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Conversations that Count
Helping communities think and talk about death and dying
Toolkit for volunteer communicators
Thank you to all the people involved in the development of this toolkit including:
• Alltheparticipantswhocametotheco-designworkshopsandsharedtheirexperiencesandideas.
• OurvolunteerCommunicatorswhowillinglyparticipatedinthepilottrainingandwentoutintothecommunity.
• MembersoftheConversationsthatCountProjectGroupfortheirongoingsupportandadvice.
• StephenMcKernonforhisservicedesign&facilitationskillsandendlesspatience.
• SueBottemaforprovidingbrillianttrainingforourvolunteers.
• NikkiMcLayforthewonderfulgraphicdesign.
• HilaryBoydwhosecreativity,dedicationandcommitmentmadethistoolkitareality.
• TheHealthQualityandSafetyCommissionforfundingthisproject.
Suggestedcitation:
AucklandDistrictHealthBoard.2012.Conversations that Count: Helping Communities Talk about Death and Dying.Auckland:AucklandDistrictHealthBoard.
ISBN978-0-473-22275-8(ringbinder)
ISBN978-0-473-22276-5(PDF)
BarrySnowACPLeaderAucklandDHB
LeighMansonACPProgrammeManagerAucklandDHB
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BEFORE YOU STARTThetoolkit 3
Talkingaboutdeathanddying 5
Preparingforasession 9
SESSION MODULESSTARTING A SESSION 01SessionOpening 21
THINKING AND TALKING ABOUT DEATH02 FindingtheWords 22
03 FourbyFour 23
04 ThingstoKnow 25
05 FearsandHopes 27
06 FacingDeath 28
07 DeathofaPet 29
08 ExpertInterviews 30
PREPARING FOR DEATH AND LIFE AFTERWARDS09 TheWall 31
10 TheGate 33
11 InformationBank 35
12 MakeFriendswithDeath 38
13 ConversationCards 39
PREPARING FOR THE DEATH OF SOMEONE YOU KNOW14 SharingyourWishes 43
15 TheBoat 44
16 HonouringtheLegacy 46
17 TheCelebration 48
ENDING A SESSION18 SessionClosing 49
REFERENCES 51
Introducing
conversations that countWhat’s it all about? Traditionally,inNewZealand,manyfamiliesarereluctanttothinkandtalkaboutdeathanddyingandthetypeoftreatmentandcaretheymaywantattheendoftheirlives.Somepeopledonotthinkortalkabouttheseatall,manydonotdosountiltheyareverysick.Thiscanleavetheirfamiliesandhealthcareprovidersmakingdecisionsabouttheircareandtreatmentwithoutknowingwhatthepersonwouldhavewanted.
ConversationsthatCountisapilotprogrammewhichaimstoencourageconversationsincommunitiesaboutthetreatmentandcareattheendoflife.Itdoesthisbytrainingvolunteers,knownas‘communicators’,togetcommunitygroupstalkingaboutplanningfordeathanddyinginapositiveandproductiveway.
The communicator’s purpose is to help community groups hold their own discussions about planning for death and dying in a positive and productive way.
How did it come about? TheideacamefromaseriesofworkshopsrunbyAucklandDistrictHealthBoard(ADHB)in2011withconsumerswhohadeitherexperiencedthedeathofalovedoneorwerefacingdeaththemselves.Theseconsumerswantedtopromotethinkingandtalkingaboutdeathanddyingintheircommunitiesbutneededtrainingandresourcesbeforetheycoulddothis.
Alongwithsupportfromthecommunity,ADHBsuccessfullyreceivedfundingfromtheHealthQualityandSafetyCommission(HQSC)torunapilotprojecttodevelopresourcesandtraining,andrecruitvolunteerstofacilitatecommunitysessions.Thistoolkitisforpeoplewhotrainasvolunteercommunicators.
Community InvolvementThis toolkit was developed with the community and took a lot of hard work and goodwill on their part. Four co-design workshops were held which tackled issues such as the words used for death and dying, scenarios and role-plays for working with communities and how to train volunteers.
The modules in this toolkit are what workshop participants have suggested would work well in their communities.
“We want to encourage families and communities to think and talk about the treatment and care they want at the end of their lives.”
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Part I Talking about death and dying This gives you some introductory information about:
Advance care planning-awayofhelpingpeoplethinkabout,talkaboutandshare theirthoughtsandwishesabouttheirfuturehealthcare.
Advance care plans–awayofhelpingpeoplewritedowntheirwishes,preferences, valuesandgoalsaboutcurrentandfuturehealthcare
New Zealand resources
Part II Preparing for a session Onceyouhavebeentothetrainingthenextstepistorunasessionwitha groupfromwithinyourowncommunity.Here,youcanlearnaboutthe keystepsforhowyougoaboutsettingupasession.
The steps are:
1. Understand the programme
2. Be clear about your roles and responsibilities
3. Contact the community group
4. Decide whether to agree to a community session
5. Make the arrangements
Part III The session modules Thesearethemodulesforyoutousewhenyouworkwithacommunitygroup. Youareabletopickandmixfromthemodulestosuittheneedsofthegroupyou areholdingasessionwith,yourownpersonalstyleandtimeconstraints.Apartfrom theopeningandclosingmodules(thesearethecompulsoryones),themodulesare groupedintothreecategories:
The catergories are:
Thinking and talking about death-Thesearetheeasier,lesschallengingmodules whichencouragecommunitiestogetstarted.Theynormallytakebetween20and40 minutestocomplete.
Preparing for death and life afterwards-Thesemodulesaremorechallenging andconsequentlyarelongerwithmostmodulesestimatedtotakebetween 30and60minutesdependingonthesizeofthegroup.
Preparing for the death of someone you know -Thesemodulesarethemost challenging(bothfortheyouandthecommunitygroup)astheyencourageparticipants todelvedeeperintheirthinking.Thesemodulesmaytake60minutesorlonger.
The TOOLKITThis toolkit will provide you with some practical resources and tools you need to run community sessions. It sits alongside a training programme and ideally, you should use it after receiving the training. The toolkit is divided into three parts:
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Part I
Talking about death and dying
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The official definition“Advancecareplanningisaprocessofdiscussionandsharedplanningforfuturehealthcare.Itinvolvespatient,whanauandhealthcareprofessionals.Advancecareplanninggivespatientstheopportunitytodevelopandexpresstheirpreferencesforendoflifecarebasedon:
•Theirpersonalviewsandvalues
•Abetterunderstandingoftheircurrentandlikelyfuturehealth
•Thetreatmentandcareoptionsavailable.”
