The Importance of Values in coaching and mentoring

THE IMPORTANCE OF VALUES IN COACHING & MENTORING

WITH BETTINA PICKERING

IIC&MInternational Institute of Coaching & Mentoring

14/9/2015

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Experience / Background

▪ Production Engineer in Germany

▪ 13 years as a global management consultant for people and culture change

▪ 5 years as director of my own consulting, training and coaching business (www.aronagh.com)

Qualifications

▪ MA in applied Coaching

▪ NLP Master Practitioner & Trainer

▪ Life & Executive Coach Diploma

▪ Energetic NLP

▪ Clean Language & Symbolic Modelling

▪ Leadership Embodiment & Somatic Intelligence

▪ Psychosensory Techniques & Principles (Psy-Tap)

▪ Hypnosis Mastery

▪ Teacher for a medical, martial and health Qi Gong

Additional information

• Transformative Coach & Mentor

• Leadership trainer

• Behavioural Change Consultant

• Qi Gong teacher

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CONTENTS▪ What values are and what they are not

▪ Why values are so important in coaching, for you as the coach and your client

▪ How to elicit values elegantly

▪ How to use values to help a client with goal achievement

▪ How to spot a values conflict or incongruence, and tips on helping a client resolve this

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VALUES

WHAT THEY ARE

WHAT THEY ARE NOT

OVER TO YOU

What’s your definition of ‘Values’?

Put your comments into the question box

or

raise your hand to speak.

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WHAT VALUES ARE?

▪ Our judgement of what is important in life

▪ Deeply held principles or standards of behaviour

▪ The importance, worth, or usefulness of something

▪ Decision Criteria

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VALUES ARE WHAT MOTIVATES US

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VALUES AS MOTIVATORS

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Away from or Towards

Intrinsic

Often deeply unconscious

WHAT VALUES ARE NOT

▪ Beliefs, Attitudes & Behaviours

▪ Set in stone

▪ Static

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Values are connected to and inform all of the above

KEY FACTS ABOUT VALUES

Values carry a strong emotional charge

▪ When values are met, we feel satisfied and happy

▪ When values are violated, we feel angry, fearful, sad …..

….. + a whole host of other emotions

Values are reflected in the way we live our lives

Values can be our own or adopted from the outside world

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IMPORTANCE OF VALUESIN

COACHING & MENTORING

WE ALL HAVE VALUES

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CLIENT VALUES

▪ Life Purpose

▪ Options

▪ Decision Making

▪ Taking Action

▪ Achieving Goals

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SELF-VALUES

▪ How we value ourselves

▪ Our standards for ourselves

▪ What’s OK for us

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COACH & MENTOR VALUES

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• Professional body

• Supervision

• Type of Coach or Mentor

• Services

• Code of Practice

• Pricing

KEY COACH VALUES*

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*Based on MA interviews conducted in 2014 of ca 30 coaches internationally

Self (the Coach)

Other (the Coachee)

The Relationship (the Coach/Coachee)

Key Coaching Values

Integrity

Authenticity

Honesty

CareEmpathy

Empowerment

Ecology

Respect

Unconditionality

OVER TO YOU

Question: What value stands out for you as a Coach or Mentor?

Put your answer into the question box.

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ELICITING VALUES ELEGANTLY

POLL

Question: How much do you use values elicitation with your clients?

▪ Every client?

▪ Most clients?

▪ Up to 50% of clients?

▪ Less than 10% of clients?

▪ Never

Please put your reason for our vote into the question box.

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BASIC VALUES ELICITATION

Core Question:

▪ What’s important to you in ……..?

Higher Value:

▪ What does that give you?

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MOTIVATION

Two questions that highlight values with ease:

1. What motivates you?

2. What de-motivates you?

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ENERGY

Here are two additional questions which get a great response:

1. What energises you?

2. What de-energises you?

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OVER TO YOU

Question: What values elicitations work best for you?

Put your answer into the question box.

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HOW TO USE VALUES TO HELP A CLIENT WITH GOAL ACHIEVEMENT

CAREER COACHING – A CASE STUDY (1)

Situation

▪ Client not happy in current job

▪ Decided to change jobs

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Coaching

▪ Elicited towards & away from values around ideal job, ideal place of work, ideal team

CAREER COACHING – A CASE STUDY (2)

Outcomes for Client

▪ Clarity

▪ New options

▪ Alignment

▪ Increased Energy

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▪ Ability to take action at current employer

▪ Got himself promoted into his ideal job 3 months later

CULTURE CHANGE – A CASE STUDY (1)

▪ Senior managers & team members were not taking responsibility

▪ Board members felt overloaded & frustrated – wanted a culture change

▪ Elicited values from a cross section of staff

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CULTURE CHANGE – A CASE STUDY (2)

Outcomes for Client

▪ Clarity

▪ Understanding

▪ Increased motivation

▪ Them & us – change to we

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▪ Improved communication

▪ People stepping up

▪ United company

START-UP MENTORING – A CASE STUDY (1)

Entrepreneurial start –up team

▪ Not getting things done

▪ Not getting paying clients

▪ Lack of focus

▪ Demotivated

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START-UP MENTORING – A CASE STUDY (2)

Outcomes for Clients

▪ Clarity

▪ Focus

▪ Totally motivated

▪ Relieved

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▪ Achieved their goals

▪ Increased Productivity

▪ Expanded their business

VALUES CONFLICTS OR INCONGRUENCES

WHERE DO VALUES CONFLICTS COME FROM

▪ Others▪ Parents,

▪ Other people we look(ed) up to,

▪ Culture

▪ Mutually exclusive values

▪ Motivation direction – clash between towards/away from

▪ Limiting belief

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SPOTTING VALUES CONFLICTS

Potential Signs

▪ Procrastination

▪ Use of the words: ‘should’, ‘ought’, ‘have to’, ‘must’….

▪ Excuses that name values

▪ Strong emotional charge (often directed at self)

▪ Stuckness

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RESOLVING VALUES CONFLICTS

▪ Elicitation & Clarity

▪ Questioning & Awareness

▪ NLP techniques

▪ Releasing emotional charge

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QUESTIONS?

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