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Paradigms of Interdependence
• Business Manager and being married
– Quick fix don’t work– Have to like yourself before you can like others– Independence-proactive, centred in correct principles,
value driven and able to organize and execute around personal priorities will we attain interdependence
Golden Goose
• From the story of the Golden Goose we could conclude the reasoning for the Goose to lay GOLDEN eggs to be numerous.
• From this analogy, in your groups come up with a scenario showing what relationship you can build upon by action of a role play in class to improve on to attain productivity or personal well being
The Emotional Bank Account
• Deposits
– Courtesy– Kindness– Honesty– Commitments
• Withdrawal
– Discourtesy– Disrespect– Interrupting– Over-reacting– Ignoring– Betraying trust– Threatening
The Emotional Bank Account
• Be very careful of what you say!
– Marriage– High School Friend– Teenager told to clean the room, Vacuum all the time!
– Need Positive balance –deposits i.e. (Dinky Toy out of the blue by being spontaneous or offering to help with homework)
• It takes a great many deposits to cover 1 withdrawal
• After all we are all independent and we all have different views of what we believe is true
Emotional Bank Account Exercise
• In your groups compare two scenarios where:
– 1. More deposits are being made– 2. More withdrawals are being made
• Role play
Six Major Deposits
• Understanding the Individual
• Attending to little things
• Keeping Commitments
• Clarifying Expectations
• Showing Personal Integrity
• Apologizing Sincerely when you make a withdrawal
Understanding the Individual
• Father and Son– Baseball– Soccer
• Professor the Son, trades and the great wall of China
• Don’t perceive that you always understand another without really wanting to understand
Attending to the little things
• Covey, boy’s night our and the coat
• Small acts of kindness and concern go a long way! Strong deposits!
Keeping Commitments
• In small groups discuss how commitments can become deposits or major withdrawals. Provide examples
Clarifying Expectations
• Ambiguous• Unclear• Incorrect
• Course Outline• Project Plan• Strategic Plan • IT Strategic Plan
Expectations need to be Clear and explicit
Otherwise may cause misunderstandings, personality clashes and communication breakdowns
Showing Personal Integrity
• Personal Integrity generates trust
• Honesty is telling the truth
• Integrity is keeping promises and fulfilling expectations
• Provide some examples if integrity or lack off?
Apologizing Sincerely when you make a withdrawal
• I was wrong• That was unkind of me• I showed you no respect• I gave you no dignity• I apologize
• If you apologize to make a decent deposit you need to be “sincere”
• Covey’s son banging on bathroom door!
Laws of Love and Life
• Dean of prestigious school and son resisting– Unconditional Love– Accepted sons decision unconditionally
• Covey and right-hand man with issue affecting organization– Overcoming pride, ego, stubbornness, fixation on a point
of view is very noble helping to strengthen relationships fro the betterment of all
• Student teams