(National Advance Care Planning Cooperative)
Planninggivespeoplethechancetodevelopandexpresstheirpreferencesforcareinformednotonlybytheirpersonalviewsandvaluesbutalsobyanunderstandingoftheircurrentandanticipatedfuturehealthstatusandthetreatmentandcareoptionsavailable.
Advance care planning can be many things, such as:
•Havingaconversationaboutillness,prognosisandtreatment
•Havingadiscussionaboutdeathanddying
•Talkingabouttreatmentpreferences,nowandinthefuture
•Writingdownvaluesandbeliefstoinformtreatmentdecisionsnow,orforatimewhenapersonisnolongercapable.
Benefits of planning“Itencouragesconversationsaboutwhatisimportantforaperson,providingthemwiththeopportunitytodiscusstheirhopesandexpectations,aswellastheirfearsandanxietiesabouttheirfuturehealthandaboutdeathanddying.”
“Ithelpsapersonachieveasenseofcontrolastheirillnessprogressesanddeathapproaches.”
“Itengagesothers,includingfamily/whanauandcaregivers,intheadvancecareplanningprocesstohelpthemunderstandtheperson’swishesandtosupportthemthroughtheprocess.”
“Itreassuresthepersonthatdiscussionsandplanscanchangeovertimeandinparticularifcircumstanceschange.”
(New Zealand Ministry of Health & Hospice New Zealand, 2011, p7)
Advance care planningMany people don’t like to think and talk about death and dying. For some communities talking about death is taboo. Often discussions do not happen in families until someone is very unwell and may be in hospital.
When people get sick, families and healthcare providers are often left to make difficult decisions without knowing what the person wants. Advance care planning can help with this.
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Yeah. It’s important to review your plan if things have changed
for you.
Yeah. It’s important to review your plan if things have changed
for you.
Advance care plansAn advance care plan is an oral or written instruction (written is preferred) which articulates a person’s wishes, preferences, values and goals about current and future health care. The plan will only be used to direct future medical treatments and procedures when the person loses capacity to make their own decisions.
(New Zealand Ministry of Health & Hospice New Zealand, 2011).
Steps to making an advance care plan“Thinkaboutwhatvaluesandbeliefsaroundend-of-lifeissuesareimportanttoyou.Whatmakeslifemeaningfultoyouandwhatsituationsmightmakeitseempointless?
“Talktohealthprofessionalstolearnaboutmedicaltreatmentsfortheveryillorinjured.Askaboutthebenefitsandrisksofthesetreatments.
“Decideatwhatpointyouwouldwantyourfuturehealthcaretofocusoncomfortcareratherthanlife-savingmeasureswhichmaybeuncomfortableorunpleasant.
“Choosewhatmedicalcareyoudoordon’twant,tohonouryourvalues,beliefsandfaith.
“Discussyourchoicesandwisheswiththoseclosesttoyou,sotheyknowwhatyouwouldwantiftheworstshouldhappen.
“Choosewhowouldyouwanttospeakforyouifyoucouldnolongermakeyourownmedicaldecisions,andsignover‘enduringpowerofattorney’tothem.
“Putyouradvancecareplaninwritingandkeepacopyinyourmedicalrecord.Itwillnotbeusedwhileyouarecapableofmakingyourowndecisionsandspeakingforyourself.”
(Advance Care Planning Cooperative, 2011, p.7.)
Can I change my advance care plan
once I’ve written it?
Sure. You can change your advance care plan whenever and as often as you wish, as long as you are competent.
Sure. You can change your advance care plan whenever and as often as you wish, as long as you are competent.
Can I change my advance care plan
once I’ve written it?
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Advance care planning. Preparing for the end of life. 2011
A2-pageleafletwhichexplainsadvancecareplanning.Availablefrom:AdvanceCarePlanningCooperative.
www.advancecareplanning.org.nz
Making the most of your final years. Practical and spiritual things to think about and plan for end of life. 2011
A2-pageleafletwhichdetailspracticalandspiritualthingstothinkaboutandplanfortheendoflifeAvailablefrom:AdvanceCarePlanningCooperative.
www.advancecareplanning.org.nz
My advance care plan
A4-pageformthatpeoplecanusetorecordandletothersknowthecaretheywanttowardstheendoftheirlives.Availablefrom:AdvanceCarePlanningCooperative.
www.advancecareplanning.org.nz
Advance Care Planning Guide. Planning for the medical treatment and care you want in the future. 2011
Aguideshowingpeoplehowto:
•Planforend-of-lifehealthcarechoices
•Writeanadvancecareplan
Availablefrom:AdvanceCarePlanningCooperative.
www.advancecareplanning.org.nz
Planning your future and the role of enduring powers of attorney. November 2008 (2nd edition)
Abookletwhichexplainshowpeoplecanarrangetohavetheiraffairsmanagediftheylosementalcapacity,eitherthroughaccidentorillness.Availablefrom:CommunityLaw
www.communitylaw.org.nz
Keeping you protected – enduring power of attorney
Asuiteofresourcesaboutenduringpowersofattorneyincludinginformation,worksheetsandforms.Availablefrom:OfficeforSeniorCitizens
www.osc.govt.nz/enduring-powers-of-attorney
Advance care planning
Resource list
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Understand the programme
Be clear about your roles and responsibilities
Contact the community group
Decide whether to agree to a community session
Make the arrangements
Part II
Preparing for a Session
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Conversations that Count is a pilot programme which aims to encourage conversations in communities about the treatment and care at the end of life. It does this by training volunteers, known as ‘communicators’, to get community groups talking about planning for death and dying.
As a communicator, your purpose is to help community groups hold their own discussions about planning for death and dying in a positive and productive way. You can do this by running sessions with interested community groups.
Programme Elements
Commitment•Anorganisationsuchasadistricthealthboardordisabilityorganisationagreestobeahost
fortheprogramme.•Atthetimeofwritingthistoolkit,AucklandDistrictHealthBoardistheonlyhostorganisation
asthisisapilotproject.
Expertise•ThehostorganisationappointsatrainerwhoisfamiliarwiththeConversationsthatCount
Programmeorhashadspecifictraining.•Thetrainerhasaccesstoacompaniondocumentwhichoutlinesthetrainingschedule.
