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8/6/2019 Lecture 10 Self Communication
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4 ASPECTS OF THE SELF
1. Self-Concept
2. Self-Awareness
3. Self-Esteem
4. Self-Disclosure
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1. Self-Concept
The image of who you are;
It¶s how you perceive yourself; your feelings andthoughts about your strengths, weaknesses, abilitiesand limitations.
Sources of self-concept: ± Others image of you ; How do significant others
see me ?
± Social comparisons you make between yourself and others; How do I compare to my peers?
± Cultural teachings ; How do I fulfill the teachings of my culture?
± Your evaluation anfd interpretation : How do Ievaluate my own feelings and behaviors?
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2. Self-Awareness
The Four Selves in the Johari Window
i. Open Self
Information, behaviors, attitudes, feelings,desires, motivations, ideas, etc. that you know
about yourself and th
at oth
ers also know. Your open self will vary in size depending on the
individuals with whom you are dealing.
The size of the open self varies from person toperson.
ii. The Blind Self
Information about yourself that others know butyou don¶t.
Eg. Body odour,
habit of scratc
hing your nose,etc.
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iii. The Unknown Self
the part of yourself in which you and the othersdo not know
this is probably because you and the others areunconscious or unnoticed about it.
iv. The Hidden Self
information about yourself that you know butkeep it as a secret from other people
3 types of people based on how much they
disclose about themselves: Overdisclosers
Underdisclosers
Selective disclosers
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How to increase your self-awareness?
i. Dialogue with Yourself
List out your own qualities (both positive and negative), you
perceived strengths and weaknesses, your attitudes, etc.ii. Listen
Listen other peoples¶ opinions about you and look at how theyreact / treat you
iii. Reduce Your Blind Self
Ask people about what they think of you that you don¶t knowiv. See Your Different Selves
You behave differently to different people therefore their judgments on you also vary depending on how you treat them
To learn more about yourself try to see yourself through theeyes of many people
v. Increase Your Open Self
You would learn more about yourself by revealing more toothers
It is also an opportunity to develop a close and meaningfulrelationship with others if you disclose yourself to them
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3. Self-Esteem
Personal self-esteem refers to the way you feel aboutyourself
It reflects the value you place on yourself
Group self-esteem refers to your evaluation of your being a member of a particular racial or ethnic group
Group self-esteem affects your personal self-esteem. If you view the group in which you belong positively, you are
more likely to view yourself positively. Vice versa.
Why is self-esteem important? Success breeds success.
Positive self-esteem makes a person more productive andultimately more successful in life, in relationships, in career,etc.
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How to boost up your self-esteem?
Attack your Self-Destructive Beliefs
± self-destructive beliefs are those things that youbelieve damage your self-esteem and prevent youfrom building meaningful and productiverelationships
± eg. Saying: I am stupid, hopeless, boring, etc.
± One way to attack self-destructive beliefs is byidentifying the drivers
Engage in Self-Affirmation
± remind yourself of your successes from time to
time ± focus on your good deeds, strengths, and positive
qualities
± look at the good relationships you have with friends or relatives
± concentrate on your potentials not limitations
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4. Self-Disclosure
Self-Disclosure is communication in which you reveal
information about yourself
It includes your overt statements, slips of the tongue,or unconscious nonverbal signals.
It concerns your personal feelings, thoughts,
behaviors.
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Factors influencing self-disclosure:
Group Size ± self-disclosure occurs more in small groups than in large
groups (especially in a group of two persons)
± reasons: with one listener you can attend carefully to theperson¶s responses. You could continue to self-disclose if you feel that the other person is supportive.
Liking
± you are more likely to disclose to people you like and youtrust
Receiver Relationship
± you are more likely to disclose yourself in:
� temporary rather than permanent relationships� competitive rather than noncompetitive relationships
� in-group members rather than non-group members
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Age ± you are more likely to disclose to people who are about the
same age as you
Competence
± competent communicators reveal about themselves morethan less competent communicators
± maybe because they have more self-confidence or theyhave more positive things to say about themselves
Personality
± highly sociable and extroverted people self-disclose morethan those who are less sociable and more introverted.
± Those with high self-esteem self-disclose more than thosewith low self-esteem
Topics
± the more personal and the more negative the topic, the lesslikely you are to self-disclose
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Culture
± different cultures view self-disclosure differently.
± Some cultures may regard secrecy as very important
± Eg. Americans self-disclose more than Middle Easterns
Gender
± gender plays a role in how much you self-disclose
± for eg. researches showed :
� men disclose less than women� sex role rather than biological gender accounts for the
differences in self-closure
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Think before you self-disclose
Weigh the rewards and dangers of itcarefully
Rewards of self-disclosure: Understanding of Own Behavior
Coping Abilities
Improve Communication
Establishing a Meaningful Relationship
Dangers of self-disclosure:
Personal or social rejection
Material losses
Intrapersonal Difficulties
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Remember, not all societies and cultures
view self-disclosure in the same way
Examine the specific culture and its rules. Following them brings approval and violating them
brings disapproval.
Remember that self-disclosure is irreversible
You can¶t take it back once you told people aboutyourself. They would already make a conclusion
about you.
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Guidelines for Self-Disclosing
Consider the motivation for self-disclosure
Consider the appropriateness of self-
disclosure� Context (time and place) and relationship between
speaker and listener
Consider the disclosures of the other person
Consider the possible burdens / problems
self-disclosure might entail
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Guidelines for responding to self-
disclosure
Use effective and active listening skills
Support and reinforce the discloser
Maintain confidentiality
Don¶t use the disclosures as weapons