My Style in Confict (part 1 of 2)April 17, 2012 My personal style of responding to confict seems to be primarily based in the Analyzing/Preserving and Afliating/Perfecting categories according to the Friendly Style Profle (Gilmore & Fraleigh, 2004). Here are my scores: Accommodating/Harmonizing Calm at 22 and Storm at 25 Analyzing/Preserving Calm at 28 and Storm at 27 Achieving/Directing Calm at 24 and Storm at 21 Afliating/Perfecting Calm at 26 and Storm at 27Deducing which of these categories I ft into during confict is difcult because I fnd a little bit of myself in all of them. As Dr Dunn stated, The odds are that you will probably see a part of yourself in most of thesequalities.[1] I think my scores being evenly distributed is a relevant and true refection on me. Who is involved in the confict and where the confict is at determine how I respond to the confict. Since I am a calm and easy going person who is very relaxed it makes it hard for people to know how I might respond in a confict situation. (At times, I am even surprised in how I respond.)When it comes to confict I think I am able to engage each category a little bit, even though I am primarily an Analyzer/Preserver and Afliator/Perfector. Between these two categories, I believe I am the most like the Analyzing/Preserving person. This understanding of myself helps me efectively manage confict. This past week Dr. Dunn taught us, The more we understand ourselves, the more we can manage ourselves.[2] Later in this post I will share more reasons of why I believe that to be true.I defnitely agree with my results showing that I have the same confict styles in Analyzing/Preserving and Afliating/Perfecting categories when in calm and storm confict situations. I have noticed that I am verylevel headed no matter what happens good or bad. Whether I am meeting with a person one to one or I am leading 75 volunteers at a food drive, people observe that I am always calm, cool, collected, and that Iam always under control. So I defnitely agree that I have the same confict style when I am navigating a calm or storm confict. However, I slightly disagree with some of my results in the Friendly Style Profle because I feel many of the qualities in other categories also apply to me. Perhaps this is because I have scores that are close together in each of the four categories.I see several patterns that I have when I respond to confict.1. One of the patterns that I notice in how I respond to confict is to withdraw. As an Analyzing/Preserving person, I naturally do not think very well on my feet, and often I need time to think through and process information. This means that when someone brings a confrontation to me that has new information, my natural response is to withdraw. I think that another reason I respond to confict in this way is because I am a very introverted man who naturally tends to go inward when newinformation is presented to me.2. Another pattern I have in confict is that I tend to get nervous to the point that other people notice it. Once when I was reporting to our Human Resources (HR) Manager at work about a confict that I was just engaged in, I felt nervous but I did not realize that I looked nervous. While trying to tell her about the confict, the HR Managers frst response to me was, That [what was said] really bothers you, doesnt it? implying that the HR Manager could clearly see that I was nervous about having to confront the other person about the confict. This nervousness in confict is displayed in two ways: 1) Before I am about to confront someone in confict; and 2) When I am confronting the person or telling someone else about the confrontation they notice my nervousness.[1] Larry Dunn, Ph.D., Personal Styles in Confict (lecture, Fresno Pacifc University-North Center Campus, Fresno, CA, December 15, 2011).[2] Larry Dunn, Ph.D., Personal Styles in Confict (lecture, Fresno Pacifc University-North Center Campus, Fresno, CA, December 15, 2011).