Volunteers •Volunteersarerecruitedfromthelocalcommunity.
Training•Volunteershavetwodaysofintensivetrainingonthematerialinthetoolkitandtheskills
theywillneedintherole.Thesepeopleareknownascommunicators.
Community•Communicatorsrunsessionswithgroupsintheirlocalcommunity.
Evaluation•Communicatorsmeetasagroupwiththetraineraftertheyhavecompletedatleastone
sessiontoevaluatehowthesessionshavegoneandreceivefollow-upassistance.
Step one:
Understand the programme
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Before having contact with a community group you need to be clear about your roles and responsibilities and be able to explain these to other people.
What does a communicator do?Yourpurposeistohelpcommunitygroupsholdtheirowndiscussionsaboutplanningfordeathanddyinginapositiveandproductiveway.Youaretheretoprovideinspirationandhelpcommunitiesapplywhattheyhavelearnttotheirownsituation.
You do this by:
1.Sharinginformationandfacilitatingdiscussionsthatencourageandenablecommunitiestotalkabout:
•Deathanddying
•Preparingfordeath
•Thetreatmentsandcarepeoplemaywantattheendoftheirlives
2.Facilitatingdiscussionsthathelpcommunitiesworkthroughissuesanddecisionsforthemselves.
You are not there to:
•Giveformaladviceorguidanceorhelpacommunitytoresolvespecificissues
•Helpacommunitygrievearecentdeath(seenoteatbottomofpageforexception).
The communicator's responsibilitiesYourprimaryresponsibilityistothecommunityyouaresupporting.
You can do this by:
•Presentinginformationthathelpscommunitiestalkaboutandmanagethedecisionsforthemselves
•Helpingthecommunitygroupkeepsafe
•Rememberingthatyouarenotresponsibleforhelpingcommunitygroupsdealwithissues,makespecificdecisionsorprepareforspecificsituation(seenoteatbottomofpageforexception).
Yoursecondaryresponsibilityistoyourselfandyourcolleagues.
You can do this by:
•Helpingcommunitiesthatmatchyourbackgroundandskills(orthoseofyouandyourcolleaguesincombination),or
•Referringacommunitygrouptosomeonewhosebackgroundandexperiencebettermatchesthegroup’sneeds.
Note:Insomeinstancesifthecommunityhasparticipatedintheprogrammepreviously,youmaydecidetosupportagrouptoprepareforaspecificperson’sdeath(asinModule 16, Honouring the LegacyandModule 17, The Celebration).
Step two:
Be clear about your roles and responsibilities
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Once you understand the programme and are clear about your roles and responsibilities, you are ready to approach a group in your community to see if they are interested in a session.
Start by working out which groups to approach:Youcanbeginthisbybrainstormingallthedifferentgroupsyouhavearelationshipwith.Itisimportanttothinklaterallyhere:itmaybeaformalcommunitygroupsuchasasportsorchurchgrouporitmaybealessformalgroupsuchasasocialgroupatworkoracoffeeclub.
Youneedtobeawarethatsomecommunitiesmayprefertohavecommunicatorsthatareindependentofthecommunity,whileothersmaywantapartnership.
Next get in touch with the group and arrange a meeting with the community group leader or representative.AtthemeetingyoushouldexplaintheConversationsthatCountProgramme,yourrolesandresponsibilitiesandthetypeofsessionthatcouldbeoffered.
Atthemeetingfindoutthelevelofinterestfromthecommunitygroupandanyneedstheymayhave.
The following questions may help you:
• Whospecificallyisthesessionfor?
• Whatarethecommunitymemberslike?
• Howmanypeoplearelikelytoattendasession?
• Whatisthebackgroundorcontextthathasledtothemwantingasession?
• Whatresultsandoutcomesdotheywantfromthesession?
See Your First Meeting with a Community template (page 13)
Step three:
Contact the community group
TIPS
• Go to your first meeting well prepared. Have some ideas about which modules may suit the group.
• Be confident. Be able to articulate: > Why the topic is important > What your role is > How you can help
• "To overcome your fear the 'why' has to be big enough."
• Go to your first meeting well prepared. Have some ideas about which modules may suit the group.
• Be confident. Be able to articulate: > Why the topic is important > What your role is > How you can help
• "To overcome your fear the 'why' has to be big enough."
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Decision time! Before agreeing to hold a community session it is important for you to assess:
• Whether the content of the session will be appropriate for the community, and
• Whether you are the best person to provide assistance to the community group
Somecommunitiesmayapproachyouwithsimpleorcomplexneeds,andfurther,theymaynotappreciatehowcomplextheirneedsare.Signsofpotentialcomplexitymightbearecentoranimpendingdeathinthecommunity,orconcernsovertopicssuchaseuthanasia,abortionandothercontroversies.
Somecommunitiesmayprefertohaveacommunicatorthatspeaksasapersonindependentofthecommunity,whileothersmaywantapartnershipsothatmemberswithinthecommunitymighttakealeadinfutureconversations.
Youcanusethequestionsbelowtoassesshowsimpleorcomplexthecommunity’sneedsareandwhetherthepreferredroleisindependentorpartnering.
How to decideTo assess the community’s needsTherearethreeinitialquestionsthatyoucanaskacommunitygrouptohelpassesstheirneeds.
1.Whospecificallyarethey?Forexample,howmanypeopleareinthegroup?
2.Whathasledthemtoaskfor(orshowaninterestinhaving)asession?
3.Whatresultsandoutcomesdotheywant?
To assess your involvement Answerthequestionsbelow.
•Isitacommunitygroupthatyoucanrelatetopersonally?Canthegroupeasilyrelatetoyou?
•Isthecommunitygroupbeingproactive?Aretheyagroupthathasnotrecentlyexperiencedadeath(orisnotexpectingonesoon)andthatdoesnotneedhelpgrieving?
•Isthecommunitygroupforward-lookingandwantingbetterwaystotalk,prepareandplan?Isthisagroupthatdoesnotwanttogrieveaspecificdeath(intherecentpastorimmediatefuture)?
•Overalldoesyourdecisionbestaddresstheneedsofthecommunity?Areyouensuringtheyreceivethebestsupporttheymostneedatthistime?
If you answered ’yes’ to all the questions and you can work with the group safely, then you may support the group.
If you answered ‘no’ to one or more of the questions or cannot work safely, then you need to work with colleagues or refer the community group to specialists.
