry Cake

Podiatrist visit with Dr. Taylor

Saturday, July 09

If you would like your loved one to beseen please inform Veronica Pavlakis

Monday. June 6 2016 Friday, June 10, 20167:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sit to Be Fit /Hand Art / Tactile Sensory10:30 Walking for Health / No Rhyme or Reason1:30 Armchair Travel / Puzzle Games2:30 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy3:00 Afternoon Snack with Fresh Fruit & Music3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: Prancer6:15 Reminiscing Library

7:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sing Fit / Magnet Therapy10:30 Balance Bar Fitness / Magnet Therapy10:45 Nail Painting / Tactile Sensory1:30 Popcorn & Afternoon Matinee / Tactile Sensory2:30 Western Creations with Bridgett3:00 Afternoon Social and Rhythms3:45 Walking Club/ No Rhyme or Reason6:00 Evening Movie: Sound of Music Part II6:15 Follow the Scent

Tuesday, June 7, 2016 Saturday, June 11 , 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Bandana Art / Wood Works10:30 Walking for Health / Tactile Sensory12:00 Resident Pizza Party1:30 Courtyard Bowling/ Clay Play & Classical Music2:30 Sing Fit3:30 Art Circle - Meet Us At The Museum6:00 Evening Movie: Riverdance6:15 Felt Scene

7:00 Coffee & Doughnut Social/ News10:15 Gentle Exercise with Ziv (AL LR)10:30 Balance Bar Fitness and Jazz Music1:30 Country Western Hoedown withBanjo Player - Jack Convery2:45 Balloon Volley Ball/Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Tea3:45 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle Games6:00 Evening Movie: Father of the Bride6:15 Clay Play

Wednesday, June 8, 2016 Sunday, June 12, 20167:00 Coffee Social / Newspaper & News

9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Balance Fitness / Lace A Board10:30 Chair Aerobics with Carmen12:45 Comedy Hour1:30 Bubbles and Bird Watching2:30 Scenic Drive / Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Popcorn & Soda Pop3:45 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy6:00 Evening Movie: Wizard of Oz6:15 Art Circle

7:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News10:30 Sunday Sing Along (AL LR)10:30 Morning Stroll / Tender Loving Care12:45 Afternoon Stretch1:30 Entertainment with Gregory Taylor2:45 Afternoon Social with Popcicles3:45 Sit & Be Fit/ Hand Spa / Tactile Sensory6:00 Evening Movie: Chitty Chity Bang Bang6:15 Sorting & Folding / Hand Spa

Thursday, June 9, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspapers & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Parachute Pump / Tactile Sensory10:30 Prayer Service with Sister Rosalia11:00 Carlton Tour / Ladies Glamour Hour12:45 Circle Kick Ball1:30 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle & Games2:30 Poetry Project3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: Sound of Music Part I6:15 Melody Lane

Carlton Plaza Beauty Salon

Don’t forget to take advantage of all of their fabulousservices

Call the front desk and ask for the Beauty Salon tobook your appointment

Open on Wednesday, Thursday & Friday

Monday, June 13, 2016 Friday, June 17, 20147:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sit to Be Fit /Hand Art / Tactile Sensory10:30 Walking for Health / No Rhyme or Reason1:30 Armchair Travel / Puzzle Games2:30 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy3:00 Horse Shoes in the Courtyard3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: The Devil Wears Prada6:15 Reminiscing Library

7:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sing Fit / Magnet Therapy10:30 Balance Bar Fitness / Magnet Therapy10:45 Nail Painting / Tactile Sensory1:30 Popcorn & Afternoon Matinee/ Tactile Sensory2:45 Trivia/ Wood Works3:00 Afternoon Social and Rhythms3:45 Walking Club/ No Rhyme or Reason6:00 Evening Movie: The Lady Killers6:15 Follow the Scent

Tuesday, June 14, 2016 Saturday, June 18, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Bandana Art / Wood Works10:30 Walking for Health / Tactile Sensory12:45 Courtyard Bowling1:30 Clay Play & Classical Music 2:30 Sing Fit3:30 Art Circle - Meet Us At The Museum6:00 Evening Movie: The Cider House Rules6:15 Felt Scene

7:00 Coffee & Doughnut Social/ News10:15 Gentle Exercise with Ziv (AL LR)10:30 Balance Bar Fitness and Jazz Music1:30 Housewarming Party (AL LR)1:30 Comedy Hour / Lace a Board2:45 Balloon Volley Ball/Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Tea3:45 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle Games6:00 Evening Movie: Indiana Jones6:15 Clay Play

Wednesday, June 15, 2016 Sunday, June 19, 20167:00 Coffee Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Balance Fitness / Lace A Board10:30 Chair Aerobics with Carmen12:45 Comedy Hour1:30 Bubbles and Bird Watching2:30 Scenic Drive / Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Popcorn & Soda Pop3:45 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy6:00 Evening Movie: Harry Potter6:15 Art Circle

7:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News10:30 Sunday Sing Along (AL LR)10:30 Morning Stroll / Tender Loving Care12:45 Afternoon Stretch11:30 Father’s Day Brunch1:30 Father’s Day Entertainment (AL LR)1:30 Sunday Sports / Table Top Art2:45 Afternoon Social with Popcicles3:45 Sit & Be Fit/ Hand Spa / Tactile Sensory6:00 Evening Movie: Francis Covers the Big Town6:15 Sorting & Folding / Hand Spa

Thursday, June 16, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspapers & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Parachute Pump / Tactile Sensory10:30 Prayer Service with Sister Rosalia11:00 Carlton Tour / Ladies Glamour Hour12:45 Circle Kick Ball1:30 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle & Games2:30 Poetry Project3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: The Jungle Book6:15 Melody Lane

Together you can help improve your loved onesmemory, focus, and concentration while fighting thethreat of cognitive decline. It’s never too early, or toolate, to start a brain fitness Program. If you are inter-

ested please see Personal Expressions Director,Veronica Pavlakis to try Dakim with your loved one.

Monday, June 20, 2016 Friday, June 24, 20167:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sit to Be Fit /Hand Art / Tactile Sensory10:30 Walking for Health / No Rhyme or Reason1:30 Armchair Travel / Puzzle Games2:30 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy3:00 Afternoon Social with Fresh Fruit & Music3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: Saturday Night Fever6:15 Reminiscing Library

7:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sing Fit / Magnet Therapy10:30 Balance Bar Fitness / Magnet Therapy10:45 Nail Painting / Tactile Sensory1:30 Popcorn & Afternoon Matinee / Tactile Sensory2:30 Art Hour with Bridgett3:00 Afternoon Social and Rhythms3:45 Walking Club/ No Rhyme or Reason6:00 Evening Movie: Show Boat6:15 Follow the Scent

Tuesday, June 21, 2016 Saturday, June 25, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Bandana Art / Wood Works10:30 Walking for Health / Tactile Sensory12:45 Courtyard Bowling1:30 Clay Play & Classical Music 2:30 Sing Fit3:30 Art Circle - Meet Us At The Museum6:00 Evening Movie: Foyle’s Way6:15 Felt Scene

7:00 Coffee & Doughnut Social/ News10:15 Gentle Exercise with Ziv (AL LR)10:30 Balance Bar Fitness and Jazz Music1:30 Entertainment (AL LR)1:30 Comedy Hour / Lace a Board2:30 Balloon Volley Ball/Tactile Sensory3:00 Entertainment with Todd H on the Guitar6:00 Evening Movie: You’ve Got Mail

BANDANA DAY 6:15 Clay Play

Wednesday, June 22, 2016 Sunday, June 26, 20167:00 Coffee Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Balance Fitness / Lace A Board10:30 Chair Aerobics with Carmen12:45 Comedy Hour1:30 Bubbles and Bird Watching2:30 Scenic Drive / Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Popcorn & Soda Pop3:45 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy6:00 Evening Movie: The Slipper and the Rose6:15 Art Circle

7:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News10:30 Sunday Sing Along (AL LR)10:30 Morning Stroll / Tender Loving Care12:45 Afternoon Stretch1:30 Sunday Sports / Table Top Art2:45 Afternoon Social with Popcicles3:45 Sit & Be Fit/ Hand Spa / Tactile Sensory6:00 Evening Movie: Caddy Shack6:15 Sorting & Folding / Hand Spa

Thursday, June 23, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspapers & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Parachute Pump / Tactile Sensory10:30 Prayer Service with Sister Rosalia11:00 Carlton Tour / Ladies Glamour Hour12:45 Circle Kick Ball1:30 Creating a Succulent Garden2:30 Poetry Project3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: Miracle on 34th Street6:15 Melody Lane

Monday, June 27, 20167:00 Coffee Social/ Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Sit to Be Fit /Hand Art10:30 Walking for Health / No Rhyme or Reason1:30 Armchair Travel / Puzzle Games2:30 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy3:00 Afternoon Social with Fresh Fruit & Music3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie6:00 Evening Movie: Blonde Venus6:15 Reminiscing Library

Tuesday, June 28, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Art / Wood Works10:30 Walking for Health / Tactile Sensory12:45 Courtyard Bowling1:30 Clay Play & Classical Music 2:30 Sing Fit3:30 Art Circle - Meet Us At The Museum6:00 Evening Movie: The March of the Penguins6:15 Felt Scene

Wednesday, June 29, 20167:00 Coffee Social / Newspaper & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Balance Fitness / Lace A Board10:30 Chair Aerobics with Carmen12:45 Comedy Hour1:30 Bubbles and Bird Watching2:30 Scenic Drive / Tactile Sensory3:00 Afternoon Social with Popcorn & Soda Pop3:45 Chocolate Bingo / Magnet Therapy6:00 Evening Movie: The Nut Cracker6:15 Art Circle

Thursday, June 30, 20167:00 French Vanilla Social / Newspapers & News9:00 Good Morning America10:00 Parachute Pump / Tactile Sensory10:30 Prayer Service with Sister Rosalia11:00 Carlton Tour / Ladies Glamour Hour12:45 Circle Kick Ball1:30 Word Play Brain Fitness / Puzzle & Games2:30 Poetry Project3:45 Stretch Bands / Hand Spa / Classic Movie4:30 Candle Light Dinner - Black & White Theme

Doctor Shuttle Scheduling

Tuesdays: San Leandro; Hayward;

San Lorenzo; Castro Valley and Union City.