Step four:
Decide whether to agree to a community session (or not)
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1.Onceyouandthecommunitygrouphavemadethedecisiontohaveasession,itisimportanttoformalisethearrangementssobothpartieshaveanunderstandingoftheaims,rolesandlimitsofthecommunicatorandthesession.Inmostcasesthiswouldinvolveyoudiscussingandsigningacommunitysessionagreementorsomethingsimilar.
SeeCommunity Session Agreement (page16)foranexample
2.Thenextstepistogothroughsomeofthedetails,suchas:
•Whoneedstobeontheteamforsettingupthesession?
•Whoneedstobeontheteamrunningthesession?
•Whatjobsneedtobedonebeforethesession?
•Whenandwherethesessionwillbeheld?
•Whatresourceswillyouneed?
Planning a Session template (page17)canhelpyouwiththis.
Things to note:
Step five:
Make the arrangements
If you need resources such as paper & pens, copies of evaluation forms and so on, ask the community group if they can provide them.
NOTE
You need to be confident enough
to say ‘no’ with dignity to a
community whose needs are too
complex or significant for the
programme or you as a volunteer.
But you also need ways to bring
in other experts, as well as
members of the community, if
the programme is still deemed
appropriate.
You need to be confident enough
to say ‘no’ with dignity to a
community whose needs are too
complex or significant for the
programme or you as a volunteer.
But you also need ways to bring
in other experts, as well as
members of the community, if
the programme is still deemed
appropriate.
It may also be that some communicators have skills that are advanced enough to help a needy community, with appropriate support.
It may also be that some communicators have skills that are advanced enough to help a needy community, with appropriate support.
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Community Session Agreement (Optional)
Communicator Aims1. Weaimtopresentinformationthathelpsyourcommunitygrouptoworkindependently
ontheissuesthatariseandanydecisionsthathavetobemade.
2. Weaimtodothisinwaysthataresafeandusefulforyourcommunitygroup,andsafeandresponsibleforus.
Communicator RoleWeaimtoshareinformationandfacilitatediscussionsthatencouragesandenablesyourcommunitygrouptotalkabout:
• Deathanddying
• Preparingfordeath
• Thetreatmentsandcarepeoplemaywantattheendoftheirlives
Communicator LimitsPlease note, we are unable to:
1.Giveadviceorguidance,helpyourcommunitygroupresolvespecificissuesormakedecisionsrelatedtodeathanddying
2.Helpyourcommunitygroupgrievearecentdeathorprepareforthedeathofaspecificmemberinthenearfuture(unlessyouhaveparticipatedintheprogrammepreviouslyanditisappropriateforustodothis)
3.Discusseuthanasiaandanyotherpracticeswhichareillegalorcontroversial
Whilewemightwanttohelp,weareneithertrainednortaskedtoprovidemorespecialisedsupport.Ifneededwewillhelpyoucontactspecialistswhocansupportyourcommunityappropriately.
Weagreetoworkundertheconditionsoutlinedabove.
Communicator:_________________________________________________________________
Communitygrouprepresentative:__________________________________________________
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Part III
Session modules
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ModulesThese are the modules for you
to use in your sessions with community groups. Apart from
the compulsory modules - Module 1, Session Opening and
Module 18, Session Closing – you can pick and choose from
the modules depending on the needs and abilities of the
community, your own personal style and preferences, and the
time available.
You can put your own spin on the exercises once you have
learnt the modules and become comfortable with them.
Starting a Session 21 01 Session Opening:Prepareagroupforthesessionahead
Thinking and talking about deathThese are the easier, less challenging modules which encourage communities to get started. They take between 20 and 40 minutes to complete.
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22 02 Finding the Words:Identifythewordspeopleusetotalkaboutdeathanddying
23 03 Four by Four:Identifyallthepositivethingsdeathcanmeanforpeople
25 04 Things to Know:Thinkaboutthebasicarrangementsneededtobemadeto preparefordeathanddying
27 05 Fears and Hopes:Identifyfearsandhopesaboutpreparingfordeathanddying
28 06 Facing Death:Identifytheamazingthingspeoplecansayanddowhenfaced bytheirowndeath
29 07 Death of a Pet:Reflectonhowthedeathofapetcanhelppeoplemanage thedeathofapersontheyknow
30 08 Expert Interviews:Talkconfidentlywithothersaboutpreparingfordeath anddying
Preparing for death and life afterwardsThese modules are more challenging and consequently will take longer. Most modules are likely to take between 30 and 60 minutes depending on the size of the group.
31 09 The Wall:Identifythethingsthatpreventpeoplepreparingfordeathanddying
33 10 The Gate:Managethethingsthatpreventpeoplepreparingfordeathanddying
35 11 Information Bank:Understandtherangeofissuesdeathposes
38 12 Make Friends with Death:Becomecomfortablewithdeath
39 13 Conversation Cards:Talkabouttheissuesandsituationsthatarisewhen someoneispreparingfordeath
Preparing for the death of someone you knowThese modules are the most challenging (for you and the community group) as they encourage participants to delve deeper in their thinking. These modules may take 60 minutes or longer.
43 14 Sharing your Wishes:Planforthedeathofsomeoneyouknow
44 15 The Boat:Looktolifebeyonddeathwithoutsomeoneyouknow
46 16 Honouring the Legacy:Exploredeepermeaningsinthelifeofthe personwhoisdying
48 17 The Celebration:Celebratethelifeofsomeoneyouknow
Ending a session49 18 Session Closing:Summmariseandreflectonthesession
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What?Thisintroductorymoduleensuresthatthecommunitygroupispreparedforthesessionahead.
Why?Ifthecommunitygroupiswellpreparedforthesessionthenthingsarelikelytogomoresmoothly.
This is a compulsory module.
How?Followthesteps
Steps Prior to the session starting, complete the Planning a Session template (page 17)
•Participateinthewelcome(orpowhiri)bythecommunitygroup,observinganyspecificgroupprotocols.
•Participateinanyformalopeningofthesession,observinganyspecificgroupprotocols.
•Onceyouhavebeenintroduced,thankandacknowledgethecommunitygroup.
•Explainthepurposeofthesessionanditsbenefits.
•Summariseyourownexperiences.
•Giveanoutlineofthesessionincludingapproximatetimesandwhentherewillbebreaks.
•Checkforquestionsandaddressbeforemovingon.
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Whiteboard
✏ Whiteboard markers
Session Opening Duration: approximately 15 minutes.
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Focus on a positive, clear and confident start. Address any
difficulties immediately.
Acknowledge that during the modules participants may feel distressed or have a range of
emotions. Let them know that it’s okay to feel this way. After all, discussing death and dying
is a difficult topic.
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What?Thisisafun,light-hearted,exploratorymoduletoidentifythewordspeopleusetotalkaboutdeathanddying.
Why?Peopleusedifferentwordstodescribedeathanddyingandit’simportanttobeawareofandabletousetherangeofwords.Thisintroductorymodulegeneratesdiscussionandraisesparticipants’awarenessofdifferentapproachestotalkingaboutdeathanddying.
How?Brainstormallthewordsparticipantscanthinkoftodescribedeath.Thiscanbedoneindividually,inbreakoutgroupsorinonelargegroup.
Steps •Introducethemodule.
•Askpeopletobrainstormandwritedownallthewordstheycanthinkoftodescribedeathanddying.Peoplecandothisindividually,inbreakoutgroupsorinonelargegroup.
•Explainthattherearenorightorwronganswers,allwordsandphrasesareacceptable.
•Oncethisiscompleted,askpeopletocalloutthephrasesandwordsusedandwritethemonthewhiteboard
•Askpeople:“Whatdoestherangeofwordssuggesttoyou?”
•Askpeopletosummarisewhattheyhavelearnt.“So,whatwearelearningis...?”
•Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone.“You’vedonereallywell.It’samazinghowmanydifferentwaysyouhavefortalkingaboutdeathanddying.”
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Whiteboard
✏ Whiteboard markers
✏ Pens and paper
Finding the Words talking about death Duration: approximately 20-30 minutes.
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Ask people who's got the longest list and give a "round of applause".
Get people to read out the lists.
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What?Thisthoughtprovokingexercisehelpspeopleidentifyallthepositivethingsexperiencesofdeathcanmeanforpeople.
Why?Sometimespeople’swaysofthinkingandtalkingaboutdeathcanpreventthemdealingwithit.Learningbetterwaystothinkandtalkaboutdeathcanhelppeoplefindstrengthanddignity.
How?Inbreakoutgroups,brainstormallthepositivethingsexperiencesofdeathcanmeanforparticipants.
Steps• Introducethemodule.
•Askparticipantstobreakintogroupsandsitincircles.
•Makesureeachgrouphasthehandout:Four by Fourtemplate,pens,post-itnotesandalargesheetofpaper.AskeachgrouptocopytheFour by Fourtemplateontothelargesheetofpaper.
•Askgroupstobrainstormandwritedownonpost-itnotesallthepositivethingsexperiencesofdeathcanmeanforpeople.Allow10-15minutesforpeopletodothis.
•Askgroupstoplacethepost-itnotesontotheirlargesheet.
•Whenthisisdone,askpeopletoreflectbackonwhattheyhavelearnt.
•Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Large sheet of paper and pens for each group
✏ Module 03 handout: Four by Four template (page 24)
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Remain positive, open minded and upbeat
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What?Thisexploratorymodulehelpspeoplethinkaboutthebasicarrangementstheyneedtomaketopreparefordeathanddying.
Why?Deathanddyingcanseemdifficulttodealwithbuttherearealotofservicesandpeoplewhoarereadytohelp.
Bythinkingaboutandplanningforthebasicarrangementspeoplecanmakethingsmucheasierandmuchlessstressfultodealwith.
How?Ingroups,participantsdiscusstheinformationandresourcesaboutpreparingfordeathanddying.
Steps •Introducethemodule.
•Withthewholegroup,brainstormallthethingsparticipantswanttolearnaboutpreparingfordeathanddying.Writetheseonthewhiteboard.
•Inbreakoutgroups,giveeachgroupseveralcopiesofthehandouts.Askparticipantsto:
1.Readtheinformationlookingforanswerstotheirquestions,
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3.Makeaplanforfindingoutinformationthatismissing.
•Askeachbreakoutgrouptopresenttheirunderstandingoftheinformationbacktothewholegroupusingtheirownwords.
•Leadaninteractivediscussionabouttheinformationaskingeachgrouptoreflectbackonwhattheyhavelearnt.
•Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Whiteboard and whiteboard markers
✏ Advance care planning resource list (page 8)
✏ Module 04 handout: FAQs about Death and Dying (page 26)
✏ Advance Care Planning leaflet
✏ Making the most of your final years leaflet
✏ My Advance Care Planning guide
Things to Know talking about preparingDuration: approximately 20-40 minutes.
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What?Thisopen-mindedandexploratorymodulehelpspeopleidentifyanddiscusstheirfearsandhopesaboutpreparingfordeathanddying.
Why?Manythingscanmakepeopleanxiousandafraidorhopefulandoptimistic.Talkingaboutthesefeelingshelpspeoplelearnhowtomanagethem.Forexample,fearsthatcanstoppeoplesleepingatnightmayseemsillyduringtheday.Talkingfearsthroughcanmakeallthedifference.
How?Ingroups,writedownthefearsandhopesaboutpreparingfordeathandtalkabouthowtoexpressthesetoothers.
Steps •Introducethemodule.
•Askeachgrouptositinacircle.
•Giveeachgroupabowlandaskthemtoplaceitinthecentre.
•Askparticipantstowritedowntheirfearsaboutpreparingfordeathanddying–one‘fear’persheetofpaper–andplacetheseinthebowl.Aftershufflingthepiecesofpaper,eachpersondrawsoneoutandtalksaboutthefearandhowtheymightexplainittosomeoneelse.
•Wheneveryonehashadachancetotalkrepeatthesameprocessbutthistimegetpeopletowritedowntheir‘hopes’aboutdeathanddying.
•Askthewholegroup:“Whatarewelearning?Whatdifferencedoesthismakeforus?”
•Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
•Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“You’vedoneverywelltoexpressyourfearsandhopes.Expressingbothgivesyouwaystothinkaboutandprepareforadeathwithgreaterdignity.Congratulations.”
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Sheets of paper or post-it notes & pens
✏ A large bowl (or similar object) for each group
Fears and Hopes in a Bowl talking about feelingsDuration: approximately 20-40 minutes.
05
Encourage people to talk, share and stay focused on the positive.
If a participant has trouble talking, ask others to gently
encourage them and support them. If a person does not want to talk, ask someone else to talk
on his or her behalf.