Thursdays: San Leandro; Oakland; Alameda

Wednesdays: LAB ONLY - San Leandro

Lab time must be between 9 :15 am and 10 am

2nd & 3rd Monday - Berkeley area after 12:00

Front desk requires 48 hours in advance notice.

Thank you.

Resident Birthday

Gladys Rouge 06/01

Shirley Campbell 06/27

Employee Birthday

Happy BirthdayShirley Campbell!

Carlton Senior Living San LeandroManagement Team

Jocelyn AhnstromDirector of Resident

Gary SinghPlant Operations

Alexander PavlakisDining Room

Amber BennettRetirement

Sheila RodriguezRetirement

Kushir KuarMemory Care

Edward “KC”Chand

Gloria RehbergPersonal Care

StephanieRamos

RajGounder

NancyRandhawa

Daisy MonteonAssociate

Veronica PavlakisPersonal Expressions

GeraldineMoguel

Weighted Blankets and Dementia

History:

Originally weighted Blankets were used as a therapeutic device byoccupational and physical therapists when working in a rehabilitationsetting. As research has grown supporting the benefits of weighted blankets,the use of them with at risk populations has also grown. As a result,weighted blankets are now commonly used within many senior livingcommunities as a grounding tool to help people with dementia feel safe andsecure.

Selecting a Blanket:

Weighted blankets come in all different sizes, shapes, textures, patterns andweights, and are usually selected by the user’s preference. Blankets can beused by draping them over the user while they lay down, or by wrappingthem in the blanket while sitting. Blanets can be purchased from a variety ofplaces, like SensaCalm, an online provider.

Benefits of Weighted Blankets:

People with dementia often experience anxiety and fear as a result of theirinability to retain short term memories. One benefit to weighted blankets isthat they facilitate calm, nurturing, soothing, and comforting feelings tousers, which helps reduce anxiety and fear. The sensation has often beendescribed as the deep pressure feeling of a hug or swaddling that youtraditionally receive from a loved one. The major difference being that theuser has the autonomy and control over the experience, without it beingforced or initiated by someone else.

Reference: Champagne, Tina, Brian Mullen, and Debra Dickson. "Exploring the Safety & Effectiveness of the Use of WeightedBlankets with Adult Populations." (n.d.): n. pag. OT-Innovations.com. 2007. Web. 23 May 2016. .

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Old

erBy Ruby

MacDonaldEmpowered LivingThe other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback; I don’t think of myself asold. Upon seeing my reaction, the woman was immediately embarrassed. I then explained that it was an interestingquestion and I would ponder it.

Old age, I decided, is a gift. I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted tobe. Oh, not my body, of course! The wrinkles, the baggy eyes, skin spots and bumps, the sagging butt, and - - -.Often I am taken aback by that old person who lives in my mirror, but I don’t agonize over those things for verylong. This is God’s plan for us.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, and my loving family for less gray hair or a flatterbelly. As I’ve aged, I’ve become kinder to myself and less critical of myself. I’ve finally become my own friend andI like her.

I don’t chide myself for eating that extra cookie or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly trinket. I amentitled to overeat, to be messy and to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comeswith aging. I dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50’s and if at the same time wish to weep over alost love, I will.

I will walk the beach in a swimsuit that is stretched over a bulging body and will dive into the waves with abandonif I choose to despite the pitying glances from the bikini set. Oh yes, they too, will eventually look like me.

I know I am often forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. Eventually I remember theimportant things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one or whena child suffers or even when a beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength andunderstanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of beingimperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray and to have my youthful laughs be foreveretched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed and so many have died before their hair couldturn silver.

Most importantly, I think that by living this many years, I have finally begun to understand a bit about why weare all here; why we were gifted to walk the pathways we have trod and maybe glimpse a bit of God’s plan for nowand later. I have been truly blessed.

So, to answer the question: I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going tolive forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been or worrying about whatwill be. And---I shall eat a bit of the “dessert of life” every single day! (Author unknown – an email forward5-05)

***I’d like to thank the person who wrote this article because she has fed us some challenging food for thought. Todaylet’s all rethink our own attitudes about aging. If they are less than positive, let’s turn those thoughts around sothat each and every day that we are given will be a precious gift for which we truly give thanks and receive withgratitude each and every morning as we awaken.