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What?Thiscreativemodulehelpspeopleidentifytheamazingthingstheycansayanddowhenfacedbytheirowndeath.
Why?Deathanddyingcanbringoutthebestinpeople.Recognisingthiscanhelppeopleseethewholepicture,notjustthebadstuff.
How?Ingroups,participantssharestoriesaboutthewayspeopletheyknowfaceduptoandpreparedfortheirowndeath.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Inbreakoutgroups,getparticipantstorecallandsharestoriesaboutthewayspeopletheyknowhavefaceduptoandpreparedfordeath.Askpeopletokeepstoriesfocusedonthepositiveandhowpeopledealwithpreparationssuccessfully.
• Getthewholegrouptodiscuss:“Whatarethewayspeopledealwithdeath?Whatdoesthissuggestforus?”
• Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
• Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“You’vedoneverywelltoshareyourstoriesandexpressyourfeelings.Congratulations.”
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Facing Death talking about death and dyingDuration: approximately 20-30 minutes.
06
Not everyone in the group needs to share a story.
If stories are limited ask people to focus on and amplify even
the smallest examples of what worked well.
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What?Thiscreativemodulehelpspeopleindentifythingstheycansayabouttheirownexperiencesofsomeoneelse’sdeathanddying.
Why?Talkingaboutdeathanddyingofpetscanhelppeoplelearnhowtomanageadeathwhenit’ssomeonetheyknow.
How?• Individuallyorinbreakoutgroups,
participantsimagineapettheylovehasdiednaturallyandthendescribetheirlikelyexperiences.
• Thismoduleworksbestwithcreativeandopen-mindedgroups.
Steps •Introducethemodule.
•Individuallyorinbreakoutgroups,askparticipantstoimaginethatapettheylovehasdiednaturally.Thenaskparticipantstodescribewhattheirexperiencesmightbeduringandafterthedeathoftheirpetusingwords,imagesandanythingelsetheywant.
•Getthewholegrouptodiscuss:“Whatarewelearningaboutdealingwithdeath?Whatdifferencesdoesthismakeforus?”
•Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“You’vedoneverywelltoshareyourstoriesandexpressyourfeelings.Congratulations.”
•Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Paper and pens
Death of a Pettalking about death and dyingDuration: approximately 20-30 minutes.
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For those working in groups: if a participant has trouble
talking, ask others to gently encourage them and support
them to talk.
Encourage participants to share and explore ideas.
Note: for many people the death of pet and its impact goes unacknowledged by
other people.
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What?Thisinteractivemodulehelpspeopletalkconfidentlywithothersaboutpreparingfordeathanddying.
Why?Itisimportanttohaveaknowledgeable,confidentapproachwhentalkingwithotherpeopleaboutdeathanddying.
How?Insmallgroupsof3or4,role-playaTVinterviewwithparticipantsplayingthepartofinterviewer,expertandaudience.
Thismoduleworksbestwithconfidentgroups.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Ingroupsof3or4,askpeopletorole-playaTVchatshow.Askparticipantstotakethepartsoftheinterviewer,theexpertandtheaudience.
• Theintervieweraskstheexpertquestionsaboutpreparingfordeathanddying.
• Peopleintheaudiencecanalsoaskquestions.
• Afterwards,getthewholegrouptodiscusswhattheyhavelearnt.
• Summarisewhatthegrouphaslearnt(usingtheirwords).
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Paper and pens
Expert Interviews talking about preparing for death and dying Duration: approximately 20-30 minutes.
08
Encourage confident, positive and genuine interactions.
Encourage groups to manage any difficulties themselves.
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What?Thisexploratorymodulehelpspeopleidentifythethingsthatpreventthemfrompreparingfordeathanddying.
Why?Manythingscanpreventpeoplepreparingfordeathanddyingincludingbeliefs,feelingsandpracticalities.Identifyingthesecanmakepreparationeasierandbeneficialforeveryone.
How?• Individuallyoringroups
ofanysize,workthrough The Wall template.
• ThismoduleworkswellifitisfollowedbyModule10,The Gate.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Decidewhetheryouaregoingtodothismoduleindividuallyoringroups.
• AskeachparticipantorgrouptoworkthroughThe Wall template.Startwiththelefthandside:“Whatpreventsyoufrompreparingfordeathanddying?”Thenmovetotherighthandside:“Whatwoulddeathanddyingbelikeifyoutalkedandpreparedbetter?”
• Afterthetemplatehasbeencompletedgetthewholegrouptodiscusswhattheyarelearningabouttheirlostopportunities.
• Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“It’sgreatthatwecannowseebothsidesofpreparing–thebarriersandthethingswegain.Animportantnextstepistolookathowwecanmanagethese.”
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.Module10,The Gateisrecommended.
Materials ✏ Whiteboard and markers
✏ Paper and pens
✏ Module 09 handout, The Wall template (page 32).
The Wall barriers to preparing for death and dyingDuration: approximately 30-60 minutes.
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Keep the focus open-minded and exploratory and remind
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Time management is important. So, make sure enough time is given for participants to complete the right hand side of the
template.
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What?Thisexploratorymodulehelpspeoplemanagethethingsthathavepreventedthemfrompreparingfordeathanddying.
Why?Manythingscanpreventpeoplepreparingfordeathanddyingincludingbeliefs,feelingsandpracticalities.Managingthesecanmakepreparationeasierandbeneficialforeveryone.
How?• Individuallyoringroupsofany
size,workthroughThe Gate template.
• ThismoduleworkswellifitiscompletedafterModule09,The Wall.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Decidewhetheryouaregoingtodothismoduleindividuallyoringroups.
• AskeachparticipantorgrouptoworkthroughThe Gate template.Startwiththelefthandside:“Whatcouldyoudotomakepreparingfordeathanddyingeasier?”Thenmovetotherighthandside:“Listuptothreethingsthatwouldmakethemostdifferenceforyourightnow.”
• Afterthetemplatehasbeencompletedgetthewholegrouptodiscusswhattheyarelearningabouttheirlostopportunities.
• Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“It’sgreatthatwecannowidentifywaysofmanagingpreparingfordeathanddying.”
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Whiteboard and markers
✏ Paper and pens
✏ Module 10 handout, The Gate template (page 34).
The Gate ways to help prepare for death and dyingDuration: approximately 30-60 minutes.
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What?Thisexploratorymodulehelpspeoplebecomeawareofandunderstandtherangeofissuesdeathposes.
Why?Deathposesarangeofissues.Whenpeopleknowwhocanhelpwiththesetheycanavoidexperiencingsomeofthestressanddifficulties.
ThisissimilartoModule04:Things to Knowbutisdesignedforworkingwithacommunitythatneedspracticalsolutionstospecificinformationneeds.
How?Inbreakoutgroups,brainstormtheissuesaboutpreparingfordeathandwhomightbeabletohelpwiththese.Makeaplantofindoutanyadditionalinformationneeded.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Askparticipantstobrainstormalltheissuesrelatedtopreparingfordeaththattheycanthinkof.Thisincludesfinancial,legal,practical,emotionalandsocialissues.WritetheissuesontheInformation Bank templates.
• Thenreviewanyinformationtheyhaveandfillinthecontactdetailsforasmanysourcesastheycan.
• Identifyanygapsinthehandoutsandsuggestothersourcesofinformation.
• Getthewholegrouptodiscusswhattheyhavelearnt.
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Pieces of paper or post-it notes and pens
✏ Module 11 handouts: Information Bank templates 1 and 2 (pages 36 & 37)
✏ Resource List (page 8) and FAQs about Death and Dying (page 26)
✏ Insert 01: Advance care planning
✏ Insert 02: Making the most of your final years
✏ Insert 03: Advance care planning guide
Information Bank preparing for death and dyingDuration: approximately 30-60 minutes.
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During the brainstorm encourage participants to freely share information.
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What?Thismodulehelpspeoplebecomecomfortabledealingwithdeath.
Why?Sometimespeopleavoidthinkingandtalkingaboutdeath.Byacknowledgingandaddressingthistheycanlearntobemorepracticalandusefulwhendealingwithdeathanditseffectsonotherpeople.
How?Ingroupsof3or4,role-play‘Death’asifheorshewasanordinarytradespersonworkingintheneighbourhood.
Thismoduleworksbestwithconfidentcommunities.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Ingroupsof3or4,askpeopletorole-play‘Death’asifheorshewasanordinarytradespersonworkingintheneighbourhood.Getonepersonineachgrouptoplaythepartof'Death’andasktheotherstobefriendDeath.
• AsktheotherstolearnaboutDeath’sambitions,fears,values,skillsandbehaviours.ThenaskthemtolearnhowDeathwantspeopletopreparetomakeDeath’sworkeasier.
• Attheendoftherole-playaskthewholegrouptoreflectonwhattheylearnt.
• Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Paper and pens
Make Friends with Death talking about preparing Duration: approximately 30-60 minutes.
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What?Thismodulehelpspeopleexplorewaysoftalkingaboutthedifferentissuesandsituationsthatarisewhensomeoneispreparingfordeath.
Why?Exploringthetopicsandpracticingconversationscanhelppeoplepreparefordeathanddying.
How?Inbreakoutgroups,usetheConversation Cards topromptdiscussionsaboutdeathanddying.
Steps• Introducethemodule.
• Giveeachgrouparandomconversationcard(orgetthemtopickonethemselvesatrandom).
• Askgroupstolookatthepictureonthecardandselectatopicrelatedtodeathanddyingthatthepicturecouldrepresent.Forexample,Conversation2couldrepresentalistofthingstodotopreparefordeathoralistofpeopleadyingpersonmayneedtotalkto.
• Oncethegrouphasagreedonwhattopicthepicturerepresentstothem,getthemtodiscussthetopic.Thediscussionmayinvolveonepersonaskingquestionsofanothersotheycanpracticetalking,orparticipantstestingtheirownknowledgeofthetopic.
• Attheendofthediscussion,askthewholegroup:“Howdidyoufindtalkingabouttherangeofissuesandsituationsthatcanarise?”
• Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
• Acknowledgehowwellpeoplehavedone:“It’samazinghowmanydifferentwaysyouhaveoftalkingaboutdeathanddying.”
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ Post-it notes and pens
✏ Module 13 handouts, Conversation Cards 1-12 (pages 40 - 42)
Conversation Cardstalking about preparing for death and dyingDuration: approximately 30-60 minutes.
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What?Thismodulehelpspeopleplanforthedeathofsomeonetheyknow.
Why?Peoplecantrytoohardtocarefortheirlovedoneandthiscancausedisagreementsandstress.Whencarerssharetheirwishesinrelationtoadeathinapositivewayitcanbringfamilies/friendstogether,helpspreadtheburdenandsupporteachotheraswellasthedyingperson.
How?Asagroup,brainstormtheissuesassociatedwithpreparingforaperson’sdeathandthendevelopaplan.
Thismoduleisdesignedforconfidentcommunitieswhoarepreparingforanindividual’sdeathand,ifappropriate,thedyingpersonmayparticipate.
Thismodulesuitscommunitygroupsthathavealreadyparticipatedintheprogrammepreviouslyandhavecompletedanumberofmoduleswiththecommunicator.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• Askthewholegrouptobrainstormtheissuesassociatedwithplanningfortheperson’sdeath.Writeeachideaonapost-itnoteandstickitonthewall.
• Whenthegrouphasfinishedbrainstormingaskthemtoarrangethepost-itnotesbythemesorpersonresponsible.
• Askthegrouptowriteaplanonthelargesheetofpaper.Youwillneedtofacilitatethis.Duringthisprocessaskpeopletorespectandsupporteachother,sharingtheloadgenerously.
• ParticipantscanthencopytheirrolesandtasksontoA4sheets.
• Askthegrouptoreflectontheprocessandwhattheylearntabouttalkingandworkingtogether.
• Summarisewhattheyhavelearnt(intheirwords).
• Finishandmoveontothenextmodule.
Materials ✏ A4 paper, large sheet of paper, post-it notes and pens
Sharing your Wishes preparing for a deathDuration: approximately 60+ minutes.
This is a difficult module and participants may get upset and experience conflicts. You will
need to be positive and support the group’s desire to be practical
and plan, in spite of upsets.
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What?Thismodulehelpspeoplebuildawayofdealingwithdeathandlookingtolifebeyonditwithoutsomeonetheyknow.
Why?Sometimespeoplecanfeelveryalonewhensomeonetheyloveisdying.Bypreparingfordeathandthefuturepeoplecanlearntoseedeathinthecontextoflife.
How?Inbreakoutgroups,participantsusethemetaphorof‘aboat’,ie,goingonajourney,toexplorethechallengespeoplefaceaheadandthewaysthattheycandealwiththese.
Steps• Introducethemodule.
• UsingtheThe Boat template,askgroupstodiscussthechallengestheyfaceandhowtheywouldaddressthemfromthetimeofaperson’sfuneral.
• Writeeachideaonapost-itnoteandstickitonthewall.
• Whenthegroupshavefinishedbrainstormingaskthemtoarrangethepost-itnotesbythemes.
• Askthewholegrouptoreflectontheprocessandwhattheylearntabouttalkingandworkingtogether.
• Summarisewhattheyhavelearnt(intheirwords).
• FinishandmoveontoModule18,Session Closing.
Materials ✏ Post-it notes and pens
✏ Module 15 handout, The Boat template (page 45).
The Boat preparing for death and lives beyond Duration: approximately 60+ minutes.
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Why?Sometimespeoplecanfeelthatdeathistheendorthatsomethingistakenawayfromthemforever.Butitisalsoatimewhenpeoplecanrecognisethestrengthsandvaluesthathavebeenpassedontoothergenerations.Thiscanbeaveryspiritualtime.
How?Ingroups(orinonelargegroup),participantsdiscussthehistoryandexperiencesofthepersonwhoisdyingandthelegacytheyareleaving.
Onlydothismoduleifthecommunitygrouphasparticipatedintheprogrammepreviouslyandyouareconfidentinyourabilitiestomanagethecomplexemotionswhichmayariseforpeople.
Steps • Introducethemodule.
• UsingtheHonouring the Legacytemplate,askgroupstodiscussthehistoryandexperiencesofthepersonwhoisdying,howthepersondealtwiththeseexperiences,thestrengthsandopportunitiestheyaregivingpeopleandwhatthefuturemayholdasaresult.
• Askthegroupstostartthediscussionasfarbackinhistoryastheycan.
• Writeeachresponseorthoughtonapost-itnoteandstickitonthewall.
• Whenthegroupshavefinishedthediscussionaskthemtoarrangethepost-itnotesbythemes.
• Askthewholegrouptoreflectontheprocessandwhattheylearnt.
• Summarisewhattheylearnt(intheirwords).
• FinishandmoveontoModule18,Session Closing.
Materials ✏ Post-it notes and pens
✏ Module 16 handout, Honouring the Legacy template (page 47).
Honouring the Legacypreparing for life after a loved one’s deathDuration: approximately 60+ minutes.
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What?Thismodulehelpspeopleshareideasforcelebratingalifebeforethepersondies.
Why?Sometimespeopledon’treflectonsomeone’slifeuntilattheperson’sfuneralortangi.Celebratingalifewhilethepersonisalivecanbeverymovingandawonderfulwayofexpressingloveandrespect.
How?Asagroup,participantsdiscussideasforhowtocelebratesomebody’slifeandagreeonideassothatplanningcanstart.
Thismoduleisbeingdonebeforethelifeendssoifappropriatethedyingpersoncanbeincluded.
Onlydothismoduleifthecommunitygrouphasparticipatedintheprogrammepreviouslyandyouareconfidentinyourabilitiestomanagethecomplexemotionswhichmayariseforpeople.
Steps• Introducethemodule.
• Getthegrouptositinacircleandaskthemtobrainstorm:“Howwecanbestcelebratethislife?”
• Writetheideasonawhiteboardorlargesheetofpaper.
• Afterthebrainstormiscompeted,tryanddecideon1-3keywaysofcelebratingsothattheplanningcanstart.
• Askparticipantstoreflectontheexperienceofworkingtogetheronacelebration.
• Summarisewhattheyhaveexperiencedandcongratulatethem.
• FinishandmoveontoModule18,Session Closing.
Materials ✏ Paper and pens
The Celebrationcelebrating a lifeDuration: approximately 60+ minutes.
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what could be done differently. This is often best done a few days after the session when
you have had the opportunity to recover from the stress and busyness of the day and have gained the perspective that
time gives, but while things are still fresh enough for you to remember things accurately.
What?Thisfinalmoduleprovidestheopportunityforthecommunitygrouptosummariseandreflectonthesession.
Why?Itisimportantthatthecommunitygroupisabletoreflectonwhatmayhavebeenadifficultsessionforthemandtohavetheopportunitytoconsideranyfuturestepstheymaywanttotake.
This is a compulsory module.
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• Discusswiththecommunitygroupwhatthenextstepsareandtheircommitmenttofutureuseoftheinformation.
• Checkthatthecommunitygroupisreadytofinishthenaskforanyclosingcomments.
• Askparticipantstofillinthefeedbackform:"AsthisisanewprojectIamgoingtohandoutanevaluationformforyoutocomplete.Ifyouknowofanothergroupwhowouldlikeasession,pleasewriteitontheform."
• Focusonapositive,clearandconfidentend.
• Thankandacknowledgethecommunitygroupforworkingonthistogether.
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✏ Module 18 handout: Your Feedback on the Session (page 50).
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ReferencesAdvanceCarePlanningCooperative.2011.AdvanceCarePlanningGuide.PlanningfortheMedicalTreatmentandCareYouWantintheFuture.Auckland,N.Z.
Health&DisabilityCommissioner.2004.“CodeofHealthandDisabilityServicesConsumers’RightsRegulations1996”.Health&DisabilityCommissioner.www.hdc.org.nz/the-act--code/the-code-of-rights.
MinistryofHealth.2011.AdvanceCarePlanning:aGuidefortheNewZealandHealthCareWorkforce.Wellington,N.Z.:MinistryofHealth.
Inserts InsertedintothistoolkitaresomeNewZealandresourceswhichmayhelp.Theseare:
1. Advance care planning: Preparing for end of life.
2. Making the most of your final years: Practical and spiritual things to think about and plan for end of life.
3. Advance care planning guide: Planning for the medical treatment and care you want in the future.
Extracopiesoftheseresourcescanbedownloadedfromwww.advancecareplanning.org.nz
Published in August 2012 by Auckland District Health Board.
ISBN 978-0-473-22275-8 (ringbinder)
ISBN 978-0-473-22276-5 (PDF)
Disclaimer:This project was sponsored with funding from the Health Quality & Safety Commission as part of the Quality & Safety Challenge 2012. Publishing of project resources on the Commission’s website does not necessarily constitute endorsement of the views or approach taken by the project, the Commission’s intent in publishing is to showcase the achievements of the Challenge projects and share learnings across the health sector.